Counselors Can Help Merrill Fink

Learn negotiating skills from the best. In this episode we start learning the skills of negotiating from an FBI negotiator Chris Voss. From his book "Never Split the Difference" you can learn valuable insights which can relate to problem solving and relationships. This show will begin a series on negotiating.
In this episode we answer questions like..
-How do I start a negotiation?
-What mistakes are made in negotiations?
-How can I negotiate when the other person doesn't know what they want?
-How can I negotiate if I don't know what I want?
-Can the FBI teach me negotiating skills?
-Where can I learn negotiating techniques?
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In this show I do a review of conflict and where people generally go wrong. Where do we typically bog down? If we are getting upset due to a long-standing story, we tend to perpetuate more of the same. The argument just continues. Hope is lost. This show is trying to regain hope and talk about more examples that may be more effective. We discuss needs, nonviolent communication and the hope of "what is going right" and encouraging each other.
In this show we answer questions about
-How can we change the negative cycle in a relationship?
-How can we get a better relationship?
-How can we resolve a dispute if we both dig in?
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In this show I will discuss the main reason change gets off the rails. Usually it is a situation that is overwhelming. People get overwhelmed by the whole situation in their lives. For that reason, it is hard to stay on track because new problems arise and we now have a game of whack-a-mole. This constant awareness of what is wrong and new fires to put out is just exhausting. For this reason, change has to make priorities and stick to them. This is difficult and I will discuss how to navigate this.
In this episode I will answer
-How to keep change on track?
-Why do people usually give up on change?
-How can I learn to take on problems one by one?
-Who can help me with change?
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In this show we discuss how to begin the change process. In general, the recommendation is to start easy. Start with what you can handle. This will be different for different people. It is up to you to set the starting strategy.
In this show we answer
-How do I get started with change?
-What typically leads to failing to start a new habit?
-Why do people recommend you start small with change?
-Shouldn't I wait until I feel better to start change?
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Numerous times we attempt change and don't succeed. It is important to take a quick look into what usually gets people off track and how to stay motivated. In this episode we discuss the deadly comparisons that people make and how to spot a negative cycle and actually develop a plan for the future.
In this episode we discuss
-How can I stay motivated to make change?
-Can comparison be good?
-Can comparison be harmful and how to keep it productive?
-How to identify my bad habits?
-Why are habits hard to change?
-Can we make habits easier to change?
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In this episode we will cover the idea of the mindset of change. What does it take to make lasting and effective change? Many times we focus on the outcome and the process, but not the mindset needed. Therefore, change becomes much more difficult. What is the mindset needed to create a better environment for lasting change?
In this episode we will answer
-How can I learn to make lasting change?
-What usually leads to the unsuccessful change attempts?
-What is the mindset of change?
-What is a great resource for change?
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