The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety - Dr. Scott Eilers Scott Eilers

Most think acceptance means settling for misery. That's not true. Acceptance empowers you to change what matters. It acknowledges some pain is unavoidable - but suffering is optional.

Life has inherent discomforts we cannot control - that's "pain." Trying to force away that pain often backfires, causing more issues. That's "suffering." Radical acceptance separates the two categories.

This video teaches evaluating life's pains objectively. Some are changeable with effort. Others aren't worth the cost of change. Radical acceptance means tolerating unchangeables, focusing energy on high-impact areas instead of fruitless struggles. It's life-changing.

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Emotions are not light switches. You cannot simply turn them on or off just because you (or somebody) would like to.


Being told (or telling others) to calm down, cheer up, or get over it is dismissive and unhelpful. There is no direct mechanism for selecting your emotions.



The biggest problem is that this type of command is outcome based - become x new emotion now. But without a process for changing your emotions you may do more harm to your current emotional state.



I'm sharing with you that process here.

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Not all negative thoughts are bad. But constantly thinking about negative things can lead to a downward cycle psychology calls rumination.

Rumination is when we have certain thoughts, memories, or ideas, that get stuck in our brain. And trying to relax, unwind, or think about something else can simply make the thought more ingrained.

There's a reason for this, and it's the reason why doing nothing is actually dangerous for rumination.

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00:00 The Frustrating Nature of Brain Rumination

02:51 The Impact of Rumination on Mental Energy Allocation

05:27 Minimizing Rumination Through High-Stimulation Activities

08:09 Engaging the Brain to Combat Ruminative Thoughts1

0:45 Directing Mental Energy for Positive Focus


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If you're consistently failing at the same thing over and over again, you might be trying to force something that, ultimately, isn't you.When you find yourself in this place, it's time for a total life reexamination: where are you taking yourself and why?This probably feels pretty daunting, but I'm going to break it down for you now.
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Emotions can be absolutely terrifying; causing total shut down and unbelievable pain.

Despite all that, your emotions are not the enemy of your life. In fact, they can be valuable insight into your present experience. They will only cause you agony when you don't understand your relationship to them.

Approaching them as allies instead of enemies will help you control them and make better choices for your life. I'm going to show you how to do this.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
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My book: For When Everything is Burning
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Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minutes
http://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Connect with me on TikTok:
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Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.


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This episode my reaction to a recent news event around assisted suicide in a young individual with chronic mental health struggles.


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