Find love after 40 with Renée Suzanne Renée Suzanne

If you’re over 40, you probably remember the days before dating sites and apps were a thing.

And it’s so tempting to want to go back to the good old days when things were simpler.

I get it. I used to feel the same way.

Dating sites and apps felt so cold, scary and impersonal.

But here’s the thing, I wasn’t meeting very many new men back then. 

And when I did, problems would arise:




I had no idea if they were available or interested in dating me






I’d think maybe they liked me and waste months (or longer) crushing on them instead of meeting more men






It was so much work to go out all the time, think of new and different places to go, work the room instead of sticking to one person or 2, or God forbid, try to get rid of the guy I definitely wasn’t interested in who glommed on to me the minute I arrived.






I’d fantasize about running into someone at the bookstore, supermarket or the gym, but on the rare occasions when this actually occurred he wouldn’t turn out to be my “type” or I’d be so jarred by the awkwardness of it all that it never came to anything.






And at work, church or school, I’d see the same men over and over. Not that I was never interested in any of them, but the ones I wanted never wanted me and that wasn’t any fun.





My clients have the same experiences with meeting men in real life and I bet you do too.

So if you’re telling yourself you want to meet someone in real life, I want you to sit down and really consider how effective this is.

Do you actually want to have a man in your life anytime soon or not?

If the answer is yes and you insist that it be in real life you are really going to have to up your game by:




Going out way more often, to different places where there are men, alone (or at least not attached to a friend the whole time so men can approach you)






Doing this at least 3-4 times a week






Making sure you look and feel great when you do this






Keep this up for months, or honestly years if you need to





This is more work and takes longer than online dating platforms.

I strongly recommend that my clients do both online dating AND go out, but if you’re online you definitely don’t need to be out as often.



If you’d like my help with this, you need to check out my new program “Dating Mastery for Women Over 40”.

It’s open for enrollment right now. 

Just go to https://reneesuzannecoaching.com/mastery

Today, I’m chatting with blended family experts, Mike and Kim Anderson about how to navigate the complexities of dating when you have kids. I wish I’d had this information when I was starting out!

Mike and Kim helped my husband and I navigate through blending our families early on when we were struggling and we would have been lost without them.

Their compassion and wisdom made our journey so much easier and less painful than it could have been otherwise. 

Today, I’m asking them questions I hear all the time from my clients who have kids such as:



I want to find someone but I have kids, what should I do?

How long should I wait to date? What ages should the kids be?

Should I just wait until they grow up??

Is dating even worth it when you have kids?

Should I tell the kids I’m dating?

What if they don’t like the person I’m seeing?



You’re going to love their warmth and wisdom and come away from this episode with so much encouragement. You can find out more about Mike and Kim’s work by clicking here.





I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.

Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN

Are you in love with a man who hasn’t asked you out?

Maybe you’re crushing on him from afar.

Maybe he’s a friend, colleague or you see him around every now and again.

He’s polite, chats with you, maybe even flirts a bit, but he never asks you out.

He doesn’t even ask for your number or suggest staying in touch in any way.

But you wonder, could there be something there?

Well, you probably know what I’m going to say next if you’ve been listening to this podcast for any length of time…..

I’ve been there.

So many times.

So have many of my friends and clients. 

And I’ve never once seen this kind of thing turn into anything but a painful embarrassing mess.

Is it OK to ask him out, offer your number, or suggest some sort of meeting that you manage to convince yourself isn’t really asking him out?

Of course it is!

You are a grown woman and you are free to do whatever you wish.

Just don’t be surprised when it doesn’t go the way you would like.

I am attempting to spare you this pain which I have experienced way too many times because I can be unbelievably stubborn.

Here’s why this is a bad idea.

Men like it when things are their idea.

Grown men, men who are brave, chivalrous and like to earn things in life instead of having things handed to them, ie the kinds of men you want to date, don’t want to be treated like babies.

They like challenging things like sports, rock climbing and achieving big goals.

They want to dream and scheme about how they’re going to ask you out, ask you to be their girlfriend, propose to you.

They want to shoot for the moon.

Don’t take that away from them!

And if he’s not dreaming up a way to ask you out, it’s not because he’s worried you’re out of his league.

Guys ask women out who are out of their league all day long.

You have probably experienced this for yourself.

I bet the last time you tried online dating you had an inbox full of this.

So instead of trying to go after a man who isn’t interested in dating you, I highly recommend that you find a man who is.

It’s way more fun than nursing crushes on men who never ask you out.

Not that I would know.



I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.

Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN

Has the guy you’re seeing suggested any of these things:


Takeout at his place


Netflix and chill


Helping him shop or do chores


Attending his events



Or does he keep texting and texting but never ask you out?

Or do you get the dreaded late-night text or call asking if he can come over or if you’ll come to his place?

NOOOOOOOOO!

If you’re seeing this behavior in the men you date, I’d like you to consider upgrading your presence so that men know they’re dealing with a quality woman.

Some guys are just looking for a good time and do things like this to scoop up low hanging fruit, women who will give them what they want without much, if any, effort on their part.

Women who tolerate this behavior, usually in the name of being “cool, easy to get along with, nice, or “low maintenance”, are almost never treated well.

They think it’s because men are terrible, but what really happened is that they have no standards for how they are treated and let men walk all over them.

I want you to have high standards in dating; not for superficial characteristics like height, income or education levels but for HOW YOU ARE TREATED!!!

This is how you can raise your standards and have your pick of great guys.

I teach all my clients how to do this.

So if the men you’re dating start treating you this way, I want you to upgrade your presence and raise your standards.

Don’t be afraid of losing men over this. 

The men who try to pull this aren’t the kinds of men you want anyway.



I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.

Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN

I was putting together a great reading list for my Dating Mastery clients and it made me realize that I have read a LOT of books about dating!

Honestly, I’d have a PhD in dating if they existed.

There are so many great books on this list and I learned a lot from all of them.

I used to spend hours and hours gorging on self-help back in the day, still do!

And while I LOOOOOOVE self-help books, I was also reminded of how even though I learned a ton from them, I was not very good at applying the information.

I think this is very common.

Knowledge alone does not create lasting change in your life, applying that knowledge does.

And sometimes it’s just difficult to know how to do that.

That’s why coaching is so effective in helping you learn new skills.

There’s just no substitute for applying knowledge to master the skills you need to create the results you want in your life.

It’s like reading a bunch of books about how to ride a bike compared to actually going out and practicing.

So if you share my intense love of self-help books, and (hopefully) this podcast, but wonder why things aren’t changing for you, consider getting some support in learning how to apply the skills you’re learning about instead of just learning more.

It can make all the difference.



I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.

Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN

Today we’re talking to a matchmaker!

If you’ve ever considered working with one, you will love this episode.

I’m interviewing Lisa with Selective Search and she’s answering my most burning questions like:


Who is a good candidate to work with a matchmaker?


What are the benefits of hiring a matchmaker?


What is the price range?


What can clients expect?


What should one look for in a matchmaker?


If I decide to work with the matchmaker, how can I make the most of the experience?



And more!

Working with a matchmaker is a serious investment of time and money, but they can offer incredible results.

You can find out more about her work here.



I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.

Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN