Anxiety to Confidence - The Personal Development Unplugged Podcast

Paul Clough
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A podcast for those wanting personal development but want it made simple and easy to understand and more importantly use, take action and make a difference to your life and the world you live in. If you want to change the way you feel and the way you act and react. If you have negative emotions, behaviours, that you want to lose forever and create something special in your life then I think you will like what you hear. This genre of self-improvement, self-development and mastery of your mind has, I believe, been made over complicated and secretive and here I am de-constructing the processes into their simple forms that we can all understand and easily use. There’s no interviews just little ol’ me ;0) Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough. I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want. A personal look at me: The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30. One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it’s not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live. Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected. Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training’s and his wonderful life changing ‘Be your potential weekend’ and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too. Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive. The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life. The more formal bit Paul Clough I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develop new skills and learning’s – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with. I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding. For those that want qualifications: Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

  1. FMQ 506 A Respectful Look at the Views Of Others

    1D AGO

    FMQ 506 A Respectful Look at the Views Of Others

    A Respectful Look at the Views of Others A Five-Minute Quickie from the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast Ever wondered how someone can hold a belief so different from yours — even the total opposite — and still be right? Well, in this five-minute (ish!) ramble, we explore one of NLP’s most important presuppositions: respect for another person’s model of the world. We all build our own "maps" of reality based on our experiences. But what happens when we genuinely listen to someone else's? Can we learn from it? Can it balance, challenge, or even evolve our own beliefs? In this episode: Why no one’s map is 100% the territory How curiosity leads to harmony (and less conflict) And why active listening could be your secret growth tool Take a moment, a breath, a coffee — and muse with me. Test everything. Respect difference. Be curious. Want the full experience? Subscribe, follow, and share the hell out of this with someone open-minded like you! https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-506-a-respectful-look-at-the-views-of-others And the video link https://youtu.be/yE9FVIl3nyo More fun than you can stand — wallow in curiosity! Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay.     And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism    Hey. A little while ago we did a couple of five minute quickies about the, well, the convenient assumptions or presuppositions of NLP.   And I wanted to, just for five minutes, to muse about another one, another one. And it's all about respect. Respect for the other person's model of the world.   Because I don't know if you know that we all have our own models of the world and we all have our own maps. And someone said, you know, the map is not the territory. So if the map is not the territory and it's our map, but we're not really looking outside to find out what territory is, lovely metaphor, isn't it? But our world is, our world is a map.   And we believe it's true, don't we? Everything that we believe must be right because we believe it. And guess what? Other people have different beliefs. Sometimes a bloody opposite.   How is that? Because lots of things have happened in the past, their experiences, their backgrounds, their parents, everything you can think of has conspired with them to create beliefs and the choices they make in the world, which gives them more beliefs. And guess what, so have you. And you've formed this thing called a map, which may be right in some places, maybe not quite so right on others, but also there's a whole territory out there, which is constantly changing.   And if you think of this modern world right now, everything is changing so quickly too. And we're being overwhelmed by so much information, but also a lot of false information. So it's really distorting everything.   So how can our little map of the territory be right? But what we have to do, I think, is in order to get clearer, maybe other people's map, their territory, their, as we call it, model of the world, has something in it that we could learn from. Because there's always two sides of every slice of bread. See, there's something, but there's always two sides, isn't there? And maybe one side is buttered more than the other one is jammed.   I'm not quite sure where that metaphor went. But it's all about really just listening, I guess, listening to other people, their dialogue, what they're saying, what their beliefs are, and then just matching them with yours and seeing how something changed. Because you can change beliefs in an instant.   If something comes to you and you go, ah, I've seen it, I've done it, something has changed. All of a sudden, I never used to be able to do something. And you believe, ah, I could never do that.   And now you've tried it. And now you become skillful and a master at it. And everything changes.   And your belief about what you're capable of doing will always change. So I think this is great to have respect for other people's model of the world. So you can then go, oh, I wonder where that came from.   What did they know? Or what did they experience that I didn't to come to that conclusion? And it gives you, I don't like the word balanced, but I'm going to use it. You might be able to get a more balanced view, but you'll get the harmony of finding out what the blue in hell is going on in the world. Just listening to opposing views, as it were, gives you something to think about.   Especially if you can keep that respect by saying, well, you honestly hold that view. I wonder where it came from. Is there something in that that I'm not seeing or that I don't understand? And then you can ask questions and they can ask questions of you.   That's what I'd love to have happen. The moment in this world, you seem to be either right or left or this or extreme and that, which is, it's not right, is it? No one is always right. No one is perfectly right because there's no perfect thing.   And it's all about the context. But in this world of personal development and the things that we're learning, even different things that we're learning, is to call that a model of the world. And where did that model, how was that model formed? How was it created? And is it something I can take on board? And it's all about having respect for other people, I guess, and where their views came from.   And having an open mind, an open mind to listen, be an active listener. And then take time, as I love to do here in this five-minute quickie, to muse, to consider. So take it away and go, do you know what? I'm having a cup of coffee, a glass of water, my gin and tea, my frozen vodka, all that stuff.   Maybe just sitting down for five minutes and going, I wonder where that view came from. Could I learn something from it? Even if it reinforces my view, but at least I've listened. And that's what I'd love you to do with this podcast.   The longer podcasts, have a listen and really see if they gel with you. Does it work? Test the hell out of the processes that I share with you. I know they work, but they have to work for you.   And if they don't work for you, let me know, because then I can do something about it. I can mold them to whatever you need. But, you know, take nothing on face value, but look for the golden nuggets.   So that was a wonderful ramble, Cluffy. Yeah, a wonderful ramble for more than five minutes on a five-minute quickie to get you to think about things differently. Have fun and muse.   Didn't make sense at all, did it? But hey, something will have gone in. Okay, I'll see you later. Bye-bye.   Before you go, my friend, I'd like to ask you a question. Did you learn something from this, this episode? I hope you did, because even though every episode may not be the one that really floats your boat, sets you, you know, alight. Hopefully there's a takeaway in each and every episode for you.   And I'd love to know what it was. So please do email me at feedback at personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. It's a personal email to me. I'd love to know so we can carry on doing this work that will allow you to exceed your dreams.   And what's the payment for this? Payment, Cloughie? What are you talking about payment? I thought it was free. Well, it's like pay it forward. And if you could pay this forward in two ways, or maybe three, first way is please share it.   Share this podcast with as many people as you could. And you can. It's very easy.   Just press that share button. Send it off by email to them. You'd love to, this is something you might like, might get that right, Paul.   Something you might enjoy. And hey, if you could, a real big pay it forward to me is wherever you're getting this podcast, is it iTunes, Castbox, or Stitcher, or whichever you're getting from, Google Play, I don't know. Would you please just leave a review? Because the review really helps people find this podcast.   There's thousands out there. And we want to, or I want to direct people to this podcast. And the way to do it is by reviews.   So if you could do that, if you could share, you can do that. And also just make sure that you're subscribed. So you get this episode and every other episode on a Wednesday and a Saturday.   If you do all of that, my little heart will sing. And if you want me to sing, well, you'll have to wait and see. Enjoy.   But please do, do all of that. Make my heart sing. Bye-bye now.   Warning, you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly now. Be brave, my friend.

    10 min
  2. #454 Mental Wellbeing - Tools and Strategies Part 1

    5D AGO

    #454 Mental Wellbeing - Tools and Strategies Part 1

    #454 Mental Wellbeing – Tools and Strategies Part 1 Two simple tools that could change everything. We’ve all been through tough times — sadness, anxiety, OCD, loss of confidence, grief, loneliness… and it’s all “stuff” that affects your mental wellbeing. But here’s the thing: most of that big stuff? It started small. In this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, I (Cloughie) guide you through two powerful, yet beautifully simple mental wellbeing tools. These aren’t fluffy techniques – they’re real strategies that help you: Acknowledge and neutralise uncomfortable emotions (instead of pushing them down) Interrupt anxious thoughts and looping inner dialogue Get clarity, create strategies, and take back control Transform worry into personal power and positive action We do the work together. Right here. Right now. These are practical NLP-based tools you can use any time life throws you a curveball – no fluff, just real results. 🎧 Listen now and learn: Why ignoring “little stuff” makes it big How to speak directly to your unconscious mind What to do with that “weird feeling” you just can’t shake How simple curiosity creates profound change The power of specificity and intention in self-healing  This is Part 1 – more tools and techniques are coming soon. But these first two are game-changers. Start here. 🔁 Share this episode with someone who might need a gentle shift. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/454-mental-wellbeing-tools-and-strategies-part-1 📩 Email me your thoughts or requests at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com 💬 Want tools for a specific issue? Just ask – I’ll make a future episode for it. Don’t forget to subscribe and follow wherever you get your podcasts. “In simplicity, there is genius.” Let’s keep it simple – and effective.  And remember: Have more fun than you can stand – and wallow in joy. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay.   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey friend, how you doing? I think, like most of us, I say most of us, pretty generality-Cloughie again, but we've all gone through some shit. We've gone through some dark times.   Well, certainly I have. And I think, because of that, it made me more interested in searching for tools, processes, protocols, whatever you want to call them, to assist in my mental well-being, but also to help other people's mental well-being. You know, even to the things of, I know you've got depression, you've got OCD, all that stuff, but you've also got not feeling bad, not feeling down, sad, alone, grief, so many different types of things that can affect your mental well-being.   Even the thing of just loss of confidence, loneliness, agoraphobia, or as they say, I think, in the US, agoraphobia. I don't know. But you fill in the blank, because anything and everything is part of, or is something that could affect your mental well-being, your mental health.   And over those years, because of that dark time, I found and developed, well, I found a lot of protocols, a lot of processes, a lot of tools, but I also used them to develop them in many different ways, to let go of, and I call it stuff. That's what I call these mental, or these issues that we have. They're just stuff.   And some of those processes, either I found or developed, or some I did develop completely by myself, some is just like an evolution that I just felt I could make it better. They'll help clients get rid of really big stuff. That's big stuff.   And you know what I'm going to say about big stuff is, if something is getting on you, is pulling you down, holding you back, making you feel really bad, and it's constantly on your mind, go and get it sorted straight away. Go and find a hypnotherapist, someone who does NLP, someone who does timeline therapy, who's a master hypnotist. Get it done really quickly, one-to-one.   You'll get it done in two or three sessions. Because if they can't do that, then they're not that good. But they should be able to do it really quickly.   But what about, here's the thing, and this is what this podcast is about, what about the everyday stuff, the little stuff? But the trouble with little stuff, you see, it starts little. Even if you've had a big problem and you've got rid of it, or you're experiencing bigger issues, they all started way back in the past, generally, and they were really small. And your unconscious mind tried to do something to help you to get over that issue, and then it started to do the same thing more often.   And then it did it in different contexts, which was similar but not the same. And after a while, you tend to find that issue is generalised into all different contexts, not just the one you started off with. So, getting hold of that little stuff is big stuff, if that makes sense.   Because it's a big deal. So, never just think. And I know we do, because we're bloody adults.   No, it's not that bad. It's not that bad at all. But it could be.   And why not just do something really quickly to get rid of it? Because then it won't generalise into bigger stuff. It won't generalise into every different area of your life. And the other thing what happens is, you deal with it, and what happens is the results you get, they generalise into every area of your life.   So, you become more confident, more likeable to yourself, all that stuff. You just feel more about you, and you take that everywhere, and it just keeps growing. But the thing is, the more I look for these things, the more I seek them out, I'm reminded of the simple stuff.   The simple stuff that I've learnt or developed. I think that's probably where I got into this thing, in simplicity there is genius. In simplicity there is genius.   In simplicity there is genius. Maybe that's why I got hooked on just that. I don't know, maybe it is.   Because I've always learnt that simple stuff really works. And I've seen it so many times. I've seen people who are superb in what they do, as in giving demonstrations of therapy.   And when things are going not quite the way they planned, they always say, do you mind if I go back to the simple stuff? And here's the thing, I'm not going to talk about any of that. What? No, I'm not going to talk about it. We're going to do them together.   And we're going to do them together now. Yeah, that's surprising, isn't it? So I want you to get ready to give yourself some time to experience, well, maybe a couple of processes. Simple processes that you can make a note of.   You can do it with me, so you know what it is. You can then come back and listen to this again. Mark the time, and then you can just do it whenever you want.   But at least you'll have the tools to deal with simple stuff really early, so it doesn't get to the big and the bad and the ugly. So what am I talking about? What type of issue are we talking about? Well, you know what I'm saying, and a lot of this is from my experience. You know when you wake up with a feeling, hmm, that's unpleasant.   It's just not, it just doesn't feel right. Or sometimes, you know, something happens. So I get this when I'm writing in my bloody journal.   I'm writing something, and all of a sudden I get like a negative emotion. I've triggered it myself. It's a feeling.   And it's not quite really sad, and it's not really down, and it's not, well, it's a sort of a worry. It is sort of anxiety-anxious, but it's, I don't know, it's one of those, oh, or it could be anxiety, or it could be worry, or it could be down, it could be sad, but it's just there. Have you had that? Because that's what I've had.   And this is the type of thing I'm thinking of, because they're starting off small. This is like how things start before they evolve into the bigger stuff. So what happens? What happens in the real world? What do we do with it? We get that funny feeling.   We don't like it. What do we do? We push the bugger away, don't we? Well, we try to. We push.   We push it down. We push it away. We try to ignore it.   That's another way of pushing it away, just ignore it. You know it's there, because it keeps coming back, doesn't it? And do you know what the answer is to that? It's a Bob Newhart thing. Stop it.   Have you ever seen, if you Google on YouTube, Bob Newhart, stop it. You'll see a great skit. But just stop it.   Stop pushing things away, because when you push them away, your unconscious mind will push it even harder, push back harder, because it's trying to do something for you. Yeah. So what do you do then, Cloughie? Come and tell us.   I'll tell you now. Here's a simple thing. Acknowledge it.

    30 min
  3. FMQ 505 Me and the Podcasts I like and Learn From

    JUL 22

    FMQ 505 Me and the Podcasts I like and Learn From

    My Favourite Podcasts Hey! Just sharing some podcasts I really love. I think they’re pretty popular, but if you haven’t checked them out, give them a listen. Modern Wisdom (Chris Williamson):** Super thoughtful, articulate guy. Most guests resonate with me. Chase Jarvis Live:** Creative chats with honest, talented people. *School of Greatness (Lewis Howes):** From athlete to business guy, really grounded and inspiring. Mark Devine Show:** Navy SEAL turned spiritual explorer—really cool to see that side of things. Making Sense (Sam Harris):** Deep, sometimes complex, but worth it. Jordan Peterson:** Thoughtful and deep—might need a dictionary at times! Jordan Harbinger:** Down-to-earth, real conversations. Think Fast, Talk Smart:** Tips on how to communicate better. Bill Burr’s Monday Morning Podcast:** Hilarious, honest, with some swearing. Joe Rogan:** Wide range of guests, super popular. Ass-Breaking Motivation:** Gets you fired up—some shouty, some inspiring. Would love to hear your favorites too! Send me an email at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Sharing is caring, and it helps us all grow. And hey, make notes of those golden nuggets—you never know when you’ll need them. That’s it for now. Keep learning, keep sharing, and let’s make this world a better place. Speak soon! https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-505-me-and-the-podcasts-i-like-and-learn-from And the video of this episode is here https://youtu.be/2B7hfTQopa0 Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay.   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey friend, 5 minute quickie and as you know, I tend to, well I do always, I always ask would you share the podcast, share the episode, because it does help. And what I thought was, although I always share episodes of other podcasts to my friends, my family, certainly my sons, who I think it'd really help.   I thought today, I just share the type of podcasts that I think are really good. They certainly help me and it's something I look forward to. So they are pretty popular, I think.   So maybe they're nothing too exciting, but they are really, really good. And the first one is a guy called Chris Williamson. I got my phone here because I need it for this, but he is brilliant because it's called the Modern Wisdom Podcast.   Now, as with all things, some of the guests don't resonate, but with this guy, most of them do. But the most important thing for me is he is so thoughtful, so articulate. I would really, really love to be that articulate with the use of words and his thoughts.   So that's one you really ought to look, well, not you ought to, but if you wanted to, you could look for and see what comes up. You've got things like the Chase Jarvis, what's it called? Chase Jarvis Live Podcast. Chase Jarvis was a photographer, but he's a creative and he brings on creative people.   And I love that creativity and intuitive creativity. But he seems to be a rock solid guy. Very, very honest.   So I love that one. One very similar to that is a guy called Lewis Howes with the School of Greatness. Again, not all the same, but he used to be like a super duper college football guy and things like that.   Turned himself into this wonderful podcast guy, business and things like that. But it just gets guests, but he is so grounded and it just seems to, again, find the right balance of guests to come along. There's a great one I love to listen to.   And that's a Mark Devine show, an ex Navy SEAL, who not only is in the big, strong Navy SEAL stuff, but also into spiritual awareness, meditation, intuitive, inside, unconscious, all the stuff we do here. And I love that. I love that to see someone who has been in the forefront of battle and now realizing that there's so much more to us that makes us the people we are.   And that's awesome. So have a little look at that one. What else have I got? If you like more talking, I listen to a little bit of the old Making Sense with Sam Harris.   Again, not always, not always, but if I want to have a little listen to something different, as well as Jordan B. Peterson. Again, really, two really articulated guys and very thoughtful guys. Now, whether you agree with them or whether you don't, it's good to listen to the other side, isn't it? To get an idea what is, well, what is going on in minds that are great thinkers.   I know sometimes I have to have a dictionary beside me to understand the words, but again, it's another expression of learning and the guys are thoughtful and they're positive. So I love that. If you like the Jordan Harbinger show, I love this guy.   I've emailed him a few times and he always replies and he's such a, I think just a good down-to-earth guy and natural. And when he has a conversation, and I mean a real conversation, I think those episodes are absolutely brilliant. So have a listen to that.   And then the last one, well, it's not the last one, but one I just found a little while ago and it's Think Fast, Talk Smart. It's Talk Smart. It's a lovely podcast and it's all about teaching you how to have a conversation, how to talk, how to communicate.   And it gives you some wonderful little tips. And they're not just little tips, they're real solid things that you go, oh, wow. Oh, I know that and I'm bloody not doing it.   Well, we talk about that a lot, don't we? On the longer podcast, all the stuff that I don't do and want to do more of. Also, if you really want just a little bit of a laugh, I also listen to the Monday Morning Podcast with Bill Burr. Again, if you want to hear somebody who can articulate, but in such a wonderful, I call it a wonderful way, a lot of swearing in it, that's awesome.   But for me, don't care. It's awesome. But to have a guy who can just talk and talk and talk, I think it's an amazing skill.   And just to listen to that, something to aspire to, not necessarily the language. Everyone's different taste, but it's so good. And then if you go to Spotify, there's obviously the Joe Rogan, let's do a bit of that.   And there's another one I've found, which is, I'll just find it now on my phone, because it's such a good one. It's called the Ass-Breaking Motivation Podcast. And if you want to listen to something that's just going to motivate you, he's got so many good speakers there who just go, some of them shout, some of them do shout at you a little bit.   And I think sometimes that's maybe a bit too much. But if I'm getting a little bit down, I just want to get something in my ears that suddenly go, come on, Cloughie, let's get going. That's a great one.   So there you go. If you have any podcasts that you think are really good, I'd love to hear from them or hear about them. So if you could send me an email on feedback at personaldevelopmentunplugged.com, I'd love to hear them so I can have a route around, and we can share them too.   I think it's so good to, there's so much information around, yet do we really, we get overwhelmed and it's good to have other people sift about for us and go, do you know what, I've listened to this and it's really good. It's a bit like when you get a book, sometimes it's nice to read the reviews and find, actually, not quite what I was thinking. You get a balanced view of it.   So there you go. That's just a few things. I just like to share things, what I'm listening to.   And I think if you listen to those, as well as this podcast, obviously, there's such a wealth of learning there. And they all seem to be looking after little old planet Earth and trying to do something for all of us. And that theme is something that I'm really powerfully attracted to, and I want it in my life.   So hopefully that helps. Just something to share, a bit lighthearted this time, and enjoy. Press the play button on every podcast you can get.   And what I would say is though, and the things I try to do, is make bloody notes, so you can remember the good stuff, the golden nuggets, because there's golden nuggets put around everywhere. Okay. Anyway, till the next time, my friend, I will see you, or you'll hear from me, come to my mind of the personal development unplugged kind.   Time to fly. Bye-bye. It will help you, and it will help, well, everyone that you know.   So if you could just subscribe and share. Share this podcast to everyone you blooming well know. That's the only cost.   Pay it forward to everyone. And when you do that, boom, we are all going to make a difference to this little old planet E

    10 min
  4. #453 Kindness The Next Super Power

    JUL 18

    #453 Kindness The Next Super Power

    Kindness: The Next Superpower Hey my friend—kindness… a superpower? Really? In this longer, deeper episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, Cloughie explores why kindness is one of the most underrated forces for change—inside and out. In a world that feels increasingly self-centred, reactive, and short-tempered, a simple act of kindness can disrupt the noise and spark real transformation. This is part personal confession (yes, Cloughie admits to being “a bit of a dick”), part gentle wake-up call, and 100% full of practical reflections to help you become more self-assured and more connected to those around you. What you’ll discover: Why kindness isn’t weakness—it’s proof of deep inner strength The surprising return on investment of a small act of kindness How to shift from frustration to compassion (even in traffic!) Why you sometimes forget your own kindness—and how to bring it back to mind A reminder to start by being kind to yourself, because that’s where it all begins How kindness feeds into your personal goals and dreams—if you choose to include it You’ll also be invited to: Reflect on the kindness you've received and how it shaped you Review your day for simple “kindness moments” (smiles count!) Set an intention to actively make the world a better place—starting today This episode isn’t fluffy—it’s practical. It’s a reminder that we don’t need to wait for the world to change. We start with us. One kind moment at a time. Be kind—pass it on: If this touched something in you, share the episode with someone you care about. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/453-kindness-the-next-super-power/ Subscribe or follow to never miss a moment of mindset magic, deep musings, or a little friendly self-hypnosis. And if you’ve not yet explored all the free hypnosis at paulcloughonline.com, now’s a good time. Because whatever you think you are… you’re more than that. Let’s fly Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay.   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey my friend. Kindness, a superpower.   Really? This, I think, is one hell of a message to me, and especially what I see around the world and in my own world. And the guy who's knocking all sorts of stuff above me, you may hear his hammer going, but that doesn't matter. I'm going to show a little bit of kindness to him too.   But why do I think kindness is a superpower? You see, I think it's our impact, your impact, my impact in such a self-centered world that we live in now. And I have to ask the question, I ask myself the question of myself, why is kindness so hard to show? Or just being kind, hard to do? You know, when you think about kindness, the return on investment, if you want to look at it in business terms, is great. The effect is massive.   It affects you in your mind, your body, your emotions, your experiences. It affects other people's experiences, their mind. It affects everything.   And that's just people. What about if you're kind to little old planet Earth? Look after planet Earth. And you see, this is what got me.   We've all probably been out, if you drive anyway, but something similar. You're driving in a car, someone cuts you up. We're all driving nicely and they just have to push in.   They have to push in. And you get, oh, you give it a good old beep on your horn. And maybe your mouth off something and things like that.   But, you know, inside you're angry. You're angry. And you chose to be angry though.   Did I? Yeah, you chose because you didn't need to be. Because when you think about it, that cutting in probably added a second to your journey. That's it.   That's all it did. Maybe two seconds if it was a really big cutting in. So even if you let in, this is what told me a long time ago.   Even if you let in, say 30 people into the stream of traffic that you're driving, you're going to be a minute late, a minute later. But you've been kind to 30 people and it will rub off on them because next time they'll let somebody else in. Because it happens that way.   Might not get them all, but you'll get most. And I had, to me, it was a horrible example because it was a horrible example of myself not being kind. See, I parked and I thought I parked pretty well.   Parked my car and I was just about to go and walk away. And this person came along and said, excuse me, can you just move your car up a little bit, please? I can't get in. And I thought they said it like that.   I'm not sure whether they did or not. I thought there was a little bit of tone in their voice. And I looked at them and I thought, well, I will.   And I actually said, well, I'll move it, but I'm not moving it very much. I'll only move it a little bit. And then I did.   And then I walked away. And as I was walking away, I thought to myself, Cloughie, I'm going to swear here, you're a f*****g dick. You're a dick.   What the hell's the matter with you? You're moving a car for God's sake, so someone could park their car and make it a little bit safer for everybody. So I turned around, try to make amends, go back and apologise. I thought it was the best thing to do.   I want to go back and apologise. They weren't bloody there, were they? They'd gone. Oh, dull.   I really wanted to do something, but there I am. They've probably got an impression of me, which isn't the one that I wanted to show. I've got this impression in me that I didn't want to have.   I didn't want those feelings. Now I'm guilty. Certainly wasn't kind.   But the good thing was the universe, the multiverse had a way of paying it back. Because the very next day, I was just about to pull into a parking space on my way to the gym. And I was waiting to get in because I couldn't get in because there was an old lady there, trying with a trolley, shopping trolley, to get a big bag of compost soil in her car.   She couldn't lift it. And she kept looking at me. And I got straight out.   I said, Don't worry, don't worry. Let me lift it in for you. This is my turn.   And I put it in there and I said, Please don't hurry back. Just take your time. It's not going to interrupt me.   And she was so appreciative that someone actually stopped and helped, not just looked. That's what we do sometimes and just watch. And she felt good.   Plus, it helped her. And I felt, well, I felt good. But at least I'd made amends.   And that was like, something good for me. Because I was really, I was guilty of being a dick. And the thing is, that kindness I showed to that lady, or any kindness we show.   Some people think, it's a form of weakness. But how can kindness be weakness? To me, I think it's a show of strength, inner strength, because then you're self-assured. Because you are prepared to help somebody else.   You know, it's an act of selfless service. I don't want anything from you. I don't want anything in return.   I'm just going to be kind. And if you go back to my previous podcast, not too far away, hashtag 451, all about being self-assured. And you can be self-assured in yourself and exude kindness.   You can become that kind person. And I know this is that note to myself. I had to, and I think that's why I wrote all this out, there's some notes about it.   But let's dive a little deeper, because I like to take the frame off things now and dive a little deeper. So here's a question to you, to you. Here's a question.   Have you ever been kind in your life? Ever, ever, ever, ever, ever? Of course you have. Think of maybe just one time. And what was the effect of showing that kindness? What was the effect? And I know what it was.   It would have been massive, even though it might have been hidden a little bit. Because you won't see where the ripples of the effect goes, how far it went into that person, into the people that they love, or the effect that had on their behavior, the effect it had on their emotion, their thoughts, their thoughts about themselves, about you and about others. And following that, just remember, how did you feel? Because it cost you nothing, did it? Well, it cost a little bit of time, a little bit of effort.   It didn't really cost you anything. But how did it make you feel? Now, you might say, oh, it made me feel nice, Paul, but get a bit closer to that, closer to that emotion. Because underneath that, oh, it was nice.   There's a little bit of awesomeness, isn't th

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  5. FMQ 504 I'm Stupid I don't understand -They're stupid they don't understand me

    JUL 15

    FMQ 504 I'm Stupid I don't understand -They're stupid they don't understand me

    “I’m Stupid — I Don’t Understand / They’re Stupid — They Don’t Understand Me” Another Five-Minute Quickie for those deeper musings… Ever thought “they just don’t get me” or “I must be thick because I don’t get them”? Here’s a fresh lens: The meaning of your communication is the response you get — a golden presupposition of NLP. In this episode, we dive into: Why it’s your responsibility to be understood How feeling misunderstood (or stupid) is a communication challenge, not a personal flaw Simple ways to change the way you speak so your message lands A mindset shift to stop blaming others (or yourself) when communication fails The power of reflection and “musing over a G&T” to grow your emotional intelligence If you’ve ever felt unheard or misjudged, this episode is your 10-minute reframe. Press play. Muse. Learn. Share. Subscribe, follow, and most of all — share this with someone who needs it. Let’s spread better communication, understanding, and kindness, one listen at a time. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay.   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So back with another five minute quickie slowdown, lovely. And it's another presupposition of NLP.   A useful assumption. And what's it going to be about? Forget the NLP bit, it's neuro-linguistic programming. I love the funny thing.   It's so associated with hypnosis as well and it's what I do. But I'm going to explain this thing. One of these useful assumptions and it is very simple.   It says the meaning of the communication is the response you get. You see, who's responsible for understanding? Who's responsible for understanding? It's a weird question, isn't it? I mean, there are people, and you might be one of them, I know I am, that will say something and someone doesn't get it. And you go, oh, come on.   You just don't get it. What is the matter with you? Are you stupid? Well, you might not say stupid, but you might bloody think it, don't you? What's the matter with them? Why don't they get it? It's their responsibility to get it. No, it isn't their responsibility.   It's bloody yours. You're giving this communication out. And if they don't get it, that's you.   Because you didn't get the response you want, you need to change your style of communication, the way you do it. Because I had these experiences before where people would be working in the building industry and people would talk to the lads on the tools. But they'd talk to them in pictures.   They'd talk to them in very specific details. And those guys use their hands. They want things described how they're going to do things.   Because if you keep saying, well, if you think of that picture, what it's going to be like when we're finished, they haven't got a bloody clue. They want to know how you pick something up, how you want it to be done. And when I explained this to people who were not getting the results, they changed.   Guess what? Their communication was brilliant. It's so simple. But the simple thing is, the difficult thing is, there's simplicity, there's genius, but it makes it bloody difficult sometimes.   It's hard to do. You have to do it. It's easy but hard because you have to think.   And this is where the musing comes from. Am I getting my message across? Am I getting my message across the way I want it to be received? Because it's not their responsibility. It's mine.   And in the same way, if someone is talking to you and you don't understand it and you go, oh, I must be such a klutz. I'm so dumb. I'm stupid.   I just don't understand it. No, that's their responsibility. If they're using words that you don't understand, then they're an idiot.   Well, they're not an idiot. They're behaving like an idiot because they are not adapting their communication to you so you can understand it. Now, I know you can help them by saying, what the bloody hell do you mean? Can you explain it in a different way? That'd be a better way.   I'm not getting this. Can you explain it in a different way for me? Little things like that. So this is the musing.   Are there instances that you've had in the recent past where you've tried to explain something and it didn't go in the way you wanted it? The musing is, how can I change what I said to allow that message to be received in the way I intended it to be? That's one way. Or is there something that when I was listening to somebody else that I didn't get, how could I have responded in a way that would get them to understand that they're doing it in a way that is not working? They have to change their communication in order for me to understand. It's not my responsibility to understand.   I just got to get it. And when we learn those things and muse about them, the next time it happens, you say, am I explaining this properly? Am I explaining this in a way that you understand it? I'm getting the feeling that you're not getting what I want, what I'm trying to put over. Okay, let me put it in another way.   Or I'm really interested in the subject, but I don't quite get the words you're using. Can you use them in my language so I can get it? And when you get those type of things in your musings, next time, because you can imagine it happening, next time you start to learn better. Because then you get to learn how to converse with people, communicate with people, because you're getting the response you aim for.   Or you're learning from other people. I mean, one little side thing. People in NLP use some bloody weird words.   And the most confusing thing is when you're reading one of their books, and you have to keep looking up the words. Damn, that just destroys everything, doesn't it? It comes so hard to do. It's an effort.   You have to put energy in trying to not understand the concept, but understand the bloody words they're using. And it's gone. You're off with the fairies.   You're dreaming of something else. I'm in my head thinking, la la la la la. And that's not the intention that they wanted, or the thing that they wanted.   And ideally, they could have something that you could learn from and use in the future. So somebody muses over your coffee. These assumptions, useful assumptions, the meaning of communication, the response is the response it gets.   That's so useful. Instead of just moaning about other people, no, they just don't get it. Oh, I must be so stupid because I didn't get it.   No. Have a think. Muse over your coffee.   You know what I'm going to say next. Over your G&T. There's the other one.   The iced vodka. Oh my goodness. Sit back, chill.   That's the way I do it. But you might be a glass of water person. It doesn't matter.   But when you've got a few minutes in the day just to take a breath, take a pause, because that always works, to and here's something you can do while you're pausing. To recalibrate, to just get yourself in in the next wonderful state. And you learn on the way.   So we're using musings to learn. That's what the five-minute quick is about. I hope I made, I made it.   I hope my communication got the response that I was wanting for you to get maybe curious of how you can change the way you speak and notice when you're not being understood or being or understanding. If you would, that'd be great. Let me know.   Let me know if I did. Feedback at personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. That's my email. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.   You know, do you think they're bloody, these are useful assumptions are absolutely rubbish or what more have you got, Cloughie? Because there are more. And yeah, I just love your feedback of how this is going and if there's anything else you want. So if you could do that and oh, by the way, press subscribe, press follow, all those things.   And baby, now this is, I want to be really clear now. Have you shared? Shared this, this podcast? There you go. Something to muse even more.   Have fun. Have fun, my friend. See you soon.   So before you leave this unplugged mind of mine, this hypnotic mind, if you enjoyed this podcast or any of the other podcasts, please do subscribe. It helps this podcast grow and affect so many more people. And we love to leave everyone in a better place than we found them.   And this will help help the podcast. It will help you and it everyone that you know. So if you could just subscribe and share, share this podcast to everyone you know.

    10 min
  6. #452 The Key To Unlocking Your Potential

    JUL 11

    #452 The Key To Unlocking Your Potential

    The Key To Unlocking Your Potential What if everything you want is already within you—just waiting for permission to emerge? In this unplugged deep dive, I share the true, no-fluff key to unlocking your potential… and it’s not just motivational fluff or clickbait—it’s practical, doable, and wildly empowering. You'll explore: What potential really is (and the Latin origin may surprise you) Why you’re not living up to it (yet) How to smash that invisible box of limiting beliefs A simple 10-minute imagination exercise that can change everything How to prime your unconscious mind for success The tiny, powerful decision that turns dreaming into doing No guru-speak. No hype. Just honest tools to unlock your inner power and go further than you thought possible. Because your potential isn’t fixed. It’s only limited by one thing… and it’s time to break that. "You choose to empower yourself. I’ll give you the key—you turn it." — Cloughie Listen now and take the first step toward your true, limitless self. Share this with your friends, start a WhatsApp group like Paul’s boys did, and spread the power of potential. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/452-the-key-to-unlocking-your-potential Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay.     And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism And what a title, eh? What a title. The Key to Unlocking Your Potential. And it's not clickbait, by the way.   It's not clickbait, because I do have a key. But think of this, though, first, as a question to you. Why is unlocking your potential, my potential, anybody's potential, important? I know we think it's obvious.   And it's also probably hiding in plain sight. Because there's a question. Do you ever ask yourself, am I living up to my potential? Well, I'm guessing you probably don't.   It could be just me, though. I don't know. It could be just me.   I know I don't. I don't ask that. I strive for it sometimes.   I strive for it the best I can, set my intentions. But do I ever look back and go, was I really living up to my potential? The other question we never ask is, what would happen if we did? What would happen if we did ask that? Are we living up to our potential? And again, the answer is probably bloody not. Or is that just me again? Because when we get into what really potential is, we can never actually be living it, I guess.   But we can strive to be better than we were. And we have that striving to live to our potential, be living a life with the aim of being over our potential, up to our potential. If I'm trying to get the words right, you see, if you just think that with me, just for a moment, what would it be like? What would it be like if you were living a life, living up to your potential? What would it be like? What would you feel? What would it feel like when you're doing all the things you want to do? And they're probably way beyond your thoughts at this moment.   Because we're not probably living up to our potential anyway. So what would our potential be? But if we could just shake off any limits in our head, in our mind, what might you be doing? What would your potential allow you to do? What would it attract you to? Just for a moment, I'm sure you're thinking about it just as I am. Imagine it now.   Now take off those shackles, any limiting beliefs, because they're the buggers that, well, they just get in the way, don't they? Just imagine if you took away every limiting belief that you have. You forgot about all those negative experiences of the past. And you were doing the thing or things you were meant to be doing on this world, living up to your potential.   What might you be doing? Yeah, it's hard to see sometimes, but if you, I can know if I can't see exactly what I might be doing. I know it'd be at least minimum, twice as much as I'm doing now. I'd be twice as successful as I am now.   And I don't mean successful as in, oh, you're big, you're getting all this, you're doing that. No, twice as successful in the things that I want to do. I'd be achieving twice as much as I set out to do.   I'd be reaping the benefits of that. And that could be in richness as in monetary, but it could be richness in experiences, meeting people, learning from people, mentoring people, getting taught, being a mentee, because you would put yourself out there because you'd want to make sure that you are living that life. Play with it just for a moment.   So take off those shackles, limiting beliefs, just disappear, past experiences disappear. And if you could have whatever you wanted, which is in some ways potential, what might you see? What might you hear? And then just feel it, feel it, feel what it might be like. And that's just to whet your appetite.   That's just a snippet. You see, I think we need to, there's so many questions here. What limits your potential? You know, think about it now, what does or what is limiting your potential? And for me, my thoughts were, it's a box we allow ourselves to live in.   We choose to live in. Choose, choose to live in a box. Yeah, a box where we let past experiences define us.   And those past experiences create limiting beliefs. And most of those limiting beliefs are not even our own. Where do we get them from? Well, we either got them from other people, mainly our parents.   Where do they get them from? Well, maybe their parents and their grandparents and grand, all those generations ago and the world is changing so much. Those limiting beliefs are just what they are. They're limiting beliefs, trying to do a good thing for you.   I know, but they're no longer appropriate. And we're choosing to allow them to be the walls of this box that we choose to live in. And I'm picking my words quite carefully, you're choosing to live in.   And it could be me, by the way. But I know this is like just being safe sometimes in this box. It feels safe in the way that which is not a comfort zone.   It's just a zone that we we just know it. We just know we're here. And we don't want to go above or outside the boundaries.   And to keep you in there. We'll even have those wonderful beliefs either. I'm not good enough, that'll keep you in the box.   Or I'll never be good enough. Oh, shit. That's even going to take you even further into the future because I'll never be good.   I'm not just right now. Right now, I'm not good enough. But in the future, I'm not good enough.   And it's any of all that any of all that any of all that true. No, it's bloody bullshit, isn't it? We know it now. But we're choosing to live in this box made up of these limiting beliefs made up from past experiences.   And the past is a bloody past and the past is gone. We can learn from them. So we get even better in the future, not unlearn from them, as it were, and make the box even stronger.   Now I know on certain things, I've managed to do that. I managed to change some limiting beliefs, because by the way, I do all this for a living. Therapy, NLP and all that stuff.   But yeah, I'm a human as well. Guess what? I'm a human. And yeah, things come and blindside us, but you work at it.   You can change but sometimes you have to work really hard. Because even though these processes are easy, they're not complicated. I don't do complicated processes.   But they do take effort, that effort is rewarded so much. And that effort is really just sometimes just choosing by setting your intention. And I think we can all see that little box just imagines now being in that box, which is strengthened by those limiting beliefs, and now the lack of imagination.   And I can understand that. Let's give us give ourselves just a little bit of ease there. Because we've had that, excuse me, we've had that imagination knocked out of us by those experiences, by other people.   We've listened to other people, we've been affected by the noise outside. But I've decided, I've decided that's not going to happen. No more.   Not going to happen to you, not going to happen to me. And it's not going to happen to you if you choose, just sitting in this moment, just for a moment, to play. Play with your mind, play with your imagination.   And then let's just see what happens. Let's just see what happens. So just for a moment, look around, look around and notice everything that you can see.   Yeah, the chair, the lights, maybe you're looking at a computer, maybe you've got your telephone ou

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  7. FMQ 503 How to Know If you Or Someone Else Has Changed

    JUL 8

    FMQ 503 How to Know If you Or Someone Else Has Changed

    How to Know If You or Someone Else Has Changed Have You Really Changed? In this five-minute muse, we dive into one of the simplest ways to know if you've truly changed… and most of us miss it. You’ll explore the power of behaviour as the only real measure of change — and why we often forget the progress we’ve made. It's time to reflect, reset, and maybe even celebrate the changes you didn’t know you'd already made. Let’s pause, ponder, and grow — one convenient assumption at a time. And then share what you learn https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-503-how-to-know-if-you-or-someone-else-has-changed Oh and to see me recording this click here Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I’d love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

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  8. #451 The Blue Print To Confidence and Self Assurity

    JUL 4

    #451 The Blue Print To Confidence and Self Assurity

    The REAL Path to Self-Confidence: Why There's No "Blueprint" But Steps to Self-Assurity That Actually Work What This Episode Is Really About Let's get one thing straight right off the bat - there's no such thing as a confidence blueprint. If someone's selling you that, it's clickbait, pure and simple. But here's what I can give you: a real, honest look at self-assurity and how to build it from the ground up. You see, I've been where you are. I remember being at the peak of my confidence in my career - I couldn't do anything wrong, just knew I had it all figured out. Until I didn't. Something unexpected happened, boom, that confidence bloody went. Completely went. So where did it go? Well, stick around because I'll tell you about that. Self-Assurity vs The Confidence Myth Here's the thing about self-assurity - it's different from confidence. Self-assurance is being confident in the things you say and do because you're sure of your abilities. I love this little saying: being confident in your competence. Your competence is your abilities, isn't it? And when you're confident in your competence, you're self-assured. But it doesn't have to be in everything. If you haven't got the abilities, you can't be confident in them. That's where mastery comes in - doing what you know and knowing what you do. That's being confident in the things you say and do because you're sure of your abilities. There are people who know it but don't do it. And there are others who do what they don't know and think they're confident - but that's just overconfidence getting into the realms of stupidity. Becoming More Self-Assured You already have self-assurance - you just want a bit more. And that's all about knowing what you want. You need a target to aim for. If you know what you know, then you probably know what you don't know. Then you can decide what you want to know. What could you aim for? Maybe you want to be more social, deal with that social anxiety that's holding you back. Maybe you want to speak out more at meetings, express yourself in a group, maybe even do a podcast. Perhaps you want a better job, a promotion, more friends, a partner, or just to learn a particular skill. You name it, fill in the blank. The Process That Actually Works First question: Where the hell are we now? Where are we in relation to the thing we want? We need to know where we're starting from. Don't get overconfident and think you're further along than you are. Think about what qualities you have. Don't be shy about this - no one's going to read them. What do you know? What have you learned? What have you done before? What have other people said? Get a feeling for where you are now and all the good stuff you already have. Next question: What does what we want look like? And it's more than just looking. What would it look like when you've got it? What would you hear? How would that feel? You've got to know it feels right. Jump into the future and ask yourself - if I had it now, what would it feel like? What would it enable you to do? When you see the difference between where you are now and what it would look like, ask yourself: What do I need to bridge that gap? If this seems difficult, try this simple question: If this was really easy, what would that be like? Sometimes we overcomplicate things when the answer is right there. What You Need to Learn Everyone knows someone who's sure of themselves. They're grounded, strong, and they have that inner strength because they're sure of their abilities. So, what abilities do you need to learn? Where are you going to get them? Where are you going to learn them? Maybe it's getting the skill of talking, being able to open a conversation with somebody. That one little skill could change everything. Write these things down because you need to know what you need to learn. Start small. If you can do one small step, and you can because you want this, you know what it'll feel like, you've got the motivation, and if you master that one small step, you'll have confidence in your competence for that step. Taking Action That Counts Once you've got that goal in mind, you start taking action. It's an intuitive action, but also a thoughtful action. Continued action. As you do that, you become aware of where you are now because you've moved along the road toward your goal. You become flexible because you start thinking about what else you might need to learn. You're not rigid in your approach - you have flexibility because of your awareness and the action you're taking. You can also act as if you have it now. When you visualize yourself doing it, you'll know how you'll be in your physiology, how you'll walk, how you'll talk. You'll know your psychology, the way you think. The Ripple Effect Here's what's amazing - when you're aiming for this one thing and building self-assurance in this area, it generalises into other areas of your life. You become more self-assured in different areas you weren't even aware of. You might be working on being more social, but suddenly you're getting on better at work, leading things, contributing more in meetings, and making more friends. From Thinking to Doing If this has got you thinking, I want that thinking to turn into doing. Start with this program: Get it down on paper. Where are you? Where do you want to go? What would it look like? What do you need to learn? Start a program and schedule of learning those things. Don't just listen to this and go "Yeah, sounds really good, Paul. I know all this." No - go and do it. And if you need help, you know what to do. Email me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Share what you know, share your journey, share your adventure. When you tell other people what you've learned and how you're using what you've learnt, you become more self-assured. They get to know about it and you inspire them as well. You can even mentor someone - help them learn the things you've learned. The Truth About Blueprints This isn't a blueprint - never was going to be. I don't think there is a blueprint for self-confidence. But it is a way, a process of achieving self-assurity, being sure of yourself. And this process is adaptable and flexible to you. I've broken it down into simple steps, easy steps. But simple and easy steps still take effort and energy. Once you start making little inroads into those steps, your confidence starts to build, and those steps get bigger. You go from a crawl to a walk to a run and a skip and a hop. Then it spreads to different areas of your life and becomes unconscious. Resources and Next Steps If you need deeper work at an unconscious level, check out my Supreme Inner Confidence program at paulcloughonline.com. For serious issues causing distress or panic, see a one-to-one therapist - find someone who's a master hypnotist, master practitioner of NLP, timeline therapy. Share this podcast if it resonated with you. Let's get everyone feeling good about themselves in the right way. Make this little old planet Earth a better place to live for you, me, and everyone else. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/451-the-blue-print-to-confidence-and-self-assurity Get access to my hypnosis tracks at paulcloughonline.com/podcast - they're all downloadable so you can use them anywhere, anytime. Ready to build real self-assurance? Your journey starts now. Go fly, my friend. Contact: feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Free Hypnosis Tracks: paulcloughonline.com/podcast Shine Brightly Paul Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure.     And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So the longer podcast, and is there such a thing as a confidence blueprint? Really, I know I said so in the title, but if there was such a thing as a confidence blueprint, I think you'd just find it's clickbait. You know, think about it, the one and only way to confidence, hmm, yeah, I don't think so.   You see, I'm thinking about confidence, and it reminded me when I was one of the most confident people, confident Cloughie in my career. I was so confident, couldn't do anything wrong, I just knew, I just knew, until I wasn't. Something unexpectedly happened, and boom, that confidence bloody went, completely went.   But where did it go? And I'm going to talk to you about that a little bit later, right at the end. But you see, the title also says, steps to self-assurity. That sounds a little different.   So what's, what is self-assurity? Well, it's all about, I guess, being confident in the things that you say and do. Because you're just sure of your abilities. I think that's what self-assurity is, being confident in the things you say and do, because you're sure in your abilities.   And I've always put that down to something, I love this, this little saying, being confident in your competence, because your competence is your abilities, isn't it? And if you're confident in your competence, you're self-assured. But it doesn't have to be in everything, does it? Because if you haven't got the abilities, you can't be confident in them. But you can be a master, and we've talked about mastery before, doing what you know and knowing what you do.   That to me is then being confident in the things that you say and do, because you're sure of your abilities, because you are mastering the things that you do know, and you're actually doing them. And you know, there are some people who just, they know it, but they don't do it. And there are other people who do what they don't know, and they think they're confident, but that's just over-confident and getting on

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    A podcast for those wanting personal development but want it made simple and easy to understand and more importantly use, take action and make a difference to your life and the world you live in. If you want to change the way you feel and the way you act and react. If you have negative emotions, behaviours, that you want to lose forever and create something special in your life then I think you will like what you hear. This genre of self-improvement, self-development and mastery of your mind has, I believe, been made over complicated and secretive and here I am de-constructing the processes into their simple forms that we can all understand and easily use. There’s no interviews just little ol’ me ;0) Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough. I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want. A personal look at me: The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30. One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it’s not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live. Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected. Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training’s and his wonderful life changing ‘Be your potential weekend’ and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too. Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive. The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life. The more formal bit Paul Clough I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develop new skills and learning’s – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with. I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding. For those that want qualifications: Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

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