#423 Healing Emotional Scars
Healing Emotional Scars Because you can Have you ever found yourself stuck in the echoes of past pain, wondering if you’re truly healing or just coping? In this episode, I’ll unpack the difference between carrying emotional scars and genuinely healing from them. Together, we’ll explore how our unconscious mind—the part of us that’s always working in the background—signals the need for healing and how we can respond. Think of emotional scars like physical ones: they’re reminders of what we’ve been through, but they don’t have to define us. I’ll share personal stories and practical steps I’ve used to move from pain toward genuine healing. You’ll discover how to tell if your emotional wounds are still raw and how to guide yourself through the healing process. Whether it’s through self-reflection, creative self-therapy, or reaching out for professional support, you’ll learn ways to support your journey back to emotional wholeness. This isn’t just for therapists—it’s for anyone ready to face their past and take steps toward a brighter future. Let’s tap into the wisdom of your unconscious mind, learn to listen to its messages, and use them to build a life of growth, self-compassion, and empowerment. So, take a moment, tune in, and let’s explore this path together. Because healing isn’t just possible—it’s inevitable when we take the first step. Please enjoy and share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/423-healing-emotional-scars/ Shine brightly, Paul Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. 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And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Spot the difference and how to heal emotional scars in this podcast Healing emotional scars. What's all this about? Well, I start off with spot the difference and then I'll tell you stuff about healing physically, which is weird. And then we spot the difference and why the difference and how to get help and how to heal emotional scars. Okay, have a listen if that interests you. I'm sure it will See if you can spot the difference between these two statements welcome back to the longer podcast. And this one, well, I want you to spot the difference. See if you can spot what is the difference between these two statements. You know, when I think of that time, it was that shit time, it was black and it did, hurt. Do you know what? I was a mess then. I Want to tell you what that is shortly. Think of this one, see if you can spot the difference. Every time I think of that time, do you know what? It still hurts. Maybe not as much, but I still get those negative feelings. I still see those things and it's like I'm still living some of it again. Did you spot it? Did you spot it? Gonna come back to the difference in a minute because I want. Well, here's the thing, you see, let's get into the biological state. What are you talking about, Cloughie? Look, if you cut yourself, even maybe only a scratch, you don't even think about it, do you? You don't give it a second thought. You might give it a little rub and go, ow, that hurt. But in your mind, you know you're going to heal. So a scratch might stick a little plaster on it. But I do know it's gonna heal. You don't have a second thought. You don't actually think, I guess I'm gonna heal. Cause you just know it. You've got that understanding that you know your body's gonna heal itself. And if it's a deeper cut now, you may have needed help, maybe there was some medication, maybe there's some stitches, maybe even an operation. And those deeper cuts, they tend to leave a scar, don't they? A little physical scar. That to me that scar is a reminder. Reminder how serious. I say that again, A reminder how serious it was. You see, both of those times, your unconscious mind is what I believe anyway, got into its healing mode and healed you. Some people might say, well, it's just a body doing it. But I think your unconscious mind is there to serve you, to Keep you safe and keep you healthy. And it just heals you. So whether it's just a little scratch, whether it sometimes needs a little bit of help, but it still heals, but leaves that little, little scar. But then on the other hand, before the scar happens and maybe before the full healing has taken place, you get a little scab, don't you? And to me, that scab tells you to be gentle, to be careful. Healing is in process. And, you can help because it tells you and it's sometimes a little bit sore, a little bit painful. Tells you to help yourself by being aware, to protect yourself. Don't do nothing silly. Just be careful and, look after yourself while you're healing. That's what I think. So going back to those two statements, did you spot the difference? See, both of them were me. Both of them were me. See, the second one was I'm still feeling it. That was during the middle of ituse. As I think about it then it still hurts. Maybe not as much, but I can still feel it. I can still feel it in my gut. Sometimes I think I'm living it again. And you see, to me that's like the scab. Cause I'm not in that issue anymore. I've got out of it. And we do, by the way, we always get out of those issues. Think back of, the times when you thought, well, darkest at that time, my darkest time, I didn't think I was gonna get out of it, but here I am years later. But that was a scab saying, you're still feeling pain, but this time it's emotional pain. And you're feeling emotional pain from those past events. But it is an event in the past. It's not happening now, but you're still feeling a little bit of it as if it's in the present. Which means healing is still required. Healing is maybe still going on. And at that time, when it was like that, that healing came in the form of me asking questions. And one of the questions was, instead of, why is it always happening to me? How deep can I go? How horrible it feels? Because that was when I was in the bloody thing. And when I got out of that part, I asked my question, well, what the bloody hell can I do to get out of this? What can I do? And something inside me said, you're, bloody therapist Cloughie. Be your own therapist. And I did. I did loads of stuff. And I also narrated my path and narrated. I just recorded what I did. What best advice would I give myself? I initially Narrated it as being my therapist or being a therapist to my best mate. And I got it printed out. It's in the book. And I showed it to this writer who was a client of mine, said, I know I shouldn't do this, but would you just have a little look at it? And they did. They're so kind. And they came back and said, it's so bloody obvious it's you. Why didn't you be brave? Be brave and write it as you? And I did. It took me hours taking, the you to me and all that stuff to make it into to me. But I did, and it felt so good. And I created processes that help other people. Now some of those processes I actually took into trainings to help loads of people. Paul says negative emotions are signals from unconscious mind that you need help So there was good to come out of that. But it was things that I knew that worked then because I'd tried them on myself bit by bit. But I'm a therapist. I've done a lot of trainings. And, that's what I did. I know you might be saying, yeah, Paul, but I'm not a therapist. I'll get to that. I will get to that, I promise you. But that was because I was in it. It was still the scab. I was still roar. And I had to be gentle. I had to be careful. Not careful, but just careful. Be kind careful. I think not expecting too much, but not expecting too little either. But. But let's go back to the first. You know, when I think of that time, that was a shit time. It was black. It did hur. You know, was m. I was a real, real mess. I was a real mess. You know, I used to cry suddenly. Just break down, fall on the floor and cry. That's how bad I was. You sp. The difference there, you see this one was. That was me now, by the way. That is me now. Because it was horrible then. It doesn't affect me anymore because it's in the past. I've dealt with it. I've learned from it. I've learned what I needed to learn. So those emotions, are no longer needed to remind me that I still need to do work. And that's what I think these negative emotions are there. They're really a signal from your unconscious mind saying, I'm waving a flag at you. Do some work. We've still got work to do. Still got toa. Let go. Some maybe limiting beliefs. Let's do some work, find help. It's like a cry for help, I guess, from the inside, saying, you
