Solo Date Challenge Podcast Holly Hartman

Episode 35: Breaking Down Betrayal Trauma and Betrayal Blindness with Mr. Jay Relationship Coach

Welcome to the Solo Date Challenge Podcast with your Host, Holly Hartman.

Solo Date Challenge Podcast Focuses on the S's, Self-Love, Self-Care, Self-Healing & Solo Dating. New episodes will be launched weekly.

For more information on One on One Coaching, Helpful Feedback or for Questions Please Contact Holly Hartman at Solodatechallenge.com or solodatechallenge@gmail.com

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Mr. Jay is a Betrayal Trauma Practitioner and Intrapersonal Relationship Coach.  He holds a master's degree in education, is ministry credentialed, a certified special education teacher, an author of a children's book, “I Am Loved Right Where I Am, a veteran of the United States military, an Inspirational public speaker, adoptive parent and much more.

But his childhood was anything but success.  After years of drugs, alcohol and years in special ed. Mr. Jay quit school in sixth grade ultimately living on the streets falling victim to abuse after abuse. After the second gun to his temple Mr. Jay vowed to fix himself so he could help fix others.

Determined, Mr. Jay put himself through school researching self-help books, therapy, psychology, and spirituality.  Mr. Jay learned, and stands by his motto, “The Relationship You Have With Yourself Sets the Tone for All Other Relationships Around You" and says, "Relationships can break you but even broken crayons can create beautiful masterpieces.”

https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/

https://www.facebook.com/MrJayRelationshipCoach

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Episode 34: "You Are Worth Connecting With"- Guest Vivan Best -  Community Building Expert

Today's Guest: Vivian Best is a Circle Leader & Trainer for WomenSpeak, Sparked Game Group Facilitator and a Community Building Expert.

Vivian shares her experience with building connection and community even during times of covid or isolation.  She gives practical tips on how to build your own community so you can flourish. If you are interested in joining WomenSpeak or her Sparked Community games, find Vivian Best on Facebook and Sparked in Austin. 

If you are interested in buying the sparked game for yourself and your community, you can purchase the game on this link. Sparked



Holly Hartman

Professional Cycle Breaker | Domestic Violence Advocate | Self-Love & Solo-Dating Expert | Speaker | Podcaster | Life Transformation and Trauma & Recovery Coach | International Best Selling Author

Mindful Missions Global LLC

Website: Mindful-Missions.com

Solo Date Challenge

Website: SoloDateChallenge.com

21-Day Unmasking Self-Love Challenge

https://mailchi.mp/e779b40e6755/unmaskingselflove

Podcast:

The Solo Date Challenge Podcast https://anchor.fm/holly-hartman

The Healing Playground Podcast https://anchor.fm/thehealingplayground

Book: I AM: How to Release the Shame of Narcissistic Abuse & Transform Financial Poverty to Wealth Beyond Numbers

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Episode 33: Tools for Connecting You to Your True Self with Dr. Joiselle Cunningham Smith

Solo Date Challenge Podcast Focuses on the three S's, Self-Love, Self-Care & Solo Dating. New episodes will be launched weekly.



On today's episode, Social Impact Leader, Dr. Joiselle Cunningham shared some simple tools and concepts to use to help navigate the daily traumas we may experience as a pathway to get connected to our true self. 

Dr. Joiselle Cunningham Smith

Social Impact Leader

Professor

CEO: Pathways to Creative Industries

@JoiselleSmith (Instagram & Twitter)





Come join us on your own Self-Love Journey by plugging into our Free Women's FB community online.  We will love you there until you can start to love yourself.  ALL women are welcome!! Solo Date Challenge Women's Community

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For more information on One on One Coaching, Helpful Feedback or for Questions Please Contact Holly Hartman at Solodatechallenge.com or solodatechallenge@gmail.com

Grab your book: https://www.lulu.com/en/us/shop/holly-hartman/i-am/paperback/product-k7py48.html?page=1&pageSize=4

I AM: How to: Releasing the Shame of Narcissistic Abuse & Transforming Financial Poverty into Wealth Beyond Numbers

The story of 14 Thrivers professionally serving people on their journeys out of financial abuse & into abundance. Iamreleasingshame.org

If you are a victim of Domestic Violence or Abuse and need additional support Please Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org

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EP 32: Self-Love & Self-Pleasure- Releasing Shame with Erika Miley- Mental Health & Sex Therapist

Holly and Erika had a great time opening up a dialogue around Self-Love and Self-Pleasure.  Erika helped give insights on releasing shame around sex in general.  They chatted on a variety of topics even including self- pleasure, sexual fantasies, kink and SMDM.  Come take a listen and reach out to Erika and her practice for additional help and online support. mentalandsexualhealth.com or listen to her podcast at www.sextalkwitherika.com



Holly Hartman is a Professional Cycle Breaker and a Self-Love and Solo-Dating expert.

As a survivor of CPTSD, Abuse, Addiction and Codependency she teaches tools and skills to empower people to heal and break toxic cycles so they may thrive in all areas of their lives.

She is a mom of two exceptional boys. She has over 11 years in recovery and as an enneagram 2, her biggest passion and hearts work is in helping people.

Holly Hartman is an International Best Selling Author – “Recovery after Narcissistic Abuse”.

A Domestic Violence Advocate, A Professional Keynote Speaker & Podcaster, A Life Transformation and Trauma & Addiction Recovery Coach.

Holly is the founder and CEO of Mindful Missions Global and The Solo Date Challenge. The President of The Non-Profit Foundation for Life Transformation and She is the host of two podcasts: The Solo Date Challenge Podcast and The Healing Playground.

Holly’s main mission is to help people break toxic cycles so generations forwards and backwards may heal and the ripple effect will be felt around the world.

mindful-missions.com or solodatechallenge.com

Episode 31: The Power of Gratitude to Build Resilency

So, what is resilience?  Words and concepts most commonly associated with resilience include: persistence, the ability to “bounce back” after a setback, and the ability to cope during times of adversity. At its most basic, resilience is made up of those mindsets/beliefs/internal values we possess along with a set of specific strategies we employ during the tough times. Resiliency is two things: how we think and what we do (Ungar, 2017).

So, where should we start? Lean in and hang on – I’ll show you a powerful place to begin.

First, start by practicing gratitude. Lots and lots of it. Gratitude isn’t about ignoring the challenges in life, it’s about recognizing the blessings. It’s about taking time to realize that there are good things in life – specific things - that surround you on a daily basis.

Expressing thankfulness, appreciation, and gratitude shouldn’t be something we save for Thanksgiving dinner or the kumbaya campfire moments when we are away at a retreat. When gratitude becomes a daily habit, amazing things happen.   For example, focusing on gratitude stimulates the hypothalamus in the brain (which helps to regulate stress) and the ventral tegmental (part of the brain’s reward and pleasure system) (Zahn, et al, 2009). In other words, gratitude helps you manage stress and makes you feel better.

Consider some other things we know about the power of gratitude:


When compared to times of stress, worry, and anxiety, the brain is more efficient and reflective when we focus on gratitude (Amen, 2016).
Expressing gratitude produces mental health benefits (Wong & Brown, 2017).
Grateful people are physically healthier and sleep better (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).
Demonstrating gratitude reduces negative thoughts and feelings (DeWall, 2011).

Hopefully I’ve convinced you. Gratitude matters. It matters because gratitude helps to re-orient our thinking and empower us during times of stress. Expressing gratitude is a great way to take care of yourself. https://www.bryan-harris.com/the-power-of-gratitude-to-build-resilency



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Today I shared about a recent experience in my self love journey of healing a past trauma through my current romantic relationship. 

We can heal through our relationships.



Here are the resources that I shared.

Mindful-Missions.com

Twelvestepspiritualrecovery.com

Sami Wunder https://youtube.com/c/SamiWunder

Tammy Ketura https://www.tammyketura.com/

The Work of Byron Katie https://thework.com/2008/04/byron-katies-helpline-for-the-w/

The Unmasking Self-Love Challenge https://mailchi.mp/afcf7560f7ec/unmaskingselflovejuly?fbclid=IwAR0kLaTZoKjXTqyH0xcw9KND35pbLYyL7JCAHXzfrtH00W8nOl7vA5ulZrk

The Hummingbird Haven Read-Along Self Healing Book Club https://www.mindful-missions.com/the-hummingbird-haven-book-club

Grab your book: https://www.lulu.com/en/us/shop/holly-hartman/i-am/paperback/product-k7py48.html?page=1&pageSize=4

I AM: How to: Releasing the Shame of Narcissistic Abuse & Transforming Financial Poverty into Wealth Beyond Numbers

The story of 14 Thrivers professionally serving people on their journeys out of financial abuse & into abundance. Iamreleasingshame.org

If you are a victim of Domestic Violence or Abuse and need additional support Please Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org

RYYZN - Something 'bout July" is under a Creative Commons (CC-BY 3.0) license

Music promoted by BreakingCopyright: https://bit.ly/bkc-july