Ep 143: Completion or Decay

In this season of graduations, Margaret and Michelle double-click on the importance of intentional completion.

They look at when a completion is intentional, as it is with a graduation. Such intentional completions offer ritual and celebration. They also have a positive impact on family members.

And when we look beyond graduation, our culture kind of drops the ball on intentional completions.

Intentional Completion vs. Decay

One gift of completion is that it invites intention.

When we acknowledge and observe completion, there is an invitation to say goodbye to what is finished and look at what's next. Michelle shares the ways she and her husband are looking at their next chapter and asking, What do we want?

When we ghost or ignore the end of something rather than its completion, it can decay. This can happen when we stay too long in relationships, jobs, phases of life, or places.

How Do We Know We've Stayed Too Long?

Graduations and school offer predictable and reliable completion. However, when we move on in life, it can be less clear when an activity is finished.

It's not always obvious, but if we tune in, we might know more.

Feeling deep resistance or avoidance to work or spending time with people might be one sign.

Michelle shares that clients might be avoiding completion when they start asking, What have I even accomplished here? Questions like that suggest that the client no longer feels purpose in their work, which is another sign that it might be time to complete.

On Arcs

Margaret and Michelle explain the concept of an arc, which is the shape of a thing from beginning to end.

One example: most of us notice when a speaker goes past their arc. It starts to get boring or have diminishing returns. Similarly, we know when a movie sequel was ill-advised. We feel they should have left the story alone.

Those are examples of how we know an arc is done.

The challenge is to pay the same attention to our own lives.

The In-Between

Michelle and Margaret note that ending an arc can be complicated. Also, sometimes, starting a new arc is not simple. It can include some serious learning.

As an example, Margaret shares that her grown son has stopped home for a while, and there is a new arc for her as a parent of an adult. Her learning is to relate with this new adult, rather than her habit of parenting the 14-year-old version of him.

When we finish an arc and start a new one, it can feel overwhelming and confusing. Margaret and Michelle challenge listeners to think about how to create from the overwhelm and chaos of transition.

Do you need some help getting through a transition? Does the idea of decay resonate with you? Please reach out for support.

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