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My Inner Torch DS
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4.1 • 9 Ratings
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My Inner Torch offers direct and personal insight with help for those of us in a relationship with someone who is undiagnosed/diagnosed with a Cluster B Personality Disorder. This is a safe place to come for words of inspiration that draw from my personal experiences and is produced to gain understanding and to find direction as we navigate through the often difficult relationships with those we love who suffer with a Cluster B personality disorder that includes BPD and NPD. PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is NOT for those who suffer with these disorders. This podcast is for survivors of these challenging and difficult relationships.
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Look Back Listen 2020: Emotional Intelligence
Send us a Text Message.In today's Look Back Listen: 2020 podcast I delve into the challenges faced by individuals in relationships with those who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), focusing on emotional intelligence. I share struggles with a spouse exhibiting BPD symptoms, exposing the lack of empathy and distorted reality common in such situations. I touch on the challenges of managing BPD through therapy but acknowledge the difficulty of staying composed during emotional outbursts....
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Why we REMAIN.....
Send us a Text Message.This podcast explores my personal struggle with staying in a toxic relationship with a Cluster B partner despite being aware of her flaws. Drawing insights from a post in a narcissistic support group, they delve into the lack of empathy in individuals with Cluster B personality disorders and the futility of trying to prove love to such partners. Despite feelings of fear and being consumed by thoughts of abandonment, I no longer blame myself for my partner’s behavior. I ...
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"Shock and Sell" Have you fallen prey to this?
Send us a Text Message.In relationships impacted by cluster B personality disorders like borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, and antisocial personality disorders, manipulative tactics are prevalent. One common strategy discussed in this week's podcast is the “shock and sell” approach, where a shocking statement or action is used to destabilize someone, followed by rationalizing it to manipulate them into accepting behaviors that may not align with their needs. "Shock and Sell" aims to make ...
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End of the Line? Where to now?
Send us a Text Message.What happens when you reach the end of your line, your tolerance, your desire to remain in a relationship with your Cluster B?I explore this idea and feeling as it relates to my 23 year relationship with my Cluster B in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the Show.
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Look Back Listen to 2020 "Emotional Sandcastles"
Send us a Text Message.In this week's podcast of My Inner Torch we take a "Look Back Listen" to one of my most downloaded podcasts "Emotional Sandcastles". I hope you enjoy this Look Back Listen if it is your first time hearing this podcast, or a quick re-listen. Emotional Sandcastles still resonates with me and is a chapter in a soon-to-be-finished book I am completing and hope to make available in the Summer. Support the Show.
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Coat of many colors.
Send us a Text Message.What is your coat of many colors? In this podcast I explore the concept of a “coat of many colors” as a symbol for the facade individuals wear in toxic relationships, especially with covert narcissists. It delves into the traits and behaviors of covert narcissists, emphasizing emotional distance, lack of empathy, gaslighting, and conflict-provoking tendencies. I shed light on my personal experience of concealing the truth and defending my partner’s actions, highlighting...
Customer Reviews
Nails it! Succinctly perfect.
So grateful for this podcast - he’s so well versed and to the point and tugs at the heartstrings of those in a BPD relationship - it’s everything you need to hear to get the craziness of what you’re in. Can’t give enough accolades to my inner torch.
Misleading and Stigmatizing
I agree with the other reviewer on here who stated how harmful this was for people with actual BPD. people with BPD do not lack empathy—-you’re talking about Narcissism and NPD, which are on the opposite side of this spectrum. I have friend who is diagnosed BPD, while I am on the spectrum, and I came here hoping to continue my healing and DBT skills. However, these episodes seem to really feed into the negative stigmatization of Borderlines and harmful for those who are doing their best to heal. I have met other Borderlines and am in a DBT group right now and they are some of those most empathetic individuals I’ve met. I’m sorry about your experience and it can truly be traumatizing for someone on the other side of that abuse. It sounds more like your wife was more of a narcissist than a Borderline. Please take some time to look into BPD more. These stereotypes can be so harmful for those of us looking to better ourselves. Best of luck to you 🤍 sending lots of love.
Ruined my night.
I was diagnosed with BPD 4 years ago and I struggle with it, however every day I try to be a better loving person for the few people I DEARLY love and care about. I came to this podcast to help better myself, and after listening to ‘You can’t Fix What you Didn’t break,’ I feel like I’m a horrible person that can’t change, because I “lack empathy.” From the sounds of the author, he should take a step back and look at WHY he stayed in this unhappy marriage for so long. If you have BPD you should check elsewhere for help, this seems very belittling to me.