Getting On Top Paul Morris

The past is history

   The future a mystery              

       All we have is NOW!

The NOW, The Present Moment, Being in the Moment, Being Present, FLOW, are just a few examples of how to describe this phenomenon.  The importance of this subject cannot be adequately measured.  Living in the NOW is being in the FLOW, where ideas, opportunities and people come into our lives and we live life with more ease and joy.   

Mindfulness and meditation have been touted as two methods for staying in the present moment.  However, when the mind works overtime our thoughts tend to take us to the past to languish in sorrow and regret or to a fearful future resulting all too often in sadness and a constricted heart.

My guest, Penny Cohen and I will discuss not only the benefits of living in the NOW, but also practical tools to help keep us there and also why the present moment enables us to realize all the benefits that life can offer.

Your calls, questions and comments are always welcome.  Call-in number: (646) 716-8352

REVENGE: IS IT ALWAYS SWEET? with PENNY COHEN, LCSW

The Old Testament of the Jewish bible which also forms the first 39 books in most Christian Bibles, proclaims an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. But what does holding a grudge cost us both emotionally and psychologically?  Is it always worth it to get back at someone after believing that we were wronged?

My guest, Penny Cohen and I will discuss the origin, meaning and ramifications of that dish which many claim is best served cold.

You can find out more about my guest at www.pennycohen.com.

YOUR EGO: IS IT ALWAYS BAD AND CAN YOU EXIST WITHOUT IT? WITH PENNY COHEN, LCSW

The term Ego is defined as follows:
The “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.In psychoanalysis the part of the psychic apparatus that experiences and reacts to the outside world and thus mediates between the primitive drives of the id and the demands of the social and physical environment.Egotism, conceit, and self-importance.
When we think of the Ego as bad we are clearly referring to third item on this list.  So why are we so tied to that aspect of the term?

 

 

THE GAME OF LIFE w/ith PENNY COHEN, LCSW

While it may perhaps sound like calling life a game is to trivialize it and to risk sounding callus and uncaring, this could not be further from the truth.  We as humans play many types of games in life, some harmless and banal and some that can have serious and even fatal consequences.

As we ascend the scale of more serious games we discover those with steeper and steeper costs.  You risk injury in many sports and financial loss when indulging in games of chance.  War, to examine an extreme example with fatal consequences, may at first be thought of as something else, but it is also comprised of all the elements of a game: rules, goals, strategy, chance, outcomes, gain and loss to name the most obvious ones.

Then there is the mating game, one's career and that of survival for not only ourselves but for all the creatures that inhabit the earth.    

While there can never be any guaranteed outcomes especially when it comes to raising children, always considered one of life’s most challenging responsibilities, by learning some valuable insights a parent can certainly give him or herself some advantages as opposed to just learning by trial and error or just limiting themselves to doing what your parents did.  

In addition, we hope to add some interesting and perhaps even entertaining anecdotes from the many combined years that my guest and I have spent doing our part in raising our families, including our experiences with our grandchildren.

 

MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS: WHY THEY FAIL AND HOW TO MAKE THEM FLOURISH with PENNY COHEN, LCSW

Penny Cohen is a transformational psychotherapist, relationship counselor and the author of “Personal Kabbalah: 32 Paths To Inner Peace & Life Purpose.”  Find her at www.pennycohen.com.  

Relationships are very complex entities and there are many reasons why they fail. Whether the relationship is in business, a close friendship or a romantic one, including marriage, expectations are an important dynamic.  Since relationships often end due to the dissatisfaction of one or both parties with the performance of the other, expectations are the key parameter. 

Another key reason romantic relationships fail is the inability of one or both parties to reach a stage of emotional intimacy.  In the book “Games People Play,” by Dr. Eric Berne, the author describes different stages of the relationship of couples.  The ultimate stage is that of emotional intimacy but unfortunately most couples never reach that goal.  Most couples, whose relationship survives for more than say ten years or so, wind up at a stage called games. 

Penny Cohen and I will be discussing these issues and others with an attempt to convey a way to start, maintain and perhaps even improve how people relate in close and intimate surroundings.