Attachment Styles, Core Values, & Choosing Yourself

In this raw and vulnerable episode of The Vulnerability Project Podcast, Kass Gomez opens up about her very first solo camping trip — and the life-changing realizations that came with it. Armed with a journal, a box of Cinnamon Toast Crunch, and a copy of Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, Kass reflects on how anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles shape the way we love and connect.

From her long-term “Situationship” to the patterns of grasping for love, Kass dives deep into the ways our upbringing, nervous system, and unhealed trauma influence how we show up in relationships. She shares personal stories of loss, heartbreak, and reactivity — and how those moments revealed her deepest needs: loyalty, respect, vulnerability, communication, and honesty.

Through the lens of core values and love languages, Kass highlights how unmet needs can lead to grasping, shutting down, or lashing out — and how awareness creates space for healing. She explores the hard truths of loving someone avoidant while being anxiously attached, and the powerful choice to stop chasing love and instead choose yourself.

This episode isn’t just about theory — it’s about lived experience. Kass invites listeners to journal on their own values, reflect on their attachment style, and consider where they may be waiting for someone else to choose them instead of stepping into self-worth.

✨ Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• The three main attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, secure) and how they show up in love.
• Why your core values and love languages are essential in building healthy connections.
• How childhood wounds and upbringing create the foundation for adult relationships.
• The importance of choosing yourself — and why it’s not selfish, it’s sacred.
• Practical reflection prompts to begin your own journey of healing.

Whether you’re healing from a situationship, breaking patterns of anxious attachment, or simply learning to honor your own values, this episode will remind you that you’re not too much, your needs are valid, and you are worthy of love that aligns with who you truly are.

👉 Tune in, grab your journal, and explore what it means to stop grasping and start choosing yourself.

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