BROJO: Confidence. Clarity. Connection‪.‬ Dan Munro & Mike Wells

Introducing the Green Pill approach to dating and relationships

In this podcast episode we’ll discuss about what I’m going to call the “Green Pill” approach to dating and relationships (as opposed to red pill or blue pill ideologies). I’ve named it that because green seems the right colour to signify integrity, growth, and nature / being natural.

So with the Green Pill approach to dating you actually lose the word “dating” altogether because it’s too needy and full of desperation and transactional. It’s a complete paradigm shift away from getting something from other people. Instead, you focus on socializing with integrity. The primary purpose is to impress yourself with valued living. No more seduction techniques, hiding behind texting, sliding into DMs, online dating apps, setting up dates, or going to bars and clubs.

Instead you fill your week with hobbies and activities that fulfil you. You turn everything you love into a social event, and you focus primarily on being as honest and brave and transparent as you can be in those situations, even if it costs you the love of everyone in the room. Rather than trying to “get” people and fit in or make them like you, you take the risk of losing everyone in order to be true to yourself. But at the same time, you don’t sabotage potential connections with avoidant tactics or contrarian disagreeableness. You employ powerful honesty principles to attract the right kind of people and repel the wrong kind, all while primarily focusing on engaging in activities you enjoy.

If the honesty is loved, respected and reciprocated by someone you also like, then you invite them to join you in your life (but you don’t create new events just for them). You keep doing that until you’re only surrounded by the best fit possible people, and of course, your shameless honesty will naturally escalate things romantically as well. ————-

This Green Pill approach is broken down in great detail in my Building Rapport course – you can access this and all my other courses with a free 7 day trial to my paid subscription – DM or email me dan@brojo.org for access

In this podcast, I scoured the internet to find the most common arguments against honesty - the justifications for lying, manipulation, and keeping thoughts to yourself. I will address each of them with my counter arguments, including the most powerful cases I've ever seen: hiding Jews from the Nazis, and not telling a child that they're about to die!

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In the USA, divorce rates are 2.9/1000, meaning that 50% of all marriages end in divorce, averaging about 8 years before they crash. And USA is not even as bad as Russia, Maldives and Canada.
But does this mean that the Red Pill narrative about how marriage is a bad idea for men is accurate?
In India, divorce rates are 0.01/1000, meaning there are almost no divorces. Countries like Italy also do well. So what's really going on here?
In this podcast, we'll carefully examine the real data - scientific evidence - about divorce rates, causes of marriage breakdowns, why every country has a different divorce rate, the truth about concepts like "hypergamy" and lack of commitment.
And more importantly, we'll do what Red Pillers almost never do - look at the 50% of marriages that last a lifetime, and see what those couples are doing differently and what they believe that keeps their relationships solid.

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Men struggle in dating and relationships to identify what it is exactly that women want from them. We're told a million different things about what's attractive and what creates a connection and how to get a girlfriend or how to make a marriage work.

Here's some dating and marriage advice for men: the greatest gift you can give to another person has nothing to do with being impressive. It’s really all about vulnerability and authenticity: letting them into your secret world, where all of your fears and faults are hidden, and allowing them to share theirs in return. It can be as simple as completing a sentence that begins with:

“I’ve never told anyone this before, but…”

It feels deeply significant and touching when someone shares something that they’ve never revealed to anyone else before. You suddenly have meaning, significance and purpose in your life. You are here to share their secret. You've created a connection that can lead to a relationship.

And it’s not even relevant whether or not they’ve shared it with others before. What’s most important is that it is a deep truth which brings you together in understanding. You both share what it means to be human.

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I’ve built a profitable coaching business since 2013 based on my brand of honesty and integrity.

Naturally, in the beginning, this caused me some conflict and ethical dilemmas when it came to sales. The marketing tactics and strategies I was taught often conflicted with my values.

I was told to create scarcity even when there was abundance. I was pressured to give time constraints even when there was plenty of time. I was advised to dig into my client’s pain points when they were already suffering enough.

I thought,

“Surely there’s a way to sell my coaching and products without selling my soul! There must be a way to make my sales targets without being salesy, or pushy, or manipulating in a harmful deceitful way.”

Thankfully, there is.

Selling doesn’t have to include manipulation, game play, seduction, lies, pressure, neediness, cut n paste tactics, focus on money, or selling something you don’t fully believe in.

In this article, I’m going to give you my top tips on how to sell through value-based and relationship-based methods that ensure your client always gets a good deal and you’re honest and transparent throughout the entire process.

Not only is this good for your soul, it’s actually super effective in creating trust-based long term relationships with clients who never feel buyers-remorse, never feel pressured or tricked, and always come out of it better than they went in.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro
02:51 Give freely to create leads
08:43 Explore with them
11:22 Only monetize the main thing
12:58 See it from their perspective
14:36 Be transparent about your goals
17:33 Statements not questions
18:54 Take your time slow down
22:45 Collaborate on solutions
25:18 Slow down on a yes
28:49 Focus on long term relationships
34:00 When it's time sell shamelessly
36:53 Stay in touch
39:00 Constantly collect feedback
40:43 Conclusion and next steps
22:47 Collaborate on solutions
25:18 Slow down on a yes
28:49 Focus on long term relationships
34:00 When it's time shamelessly sell

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