19 episodes

Smart Dating Academy helps busy, successful professionals to jump start their dating lives. We have a results-oriented, fun 8 step process - which transforms you into a better dater - helping you find "the one".

This podcast is meant to help you put more love in to your life, and more life in to your love

Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast The Smart Dating Academy Podcast

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Smart Dating Academy helps busy, successful professionals to jump start their dating lives. We have a results-oriented, fun 8 step process - which transforms you into a better dater - helping you find "the one".

This podcast is meant to help you put more love in to your life, and more life in to your love

    The Soulmate Secret with Arielle Ford

    The Soulmate Secret with Arielle Ford

    Arielle Ford is a love and relationship expert, and a leading personality in the personal growth space - she's been a pal of Bela's for many years.   This episode is FILLED with answers to questions that have been wrestled with for centuries, and they break it down for you step by step:

    1) What is LOVE?  (Spoiler Alert - Bela and Arielle are in 100% agreement about the definition)!  And, Bela discloses the book that made her understand love back in college....Curious?  :)

    2) What is the unknown secret to relationship success everyone needs to know?

    3) Why you should wear "rose colored" glasses when it comes to seeing each other (or, use Dr. Laura's "defense attorney" trick we talk about in detail)!

    4) Why we must learn to be personally responsible for our own happiness in life and especially in relationships....

    5) The universal law that can be sued to find your soulmate

    6) How Arielle met her soulmate (an amazing story that started with a dream)!

    7) Does everyone have a soulmate and how many can you have in a lifetime?

    You will LOVE the gems in here -- and if you do, and you're READY to find love, we are here for you!

    Click www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact

    Follow us on Instagram - www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy

    • 53 min
    The 15 Date RULE That Helped Silvia Find Love!

    The 15 Date RULE That Helped Silvia Find Love!

    Silvia Foti is an amazing woman, author, high-school English teacher, and a client of Smart Dating Academy who found love.  Silvia was willing to share her inspiring story with all of YOU to show you that love is possible under even the toughest of circumstances.  

    Silvia was married for 35 years.  Her mother died when Silvia was 38 years old, and her last wish on her deathbed was that Silvia finish her book, documenting her grandfather’s heroic military career in Lithuania.  What Silvia discovered is that her ‘heroic’ grandfather was anything but that – he was helping Hitler exterminate thousands of Lithuanian Jews.  It took Silvia ten years to process the grief of this – and another ten to write the book (which has brought death threats from around the world).  Her daughter overdosed and passed away at the age of 21 in 2016.  In 2019, her husband blindsided her with a divorce.   Listen to this story of amazing perseverance, cleverness, and heart of how Silvia found her “federal agent” love – how they waited 15 dates for….you know….and how in LOVE they are today.  He travels with her supporting HER career and book, and went at HER pace, showing her that a man that wants to be with you will move MOUNTAINS to be with you.  

    Here are some gems you'll hear!

    ·       What is the Smart Dating Academy 15 date rule?? 

    ·       How she felt when she got online (and got new pictures/profile)?  

    ·       What happened when she ‘launched’ her profile on November 3rd?  

    ·       How Ilene helped her get out of the ‘pen-pal’ phase…

    ·       What he brought her on the first date…

    ·       What he brought her on the SECOND date, and what she sprung on HIM!

    ·       Why the way he held her hand almost caused her to end it

    ·       What he said when she said she wanted to wait “15 dates” (one of the BEST moments of the show)!

    ·       How they've now spent over 1,000 hours together, and how in love they are….

    Here is a link to book your consultation with Smart Dating Academy if you are READY to find love in 2022!  https://bit.ly/3vIWY9n

    Here is a link to buy Silvia’s AMAZING book:  https://amzn.to/3N8CT2r

    • 41 min
    The Secrets to Flirting & Charisma!

    The Secrets to Flirting & Charisma!

    This episode is something you have ASKED FOR!   Flirting, building charisma & confidence is something we ALL want to get better at - whether we are single or coupled!   I brought on one of my favorite experts, Kimmy Seltzer, who is a confidence therapist, flirting wingwoman and personal stylist.  There is something for EVERYONE in this episode - woman or man!   

    What is the magic formula, The Charisma Quotient and how do you use it to build a sexy confidence?
    What is the 'outside-in' approach?   
    Why does everyone (including men!) need a red dress moment?  What was Kimmy's (and it has to do with Birkenstock's and nursing bras)....  
    What is the biggest style mistake men make?  And women?  What are the 3 Cs for style makeovers?
    Why is flirting such an important part of dating and being irresistible?
    HOW can you flirt, especially if you're shy?   
    What is a flirting move you can start TODAY?   
    How do you take the fear out of flirting & rejection?
    How did Bela's client who went to Harvard change her approach -- which led to her marriage?  :)
    What are the best conversation starters to make a chat feel FUN?  
    What are the common mistakes women make when it comes to flirting and being in their feminine?  Men?

    You'll love this episode -- I certainly did!   If you did, rate it, write us a love note, and SHARE with your networks!  We LOVE that, and will do a coaching giveaway for people who write reviews!   

    If you want to hear more from us, click here to join our free newsletter database!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact

    If you're ready to find love and schedule a session with us, click here to invest in a session that will change your life!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

    If you want Kimmy's free gift, click www.kimmyseltzer.com 

    Kimmy's Bio:  Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Image Expert.  With a vat of knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success and build valuable relationships using her unique “confidence makeover” process. Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style, emotional and social intelligence in people’s lives using her signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient,” working on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe and flirting and how it impacts attraction. This Los Angeles-based expert travels the country helping people discover confidence, charisma and connection as a speaker at National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal, UCLA and iDate. Kimmy is also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post with appearances in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader’s Digest, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Yahoo and the Washington Examiner, among a myriad of other publications. Kimmy has been the leading love expert on the traveling live dating show The Great Love Debate, a show on Amazon Live with SwayTv, Kimmy’s Love Hub and the cable reality series, The Romance. You can also listen to her on her podcast, The Charisma Quotient and regular Ask Kimmy segments on the Chaz and AJ Morning Show on 99.1 PLR and 95.9 The Fox.

    • 45 min
    How to Talk to Men & The Secret to Happiness!

    How to Talk to Men & The Secret to Happiness!

    This conversation covers AMAZING gems, including:

    --3 Myths About Men (these are awesome, and have to do with 'the chase', sex, and feelings)

    --The differences between men's & women's brains (I about passed out when I learned this - it makes COMPLETE sense)

    --The AWESOME four communication archetypes (are you a lioness, puppy, koala bear or scorpion)?

    --How to get men to HEAR you (and it doesn't have to do with raising your voice)!

    --What are some quick communication tips that women can use in challenging situations with men?   

    --How to get men or anyone to help you (it's called the 'appreciation' sandwich)

    --The ONE simple daily practice to stay in balance

    --How we can tell if our lives are OUT of alignment (and how that affects our dating lives)--Why 'going hard' is BAD for a relationship

    --What 'coming from a place of love' can do to blossom your love for EVERYONE in your life. 

    Sandy Weiner, Bela's guest, is the founder of Last First Date, is a TEDx speaker, relationship coach, author and podcast host.   

    Sandy's communication archetype quiz is here:  https://lastfirstdate.com/4-communication-archetypes/#sthash.HVO24czW.dpbs

    For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact

    Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

    • 59 min
    SEX and DATING - Everything You Need to KNOW!

    SEX and DATING - Everything You Need to KNOW!

    This episode is AMAZING with Rachel Zar, renowned sex and relationship therapist.  

    We discussed ALL of the things you need to know - and make sure you don't have little ears around you while listening to this!  

    1) WHEN is the right time to have sex?

    2) If you've had sex with someone, is it advisable / necessary to have sex every time?

    3) What's the thing that causes the BEST sex, always?

    4) What is the right thing to do with "hair down there"??

    5) How do you get to know your own body?

    6) If the sex isn't good the first time, what should you do?

    7) We don't want men to be inexperienced, but don't want them to have 'hooked up' with too many women?  What gives?

    8) When to talk about STI's?

    9) What we should be focusing on during sex (hint - it's not just orgasm)!

    Listen to this episode, and if you love it (you WILL), please please write a review (it's worth it's weight in gold)!   Share with friends as well!

    If this episode has inspired you to get back into the dating world, and your profile & photos need an overhaul, join our "Online Dating Love Lab" Zoom workshop on April 24th, from 1pm-4pm CST!  Go to:
    www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab to JOIN!  
    Spots are LIMITED!

    If you want to watch Bela's TEDx talk about the "Secret to Finding Lasting Love", click here:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SIyvhq3zWLg&t=48s

    Rachel Zar, LMFT, CST is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist who specializes in relationship and sex therapy. Rachel sees clients at Spark Chicago Therapy and at The Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause at Northwestern Hospital. 

    • 53 min
    What Men REALLY Want - Secrets from an A-List Hollywood Actor!

    What Men REALLY Want - Secrets from an A-List Hollywood Actor!

    Colin Egglesfield is an AMAZING actor who has walked the red carpets of Hollywood, starring in "Something Borrowed" with the beautiful Kate Hudson.  He's also been on All My Children and Melrose Place, just to name a few.   Colin is a VERY eligible bachelor, and came on the podcast to talk about what men like him are REALLY looking for in women (he's dated both actresses as well as us 'normal' girls too)!   We shared:

    How a kid from Michigan ended up being a Versace model (entered a contest)
    How he ended up in Hollywood
    What Colin is MOST attracted to
    Why he hasn't been married yet (it's not for lack of opportunity)
    His favorite quality in women
    What his BIGGEST turnoff is (oof!)
    Why dating is like auditions
    How to REJECTION proof your dating mindset (brilliant tip here)!

    Listen to the whole thing, because it's full of juice and nuggets you'll want to share with ALL of your friends!

    To get your TOTALLY date ready for the summer, we have opened the doors to our small group, April 24th "Online Dating Love Lab!!"   You'll know how to take AMAZING photos, which are your best photos, and you'll write 2 amazing profiles by getting our private workbook to do it!  Seats are VERY limited, and get yours now!  Bela will be hosting this with the SDA team on April 24th (1-4pm CST) via Zoom, and you can register/get a spot by putting this link into your browser!  


    Colin is hosting an Inspire Summit in Chicago, where Bela will be speaking on 4/23 -- and you can grab your tickets here (put this link in your browser)!   https://www.eventbrite.com/e/inspire-summit-2022-with-colin-egglesfield-tickets-302182224167

    Don't forget to review the podcast, and share it on your social media feeds!  We love the love!

    And, sign up for the Smart Dating Academy newsletter (free) by filling out the form here:  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact

    Follow us on Instagram to get DAILY wisdom, laughs, and inspiration:  @smartdatingacademy  

    • 1 hr 18 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
43 Ratings

43 Ratings

Amkline ,


This podcast series has absolutely shifted something in me as a 50+ woman dating in the world today. Bela and her smart crew point out insights and information that is absolutely key to unlocking the mysteries in how to find love. I have asked for years ‘why can’t I find a great guy?’ My picker was busted: I was a narcissist dater!! I understand myself better and get the ‘why’ in my ‘why can’t I meet a great guy’. And now as a result of listening to this series, while sitting in LA traffic, I understand myself so much better and look forward to finding love. What a gift. Thank you Bela and Crew!!!!

dixieabby ,

Sylvia podcast

I was working with them to date at the same time period. I was stood up, had guys get up and walk away. Dating on line has been a beat down. Sylvia is very lucky indeed.

Lauren FS ,

Not Just for Women Who are Dating!

One of my friends told me about this show and even though I am a happily married woman, I am loving these podcasts. Yes, Bela is all about helping men and women find love, but these podcasts are really about RELATIONSHIP. Not just with your spouse, partner or date, but also with friends, co-workers and relatives. A narcissist is a narcissist.
A weekly dose of Bela is entertaining, fun, informative and Smart Dating Academy
has quick turned into one of my favorite podcasts.

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