Flip Your Mindset

Stacey Uhrig
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  • MENTAL HEALTH

Having spent over four decades overcoming childhood adversities and helping others with my post-traumatic wisdom, I decided to change careers and pursue my purpose at the age of 49. I became a Certified in Trauma Recovery, Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner, and Parts Work soon after, I launched Flip Your Mindset, a podcast that serves as a no-cost entry point for those looking to resolve their own traumas. Through Flip Your Mindset™, my goal is to help listeners transform their perspectives and see their lives through a new lens. As a foul-mouthed, unapologetic Buddhist enthusiast, I'm not afraid to use colorful language to express my emotions, but I draw the line at any derogatory or dehumanizing language. Join me and let's explore new ways to overcome life's challenges and emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before. Thank you for listening. flipyourmindset.substack.com

  1. Ep 165: The “Good Child” Myth: Why Quiet Doesn’t Mean Regulated

    16H AGO

    Ep 165: The “Good Child” Myth: Why Quiet Doesn’t Mean Regulated

    We love the “easy” kid. You know the one. The child who sits quietly while the adults talk. The one who comes home from school, goes straight to their room, and never causes a scene. We praise them. We say, “They are such an old soul,” or “They are so well-behaved.” But I have a question for you: Is that behavior? Or is it a coping strategy? I recently sat down with Lisa Ramos, a trauma-informed specialist and mother of eight, on the Flip Your Mindset podcast. We stripped away the surface-level labels we put on kids (and ourselves) to look at the biology underneath. And Lisa dropped a truth bomb that stopped me in my tracks: “A good child isn’t a regulated child.” The “Fawn” Response in Action We tend to think of dysregulation as the loud stuff, the tantrums, the screaming, the “fight or flight” chaos. But Lisa explained that there is a flip side. Sometimes, when a child feels unsafe or overwhelmed, they don’t explode. They implode. They go into a “hypo” state where they disconnect and hide. They become the “fixer.” They become the “peacekeeper.” They realize that if they make themselves small and quiet, they won’t add to the stress in the house. They aren’t calm. They are in survival mode. We Parent Through Our Own Wounds This hits hard because many of us were that child. We learned that to get love (or to avoid conflict), we had to perform. We had to be the “good girl” or the “strong boy.” Lisa and I talked about how, as parents, we often parent through these unhealed wounds. If you felt unheard as a kid, a quiet child might feel like a relief to you. But if we aren’t careful, we miss the fact that their nervous system is screaming for connection. The Fix: Co-Regulation (Not Correction) So, what do we do? We stop looking at behavior and start looking at the nervous system. Kids cannot regulate themselves. They are biologically incapable of it. They need us to “co-regulate” with them. This means lending them our calm. It means sitting with them not to fix the behavior or shame the silence but to let our regulated nervous system bring theirs back into balance. It’s about showing up and saying, “I see you. You don’t have to perform for me. You just have to be.” A Next Step for You If you are realizing that you might be raising a “good child” who is actually just a dysregulated one or if you are still that child living in an adult’s body—it is time to look at the hidden load you are carrying. Here are three ways to move forward today: * Watch the full episode: We dive deep into “rupture and repair” and how to heal these patterns. * Check your Hidden Stress Load: Take my free HURRT Assessment (Healing UnResolved Roots of Trauma). It helps identify the invisible backpacks you (and your kids) might be carrying. Take the Assessment Here * Get the Parenting Tool: Lisa shared a specific resource for parents looking to implement these strategies. You can access it here: Trauma-Informed Parenting Resource This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 17m
  2. Ep 164: Why Your Job Is Not Your Family (And What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You)

    DEC 22

    Ep 164: Why Your Job Is Not Your Family (And What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You)

    We have all heard the line before during an interview or an all-hands meeting: “We are a family here.” It sounds comforting. It suggests safety, loyalty, and belonging. But as my recent guest Katie Jean explains, this sentiment is often a trap that blurs professional boundaries and keeps us in toxic environments longer than we should stay. In this episode of Flip Your Mindset, I sat down with Katie, a somatic trauma-informed coach and the founder of Work Is Not Family. We discussed the physical cost of toxic workplaces, why we ignore our body’s warning signals, and how to reclaim your agency. The “Family” Myth The concept of work as family might have roots in agrarian history where families actually worked together. However, in the modern corporate world, employers use this language to extract loyalty. They want you to feel personally invested so that you give more of yourself than the contract requires. Katie puts it simply: Work is an agreement. You agree to perform a series of tasks, and your employer agrees to pay you money for those tasks. When we confuse this transaction with the unconditional bonds of family, we leave ourselves open to manipulation. When the Body Keeps the Score Katie shared her own harrowing experience of leaving a 15-year corporate career for what she thought was a dream job in recruiting. For the first four months, it was perfect. Then, the mask slipped. She dealt with an emotionally abusive boss who engaged in coercive control, including harassment during work trips and late-night texts. Despite the abuse, Katie tried to rationalize it. She told herself she could handle it and that she didn’t want to lose her new income or status. But while her mind tried to push through, her body began to scream. She experienced insomnia, daily crying spells, stomach issues, and an exaggerated startle response. She didn’t know it at the time, but these were signs that her nervous system was picking up on threats. The situation eventually came to a head in a conference room meeting that re-triggered a past trauma, leaving her physically shaking and unable to function. Trauma is the Aftermath A key takeaway from our conversation is that trauma is not just the event itself; it is the aftermath. It is the fact that you continue to feel unsafe long after the event has passed. When Katie eventually moved to a healthy workplace, she found herself reacting to standard feedback with intense internal dysregulation. Her body was still protecting her from the previous danger. This is why we cannot simply “move on” without doing the healing work. We have to learn to listen to the sensations in our bodies rather than ignoring them or labeling them immediately as clinical anxiety. Practical Advice for the Workplace If you feel dysregulated at work, Katie offers a few powerful pieces of advice: * Don’t use clinical labels with your boss: If you tell a manager you are having a “panic attack,” it triggers legal and HR protocols regarding accommodations. Instead, describe the sensation and the immediate need. Say something like, “I have a fluttering in my chest. I need to take a walk and get some water”. * The “Fake Cough” Technique: If you are on a Zoom call and feel emotionally activated, put yourself on mute and pretend to cough. Use that moment to take deep, regulating breaths or release energy without drawing attention to your emotional state. * Redefine Success: Start viewing your job as a contract rather than a source of emotional fulfillment or family connection. Healing is Possible You are not broken if you are struggling with this. As Katie says, “It is possible to heal, and you are not alone”. Whether that means leaving a toxic job or learning to regulate your nervous system while you stay, the first step is understanding that work is not family. It is just work. Connect with Katie Jean: * Website: workisnotfamily.com * TikTok: @katie.jean.trauma Resources from Stacey: * Join the Masterclass: Ready to shift your perspective? Join my Masterclass here. * Take the HURRT Survey: If you are looking to understand your own healing process better, please take the HURRT survey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

    53 min

  3. DEC 15

    Ep 163: How to finally silence your inner critic

    True story: My guest today, Tosca DiMatteo, was born with a cleft lip and palate. As a kid, she dealt with painful surgeries and years of speech therapy. But the hardest part wasn’t the physical pain... It was the emotional sting of watching other kids walk away from her once they saw her face. She felt different. She felt “less than”. So she made a subconscious decision... If she couldn’t be the “pretty” one, she was going to be the “smart” one. She spent years over-giving, over-performing, and accepting breadcrumbs in relationships just to prove her worth. Moral of the story is: You don’t need a physical scar to feel this way. Most of us have what I call an “Itty Bitty Shitty Committee” living in our heads. It’s a drill sergeant constantly telling us we aren’t enough... and that we have to hustle just to be accepted. That’s why I’m so excited about this week’s episode. On the latest episode of Flip Your Mindset, Tosca and I go deep on how to finally transform your relationship with that inner critic. We break down the “three trip wires” that hook people up: * Not feeling enough * Believing being different is bad * And believing success isn’t available to you Plus, we talk about how to stop abandoning yourself to please others... And how to retrain your brain to feel safe being your authentic self. If you’re ready to kick that committee out of your head and reclaim your confidence... Then tap the link below to listen to the full conversation now: See you there, Stacey Urig This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

    53 min
  4. Ep 162: Is It Burnout or a Nervous Breakdown? (And How to Reconnect with Your Body)

    DEC 8

    Ep 162: Is It Burnout or a Nervous Breakdown? (And How to Reconnect with Your Body)

    We often wear our exhaustion like a badge of honor. In a culture that glorifies the “grind,” admitting you are tired can feel like a weakness. But what happens when that tiredness goes beyond needing a nap and becomes a complete systemic shutdown? In this episode of Flip Your Mindset, I sat down with Deidre Gestrin, a licensed mental health professional and founder of Abundant Wellness Essentials. Deidre isn’t just an expert on paper; she has navigated three severe episodes of burnout herself. Her experience led her to a crucial realization: to truly heal, you must treat the mind and body as one. If you have ever felt like your capacity to handle life has suddenly vanished, or if you are a high achiever running on fumes, this conversation is for you. Recommended Resource: If you are tired of coping strategies that don’t last, check out this free 15-minute masterclass. It breaks down the biology of anxiety and teaches you a somatic tool to reset your nervous system immediately. Redefining the Crash: Burnout vs. Breakdown We tend to think of burnout as simply needing a vacation. However, Deidre defines it as functioning in a state of chronic stress for so long that you begin to question what you are doing and feel a sense of detachment or depersonalization. I often refer to my own experiences with burnout as “nervous breakdowns”. While that term might sound intense, it is accurate from a nervous system perspective. When we stay in a hyper-vigilant, “fight or flight” state for too long, our system eventually decides it can no longer outrun the threat. It shuts down. This is often why, during extreme burnout, you might not feel sad, you might just feel nothing at all, a state known as dorsal vagal shutdown. Deidre agrees that these experiences exist on a continuum. When chronic stress keeps your nervous system activated without relief, your body eventually stops functioning correctly. The Physical Cost of Ignoring the Signs One of the most powerful takeaways from this episode is that burnout is never just “in your head.” It manifests physically. * Deidre’s Experience: Before her crash, she developed arthritis in her mid-30s. By the end, she physically hit a wall where she couldn’t walk 100 feet or stand for more than a few minutes without pain. * My Experience: Similarly, I was diagnosed with seronegative rheumatoid arthritis in my 40s. We both realized that these physical ailments were manifestations of deep inflammation caused by unprocessed emotions and chronic stress. As Deidre points out, you cannot separate the mind from the body. If you are ignoring your emotional health, your physical health will eventually force you to pay attention. Why Do We Do This to Ourselves? If burnout is so painful, why do we drive ourselves toward it? We discussed the “engine” beneath the hustle. Often, high achievers are driven by core beliefs formed in childhood, such as: * “I have to say yes to feel valued.” * “If I set boundaries, people will leave me.” * “I am responsible for everyone else’s happiness.” For many of us, high achievement is actually a pursuit of safety or validation. We might dissociate or “freeze” to cope with stress, effectively disconnecting from our own bodies. This makes it easy to ignore the warning signs until it is too late. How to Start Healing (Keep It Simple) If you feel like you are on the edge of a cliff, the solution isn’t a complicated, elaborate plan. In fact, Deidre emphasizes that your nervous system needs simple and doable strategies. Here are three steps to start preventing or recovering from burnout: * Reconnect with Your Body: You cannot heal what you cannot feel. Start paying attention to subtle changes in your body and listen to them. If you are anxious, where do you feel it? * Protect Your Sleep: This is a non-negotiable. Sleep is often the first thing we sacrifice, but it is essential for recovery. * Set Boundaries: You have to decide what is most important. Prioritize your tasks and recognize that you cannot do it all. A Special Offer for Listeners Healing requires us to look at the root causes of our stress, not just the symptoms. If you are ready to find a path forward, Deidre is offering a free 30-minute consultation for our listeners to help you identify where to start. You can book your consultation at https://abundantwellnessessentials.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

    53 min
  5. Ep 161: The Myth of the “Social Clock” (and What Happens When It Breaks)

    DEC 1

    Ep 161: The Myth of the “Social Clock” (and What Happens When It Breaks)

    Do you ever feel behind? There is a pervasive, silent pressure many of us feel—the idea that we are supposed to be at a certain career level by 30, married by another age, and owning a home soon after. If we miss these invisible deadlines, we feel like we are failing. In this week’s episode, my guest calls this pressure the “social clock.” It is the belief that “I’m supposed to be here at this age... and if I’m not, I’m a failure”. We build our lives around this scaffolding to guide us toward “success,” but we rarely stop to ask if the scaffolding itself is structurally sound or just an arbitrary, man-made concept. My guest on this episode, Ted Neill, knows firsthand what happens when that scaffolding collapses. At 34 years old, Ted seemed to have an enviable setup. After a career setback, he had secured a rare full-ride scholarship for an MBA program and was working at the university. Yet, despite these achievements, he was internalizing deep feelings of failure. He had been laid off and was wrestling with societal concepts of masculinity and what it means to be a “provider”. “It’s amazing the way depression messes with your head,” he tells me in the episode. “There are so many things that I had going for me... But all I could see was that as a failure”. This disconnect between his external reality and his internal state led to a harrowing mental health crisis. In this incredibly vulnerable conversation, Ted shares the timeline of a year-long spiral into suicidal ideation, which began in 2011 and intensified until the impulse to end his life was a constant presence in his mind. We also explore the deep roots of this pain, touching on the profound trauma he experienced years prior while working in an orphanage. Witnessing the death of innocent children from preventable diseases “broke” the religious framework he had inherited and left him with lasting survivor’s guilt—a feeling that he had abandoned children he couldn’t save. This episode is a difficult but necessary listen. It challenges us to examine how much we rely on external rewards and validation to feel a sense of “enoughness”. If you have ever felt crushed by the weight of expectation or felt like you are falling behind a schedule you never agreed to, this conversation is for you. It’s time to smash the social clock. About the Guest Ted Neill Ted Neill is a mental health advocate, writer, and speaker who openly shares his journey of healing and recovery. A former hospice nurse’s aide and international aid worker, Ted’s experiences in Kenya and other regions informed his master’s in public health and his subsequent career with organizations like Care, Save the Children, and UNICEF. After a personal crisis led to a hospitalization for depression and suicidal ideation, Ted began the work of processing his past trauma. He is the author of the memoir Two Years of Wonder, which chronicles his time working in an orphanage, and 20 Years of Unraveling, which details his experience as a whistleblower and his healing journey. * Website: tedneillauthor.com * Books: Two Years of Wonder and 20 Years of Unraveling If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, help is available. Dial 988 in the US and Canada, or dial 111 in the UK. These services are free, confidential, and available 24/7. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

    47 min
  6. Ep 160: “I Thought I Broke My Child”: The Truth About Anxiety, Trauma, and the Resilience Myth.

    NOV 24

    Ep 160: “I Thought I Broke My Child”: The Truth About Anxiety, Trauma, and the Resilience Myth.

    In 1989, Stacy Schaffer was 11 years old. She was an A-student, a perfectionist, and on the surface, she looked “fine.” But at home, she was hiding in a closet. She was surviving the silence of sexual abuse she had tried to report but wasn’t believed. Her mother, battling her own demons and illness, didn’t know how to handle a child who was internally collapsing. So, she paid four men $100 to come into Stacy’s room in the middle of the night, pull her out of bed, and take her away to a wilderness facility. It was what was known in the industry as a “Goon Grab.” Stacy wasn’t “healed” by this. She was trafficked into a system that stripped her of her voice. And yet, decades later, Stacy is now a renowned children’s therapist helping a new generation of kids who feel unseen, unheard, and unsafe. In this week’s episode of Flip Your Mindset, I sat down with Stacy to talk about the “anxiety epidemic,” but we ended up talking about something much deeper: The cost of silence. Here are the three hardest truths we uncovered in our conversation. 1. The “Resilience” Lie We love to say, “Kids are resilient.” It makes us feel better as adults. It absolves us of the guilt that our chaos, or the world’s chaos, is hurting them. Stacy stopped me dead in my tracks with this: “We say kids are resilient... but the kids aren’t fine. What choice do they have? They have to survive. But they aren’t fine.” We are raising a generation whose nervous systems are constantly hijacked. Stacy works in the school district of Evergreen High (site of a recent shooting threat). She told me heartbreaking stories of students who won’t use the bathroom at school because they are terrified a lockdown will start while they are in the stall, leaving them trapped in the hallway. They aren’t just “worried.” They are living in a biological state of threat. When we tell them “It’s going to be okay,” we are gaslighting their reality. 2. You Cannot Parent a Modern Child with 1990s Logic A common refrain parents use is, “I was a kid once, too. I get it.” Stacy’s advice? Stop saying that. You were a kid in a world without social media algorithms, active shooter drills, and Life360 tracking your every move. When you tell a child “I understand,” they shut down because they know you don’t. The gap between your childhood and theirs is a canyon. If you try to bridge it with your own nostalgia, you will miss the person standing right in front of you. 3. Stop Silencing Your Inner Child This was the “lightbulb moment” of the episode. Stacy admitted that for years, she “shushed” the little girl inside her—the one who was hurt at 3, the one who was kidnapped at 11—so she could be the “shiny, professional” therapist. But you cannot help a child regulate their emotions if you are suppressing your own. If you find yourself having a level 10 reaction to a level 2 problem (screaming at your kid for spilled milk, raging at a disrespectful tone), that is not “adult you” reacting. That is your inner child, screaming to be heard because they weren’t heard 20 years ago. The One Question That Changes Everything If you feel like you are losing connection with your child (or even a partner), Stacy offered a script that is more powerful than any advice I’ve heard in years. Instead of trying to fix it, or saying “I know how you feel,” ask this: “Help me understand what it’s like to be you.” And then? Listen. Don’t correct them. Don’t offer a silver lining. Just let them be seen. Because as Stacy’s story proves, the most traumatic thing isn’t always the event itself—it’s having to go through it alone, unseen, and unheard. 📖 Read Stacy’s Book: With Love from a Children’s Therapist is available now. It is part memoir, part guide, and fully heartbreaking and healing. Get it here. Take the Assessment: Are you wondering what hidden patterns are holding you back? Take the free HURT assessment at flipyourmindset.com/hurt. — Stacey Uhrig This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

    51 min
  7. Ep 159: She Jumped Out of Helicopters, But Was Terrified of Being Seen: Healing "Silence Over Violence" with Angie Hawkins

    NOV 17

    Ep 159: She Jumped Out of Helicopters, But Was Terrified of Being Seen: Healing "Silence Over Violence" with Angie Hawkins

    My guest on the Flip Your Mindset podcast this week, Angie Hawkins, has done things most of us only see in movies. She’s jumped out of helicopters Navy Seal style. She’s bungee jumped off cliffs. And yet, as she told me, she was still terrified of being truly seen. How can both of these things be true? How can someone be so physically brave yet so internally frightened? The answer, as we explored in this raw and vulnerable episode, often lies in an invisible, insidious wound. It’s a concept I talk about often: “Silence over Violence.” It’s the idea that trauma doesn’t always come from overt, “big T” events of abuse or aggression. Sometimes, the deepest wounds come from the silence—from emotional neglect. It’s the pain of not being seen, heard, or valued by the people who were supposed to be our world. For Angie, this “silence” was the emotionally unavailable home she grew up in. It created a single, devastating core belief that dictated her entire life: “I don’t deserve to be loved.” This is the exact kind of hidden pattern that can go undetected for decades. You tell yourself, “My childhood was fine,” or “Other people had it so much worse,” and you gaslight yourself into believing you don’t have a reason to feel so stuck. This is why this episode is sponsored by the H.U.R.R.T. self-assessment. If you’ve ever felt that disconnect—that “on paper” your life is fine, but you’re still struggling—this tool is for you. It’s a free assessment I designed to help you gain clarity on your emotional well-being and discover hidden patterns from past experiences that might be holding you back. It’s not about blame; it’s about understanding. You cannot heal what you don’t understand. Discover your results for free at: flipyourmindset.com/hurt For Angie, that one core belief (”I’m not lovable”) became a self-fulfilling prophecy. It turned her into a high-achieving people-pleaser, desperately searching for the external validation she never got as a child. She built a life that looked impressive from the outside, but inside, her light was dimming. She moved to Hawaii for a fresh start, only to find you can’t outrun yourself. A series of back-to-back-to-back stressors, a potential job loss, a condo flood, a breakup during COVID, piled up until her “Window of Tolerance” completely snapped shut. We talk a lot about this “window” in the episode. When we’re regulated, our window is wide, and we can handle life’s ups and downs. But Angie, like so many of us, was living in a state of constant, low-grade threat. * She was hypervigilant (chronic anxiety, “I must and I have to”). * Then she’d crash into hypovigilance (depression, “I just can’t anymore”). It was in that “I just can’t anymore” state, feeling completely hopeless, that Angie intentionally overdosed on her anxiety medication. That, she says, is what finally “cracked open everything.” Waking up in the hospital, she called a friend and said, “I can’t believe I didn’t die.” Her friend’s response changed her life: “It’s not your time.” That was the hook. The realization that she had a purpose. It was the start of her “healing journey in earnest.” She finally found a coach who did what talk therapy hadn’t: he gave her actionable, behavior-based homework. He taught her how to set boundaries, how to show up confidently. Through doing, her beliefs began to change. Now, Angie is an “Inner Glow Coach” herself, and she shared her GLOW Method with us. It’s a beautiful, simple framework for coming back home to yourself: * Go back to your childhood (to find the root). * Light yourself up (rekindling joy and what you love). * Overcome external validation (the big one). * Welcome yourself back home (it’s not about fixing you, it’s about finding you). This conversation is a powerful reminder that our rock-bottom moments, while terrifying, can also be the catalyst for the most beautiful transformations. Angie’s story is a testament to the fact that you are worthy of a happy and fulfilling life, even if you don’t believe it right now. You can listen to our full conversation here: [Link to Podcast Episode] And Angie is generously offering listeners a free 60-minute “Find Your Glow” Session. You can book your call and find her memoir, Running in Slippers, at runninginslippers.com. A Question for You... I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments. What was an “invisible rule” from your childhood that you only recently realized was holding you back? Thank you for being here. Remember, you cannot heal what you don’t understand. — Stacey This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

    55 min
  8. Ep 158: They Gave Her Daughter a 0% Chance to Live. The Trauma That Followed Broke Her.

    NOV 10

    Ep 158: They Gave Her Daughter a 0% Chance to Live. The Trauma That Followed Broke Her.

    Today’s episode of Flip Your Mindset is one of those conversations that sits with you, one that changes the way you see the systems we trust. My guest is Lisa Ramos, a doctoral candidate and the founder of the Trauma-Informed Care Institute. Her story begins with a parent’s absolute worst nightmare: watching her child fight for her life in the ICU. In 2015, her 15-month-old daughter was exposed to MRSA. It spiraled into a catastrophic medical crisis. She was diagnosed with spinal meningitis, RSV, and MRSA all at the same time. After a medication mistake put her in a coma, Lisa knew something was wrong. But as she and her husband tried to advocate, they were dismissed. As Lisa said, “they didn’t listen to us because we weren’t medical professionals”. Her daughter’s MRSA abscess burst, and she was given “no chance of survival”. Miraculously, after 23 agonizing days, her daughter survived. But this is where the real story begins. The crisis was over, but Lisa was “broken mentally”. She came home consumed by survivor’s guilt. Why was she struggling when her daughter had survived? Her body was shutting down. She couldn’t get out of bed. She was in constant physical pain , suffering from heart palpitations, digestive issues, and reproductive problems. She was eventually diagnosed with PTSD. What I found so powerful in our conversation was Lisa’s realization that her trauma wasn’t just about the fear of losing her child. It was about the “loss of, of autonomy, that loss of just the ability to do anything”. The medical professionals had given them “no autonomy, no choice” , which triggered her own childhood wounds of not having her voice heard. Her nervous system was stuck. This is something I think so many of us can relate to on different levels. We have these patterns, these physical responses, and we can’t figure out why. We feel broken. This is why this episode is so fittingly sponsored by the H.E.R.T. self-assessment. It’s a free tool I want you all to check out. It’s designed to help you gain clarity on your own emotional well-being and discover those hidden patterns from past experiences that might be holding you back. You can discover your results at flipyourmindset.com/hurt. That’s H-U-R-R-T. When Lisa tried to get help, the system failed her again. She was told she couldn’t see the same therapist consistently. So, she did the most incredible thing. She decided, “I have to regain my own power”. In her 30s, with a house full of children, she went back to college to get a psychology degree so she could figure out how to heal herself. That journey led her to create the Trauma-Informed Care Institute, and her mission is one I am 100% behind. She’s teaching medical professionals, teachers, and parents that being “trauma-informed” isn’t just about setting up a room so the yoga mats face the door. It’s about the professional understanding their own triggers, their own coping mechanisms, and their own compassion fatigue. It’s about giving the patient a “sense of agency” and a choice to restore their power. This hit home for me. I shared my own story of being diagnosed with three different autoimmune conditions, all rooted in extreme inflammation. I know that inflammation was my body’s response to my own childhood—it was my nervous system trying to protect me. The link between our unresolved emotional experiences and our physical health is real. I want to leave you with the single most important thing Lisa said, which is a core truth of this podcast: “Every behavior, every action, every reaction has a purpose... That is not a broken piece of you. That is your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do.” This is an episode every single person needs to hear. Please listen, and then share it. We cannot heal what we don’t understand. All my best, Stacey Episode Links * Guest: Lisa Ramos, founder of the Trauma-Informed Care Institute. * Learn More from Lisa: traumainformedcareinstitute.com This episode is sponsored by the H.U.R.R.T. self-assessment.It’s a free tool designed to help you gain clarity on your emotional well-being and discover hidden patterns from past experiences that might be holding you back.You can discover your results at: flipyourmindset.com/hurt. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit flipyourmindset.substack.com/subscribe

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Having spent over four decades overcoming childhood adversities and helping others with my post-traumatic wisdom, I decided to change careers and pursue my purpose at the age of 49. I became a Certified in Trauma Recovery, Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner, and Parts Work soon after, I launched Flip Your Mindset, a podcast that serves as a no-cost entry point for those looking to resolve their own traumas. Through Flip Your Mindset™, my goal is to help listeners transform their perspectives and see their lives through a new lens. As a foul-mouthed, unapologetic Buddhist enthusiast, I'm not afraid to use colorful language to express my emotions, but I draw the line at any derogatory or dehumanizing language. Join me and let's explore new ways to overcome life's challenges and emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before. Thank you for listening. flipyourmindset.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Stacey Uhrig
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    171
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    Explicit
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    © Stacey Uhrig
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