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Have you ever felt like you’re “too much?” Too intense? Too consumed by whatever life has in store, that you cannot ever feel fulfilled? Aurora Remember Holtzman has news: you are not too much. Perhaps you simply haven’t embraced your naturally excitable self? In “Embracing Intensity,” Aurora will take everything you think you know about what it means to be intense and excitable, and show you how intensity is not a weakness but a hidden power. Each week, Aurora will interview a strong, creative, and sensitive woman who embodies what it means to embrace intensity in order to show you how to embrace your life in its fullest. Listen to unlock ways to unleash your inner fire— without getting burned!

Embracing Intensit‪y‬ Aurora Remember Holtzman

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Have you ever felt like you’re “too much?” Too intense? Too consumed by whatever life has in store, that you cannot ever feel fulfilled? Aurora Remember Holtzman has news: you are not too much. Perhaps you simply haven’t embraced your naturally excitable self? In “Embracing Intensity,” Aurora will take everything you think you know about what it means to be intense and excitable, and show you how intensity is not a weakness but a hidden power. Each week, Aurora will interview a strong, creative, and sensitive woman who embodies what it means to embrace intensity in order to show you how to embrace your life in its fullest. Listen to unlock ways to unleash your inner fire— without getting burned!

    210: Unlocking the World of Twice-Exceptionality with Debbie Steinberg Kuntz 

    210: Unlocking the World of Twice-Exceptionality with Debbie Steinberg Kuntz 

    Today’s guest launched into the world of twice-exceptionality because of the unique strengths and challenges that came with parenting her two sons, now teenagers. Her work now meets the needs of kids like her sons, along with helping other parents and educators through her therapy practice, support groups, and parenting programs. Join us to learn more!
    Debbie Steinberg Kuntz is the founder of the Bright & Quirky Summit, which features fantastic guest speakers and leading experts on “everything twice-exceptional” for parents and educators. Debbie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in twice-exceptional (2E) kids and families.  Her annual Bright & Quirky Child Online Summit attracts over 15,000 people from 95 countries, and the 2021 version is coming up in just a few days. It’s a free resource, and you can sign up now by using the link in our Resources section below.
    Show Highlights:
    Why Debbie is intensely passionate about unlocking the world of twice-exceptionality Why Debbie’s relationship with intensity borders on workaholism and being “tenacious to the point of imbalance” How intensity affected her family as she grew up, and why she readily recognizes the strengths and challenges of twice-exceptionality in parenting her two children As a parent, Debbie looks for teachers who have raised boys before How Debbie wants to empower parents in the way they view their child against our cookie-cutter educational system How Debbie learned to embrace uniquely wired people as a Jew growing up in America How parents can talk to their kids about being 2E What Debbie has discovered about the line between asynchronous development and twice-exceptionality Why Debbie is a huge fan of neuropsychological assessments Her advice for parents about finding professional help How Debbie harnesses the power of her intensity through the polyvagal theory and asks, “Why?” and “Why now?” Debbie’s best advice about parenting comes from Kristin Neff, who says, “Talk to yourself like you would talk to a best friend.” How Debbie helps others use their fire by teaching them to pursue the intersection of what they are good at and what they enjoy The Bright & Quirky Summit 2021, coming in a few days; it features 29 experts tackling the timely theme of “Taming the Overwhelm” Resources:
    Debbie’s website:  Bright And Quirky 
    Sign up for the March 8-12, 2021 summit
    Find out about last year’s summit:  Bright And Quirky 
     

    • 33 min
    209: The Wall of Awful™ with Brendan Mahan

    209: The Wall of Awful™ with Brendan Mahan

    I’m excited to share our first guest call for the 2021 season in the Embracing Intensity Community with Brendan Mahan, of ADHD Essentials, on the Wall of Awful!
    From Brendan’s website:
    “Everyone fails. Some, like those with executive function challenges, fail more than others.
    Each failure brings negative emotions – guilt, disappointment. These smaller emotions become stronger feelings of anxiety, shame and even loneliness if one is repeatedly rejected because of their errors. Each time these negative emotions are experienced, another brick is placed into that person’s Wall of Awful.
    The Wall of Awful is the emotional barrier that prevents us from initiating tasks and taking the risks necessary to make reach our goals. It is the emotional consequence of having ADHD and it must be understood to be overcome.
    Let me help you climb your Wall of Awful™.
    Get the free e-book “5 Ways to Overcome The Wall of Awful” here!”
    In this episode:
    Who is Brendan? What is the Wall of Awful? How do we get past the Wall of Awful? Brendan's perspective on ADHD Being a leader and creating your own narratives around neurodiversity. Links:
    Brendan's Website
    Embracing Intensity Community
    Free Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

    • 48 min
    208: Coaching and Mentoring Neurodivergent Adults with Dr. Kimberly Douglass

    208: Coaching and Mentoring Neurodivergent Adults with Dr. Kimberly Douglass

    I found today’s guest in a most unusual place! It was on TikTok that I first noticed her work with gifted and twice-exceptional people, and I knew I had to get her on the show.
    Dr. Kimberly Douglass is president and CEO of Remote Learning Solutions. She coaches neurodivergent PhDs/EdDs on the personal, social, and technical aspects of career and entrepreneurship. In addition to moving clients from deficit-based to strengths-based thinking, she helps PhDs/EdDs develop content across a range of subjects. She helps clients deliver content in the form of ebooks, online courses, workbooks, journals, workshops, and more. Dr. Douglass bases her coaching practice on five values: empathy, justice, love, neurodiversity, and purpose. She worked in higher education for over 17 years in various roles and earned a PhD in political science in 2009 and tenured in Information Sciences in 2016 at the University of Tennessee Knoxville. Her teaching and scholarship have developed at the intersection of information science and political behavior.
    Show Highlights:
    Why Kimberly is intensely passionate about coaching and mentoring neurodivergent adults How the same issues in our schools with kids are showing up for adults in the workplace Why people are taught to believe in a fake meritocracy How giftedness means different things for different people How Kimberly’s personal brand of intensity is thinking about things in different ways, deep thoughts and issues that can turn into depression, and loving information and data Growing up, Kimberly felt her intensity through acting goofy and humorous and always being presentable to white culture The distinction between management and leadership Cultural factors that affected Kimberly as she grew up in a black Baptist church, being told that she “shouldn’t speak up for herself,” and seeing Christianity as a tool of enslavement How Kimberly had to tune herself out and tone herself down when she worked at a university with mean, accusatory people Why she feels her intensity getting out of control when she feels dismissed or undervalued What made Kimberly take a different look at herself and her son regarding giftedness How she uses her fire for good in believing people Habits that help Kimberly harness the power of her intensity are tools that organize her thoughts and life How she helps others use their fire for good by trying to be neutral and helping people look for affirmation, values, principles, mission, and goals Kimberly’s advice: “Take the risk. Find someone who will help you take the risk. Realize that not moving and standing still is also risky; it’s just risky in a different way.” Resources:
    Website:  Dr. Kimberly Douglass 
    Facebook: Kimberly Douglass
    TikTok: Dr. Kimberly Douglass
     

    • 1 hr 14 min
    207: But I'm Not Really THAT Smart

    207: But I'm Not Really THAT Smart

    I've been hearing a lot more comments lately along the lines of "I relate to your work, but I'm not really gifted." In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I discuss why gifted folks might not recognize their own gifts and some resources to explore if you suspect you might be gifted. 
    In this episode:
    5 Reasons gifted folks might not think they are really gifted. My own experience and why I actually believed it despite underachievement. 3 of my favorite books & resources to explore potential giftedness. Links:
    Your Rainforest Mind, Paula Prober
    The Gifted Adult, Mary-Elaine Jacobsen PsyD
    Searching For Meaning, James Webb
    Embracing Intensity Community
    Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

    • 14 min
    206: Helping Women to Claim their Seats at the Table with Brenda Bryan

    206: Helping Women to Claim their Seats at the Table with Brenda Bryan

    I’m excited to share today’s show with you. My guest has an interesting perspective as an obviously gifted person who has dyslexia. Her experience is fascinating, but there is so much more to her story and work. Join us!
     
    Brenda Bryan is a kickass inspirational speaker and The Diviner of Human Potential. As a transformational coach and Mastermind facilitator, she supports women to unmask and nurture their genius, empowering them to live in the strength of their passion. Teaching through the Raise Your Voice Speaker’s Club, one-on-one workshops, and stages around the country, Brenda demonstrates authentic, warm-hearted humor with a deep wealth of knowledge of the importance of communication in feminine power. Brenda began working in her passion of building community and supporting women in the early 70s. Graduating with a degree in communications, she became active in the women’s movement. Through her activism, she acquired lasting skills in group processing, facilitation, and leadership. She facilitates ritual and teaches sacred art through drum-making and other creative works. For the past 45 years, Brenda has continued to build her toolkit to support women’s empowerment. Most recently, she was inspired to be the founder and CEO of It Must Be Said Productions, which is a platform for stories that need telling, a venue for social change. She believes the weaving together of creativity, innovation, and invention invites future visioning. 
     
    Show Highlights:
     
    Why Brenda is intensely passionate about feminism, helping women claim their place at the table, communication, ritual, and loving and nurturing ourselves Why Brenda’s personal brand of intensity involves anger over injustices and inequalities in our social order and environment, along with radical self-care and a questioning of authority Why Brenda wasn’t well-liked as she grew up because she would speak up and call people out Her learning challenges included trouble with reading, spelling, and writing due to dyslexia and being told she wasn’t “smart enough” How Brenda has seen positive outcomes from her journey with new possibilities as a  creative thinking problem solver How bigotry and prejudice against gay relationships set a tone for how and where she expressed herself How Brenda had to reinvent how she shows up and expresses herself in a “conscious becoming” How her intensity gets out of control when it’s heightened in relationships when boundaries are violated, but she has learned to manage and direct her passion and anger How Brenda uses her fire to help other women who are looking to become more How Brenda harnesses the power of her intensity with consistency of thought as she evolves as a human who adventures and takes risks in becoming How the personal habits of meditation, drumming, ritual, and spending time in nature help Brenda The best advice she ever received is two-part: “Stand up when you fall down,” and “There are no mistakes, only opportunities to learn.” Books that have influenced Brenda: Learning to Heal Yourself by Louise Hay, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill How Brenda helps others by loving people where they are and helping them go where they want to go Parting words from Brenda: “Embrace your intensity. There is an infinite purpose in who you are and what you bring to the table.”  
    Resources:
     
    Connect with Brenda:
    www.brendarbryan.com
    Email: brendarbryan@gmail.com
    Phone: 503-728-8700

    • 36 min
    205: Twice Exceptionality - When Giftedness Meets ADHD

    205: Twice Exceptionality - When Giftedness Meets ADHD

    A couple of weeks ago I participated in an event called Camp ADHD, where folks around the world shared talks and discussion on topics related to ADHD. I spoke about twice-exceptionality, specifically as it relates to ADHD, and the topic seemed to resonate with a lot of folks, so I decided ot share it on the podcast as well! 
    In this episode:
    Why the topic of twice exceptionality is important to me.  Why it’s important to talk about twice exceptionality. Why it often goes overlooked. How to recognize when you might be both gifted and ADHD. Common themes from assessing 2E ADHD students. Strategies that might help if you fit this profile.  Links:
    Camp ADHD on YouTube
    Embracing Intensity Community
    Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

    • 21 min

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Awesome guests with relatable stories to help understand how they flipped challenges into amazing strengths!

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