Discovering Tantra After a Toxic Long Distance Relationship with Dominique D’Vita The Kind of Love

In this episode …
Aaron talks with guest Dominique D’Vita about her past long distance that woke her up to using and coaching through the healing practice of Tantra.
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SHOW NOTES Intro
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Welcome to TKOL Podcast.. I'm Aaron Tosti.
A while back a good friend of mine said I should write a book called "The kind of love I'm getting I don't want, and the kind of love I want I ain't getting." an autobiography of weird love stories... so I made it into a podcast.
Not only to share my stories, but other peoples stories... maybe even yours.
Love gets weird some times right ? ...tell me about it
 
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Hindsight  is always 2020, right?
 
Looking back at once pained us, can shift a funny perspective. And the funny and unfortunate relationship situation can be a powerful catalyst to find unique ways to change though we do things.
 
For my new friend Dominque she went from a toxic long distance relationship to discovering how the practice of tantra can change and heal you.
 
Often our wounds stem from childhood, and for Dom where she had to take care of an alcoholic parent, literally dodging a bullets when her mom came in with a gun, and having to be a parent to her parent. After overcoming people pleasing and being a sex worker in the past, she now teaches men and couples how to have a healthy sense of sex in their relationship.
 
She shares her story with me, and how tantra has helped her and others, one of the benefits helping you trust yourself and find discernment, and not just impulsively hooking up with people.. all that and more…
 
Enjoy.
 
 
3:20 min
Aaron watched Dominique’s “how to last longer in bed” video.
 
Dominique says, “Your brain is your biggest sexual organ because of neural pathways, and it’s great to start the work on your own without a partner”
 
4:30 min
Aaron asks Dominique about her long distance relationship
 
Dominique says,  yea the guy was a real “winner” the
 
They were in an AOL chat room from 1997. When you wen into an AOL chat room you use to type A/S/L - age sex location.
 
You would have deep conversation, not thinking you were ever going to see this person.
 
7:20 min
Dominique’s strategy at the time  was “the best way to get over a man, is to get under another.”
 
It was a great exchange and first. And Dominque ended up dating this guy.
 
 
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Friends all though she was dating good man, and the relationship went on for 3 years
 
They had a lot of fun and they talked about getting married.
 
She had met his mom and his son. They got along really well, but that’s easy when you don’t see each other every day.
 
He had some problems with work, and asked her to reach out only at his house.
 
11:45 min
The story gets spicy. It turns out he was already married…
 
She went on a trip to go see him, and she had a suspicion. Then found a card from another women with a sentimental note.
 
She went to go see his mom. Dominique got home and called the number on the card.
 
His mom was playing along and payed dumb.
 
Dominque didn’t want anything to do with him any more.
 
 
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He friend called and asked if she was ok but in that moment she realized she had dodged a bullet and only lost out on an illusion.
 
Years later he reached out trying to rekindle things, but she didn’t want to speak with him ever again.
 
She stop playing the same game she used to.
 
 
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She decided she was never begin a long distance relationship again.
 
You don’t know what that person’s truth is. When you miss someone of course you’re going to ha