Ever Feel Like a Fake? Tackling Imposter Syndrome 101

Do you remember how much you loved Dr. Therese Mascardo on episode 58 of the podcast “How to Marie Kondo Your Mental Health”? Because I do. And I loved having her on. So guess what? We got her back on the podcast for you! She is a psychologist and the founder of Exploring Therapy. This episode, we are chatting about imposter syndrome, because the imposter syndrome can be so real sometimes, you guys!

The 4 Elements of Imposter Syndrome

1. Feelings of inadequacy; 
2. Second guessing yourself; 
3. Dismissing accomplishments and praise as luck, timing, or being deceptive; 
4. The thoughts you have lead to fear, anxiety, and perfectionism.

What Causes Imposter Syndrome?

• We all have insecurities, but our environment, culture, and upbringing can make those insecurities stronger in our minds.
• We aren’t seeing other people’s insecurities, so we think we are wrong for having them.
• “Imposter syndrome is created out of the things you tell yourself.”

#1 Thing To Do to Tackle Imposter Syndrome

• Identify your self talk and figure out what narratives need correction. 
• “It’s not about succeeding 100% of the time, it’s just that you deserve as much of a chance, even if you fail.”
• “Those who are the first to do something often suffer from imposter syndrome the most.”

The Importance of Community

• “If you can receive criticism, you need to be open to receiving praise.”

Resources

• Listen to Lizzo— Dr. Therese’s orders!! It will seriously help you with self-talk.
• Join the Roundtable waitlist here.
• Check out Dr. Therese’s website and Instagram.

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