Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women Mary Jelkovsky

Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns.

You will learn...
- what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset
- how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms
- why “positive thinking” usually doesn’t work long-term (and what helps instead)
- how our sexist socializations project onto the women around us

Toward the end, Kara coaches Mary on some of the conflicting thoughts she’s having about her career.

Remember: the only way to stop caring about what other people think about you is to start caring more about what YOU think about you.

Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of [The School of New Feminist Thought](https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/), and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast [UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain/id1229434818) (50 million downloads and counting!).

Her first book, [*Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out*](https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com/) (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher’s Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap.

A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a multiple-7-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out.

Follow Kara on Instagram: [@karaloewentheil](https://www.instagram.com/karaloewentheil)
Get Kara’s book, *Take Back Your Brain* here: https://amzn.to/3Wo3W1g

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @karaloewentheil

Mentioned in this episode…
Ep. 36: Feminism, Body-Image, and Unfcking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mi1O4iimYDJ2oT6PlY0nG?si=6a093c1379304c30

Mary shares a 3-part journaling prompt that can help you gain deeper self-awareness regarding your true needs and desires. Use this simple, practical prompt anytime to connect with different aspects of yourself.

You will learn how to...

Tap into a reliable source of personal insight
Clear your mental chatter to understand what you really want
Access your heartfelt, soul-centered intuitive guidance

Remember: ”To hear your heart, you need time, stillness, silence, play, and surrender.”

Make sure to get Mary’s books 2 on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471

May is mental health month and MOMS need more mental health support. Today we’re joined by Cameron Rogers, a content creator who openly shares about the ins and outs of motherhood.

In this episode, Cameron shares…
- why she doesn’t share her kids names and faces online
- what postpartum anxiety feels like
- how motherhood gave her a new level of self-confidence
- advice for new moms

Remember: if you’re anxious about becoming a mom, you’re definitely not alone. But just like everything in life, each phase of motherhood is temporary.

Founder and Host of the Freckled Foodie & Friends podcast, Cameron Rogers (@cameronoaksrogers) utilizes her unfiltered voice and humor to carve out a safe space on the internet for mothers. Her podcast, produced by Dear Media, has amassed over 2 Million downloads and features genuine sit-down conversations discussing wellness, mental health, motherhood, and pop culture. She passionately sheds light on her experiences with pregnancy, postpartum depression, and the often unspoken or overlooked trials and tribulations of navigating the journey of motherhood. Recently, Cameron has extended her community to a Substack titled Fill Your Cup about how she’s keeping her cup full amidst motherhood.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @cameronoaksrogers

Loneliness is the #1 contributing factor to the mental health crisis we’re currently experiencing so we MUST talk about it for Mental Health Awareness Month.

If or when you feel lonely, remember that it’s not a personal deficiency. It’s a systemic issue in our modern-day, industrialized world. The cure for loneliness is not to become a social butterfly, but rather to re-shape the way you interact with people.

In this episode, you will learn...
- why more and more people, especially Americans, are feeling lonely
- how to create a culture of connection with your friends and family
- the missing KEY to feeling less lonely

If you’re interested in Mary’s next online retreat, sign up to get Mary’s emails here: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

It’s been almost 3 years since Mary has talked to my father. Now she’s processing that familial estrangement in real time with the help of Minaa B, a licensed social worker and proponent for psychological safety. The conversation also leads into the phenomenon of ghosting; why people do it and how to cope with the lack of closure.

You will learn...
- what constitutes estranged family and how surprisingly common it is
- why people GHOST and how to cope with ghosting in relationships
- the important difference between rules vs. boundaries
- ways to grieve and find closure for abrupt endings

Remember: closure is akin to forgiveness in that it can only come from within.

Minaa B. is a licensed social worker, mental health educator, and author of *[Owning Our Struggles](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593539354?tag=randohouseinc2681-20)*. She is also the founder of a mental health [consulting practice](https://www.minaab.com/about-us) where she collaborates with organizations to help them develop psychological safety. Additionally, Minaa is the host of the Verywell Mind podcast, runs an advice column for Cosmopolitan magazine called Free Therapy, and is also a member of the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez.  An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in various media outlets, including Red Table Talk, Peace of Mind with Taraji, Oprah Daily, Katie Couric Media, and more. Minaa currently resides in New York City.

Follow Minaa on Instagram: @minaa_b
Get Minaa’s new book Owning Our Struggles: https://amzn.to/4b1GDOU

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @minaa_b

If you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth.

In this episode, you will learn...
- the 2 different types of criticisms
- what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you)
- 3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions

Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

- The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

- 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Mary’s Body-Image TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg?si=P3kfRMBBdFgTMOAI
Mary’s IG reel that went viral and got criticized: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5l6-_fvZCS/?igsh=ZDJrYjA0aXpzM2ww
The 4 Agreements book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1878424319/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_AJC459ZTT9B1T36FX5ZR?linkCode=ml2&tag=maryscupoft0b-20