Pretty Girl Pill Club Public Notice

After a six-month hiatus, Pretty Girl Pill Club returns for its second season. 
After my brother, Andrew, died at the age of 34 on April 2nd of this year after battling alcoholism, I took a step back from the podcast, among many other things. Finding the motivation and drive to create again took a lot of time, therapy, self-reflection. I will be grieving Andrew for as long as I live, but I have to keep moving, creating, and living. 
I found so much solace in Megan Devine's book: It's Okay That You're Not Okay (thank you to the kind listener who suggested it). I've recommended it to my boyfriend, mother, father, and others. Whether you've lost someone close to you or you're trying to support someone in their grief, this book is an invaluable resource.
In the words of Megan Devine, "there is pain in this world that cannot be fixed, only carried." I will carry this loss forever, not because I am weak, but because I cherish my brother in life and death. 
In this episode, Rohnie and I discuss my experience losing Andrew, Rohnie's past substance issues, sobriety, and where we go from here. While I have no advice to give those in grief (aside from a book recommendation - seriously, check it out), I hope you find comfort in this episode. We are rooting for you. We stand in solidarity with you. Take care of yourself. 
Almost a year to the day before Andrew died, he wrote the following poem. I have found immense comfort and strength in his words, and I hope you do too:
"In moments of sheer terror like what I'm faced with, remain calm, remain calm, remain calm. I grind my knuckles deep into the ground as I take a sprinter's stance. My knuckles begin to bleed as I dig them in. I am covered in rock dust. The gun goes off, I destroy my opponent."
Take your meds, drink some water, and we'll talk to you again soon.
Links
Website: https://www.pgpcpod.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prettygirlpillclub/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/pgpcpod
Sources
It's Okay That You're Not Okay by Megan Devine: https://refugeingrief.com/book/
One Art by Elizabeth Bishop: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/47536/one-art
Credits
Pretty Girl Pill Club is a production of Public Notice LLC. Hosted by Sophie Collis and Rohnie Williams. Editing and Audio Engineering by Sophie Collis. Produced by Public Notice. Created by Sophie Collis in conjunction with Public Notice. Music by Eevee & Sarah, The Illstrumentalist. Theme music mixed by Patrick Retzer. All associated artwork by Sophie Collis.
Disclaimer: We are not professionals. We’re just idiots on the internet with wack as hell brain chemistry. If you are struggling, never hesitate to seek help.

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This week on the Pretty Girl Pill Club podcast, Rohnie attempts to conquer his Trypanophobia (extreme fear of needles) by watching Sophie get a tattoo in her living room — this truly is as DIY as it gets. In this episode, we take you through the entire process, start to finish. Did Rohnie conquer his fear? Listen and find out.

Listen to our previous episode on phobias: https://www.pgpcpod.com/episodes/33

Exposure therapy is a common tactic to overcome phobias and involves gradual exposure to the fear in a safe, controlled environment — the objective being to desensitize yourself to the feared object over time. That said, we are in no way professionals nor are we an authority on the topic. It’s important to seek professional help if your phobia is having a severe, negative impact on your life. 

The American Psychological Association defines exposure therapy as…

“…a psychological treatment that was developed to help people confront their fears.  When people are fearful of something, they tend to avoid the feared objects, activities, or situations. Although this avoidance might help reduce feelings of fear in the short term, over the long term it can make the fear become even worse. In such situations, a psychologist might recommend a program of exposure therapy in order to help break the pattern of avoidance and fear. In this form of therapy, psychologists create a safe environment in which to “expose” individuals to the things they fear and avoid…Exposure to the feared objects, activities, or situations in a safe environment helps reduce fear and decrease avoidance. Exposure therapy has been scientifically demonstrated to be a helpful treatment or treatment component for a range of problems…”

The Mayo Clinic offers a few recommendations for steps you can take on your own to cope with phobia-related anxiety.

“Try not to avoid feared situations. Practice staying near feared situations as frequently as you can rather than avoiding them completely. Family, friends, and your therapist can help you work on this. Practice the techniques you learn in therapy and work with your therapist to develop a plan if symptoms get worse.

Reach out. Consider joining a self-help or support group where you can connect with others who understand what you're going through.

Take care of yourself. Get enough rest, eat healthily and try to be physically active every day. Avoid caffeine, as it can make anxiety worse. And don't forget to celebrate successes as things get better.”

Special thanks to Mario for volunteering his tattooing ability to make this episode possible. You can hear Mario’s previous PGPC appearance here: https://www.pgpcpod.com/episodes/21

Website: https://www.pgpcpod.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prettygirlpillclub/

Pretty Girl Pill Club is a production of Public Notice LLC. Hosted by Sophie Collis and Rohnie Williams. Editing and Audio Engineering by Sophie Collis. Produced by Public Notice. Created by Sophie Collis in conjunction with Public Notice. Music by Eevee & Sarah, The Illstrumentalist. Theme music mixed by Patrick Retzer. All associated artwork by Sophie Collis.

Disclaimer: We are not professionals. We’re just idiots on the internet with wack as hell brain chemistry. If you are struggling, never hesitate to seek help.


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This week on the Pretty Girl Pill Club podcast, we talk about the importance of goal setting and establishing the routines and habits that’ll help us achieve those goals. Going along with this week’s topic, Rohnie and I decided to challenge ourselves to track our habits for the next 2 weeks and document our experiences. At the end of this challenge, we’ll post a follow-up episode discussing how it went and what we learned. We encourage y’all to do this challenge with us and share your habit trackers with us using the hashtag #pgpchabitchallenge on Instagram. We think this will be a fun way (using a bit of social pressure) to keep up accountable and stick with it!

Website: https://www.pgpcpod.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prettygirlpillclub/?hl=en

Twitter: https://twitter.com/pgpcpod

Sources

Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-James-Clear-audiobook/dp/B07RFSSYBH/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3BVF8UR4WOMH5&dchild=1&keywords=atomic+habits&qid=1614290630&sprefix=atomic+%2Caps%2C319&sr=8-1

The Ultimate Habit Tracker Guide: Why and How to Track Your Habits by James Clear: https://jamesclear.com/habit-tracker

Rohnie's favorite app for better sleep: RISE: https://www.risescience.com/


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This week on the Pretty Girl Pill Club, Sophie and Rohnie dive into phobias like tokophobia, the fear of pregnancy, and coulrophobia, the fear of clowns. Hear discussions about where phobias come from and how to potentially beat them.

Website: https://www.pgpcpod.com/

Instagram: @prettygirlpillclub

Sources


Overcoming Trypanophobia or the Fear of Needles by Lisa Fritscher
Understanding Coulrophobia: A Fear of Clowns — Medically reviewed by Timothy J. Legg, Ph.D., CRNP — Written by Melanie Burke
Fear of hearing a certain word or of names — Onomatophobia
Millennial Mental Health Channel, Episode 24: Phobias


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LISTEN TO PART 1: https://www.pgpcpod.com/episodes/31

In part 2 of this 2 part series, we discuss boundaries and how to identify, define, communicate and enforce them in interpersonal relationships of all kinds.

While there are countless ways to create a boundaries chart, the core principles remain the same.

But first, what is a boundary? According to IPFW/Parkview Student Assistance Program, “A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends . . . The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is, of course, to protect and take good care of you” (n.d.). “Our boundaries might be rigid, loose, somewhere in between, or even nonexistent. A complete lack of boundaries may indicate that we don’t have a strong identity or are enmeshed with someone else” (Cleantis, 2017).

How do you set a boundary? According to Joaquín Selva, Bc.S., Psychologist, to set healthy boundaries you must first identify and define the desired boundary and communicate it (say what you need). The most effective boundaries are communicated as simply as possible (don’t over-explain) and have clearly established consequences for violating that boundary. Consequences aren’t meant to be a threat, but instead, communicate to the other person why it is so important.

Boundaries are a vital component of any healthy relationship. Without them, we risk becoming codependent, developing resentment, and losing our sense of identity and autonomy.

Special thanks to Christina of @betterselfbetterworld for providing the inspiration to do this episode. Check out our interview with Christina here. She goes in-depth into the process of creating her boundaries chart in this IGTV video.

Website: https://www.pgpcpod.com/



References 




How to Set Healthy Boundaries, Joaquín Selva, Bc.S., Psychologist
Setting Healthy Personal Boundaries (worksheet)
Stuff I Learned In Therapy - Intimacy & Boundaries Chart, @betterselfbetterworld
Pretty Girl Pill Club, Episode 29: It's All Chemicals with Christina of @betterselfbetterworld
Blind Dating Podcast


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In part 1 of this 2 part series, we discuss boundaries and how to identify, define, communicate and enforce them in interpersonal relationships of all kinds.

While there are countless ways to create a boundaries chart, the core principles remain the same.

But first, what is a boundary? According to IPFW/Parkview Student Assistance Program, “A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends . . . The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is, of course, to protect and take good care of you” (n.d.). “Our boundaries might be rigid, loose, somewhere in between, or even nonexistent. A complete lack of boundaries may indicate that we don’t have a strong identity or are enmeshed with someone else” (Cleantis, 2017).

How do you set a boundary? According to Joaquín Selva, Bc.S., Psychologist, to set healthy boundaries you must first identify and define the desired boundary and communicate it (say what you need). The most effective boundaries are communicated as simply as possible (don’t over-explain) and have clearly established consequences for violating that boundary. Consequences aren’t meant to be a threat, but instead, communicate to the other person why it is so important.

Boundaries are a vital component of any healthy relationship. Without them, we risk becoming codependent, developing resentment, and losing our sense of identity and autonomy.

Special thanks to Christina of @betterselfbetterworld for providing the inspiration to do this episode. Check out our interview with Christina here. She goes in-depth into the process of creating her boundaries chart in this IGTV video.

Website: https://www.pgpcpod.com/

References 

How to Set Healthy Boundaries, Joaquín Selva, Bc.S., Psychologist

Setting Healthy Personal Boundaries (worksheet)

Stuff I Learned In Therapy - Intimacy & Boundaries Chart, @betterselfbetterworld

Pretty Girl Pill Club, Episode 29: It's All Chemicals with Christina of @betterselfbetterworld

Pretty Girl Pill Club, Episode 27: Ask A Trainwreck! with Millennial Mental Health Channel


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