Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs

Lisa A. Romano

Lisa A. Romano is a globally recognized Breakthrough Life Coach, award-winning author, and a leading expert in emotional recovery. Named the #1 Most Influential Person of 2020 and one of the World's Most Inspiring Women of 2023, Lisa has dedicated her career to helping others break free from the chains of codependency and narcissistic abuse. As the creator of the Conscious Healing Academy, she has developed a groundbreaking approach to emotional recovery that focuses on healing the deep-rooted causes of the false self so as to make a path forward to the authentic self. Lisa’s work is driven by her belief in the transformative power of an organized mind. She teaches that true healing begins when individuals can confront and dismantle the subconscious beliefs that keep them trapped in patterns of self-sabotage and emotional pain. Through her coaching, writing, and educational programs, Lisa empowers her clients to awaken to their authentic selves, guiding them on a journey of self-discovery and personal empowerment. With a mission to help others live above the veil of consciousness, Lisa's influence extends far beyond her coaching practice. Her insights and teachings have inspired millions worldwide to take control of their lives, break free from toxic relationships, and embrace a path of self-love and true fulfillment. Contact coach@lisaaromano.com or visit https://www.lisaaromano.com to learn about how Lisa and her team can assist with your expansion of consciousness despite a painful past.

  1. When Life Feels Out of Control: How I Discovered I Was the Adult Child of an Alcoholic

    6 DAYS AGO

    When Life Feels Out of Control: How I Discovered I Was the Adult Child of an Alcoholic

    Does your life feel out of control? Do you find yourself feeling stuck, angry, and resentful, and no matter how hard you try to be nice, or kind, or considerate, you only end up feeling worse? Dear One, that is no accident, as you will learn in this incredible breakthrough episode podcast.  Before Lisa A. Romano was diagnosed with codependency, she lived her life prioritizing others' needs, unaware that her lack of self-awareness, her inability to put herself first, or even to have her needs recognized, was rooted in trauma and missing information. Once Lisa was diagnosed with codependency and learned from an intuitive therapist that she was the adult child of unrecovered adult children of alcoholics, and possibly even dry alcoholics, the wheels in her mind started to turn. From there, Lisa hit the books and the ground running, consuming every book and mentor she could to help her unwind her mind from self-loathing, hypervigilance, negative self-talk, insecurity, and deep feelings of shame and inadequacy. By adding new data into her data bank of self-understanding, through a ferocious and tenacious will, slowly Lisa's entire inner self-perception began to shift, and like a Rubik's cube, her life started reorganizing itself.  Lisa A. Romano is the first to tell you that healing is ugly, terrifying, and lonesome, and she will also ask that you accept the quest despite this, because it is the only way to break through the thick matrix caused by generational trauma. If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you were raised by toxic, narcissistic, wounded, immature, or codependent parents, or if you grew up in what seemed like a normal family but felt emotionally neglected, this podcast episode will resonate with you.  This episode is a must-listen if you: Grew up with a parent who struggle with alcoholic parents. You are the grandchild of an alcoholic. You feel stuck, angry and like your life is out of control. Ache to understand yourself, and how your subconsicous mind controls your emotions, reactions, thinking, and your expectation all outside of conscious awareness.  ✨ Pro tip: Understanding how your childhood has impacted how you 'think' today, how you 'react', and what you expect to occur in your life is you activating metacognition. Childhood trauma resides at the subconscious. Lisa's methods help you breakthrough! Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, psychologist approaved, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents. Inside the program, you'll discover: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience. Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization. Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness. Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically. How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns. Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living. 👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #CodependencyRecovery #ParentingPatterns #GenerationalHealing #TraumaInformedHealing #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #ComplexTrauma #ConsciousParenting #SelfAbandonment #adultchildrenofalcoholics #codependency #lisaaromanopodcast #narcissisticparents #selfhelp #mentalhealthtips #savemylife #healmylife

    29 min
  2. Borderline Personality and Codependency: Signs You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents

    1 SEPT

    Borderline Personality and Codependency: Signs You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents

    Borderline personality disorder can be understood as the extreme version of codependency, where, at the core are adult adult children who have suffered from abandonment, rejection, abuse, neglect, and trauma. When an innocent child is unable, through no fault of their own, to connect with their primary caregiver, and especially when that caregiver is actually a source of pain, suffering and instability, the brain of that child is forced to live from the plane of survival. Due to default settings of the personality, brain and nervous system, for the one who has been denied a healthy attachment and who at the same time, also learned that they could not and should not trust the one caring for them, the inner world becomes trapped below the veil of consciousness, living in fear of the love the being so desperately craves.  How Narcissistic Parents Contribute to Borderline Personality Development Children of narcissistic parents often grow up in environments marked by emotional unpredictability. One moment, the parent may be intrusive, critical, or controlling, and the next they may be cold, withdrawn, or dismissive. This creates a push-pull dynamic where the child never feels secure. Over time, this instability fragments the child’s developing sense of self. Because their emotional needs are dismissed or punished, the child learns to fear abandonment while simultaneously fearing engulfment. They internalize the belief that love is unstable, unsafe, and conditional.  As adults, this unresolved conflict can manifest as borderline traits: Intense fear of abandonment Unstable self-image Difficulty regulating emotions Stormy, chaotic relationships These symptoms are not “character flaws” but survival adaptations to a childhood where the parent’s narcissism left no room for stable, secure attachment. How Narcissistic Parents Create Codependency While borderline traits stem from instability, codependency develops from self-abandonment. In a narcissistic home, children quickly learn that their parent’s approval, affection, or even basic safety hinges on meeting the parent’s emotional needs.  The child becomes hypervigilant, scanning the parent for shifts in mood, anticipating outbursts, and adapting themselves to keep the peace. This conditioning teaches the child: “My needs don’t matter.” “I must earn love by taking care of others.” “If I say no, I’ll lose connection.” As adults, these children often: Over-function in relationships Prioritize others’ needs above their own Struggle to set boundaries without guilt Confuse love with caretaking or control This is the essence of codependency: a pattern of chronic self-abandonment rooted in early survival strategies. ✅ Bottom line: Both borderline personality traits and codependency share the same root wound — a lack of secure, validating parental love. One path (borderline) reflects the inner chaos of unstable attachment, while the other (codependency) reflects the learned habit of self-erasure for connection. Both are survival strategies that can be unlearned through conscious healing, reparenting, and building self-trust. Ready to breakthrough these subconscious patterns? Start here with The 12 Week Breakthrough Method #borderlinepersonality #childhoodtraumarecoverypodcast #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #mentalhealthpodcast #lisaaromanopodcast #narcissisticmother #narcissisticparents #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #healingjourney #awakening #higherself #consciousness

    36 min
  3. Betrayed by Charisma: When Charm is a Mask for Manipulation

    25 AUG

    Betrayed by Charisma: When Charm is a Mask for Manipulation

    In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen How to distinguish real connection from performative affection Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again Why This Matters Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality. This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life. Take the Next Step Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-based program designed to help you uncover the subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles. Learn how to heal from emotional abuse, build a healthy self-concept, and reconnect to your intuition. Explore the Breakthrough Method at 50% Off https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

    32 min
  4. Codependency and Authenticity: Unmasking the People Pleaser

    11 AUG

    Codependency and Authenticity: Unmasking the People Pleaser

    In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores how codependency erodes authenticity and keeps people trapped in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing. If you struggle to speak your truth, constantly seek approval, or fear setting boundaries, this episode will help you understand the deeper root of why you hide your authentic self—and how to begin unmasking the people pleaser within. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why people-pleasing is a trauma response rooted in childhood survival How codependency develops when authenticity is punished or ignored The difference between genuine kindness and compulsive approval-seeking Why suppressing your needs leads to resentment, burnout, and emotional confusion Practical steps to reconnect with your true self and honor your voice Why This Episode Matters Many adult children of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable caregivers learn early on that being “the good one” is the only way to feel safe. Over time, this coping mechanism becomes a false self—one that performs for acceptance while abandoning its truth. But healing is possible. By understanding the connection between childhood emotional neglect and adult codependency, you can begin the courageous journey back to your authentic self—one boundary at a time. Take the Next Step Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-informed system designed to help you unlearn codependent behaviors, reclaim your voice, and build a self-concept rooted in worth and truth. Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #CodependencyRecovery #PeoplePleasing #AuthenticSelf #ChildhoodTrauma #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #SpeakYourTruth #BoundariesMatter #HealingJourney #LisaRomano

    23 min
  5. Codependency: The Invisible Child's Addiction

    4 AUG

    Codependency: The Invisible Child's Addiction

    If you grew up feeling emotionally unsafe, unseen, or like your feelings didn’t matter, you may have unknowingly developed codependent behaviors rooted in childhood emotional neglect. In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, codependency recovery expert, breaks down how early life experiences shape your nervous system and self-worth—and why the "invisible child" often becomes an adult trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and toxic relationship cycles.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: How childhood trauma, emotional instability, or neglect programs the brain for codependency Why feeling unsafe as a child rewires your nervous system to seek external validation How beliefs like “I’m not enough” become subconscious blocks to self-esteem The hidden link between early emotional trauma and compulsive rescuing or caretaking How to start reclaiming emotional safety through boundaries, self-awareness, and nervous system regulation  Why This Episode Matters Codependency is not just about behavior—it’s about the emotional blueprint you were given as a child. If no one ever mirrored your worth or made space for your needs, you may now unconsciously look to others for permission to feel safe, lovable, or whole. But healing begins with visibility—recognizing your patterns and rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.  Take Action: Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt emotionally unsafe or invisible? How is that experience still influencing your relationships today? Self-Awareness Practice: Next time you feel the urge to fix or please someone, ask yourself: “Is this about honoring me—or avoiding rejection?”  Continue the Journey: Discover Lisa’s neuroscience-based system for codependency recovery in the 👉 12 Week Breakthrough Method: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

    26 min
  6. Raised by a Vulnerable Narcissistic Parent: When Forgiveness Becomes a Weapon

    21 JUL

    Raised by a Vulnerable Narcissistic Parent: When Forgiveness Becomes a Weapon

    In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores the emotional aftermath of being raised by a vulnerable narcissistic parent—the type who manipulates your compassion, guilt-trips you into forgiveness, and demands loyalty over authenticity. If you were raised in a home where emotional manipulation, mood swings, and emotional neglect were the norm, this episode will help you understand how these early wounds manifest as codependency, self-abandonment, and chronic anxiety in adulthood. Lisa breaks down how children of emotionally immature parents learn to suppress their truth to survive—and how that programming carries over into relationships, careers, and the way we see ourselves. In this episode, you’ll learn: What a vulnerable narcissist is and how they condition children through emotional manipulation How forced forgiveness becomes a form of control Why emotional invalidation leads to codependent behaviors How childhood trauma impacts the nervous system and self-worth What it takes to begin healing and reclaiming your authentic self This episode is for you if you: Were raised by a parent who guilted or manipulated you emotionally Feel responsible for others’ emotions or avoid conflict at all costs Struggle with people-pleasing, low self-esteem, or fear of rejection Are beginning to awaken to your own trauma history and want tools to heal Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers. Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth. 👉 Learn more: here #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #NarcissisticParent #EmotionalNeglect #TraumaInformedHealing #ComplexTrauma #SelfAbandonment #NeuroscienceBasedHealing

    27 min
  7. Codependency and Narcissistic Parents: A Toxic Cycle

    14 JUL

    Codependency and Narcissistic Parents: A Toxic Cycle

    What happens when the very people who are supposed to love, nurture, and protect you are also the source of your deepest emotional wounds? In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, Certified Breakthrough Life Coach and trauma-informed expert in codependency recovery, explores the devastating impact of narcissistic parenting and how it lays the foundation for lifelong codependency. Children of narcissistic parents are often emotionally neglected, manipulated, and made to feel responsible for the moods, needs, and approval of their caregivers. This can set the stage for an adult life of self-abandonment, low self-worth, and an unhealthy need for validation. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🔹 The key traits of narcissistic parents: — Grandiosity, lack of empathy, control, and chronic invalidation 🔹 The emotional toll on children: — Feelings of never being good enough — Suppressed emotional needs — Growing up believing love must be earned through performance 🔹 How this creates the perfect storm for codependency: — Emotional enmeshment and learned helplessness — A compulsion to please, fix, or rescue others — Difficulty identifying one’s own needs or setting boundaries 🔹 Why this toxic cycle is hard to break without trauma-informed support This episode is for you if: ✔️ You grew up with a narcissistic, controlling, or emotionally unavailable parent ✔️ You constantly feel responsible for others’ emotions ✔️ You struggle to say “no” or prioritize your own needs ✔️ You’re tired of repeating painful patterns in your adult relationships Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Begin your recovery journey with Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp 📚 Learn more about how childhood trauma shapes adult codependency 👉 YouTube Channel – Lisa A. Romano #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticParent #ChildhoodTrauma #LisaRomano #ToxicFamily #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #SelfAbandonment #12WeekBreakthrough #TraumaInformedHealing

    1h 36m

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Lisa A. Romano is a globally recognized Breakthrough Life Coach, award-winning author, and a leading expert in emotional recovery. Named the #1 Most Influential Person of 2020 and one of the World's Most Inspiring Women of 2023, Lisa has dedicated her career to helping others break free from the chains of codependency and narcissistic abuse. As the creator of the Conscious Healing Academy, she has developed a groundbreaking approach to emotional recovery that focuses on healing the deep-rooted causes of the false self so as to make a path forward to the authentic self. Lisa’s work is driven by her belief in the transformative power of an organized mind. She teaches that true healing begins when individuals can confront and dismantle the subconscious beliefs that keep them trapped in patterns of self-sabotage and emotional pain. Through her coaching, writing, and educational programs, Lisa empowers her clients to awaken to their authentic selves, guiding them on a journey of self-discovery and personal empowerment. With a mission to help others live above the veil of consciousness, Lisa's influence extends far beyond her coaching practice. Her insights and teachings have inspired millions worldwide to take control of their lives, break free from toxic relationships, and embrace a path of self-love and true fulfillment. Contact coach@lisaaromano.com or visit https://www.lisaaromano.com to learn about how Lisa and her team can assist with your expansion of consciousness despite a painful past.

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