From Fixer to Free | How We Create New Opportunities by Letting Go

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Trying to control the choices of others takes up a LOT of space,  depleting us of precious energy that could be better spent elsewhere. But you don’t want things to fall apart without you either.

Whether it's a lifestyle choice you don’t agree with, a work ethic that doesn’t seem sustainable from your perspective, or a loved one who isn’t doing what you think they should be doing in a crisis, trying to apply your agenda to someone else’s life is a losing game - for everyone involved.

The trick is learning when to release your grip on others and focusing instead on what you can control….yourself. 

This week, Karlee shares practical advice to help you decipher when it makes sense to lean in, and when the best thing to do is to lean back and surrender your agenda.

In this episode, we dive into the liberating shift from trying to influence others to refining our own inner responses. Explore how to recalibrate your boundaries, reclaim your energy, and refocus on what truly matters to you. We’ll share insightful, real-world examples and a straightforward, actionable prompt to help you tap into authentic self-control—leading to a deeper sense of agency and freedom. This episode offers a fresh, strategic perspective for savvy leaders ready to invest energy where it yields the greatest return: within.

If you’re ready to surrender your agenda and reclaim your energy, then this is the episode for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• (7:18) Trying to change people who don’t want to change
• (9:28) Why micromanagement fails
• (12:56) Daring to pause when control efforts don’t work
• (18:21) How to replace frustration with acceptance
• (20:47) Surrendering your agenda to free up space

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Episode 161: The Sinkhole Effect | What to do when good people have you feeling bad

Citations:

1. Beer, M., Finnstrom, M., & Schrader, D. (2015). "Why Leadership Training Fails—and What to Do About It." Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from hbr.org.
2. Llopis, G. (2019). "Why Leading by Example Matters." Forbes. Retrieved from forbes.com.
3. Sutton, B. (2017). "The Science of Saying No: How Boundaries Improve Performance." Inc. Magazine. Retrieved from inc.com.

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