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Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

The Unburdened Leader Rebecca Ching, LMFT

    • Self-Improvement

Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

    EP 24: Leading With Visual Language featuring Social Entrepreneur and Author, Sunni Brown

    EP 24: Leading With Visual Language featuring Social Entrepreneur and Author, Sunni Brown

    Our capacities are at an all-time low.
     
    Between the pandemic and politics and injustice–not to mention our already overflowing lives and schedules–we have access to far fewer resources for staying calm, beating back anxiety, or holding space for others.
     
    It’s in times like these that leaders like you need to know what trips you up--so you can take better care of yourself and continue to lead those who depend on you.
     
    Knowing what trips you up requires a lot of curiosity and deep respect for feeling out of sorts, but so often, the message to keep cool and never let others see you struggle shuts down any curiosity about what is at the root of inner struggle.
     
    Staying calm and showing up with care is exhausting--especially when the world is on fire. You don’t want to stop… but it’s tough!
     
    Now, I know everyone is used to hearing about “triggers,” but I like to use a different term-- trailhead.
     
    Trailheads, according to the founder of Internal Family Systems (https://ifs-institute.com/) Dick Schwartz, are an emotion, image, inner voice, thought, physical sensation, or impulse that, when brought into focus and followed, often leads to a part of our inner system that is in distress.
     
    Understanding our triggers and trailheads is a path to knowing ourselves better and provides us with direction on what we need to create and informs our body of work.
     
    My guest today built an incredible career based on following her triggers and trailheads.
     
    Sunni Brown (http://deepselfdesign.com/) is a social entrepreneur, best-selling author, story architect, and book coach.
     
    Her TED Talk has drawn more than 1.5 million views and she is the author of Gamestorming (https://bookshop.org/books/gamestorming-a-playbook-for-innovators-rulebreakers-and-changemakers-9780596804176/9780596804176) and The Doodle Revolution (https://bookshop.org/books/the-doodle-revolution-unlock-the-power-to-think-differently/9781591847038), forthcoming book–Being Confident: In Any Situation and When it Matters Most.
     
    Sunni has developed a company that has a powerful cultural impact on how we learn and work. She has started this movement based on the data offered from her own personal triggers and trailheads.
     
    Sunni has redefined what it means to arrive as she deepens her awareness of her inner system.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * What the Doodle Revolution is and why is this type of visual learning so important
    * The impact doing this type of work has had on Sunni personally and what happened when she followed her rage
    * How she integrates Internal Family Systems into her visual and design work
    * And how to get curious and befriend your trailheads and triggers instead of shaming and exiling them

     
    Learn more about Sunni Brown:

    * Deep Self Design (http://deepselfdesign.com/)
    * Twiiter @SunniBrown (https://twitter.com/sunnibrown?lang=en)
    * Facebook @SunniBrownInk (https://www.facebook.com/sunnibrownink/)
    * Instagram @SunniBrown (https://www.instagram.com/sunnibrown/?hl=en)
    * Gamestorming: A Playbook for Innovators, Rulebreakers, and Changemakers (https://bookshop.org/books/gamestorming-a-playbook-for-innovators-rulebreakers-and-changemakers-9780596804176/9780596804176)
    * The Doodle Revolution: Unlock the Power to Think Differently (https://bookshop.org/books/the-doodle-revolution-unlock-the-power-to-think-differently/9781591847038)

     
    Learn more about Liisa Sorsa:

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    EP 23: Leading and Respecting Your Whole Self with Metalsmith and Founder of Artists & Profit Makers, Megan Auman

    EP 23: Leading and Respecting Your Whole Self with Metalsmith and Founder of Artists & Profit Makers, Megan Auman

    Too often, we exile the parts of us that hold complex emotions and difficult parts of our story at the expense of our wholeness. And not respecting our own wholeness in favor of living a compartmentalized life is perpetuated in the spaces we live and lead.
     
    So, we hide away the things that we’ve been taught to believe are not acceptable—and what we hide is often rooted from the soul of what makes us unique and feel most alive.
     
    Making space to lead complexity means signing up to navigate emotions, beliefs, and perspectives that do not fit into a tidy box.
     
    This is the call right now. To dig into nuance and hang out in this place of complexity requires awareness that cannot be put back into the proverbial toothpaste tube.
     
    This is super vulnerable.
     
    But remember, respecting the whole person still requires boundaries, honoring core values, and developing systems that move you and your business forward. The fear of chaos is more about the fear of change–and what that change means for our own safety and status.
     
    What we are seeing is how leadership that respects the whole person is rewriting the rules on what is professional and appropriate.
     
    Oh, the rules.
     
    You know the rules... the shoulds about what is professional and ok for business and work and what is not.
     
    These rules crush our souls along with our clarity of voice and desire to create. And they continue to dehumanize and marginalize.
     
    Approaching business and people with a perspective that values all parts of those they lead requires doing the inner work to navigate the complexity of emotions and lived experiences with compassion and curiosity instead of shame and correction.
     
    My guest today lives this work and this approach.
     
    Megan Auman is a jewelry designer, metalsmith, educator, and entrepreneur with over a decade of experience in selling art through a variety of channels.
     
    Currently, Megan is running her eponymous jewelry line and the online community Artists & Profit Makers for fellow creatives who sell high-end products. A best-selling CreativeLive instructor, Megan’s designs have been featured in Elle Decor, Better Homes & Gardens, Cooking Light and on top-rated blogs like Design*Sponge.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How Megan discusses how we can care but not be burdened by judgment–from ourselves or others. I love this insight she offered.
    * Listen for Megan’s discussion around shame, especially around our workspaces and what we charge for our services.
    * Notice how Megan approached her own rumble with anxiety that shifted so much for her.

     
    Learn more about Megan Auman:

    * meganauman.com (http://meganauman.com/)
    * Artists & Profit Makers (https://artistsandprofitmakers.com/#:~:text=Artists%20and%20Profit%20Makers%20is%20an%20online%20group%20coaching%20program,t%20working%20for%20creative%20businesses.)
    * Follow Megan on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/meganauman/)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources from this episode:

    * thanks, mom - MEGAN AUMAN (https://www.meganauman.com/2012/05/thanks-mom/)
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    • 1 hr 12 min
    EP 22: Clear and Decisive Leadership with Founder of Frank and Eileen, Audrey McLoghlin

    EP 22: Clear and Decisive Leadership with Founder of Frank and Eileen, Audrey McLoghlin

     
    Never underestimate the power of your decisions.
     
    Especially the little decisions you make each day.
     
    How you go about making decisions offers so much data about you and what you believe about yourself and the world around you.
     
    Many of us second-guess our decisions because we're unsure of ourselves in the first place. Maybe you underestimate your ability to do hard things or give added weight to the judgement others might pass when they learn about your decision.
     
    Most often, I suspect you second-guess your ability to do hard things and feel hard things. Or maybe you question how those around you will respond to your decisions.
     
    If you are too protected from feeling vulnerable or your worthiness is wrapped up in metrics or the opinions of others, then you will be disconnected from your purpose and your courage
     
    More importantly, you will be disconnected from making the decisions that support the life you are building and those you are leading.
     
    My guest today never underestimates herself or saw a problem she could not tackle with zeal. Her sense of responsibility towards those in her charge combined with a deep, early born desire to never be beholden to anyone fuels her approach to the decisions she makes and how she problem solves.
     
    Audrey McLoghlin founded luxury clothing brand Frank & Eileen. Borrowing her grandparents’ names, Audrey sourced traditional suiting fabrics from the finest family-owned mills in Italy to reinvent the women’s button-up—a category that had previously focused solely on men.
     
    Frank & Eileen quickly became a favorite with cultural icons such as Meghan Markle, Oprah Winfrey and Kamala Harris, and is now a global retail brand. She is a four-time entrepreneur who has bootstrapped all of her companies, without ever taking outside funding.
     
    You are in for a masterclass conversation today. This may be a conversation for you to listen to on repeat—I know I already have!
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * Audrey’s mindset when the shutdown happened and how that helped her weather the storm of losing 11 million dollars in sales in two weeks
    * How the burdens she has carried fuels her resilience instead of taking her out
    * What Audrey says are the two most valuable commodities for an entrepreneur - and for all of us - and how she saw an opportunity on the other side of the triage from the crisis instead of being paralyed by indecision or waiting for things to go back to normal

     
    Learn more about Audrey McLoghlin:

    * Frankandeileen.com (http://www.frankandeileen.com/)
    * @FrankandEileen on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/frankandeileen/)
    * @audreymcloghlin on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/audreymcloghlin/)
    * @grayson on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/grayson/)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources from this episode:

    * www.ifs-institute.com (http://www.ifs-institute.com/)
    * www.brenebrown.com (http://www.brenebrown.com)

     

    • 1 hr 12 min
    EP 21: Leading With Body Resilience with Co-Author of More Than A Body, Lindsay Kite

    EP 21: Leading With Body Resilience with Co-Author of More Than A Body, Lindsay Kite

     
    Caring about those you lead means caring about the harm you may unknowingly be doing.
     
    Many of us who fit western standards of beauty and live in conventionally abled bodies don't understand how our choices can cause pain. We've internalized ableism and fat-phobia to the point where we can't even grasp how our words & deeds cause harm.
     
    In particular, in the last year, and perhaps for a while longer, many of you have come to terms with the way you operate in the world and cause pain or harm in a way you have no idea.
     
    Talking about beliefs around body, health, size, and beauty can feel like a tenuous social quagmire. Perfectionism and shame love to hang out and have a party with both mindset and mental health when tackling nuanced and vulnerable topics like this one.
     
    We breathe in the many conflicting messages on what it means to be enough, to be strong, to be worthy. Our bodies carry the burdens of these messages and beliefs.
     
    Recognizing how collusion with systems and toxic beliefs affects too many means taking action   to alleviate this pain and suffering.
     
    Because accepting these standards unchecked and at face value is dehumanizing and devaluing.
     
    It’s time to choose the socially and morally responsible path to learn what it means to cultivate an environment that supports rathan than harms.
     
    While many companies and organizations are stepping up and making an effort towards this, my guest today shares how the good intentions are often missing the intended - and needed -  impact.
     
    Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the new book More Than a Body and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, alongside her identical twin sister Lexie Kite. They both received PhDs from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy.
     
    Today, Lindsay and Lexie continue to help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their new book, their online Body Image Resilience course, social media activism, and regular speaking engagements for thousands of people of all ages.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * Self-objectification and body resilience: These are the game-changer in how you can change your outlook and approach to body anxiety.
    * Dr. Kite unpacks what gets in the way of how we see ourselves and how that impacts our courage and how we show up in work and life.
    * The call Dr. Kite puts out for all of us—especially those with privilege—to challenge our bias around body size personally and in our places of work.

     
    Learn more about Dr. Lindsay Kite:

    * Morethanabody.org (http://morethanabody.org/)
    * beautyredefined.org (http://beautyredefined.org/)
    * @beauty_redefined on Instagram (http://instagram.com/beauty_redefined)
    * Beauty Redefined on Facebook (http://facebook.com/beautyredefined)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources from this episode:

    * Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA) (http://www.bedaonline.com/)
    * Binge Eating Disorder: The Road to Recovery and Beyond (Book) (https://www.amazon.com/Binge-Eating-Disorder-Journey-Recovery/dp/1138236934/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1525978452&sr=8-1&keywords=amy+pershing)

     

    • 1 hr 8 min
    EP 20: Leading From Your Truth with the Founder of Binge Eating Disorder Association, Chevese Turner

    EP 20: Leading From Your Truth with the Founder of Binge Eating Disorder Association, Chevese Turner

     
    There is nothing safe about catalyzing the much needed changes we need in our world today.
     
    Speaking your truth feels loaded right now. I’m not talking about speaking your truth as a way to say whatever you feel whenever and wherever.
     
    I’m talking about the deep knowing inside of you that is you without the armor, the spin. The you that doesn’t absorb the projections onto you from the world.
     
    The pull to dim what you know to be true as a protective response is real.
     
    Sitting on the fence is a protective response. It also keeps you small and led by the burdens of fear.
     
    I have been rumbling with this truth in my own writing and speaking, noticing the years of protecting internally that push me to placate and keep things vague when there is a lot to lose or a chance to get hurt.
     
    The more I unburden the hurts I have held for so long, the more my capacity to move through the vulnerability of leading from my truth and speaking my truth increases.
     
    Sure, leading from your truth is scary... especially In a world that cancels and criticizes in a heartbeat.
     
    My guest today knows a lot about the challenges and costs of leading from your truth.
     
    With 25 years of experience, Chevese Turner is an internationally recognized eating disorders, weight discrimination and social justice activist who founded the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA) in 2008.
     
    Chevese is dedicated to moving beyond the current dominant weight-focused paradigm in public health and healthcare delivery to one that is weight inclusive, promotes well-being free from weight stigma and discrimination, and views our understanding of the social determinants of health as an important way forward for individuals who find themselves at the intersection of oppressions and repeated denial of healthcare based on their body size, color, ethnicity, age, gender, socio-economic status, etc.
     
    This is a conversation about so much more than food and body issues. It is about coming home to your truth. It’s about healing from your pain and the traumas of betrayal and constantly being misunderstood. It is about courageous leadership.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * Chevese’s insights on the pace of change
    * The pain many feel because they are misunderstood and devalued because of the body they inhabit—and the responsibility that all leaders have to ensure this doesn’t happen
    * The essential importance of not censoring yourself so you can show up in your truth

     
    Learn more about Chevese Turner:

    * Follow Chevese on Instagram (http://instagram.com/turnunder)
    * Follow BEDA on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/bedadvocate)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources from this episode:

    * Brené Brown (https://brenebrown.com/)

     

    • 1 hr 9 min
    EP 19: Defining Your Own Version Success with Natalie Borton, Founder of Natalie Borton Designs

    EP 19: Defining Your Own Version Success with Natalie Borton, Founder of Natalie Borton Designs

    The quickest way to crash and burn your business and life is to place your worthiness and safety with the opinions of others.
     
    This may sound like a captain-obvious statement but the pull to care what others think is something fierce. And it is sneaky.
     
    The competitive drive is no stranger to many of you. In fact, it is often the norm.
     
    Honoring your boundaries around healthy competition is hard in a world that constantly tells us we’re not enough. It does not help that our own self-talk attacks our sense of enough, too.
     
    When not checked, healthy competition and ambition leads to the protectors of scarcity and comparison overwhelming you. This happens quickly when you are not clear on your values, when you are not clear on your definition of success, and when you are not clear on your boundaries.
     
    Without these anchors in place, the powerful drive to win and achieve can quickly warp to a singular focus on another person or another business. Success is then based on comparison and moves you away from what matters most.
     
    However, staying aligned with your personal version of success is possible—and it requires that you constantly recalibrate and live your values.
     
    My conversation with Natalie Borton (http://natalieborton.com/) in this episode of The Unburdened Leader digs deep into these life-long tensions around navigating where your definition of success lies along with the power of staying clear on your core values and taking care of your well-being.
     
    Natalie is a San Diego-based mom, wife and entrepreneur that is passionate about positivity, authenticity and simplicity. She designs minimalist, California-inspired jewelry for everyday wear and educates on making the most out of your wardrobe, living more confidently and pursuing your dreams honestly and whole-heartedly.

    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How Natalie lives her value of positivity (it is a powerful approach to consider, for sure)
    * The key learnings Natalie took away from the other side of an incredible work opportunity that shook her health
    * How Natalie rumbles with her ambitions and her ever-evolving definition of success
    * How Natalie infuses the wisdom she earned in her recovery into her business and platform


    Learn more about Natalie Borton:

    * natalieborton.com (http://natalieborton.com/)
    * Natalie on Instagram (https://instagram.com/natalieborton)


    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)


    Resources from this episode

    * Brené Brown (https://brenebrown.com/)

     

    • 1 hr 14 min

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