Ep. 2: Impact vs. Intention

This week I lean into discomfort, in an effort to face hard conversations with honesty and mindfulness. I address the recent incident between the Dalai Lama and a young boy, a moment that can be taken any number of different ways, and which I believe offers a beautiful teaching moment where we can learn to discern the difference between impact and intention. This is a relational conversation and highly applicable in romantic relationships, as well as familial, friendships and work-related.

Because while our intentions are often pure, our impact isn't guaranteed. Each of us understands the world and situations we encounter uniquely, bringing in our history, trauma and biases. It's important to understand that even when our intentions are good, we can still hurt others, and it's important for us to respect the subjective, and real, experience of one another. Holding space for that creates room for repair and reconnection.

Conversely, when impacted and hurt, it's important to access our wise mind, at the bridge between our emotional and rational ways of thinking. This gives room to see the other for their goodness, rather than being pulled down into reactivity that assumes the worse, jumps to conclusions and closes the bridge for repair and reconnection.

We can play both roles, sometimes even both at the same time. Bringing awareness to the difference between our intentions and impact can create space for honest conversations that bring us close together. To help us grow, heal and evolve.

I hope you enjoy this episode, and that it gets you thinking, hopefully noticing something new about yourself. In an effort to make this an "idea lab", rather than an "echo chamber", I invite disagreement and want to keep learning myself - if you have any questions, comments or concerns, don't hesitate to reach out!

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With Love & Gratitude,

Quiggy

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