The You Project Craig Harper

This was an interesting and important chat with one of my mates and along the way we hit on a few current, topical and occasionally, divisive topics. Among other things, Francis and I spoke about 'mansplaining' (as per the title), the concept of 'enough' (when and what is it?), the burden of ambition, preparing for life after work, different kinds of 'wealth', outcomes and contentment, the lack of awareness and understanding men (often) have around women, social awareness, empathy and lots more. Enjoy.
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'Improvise, adapt, overcome' is a term that's been linked to the US Marine Corps and also, it's a line from one of my favourite (old) movies; Heartbreak Ridge with Clint Eastwood, playing Marine Gunnery Sergeant, Tom Highway. Well, on Planet Me, there's been a little improvising, adapting and overcoming going on of late and in this edition of TYP, Tiff and I talk about recent trials and tribulations, the challenge of being objective, being authentic in front of a large audience and plenty more. Enjoy.
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In the house-built-on-sand world of 'self-help' and 'personal development,' there's a lot of pseudoscience, rhetoric and b******t masquerading as truth, wisdom and inspiration. If you want to know what makes my b******t list, take a listen.
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As I type this (April 27, 2024), I've been alive for 22,127 days and if I'm 'statistically typical', I have about 8,000 days left. And once again, if I'm statistically typical, a lot of those days will be sh*t, due to poor health. Obviously, my goal is to be atypical and to enjoy a long health-span but then, none of us know with certainty what the future holds. I believe this episode is one of the most important and powerful instalments of TYP I have ever recorded; not because of me or my skill as a thinker or speaker, but because of the content. Because of the important ideas, strategies, questions and information that get unpacked. After countless conversations over four-plus decades as a Coach, Educator, Scientist and Professional Speaker, it's my belief that many of us are living unnecessarily unfulfilling, unrewarding, unproductive and unhappy lives. I hope you enjoy this.
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The title is in no way indicative of the majority of the conversation but Carly used the term in our chat and it made me laugh. Apparently, it's what she does when her husband (Paul) is away. And in more serious news... Carly and I chat about dealing with their son’s rare medical condition, raising an entrepreneurial daughter who started a proper business at 14 (and is now 18), the concept of can't vs. won't, good old-fashioned hard work, finding the ‘right medicine' (diet, psychotherapy, exercise program, lifestyle) for you, stoicism in the home, preparing for the inevitable sh*t-storm (it comes for us all), re-training in your 60's and the inspirational woman who just finished her nursing degree (and started nursing) at 70! Enjoy.
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Did you know that, while psychopaths can understand the theory of empathy (that's a weird term isn't it?) and the social currency of being 'seen' as a kind and caring person, they don't actually have the capacity to experience empathy for others. That is, they can have the intellectual understanding (of it) but not the emotional experience (of it). Accordingly, they will often use their intellectual insight to 'role play’ (fake) empathy, all-the-while orchestrating some kind of social, emotional and psychological manipulation for their own benefit. Not scary at all! As David and I take a leisurely stroll down 'Psychopath Lane', we talk about gaslighting (and the origin of the term), the most-read book in the US prison system, a thing called consensus effect, the tell-tale signs of psychopathy and he offers five strategies for surviving personal and professional interactions with your garden-variety psychopath. Enjoy.

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