Bold Adulting - Courage in the face of self doubt Masha Evpak

This is season 3's last episode. Request from Masha -- if any of these episodes or the resources shared within have helped you or meant something to you, please reach out to masha@boldadulting.com to let me know. I'm not sure when the next season will be, but I promise it is coming. Suggestions for guests (including yourself!), topics, other podcasts you'd like to hear me on, or just a hello are very much appreciated. Reach out anytime :)
Episode description:
Anonymous client receives support on maintaining confidence during job searches and dealing with unease in social settings. Tips include learning how to say no to social invitations even if you don’t have other plans and how to use “I don’t know” to your advantage in job interviews.

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) --
reaching out to people (virtually) figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with looking for evidence-based resources remembering that you are not alone If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).
 
I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (which I don't run but I participate in) which is about staying connected even while we have to stay apart. You can also find a lot of information there about getting help or giving help -- this is a is moment to come together.
end of coronavirus talk, back to regularly scheduled programming
Mentioned in this episode:
Homework: What Do I Like Homework: Mindful Moment Homework: In the Moment Jordan Jesse Go podcast’s suggestion of pulling out a power jam with your mind to improve your mood Dorie Clark’s networking tips Association of Women in Science - San Diego ————————————————————————
Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!
Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram.
Email: masha@boldadulting.com
Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram
 
All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 
 
Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 
Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) --
reaching out to people (virtually) figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with looking for evidence-based resources remembering that you are not alone If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).
 
I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (which I don't run but I participate in) which is about staying connected even while we have to stay apart. You can also find a lot of information there about getting help or giving help -- this is a is moment to come together.
end of coronavirus talk, back to regularly scheduled programming
Director of Postdoctoral Affairs Angela Fowler shares about persevering through her PhD after a rocky start and navigating how much to share about chronic health problems (from endometriosis & hip pain) with her committee members. Bonus: Angela shares some great tips for professional development!
 
Contact Angela:
Email: afthescientist@gmail.com
Twitter & LinkedIn


Mentioned in this episode:
Pittsburg State University  University of Kansas MAPS (Mentorship, Advisors, Peers, and Sponsorship) Groups for Women in Bio La Jolla Institute for Immunology  Tip: Informational interviews to learn more about the careers you’re interested in and make connections Use this free 7 Step Guide for Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone to set them up! Interview with Graduate Career Counselor Guilia Hoffmann part 1 and part 2  Tip - have projects outside of grad work (helps your professional development and your mental health)  LinkedIn for professional development Some tips for using LinkedIn are in this article  Tip: the founder of LinkedIn has a podcast called Masters of Scale which interviews entrepreneurs of major businesses. The 10 New Rules for Big Career Changes episode has great career tips even for those who have no interest in having their own business.    Endometriosis  Professional Pathways class at the UCSD Biology PhD Program Nisha Cavanaugh Dorie Clark’s book Reinventing You ————————————————————————
Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!
Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram.
Email: masha@boldadulting.com
Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram
 
All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 
 
Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 
Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) --
reaching out to people (virtually) figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with looking for evidence-based resources remembering that you are not alone If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).
 
I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (which I don't run but I participate in) which is about staying connected even while we have to stay apart. You can also find a lot of information there about getting help or giving help -- this is a is moment to come together.


In a Bold Adulting workshop, a group of UC San Diego Grad Women in Computing grad students explore how to feel confident in the face of struggles, strategize about solving their problems, and discuss the extra obstacles that international students can face. Note - The audio in this episode isn’t perfect, but I hope you’ll still find it worth a listen. (I’ve since improved my ability to record my workshops.) - Masha
 
See the activities covered in Success in Grad School & Beyond workshops and fill out this interest form if you might want to book a workshop. 
These workshops are great for any group who wants to improve their career confidence and make progress for goals!   
Mentioned in this episode:
Grad Women in Computing Huge thanks to Ailie Frasier (LinkedIn, Twitter), Trisha Ngoon (LinkedIn, Twitter), and Steven Rick (LinkedIn, Twitter) for bringing Masha in to work with your amazing group!  The Getting To Know You activity has participants use the American Sign Language (ASL) signs SAME and DIFFERENT to visually see how they relate to each other. Note: Masha knows a lot of American Sign Language, but isn't fluent yet. She consulted with an expert in Deaf culture/sign language to make sure this is an ok use of a language, so as to avoid appropriating another culture. If you have any thoughts about this or anything else, please feel free to email: masha@boldadulting.com  Siering/Wilson Award to Support Undergraduate Research in Microbial Ecology Endowment Fund This foundation was formed in honor of the memory of Patty Siering, one of the most talented and caring professors and mentors I’ve ever had, who passed away in 2017. Success in Grad School & Beyond workshops slides  Useful quotes: “You're never going to get the proof you want that shows you're doing okay, because other people telling you that doesn't seem convincing to you. You just tell yourself that those people don't really see what's going on. The one thing we forget to be critical of is our own ability to assess ourselves.” -Mizuho Ota (microbiologist) “I think everyone should think of science as a profession just like any other, such as carpentry. You don't start with the big saws and power tools and try to build a house. You first make a table using a hand saw and a hammer.” - Bahram Kheradmand (bee behavioral biologist Recovering Academic podcast Confidence Cat demonstration of Growth Mindset(that link has other Confidence Cat art too)
Imposter syndrome Halloween costume picture can be found on these slides or on her art page   Biz Chix podcast word of year. Masha’s so far have been: 2018: patience 2019: systems 2020: growth Brad Voytek on why his curricul

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) --
reaching out to people (virtually) figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with looking for evidence-based resources remembering that you are not alone If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).
I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (which I don't run but I participate in) which is about staying connected even while we have to stay apart. You can also find a lot of information there about getting help or giving help -- this is a is moment to come together.


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[content warning: eating disorders & body shame]
In episode 2 of a two-part episode, Voice Actor and Coach, Podcaster, and Marketing Specialist Tawny Platis discusses fighting bi invisibility by coming out in the context of being in an other-gender relationship, setting boundaries with family members for self-care, and finding help for recovering from eating disorders and body dysmorphia. 
 
Listen to part 1 first.
 
Email Tawny 
 
Find Tawny on her: 
personal  website,  Facebook Instagram Death is Hilarious (previously known as The Dirty Bits) podcast Patreon page - support the podcast & get extra content! website Instagram of the former Dirty Bits podcast Tawny Voice Facebook page  Instagram Twitter And Facebook group The Lovebug Brigade Mentioned in this episode:
Bi invisibility In the context of a same-gender/heterosexual relationship Using gender neutral language  Coming out Note that the “coming out” language is useful for not only sexual orientation and gender identity but also other destigmatized experiences & identities. Not everyone in the queer community feels that it’s appropriate to use this language more broadly, but many do  Pansexuality and Bisexuality Note: Masha identifies as pansexual (attracted to people regardless of gender) but uses the word “bisexual” in contexts where she feels that’ll be better understood. This may be considered a form of code switching. The obituary of George Platis - Tawny’s late husband Rich’s Nightclub Baja Betty’s Food Psych Podcast - about intuitive eating and Health At Every Size Asking before hugging Masha’s 3rd ever stand up comedy set was about this.  In the spirit of antiperfectionism, she recognizes the ways to improve this for next time, without judging herself for this drafty draft This performance was during a stand up comedy class taught by DJ Demers at MaxFunCon, an amazing convention of the Maximum Fun podcasting network    Nose picking article on wikipedia Binge show about bulimia Podience podcast


In this 2-part interview, we talk about how Diet Culture shapes our relationships with food and movement. In case you or someone you know needs it, here is some possibly helpful information: 
Eating Disorder Hotline Listings International Eating Disorder Resources  Body Dysmorphic Disorder Body Liberation   
Tawny’s dog Babbs says hi:

Courage the Confidence Cat says hi too:
Here he is hard at work while Masha works from home

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goal

[content warning: eating disorders & body shame]
In episode 1 of a two-part episode, Voice Actor and Coach, Podcaster, and Marketing Specialist Tawny Platis shares about what makes her confidence waver, how teaching helps remind her how far she’s come, and and how she keeps picking up the phone even knowing rejections are common in voice acting. We also discuss how being a generalist makes her a stronger communicator. 
 
Email Tawny 
 
Find Tawny on her: 
personal  website,  Facebook Instagram Death is Hilarious (previously known as The Dirty Bits) podcast Patreon page - support the podcast & get extra content! website Instagram of the former Dirty Bits podcast Tawny Voice Facebook page  Instagram Twitter And Facebook group The Lovebug Brigade Mentioned in this episode:
Tip: To improve your confidence, teach others what you know Dialectical behavioral therapy (finding healthier coping mechanisms) Masha’s list of ways to feel better includes blowing bubbles, taking a walk, swimming, or petting Courage the Confidence Cat What’s on your list? Share by emailing masha@boldadulting.com or via Twitter or Instagram  Voice actor Tara Strong - PowerPuff Girls, Rugrats, and many more Confidence Cat Zine - coloring worksheets for confidence, career success, and problem-solving   Thug Notes Drunk History Adam Ruins Everything 7 Celebrities You Wouldn’t Believe Have Imposter Syndrome This was a video Masha made in 2016, the first project she made in iMovie. In the spirit of antiperfectionism, she recognizes the ways it could be better lit & more engaging, without judging herself for this drafty draft Tina Fey: "The beauty of the impostor syndrome is you vacillate between extreme egomania, and a complete feeling of: ‘I’m a fraud! Oh god, they’re on to me! I’m a fraud!’"  Ira Glass’s insightful quote about The Gap that creatives experience in their early years between their taste/ambitions/ideas and their skills  Nick Howell of Orbital Jigsaw podcast network, the network that Dirty Bits used to be on BizChix business podcast Unreal show Hannah of Film Roast Lori of Zencastr for helping me fix some audio issues Note: Zencastr is a great way to record podcasts long distance Generalists: people who learn about a lot of things at less detail than specialists, e.g. many science or history communicators Masha used to be heavily involved in science communication   In this 2-part interview, we talk about how Diet Culture shapes the our relationships with food and movement. In case you or someone you know needs it, here is some possibly helpful information: 
Eating Disorder Hotline Listings International Eating Disorder Resources Body Dysmorphic Disorder Body Liberation  
Tawny’s dog Babbs says hi:

Masha's cat Courage the Confidence Cat also says hi:

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!
Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram.
Email: masha@boldadulting.com
Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram
 
All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 
 
Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 
Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

Shijia gets help on her confidence as it relates to doing science/grad school in a non-native language, asking for feedback, and comfort interacting with men as a result of cultural upbringing.  
 
Homework: Ask for feedback  Tip: Ask for 1 thing you did well and 1 thing you did better (to avoid receiving the “It was good but…” structure of feedback) Tip: If it’s written feedback, read it while you’re well-rested and relaxed (if possible) Tip: Prepare for but don’t avoid awkwardness Growth mindset: don’t feel limited by the skills you currently have My late grandpa Yuriy had this, as he spoke to Americans even when he wasn’t fluent after we moved to the US from Russia. I recently found an amazing home video of him telling a joke in English, making people erupt in laughter, and then being delighted that he was understood   Homework: List the benefits of the struggles and learning opportunities you’ve had. Examples:  Having English as a 2nd language can provide skills for then learning the language of science Having to work while in college teaches organizing, prioritizing, multitasking, whatever skills that job required, and is actually better than having a resume that has only education Homework: Mindfulness (letting thoughts slip away) Tip: Avoiding Pink Elephants (think of a better thought to replace an unhelpful thought pattern, as just trying to avoid thoughts tends to reinforce them Tip: Track unhelpful thoughts by moving pennies from one pocket to another or by using a tally Tip: Defer anxiety to a later point Christy Harrison’s Intuitive Eating Fundamental Class (a mini course is available) and Food Psych podcast  Tip: Use Masterminds (feedback groups) for making progress on research projects or anything else you’re trying to get done ————————————————————————
Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!
Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram.
Email: masha@boldadulting.com
Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram
 
All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 
 
Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 
Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak