The Dr CK Bray Show Dr. CK Bray

Does this describe you? Despite your best efforts, you are constantly late to meetings and appointments of all kinds.
You always try to cram in one more thing before you leave.
You frequently underestimate the amount of time things take. Every task expands to fill more time than you can afford.
No matter how early you start your day, you're always racing against the clock. At the end of the day, you wonder where all the hours went.
You might be time blind! In today’s episode, Dr. Bray discusses what time blindness is and some of the solutions that can quickly solve this malady. You will be surprised by what you find.
**Time Blindness: Why You’re Always Late, Why You Underestimate How Long It Takes to Finish Something, and What to Do About It. Chris Guillebeau (March 20th, 2024). From Yearofmental health@substack.com
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“Allow more time for transitions, it will change your life!”
“Plan rest periods to avoid the hyper-focus/burn-out cycle.”

In recent years, particularly in the wake of the Covid-19 pandemic, many of us find ourselves grappling with a common dilemma: the midpoint of our careers. It's a juncture marked by a mix of emotions—unmet expectations, lingering doubts about missed opportunities, and contemplation of paths not taken. Yet, amidst these uncertainties, experts highlight an often-overlooked aspect: middle age presents a profound opportunity for growth and self-reflection. It's a pivotal moment to reassess our priorities, leverage our experiences, and chart a course that resonates with our aspirations for the latter half of our professional journey.
In today's episode, Dr. Bray will explore six pivotal questions that will help you reevaluate your career and what you want to accomplish. These questions serve as compass points, guiding us toward a clearer understanding of our career trajectory while empowering us to pursue the direction that most authentically aligns with our goals and ambitions.
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“You are made up of a lot of different YOUs.”
“You have to decide how you define success.”

One of my first jobs was as a lifeguard at Alta Canyon Swimming Pool. To earn extra cash, I taught swim lessons. I also worked at Dry Cleaners, a yogurt shop, a pharmaceutical company, and about three other companies/careers before starting the Adaption Institute. One of my favorite things to do at the Adaption Institute when it was just starting was coaching people in their careers. I learned so much from hearing people’s stories and experiences.
There is something great about getting the advice of someone who has “been there and done that.” My combined experience with those of over 3,000 people I have worked with over the years has come to you in this podcast.
I read an article by Ryan Holiday, who runs the Daily Stoic website and is one of my favorite authors. His article, "37 Pieces of Career Advice I Wish I’d Known Earlier,” sparked this podcast. I share some of his, my own, and the advice of those I have worked to help you out, no matter where in your career you are. I am sure you will enjoy it.
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“Watch people. Use your eyes, not your ears.”
“Be the driver of your career.” “Rarely does something happen faster than we think it will.”
“You shake the orange tree, and lemons fall out.”

Depression is the most common mental health problem in the world. According to surveys, about 1 in 10 American adults will experience a major depressive episode in their lifetime. What is often not discussed is the effects of depression on relationships, both personal and professional.
In today’s episode, Dr. Bray unpacks research-backed approaches for maintaining a healthy relationship with friends and family who struggle with depression.
** Thanks to Brett and Kate McKay for their article “How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship with Someone Who’s Depressed published on February 20, 2024 on the “Art of Manliness Website”
**To learn more get the book “When Someone You Love is Depressed: How to Help Your Loved One Without Losing Yourself.” By Laura Rosen and Xavier Francisco Amador.
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“Learn all you can about depression.”
“They need to know you’re there with them during the hard times.”
“There isn’t a cure for depression.”

In the realm of mental health, the importance of a good night's sleep cannot be overstated. Recent research sheds light on the vital connection between our sleep habits, the natural rhythms of our bodies, and our psychological state. The study brings to the forefront evidence that disruptions in sleep patterns and the body's internal clock — known as circadian rhythms — are not just a result of mental health challenges but may, in fact, play a role in causing and worsening these conditions.
Dr. Bray, a leading expert in the field, will delve into the implications of this groundbreaking study and explore the emerging narratives from the research and how these findings may revolutionize the approach to mental health treatments going forward.
In addition to the implications for mental health, Dr. Bray discusses another pressing issue in the modern workforce: the identification of future leaders in a remote work setting. As the corporate world continues to shift towards remote operations, traditional methods of evaluating potential leaders need to evolve. Dr. Bray will highlight the essential tools required for the effective discernment of leadership qualities from afar while also drawing attention to potential obstacles that could impede the acquisition of reliable information in this new virtual landscape.
With a shift to remote work comes a necessity for a new skill set. Identifying and nurturing these competencies will be crucial for any organization aiming to stay ahead in a rapidly changing professional environment. Dr. Bray shares insights to pave the way for developing these new paradigms in leadership and professional development.
*Sleep, Circadian Rhythm, and Mental Health. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS). Feb 19th, 2024
*How to Identify Future Leaders in a Remote Environment. KORN FERRY (online article)
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“When you sleep you need it cool and dark.”
“When you don’t sleep, you’re more likely to get triggered and angry.”
“Take in-person opportunities as often as you can.”

It seems like we are more tired and less motivated than ever before.
We often want to “just get through the day” rather than transcend it and seek out excellence in all we do.
What’s behind this ebb in energy and the increase in feeling of overwhelm and overload?
In today’s podcast, Dr. Bray shares insights into your mental bandwidth. Based on an article from Brett and Kate McKay called “What Happened to Our Mental Bandwidth?” Dr. Bray discusses the changes that have occurred over the last decade that have had a large impact on your mental bandwidth and the implications to energy, behavior, and performance.
He will also share ideas (both old-school and new-fangled) to help you increase your bandwidth and understand the brain bandwidth of others.
*To read the article by Brett and Kate McKay go to https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/what-happened-to-our-mental-bandwidth/
QUOTES BY DR. BRAY
“I highly recommend reading The Shallows”
“Our phones are energy vampires.”
“Start saying NO to things; anything extra or not worth your time.”