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Why are we so scared of change? The second half of your life can be happier, sexier and more fulfilled, but you may need to blow some stuff up. To find out how, we're bringing you interviews and frank, irreverent, inexpert advice on everything from career and aging to sex and body image in what used to be called "middle age." Laugh, get honest, break the rules and stop caring what other people think. Join us, and we can be hot together!

Hotter Than Ever Erin Keating

    • Education
    • 4.7 • 115 Ratings

Why are we so scared of change? The second half of your life can be happier, sexier and more fulfilled, but you may need to blow some stuff up. To find out how, we're bringing you interviews and frank, irreverent, inexpert advice on everything from career and aging to sex and body image in what used to be called "middle age." Laugh, get honest, break the rules and stop caring what other people think. Join us, and we can be hot together!

    How to Really Feel Your Feelings and Heal From Grief with Meghan Riordan Jarvis

    How to Really Feel Your Feelings and Heal From Grief with Meghan Riordan Jarvis

    "Unresolved, unprocessed grief really lays a heavy tattoo inside your system."
    With more than two decades as a seasoned psychotherapist, Meghan Riordan Jarvis found herself unexpectedly thrust into the throes of her own grief upon the sudden loss of her mother. Through this profound personal journey, Meghan gained an intimate understanding of the very trauma and PTSD she had long treated in her patients. Now, with her podcast "Grief is My Side Hustle" and the bestselling book "The End of The Hour", Meghan is on a mission to foster a culture more attuned to the nuances of grief.

    In this episode, Meghan delves into the intricate layers of loss, highlighting the necessity of processing grief. From navigating the unpredictable tides of emotion to unraveling the physiological toll grief exacts on the body, Erin and Meghan offer a compassionate perspective on embracing discomfort and honoring the complexities of the human experience. Join us as we discuss:

    Grief as an integral part of the human experience, that transcends background and circumstance.The interplay between emotions and feelings and the subconscious currents that shape our emotional responses.The physiological impact of unresolved grief on the body, from digestive issues to chronic pain, and the importance of holistic healing.Meghan's personal journey through grief and trauma, including her experiences with loss, PTSD, and the transformative power of surrender and vulnerability.Renegotiating boundaries, quiet quitting, and cultivating authentic connections for resilience and grace.

    OUR GUEST: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA, LCSW is an author and speaker, specializing in trauma, grief, and loss. With over 20 years of clinical experience, Meghan's personal encounter with PTSD after her parents' deaths led her to advocate for a more grief-informed culture. Founder of MRJ Consulting, Meghan and her team work with Fortune 500 companies to address grief in the workplace. She is the author of the best-selling memoir "The End of The Hour" and of the upcoming book "Can Anyone Tell Me Why: Essential Questions About Grief and Loss".

    Want more Meghan? Find her online at https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/ and listen to her podcast Grief is My Side Hustle. Follow her on:
    Instagram: @meghan.riordan.jarvis  Facebook: @griefismysidehustle & @meghan.jarvis.12  LinkedIn: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA LICSW  

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    • 1 hr
    Advice: Dating Again After a Bad Breakup - What Do I Need to Share About It?

    Advice: Dating Again After a Bad Breakup - What Do I Need to Share About It?

    “Share information about your breakup with the new people in your life whenever it feels right”
    Breakups are universally painful, regardless of the circumstances. And after a long-term relationship, it can be daunting to dip your toes back into the dating pool. In today’s episode, we’re tackling a listener's question about reentering the dating scene after a challenging breakup. With a decade-long relationship behind them, our listener grapples with how to discuss the breakup with others, while being respectful of their ex’s mental health issues.

    Join us as Erin dives into the complexities of navigating post-breakup dating. From acknowledging the pain of a breakup to reclaiming agency in sharing personal narratives, we discuss:

    Acknowledging the courage it takes to pursue new connectionsHow to hold compassion and understanding for both yourself and your ex-partnerAllowing yourself the freedom to share personal details at your own paceHow crafting a script for the breakup can help you navigate conversations with new partnersReleasing yourself from the need to protect others’ perceptions of your ex-partner

    Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!

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    • 8 min
    How To Buy Essentially Nothing with Elizabeth Chai

    How To Buy Essentially Nothing with Elizabeth Chai

    “You don't find fulfillment in material things”
    You've heard the advice to "buy less" or "consume mindfully," but have you ever considered going cold turkey on buying altogether? As she chronicles in her book, "How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year,” Elizabeth Chai, a graphic designer by trade, did just that. For the past five years, Liz has refrained from purchasing anything non-essential, and she's here to share how this decision has brought her newfound freedom from trends and a deeper appreciation for what’s right in front of her.
    In this episode, Liz unpacks her decision to abstain from buying, debunking the misconception that minimalism means living in a stark, white box. Instead, she reveals how it's about aligning your lifestyle with your values and priorities, while fostering gratitude for the possessions you already have. Join us as we explore:
    How possessions often become symbols of identity and status and drive us to accumulate belongings unconsciously.Practical tips for distinguishing between needs and wants, helping you make intentional purchasing decisions.Shifting from mindless consumption to intentional living, and how it cultivates gratitude.Embracing community-driven practices like clothing swaps and buy-nothing groups.The effectiveness of tools like the “minimalism game” in decluttering and reevaluating your relationship with material possessions.The pitfalls of “retail therapy” and the importance of seeking fulfillment beyond materialism.The importance of committing to significant changes and holding yourself accountable with the support of others.


    OUR GUEST: Elizabeth Chai is a graphic designer and self-proclaimed "Coffee Designer," blending her passions for design and the specialty coffee industry. Five years ago, she decided to make a significant change by abstaining from purchasing anything for an entire year, a narrative she shares in her book “How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year”. Through her experiences, Elizabeth aims to inspire others to embark on their own paths of self-reflection and intentional living.


    Want more Liz? Find her and her book online at https://www.buyessentiallynothing.com/ and read more about her project in the New York Times. Follow her on Instagram @chaiamericano.


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    • 49 min
    Advice: Help! I'm SO Distracted By Sexy Apps (But I Love It)!

    Advice: Help! I'm SO Distracted By Sexy Apps (But I Love It)!

    “It really changes our lives when we give ourselves permission to have all the pleasure we deserve.”
    Are using dating apps the modern-day equivalent of juggling a part-time job? For one of our listeners, the allure of Pure, a sexting app, has sparked both a whirlwind of fun and distraction that begs the question: How long will it last? Join Erin on this episode as she delves into the tantalizing world of digital intimacy, sharing her own experiences with and a myriad of dating apps.
    From anonymous sexting with zero stakes to setting boundaries and embracing validation, Erin offers candid insights from her experiences on managing attention and fulfillment in the realm of online connections.

    What sets Pure apart from other apps, and how to engage in anonymous and fun sexting experiencesBreaking down the landscape of dating apps and what each one is best forWhy online flirting is deeply validating and how you can  embrace the positive attention that comes from dating appsSetting boundaries and listening to your intuition when interacting with potential partners on dating appsTips for staying anonymous and communicating safely on the apps


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    • 20 min
    Dishing About Domestic Labor with Eve Rodsky

    Dishing About Domestic Labor with Eve Rodsky

    “How can I be the breadwinner and also the one who knows the name of my child's dentist?”
    When Eve Rodsky received a text from her husband that read, “I'm surprised you didn't get blueberries”, it sparked a revelation. It wasn't just about the fruit; it was about the deeper imbalance in their household dynamics. Fast forward over a decade, and Eve has emerged as a leading voice in reshaping the gender division of labor. With two groundbreaking books under her belt – “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space” – Eve's mission is clear: to revolutionize how partners share the burden of domestic responsibilities, ensuring women no longer shoulder the lion's share of unpaid labor.

    Join Erin and Eve for as they delve into Eve's journey of creating a gamified system to tackle household inequalities. They explore how societal norms and gender expectations perpetuate disparities in domestic responsibilities, igniting a fiery discussion sure to spark change in your own partnership. Get ready to reexamine and recalibrate as we unpack:

    The concept of "Invisible Work" and its disproportionate burden on women, regardless of their career status or economic power.The importance of asserting agency in the home and advocating for an equitable distribution of labor.Recognizing and valuing the conception and planning of tasks, not just their execution.How men embracing greater domestic responsibilities can empower women in the workplace and mitigate the "motherhood penalty."Challenging the notion of infinite women's time versus finite men's timeDebunking toxic beliefs that fuel unequal distribution of domestic laborThe vital role of "unicorn space" in allowing women to pursue their passions outside traditional domestic roles.Society's fixation on toxic positivity and the unrealistic expectations it puts on women to be constantly happy.

    OUR GUEST: Eve Rodsky, a Harvard-trained attorney and organizational management expert, turned a personal struggle into a catalyst for social change when she asked the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her bestselling book, “Fair Play”, offers a gamified system for balancing domestic workload and reimagining relationships, sparking vital conversations about unpaid labor. In her latest work, “Find Your Unicorn Space,” Rodsky explores the intersection of creativity, productivity, and resilience, offering an antidote to burnout. Born and raised by a single mom in NYC, she now resides in Los Angeles with her husband, Seth, and three children.


    Want more Eve? Find her online at http://www.everodsky.com/ and https://www.fairplaylife.com/. Follow her on:
    Instagram (@everodsky & @fairplaylife)Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/everodsky/ 

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    • 1 hr 3 min
    Rethinking Modern Motherhood & Reclaiming Our Bodies with Amanda Montei

    Rethinking Modern Motherhood & Reclaiming Our Bodies with Amanda Montei

    Amanda Montei's fascination with understanding motherhood started long before she became a parent herself. However, it wasn't until she embarked on her PhD journey while welcoming her first child that she began to approach motherhood through a scholarly lens. In her illuminating book, "Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control," Amanda dissects the nuanced layers of societal expectations and judgments that surround women's bodies, particularly during motherhood, reminding us to be attentive to the stories that are being told to us.
    Join us for a deep and fascinating episode as Erin and Amanda delve into the complexities of motherhood, dissecting societal norms, reclaiming bodily autonomy, and advocating for systemic reform. This conversation will encourage you to question the “expert” advice around motherhood spouted on social media, and instead to lean into your support systems, embrace your individuality, and set boundaries. Here’s what’s on the table:
    How societal pressures encroach upon women's bodily autonomy in motherhood and beyond–and why we have to continuing questioning these expectationsExploring the oppressive nature of advice-driven parenting culture online and its isolating impact on mothersHow the lack of systemic support, including paid leave, affordable childcare, and gender equity in parenting responsibilities, exacerbates the challenges faced by mothers.Embracing advice from community support systems, rather than parenting experts and social media gurusHow embracing your individuality and setting boundaries in motherhood, not only empowers mothers, but also models these essential behaviors for children


    OUR GUEST: Amanda Montei is the author of TOUCHED OUT: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, & Control (Beacon Press), as well as the memoir Two Memoirs (Jaded Ibis Press) and The Failure Age (Bloof Books). Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Guardian, ELLE, and other publications. She has taught writing at Stanford University, Columbia University, and other institutions, and has received support from In Cahoots and Riverrun Foundation. Amanda holds an MFA in Writing from California Institute of the Arts and a PhD in English literature from SUNY at Buffalo. She resides in California and runs the newsletter Mad Woman.

    Want more Amanda? Find her online at https://www.amandamontei.com/ and subscribe to her Substack https://amandamontei.substack.com/. 

    Read Amanda’s writing:
    Book: “Touched Out”"Mothers Want to Be Left Alone"“When I became a mother, I lost my body – and realized it never belonged to me”“I Wanted to Teach My Daughter Bodily Autonomy. Motherhood Taught Me to Value My Own.”

    Follow Amanda on social media:
    Instagram: @amonteiTwitter/X: @amandamontei

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    • 54 min

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