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In this episode, I invited Andy, my husband of 26 years to join me on the podcast.    When I asked him to come on with me, he didn't miss a beat, and said "sure!"  When I asked him what we should talk about, he reminded me of something amazing.  Last year, for our 25th anniversary, his gift to me (amongst other) was a list called, "My Lessons from 25 Years with the Perfect Mate."  He wrote all of the things he has learned, and we talked about his favorite 6-7 in sometimes raw ways.  The ones that will most help you, and what's made our relationship stand the test of time.  Has it always been easy?  No.  We've had ups and we've had downs.  We've lost a baby, we've lost jobs, we've had two mortgages at the same time, and the list goes ON.   You'll hear some gems in this episode about why your partner should be your best friend, and how you show up for each other in good times and bad, in sickness and health.   

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This love story is epic, from the way our client Lilah and Bela met (in a Limited store fitting room), to Lilah's Smart Dating journey to meeting the third and final love of her life, the handsome Dani.  Let's say she made the first move with the message, AND, spoiler alert, SHE asked HIM to marry her while climbing Mount Kilimanjaro!   Hear how she did it all in this beautiful story!   
You'll hear:

-How Lilah moved herself to Chicago and extricated herself from a bad relationship
-How she started killing it in her career in software sales at Microsoft, Google, etc
-What Bela said to her in the fitting room that made her send Bela a text
-What happened at their first lunch at "Summer House Santa Monica"
-How Lindsay helped Lilah tactically with the apps
-How Lilah sent the first message to Dani, and what was in his photos that made HER reach out (on Match)
-Why she met him for coffee THE SAME DAY of their phone call
-Why they went out once every three months for the first half of the year!
-What was the date that cemented it for her, and how he was the "man with a plan!"
-Why their relationship is so amazing (they are different races and nationalities)!
-How LILAH asked Dani to marry her!!

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In this episode, you will indeed learn the secrets to getting along with everyone better - from new dates, existing partners, colleagues, friends, kids and more!   Gabrielle's YES method is unveiled, and Bela and her discuss strategic gems to using conflict to get ALL relationships to a better place!   You'll learn how to deal with someone belligerent, how to say a 'real' no without hurting someone's feelings, about the woman who offered Gabrielle a chocolate cake for giving birth and NEVER gave it (and how Gabrielle handed it, lol), and SO much more!   


BIO:  Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally recognized online mediator, divorce attorney, co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, TEDx  Speaker, and author of the acclaimed book "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate."Her upcoming book, "The Secret to Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think," is set to release this May, and is endorsed as a Must-Read by Malcolm Gladwell, Daniel Pink, Adam Grant, and Susan Cain's Next Big Idea Book Group.  It unlocks the potential for better relationships with just three simple steps for conflict resolution. Gabrielle also shares her insights in her weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code, and is frequently quoted as a media expert in the peaceful divorce

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The Secret to Getting Along (And Why It's Easier Than You Think): 3 Steps to Life-Changing Conflict Resolution



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Janai Norman from GMA is an example of courage favoring the BOLD, and her story of love, dating and her career will inspire you.  This episode is very special, because 5/5 is Janai's 5 year wedding anniversary, AND she is adding the 5th member to her family (found out she is pregnant with her third, and it's being covered in People Magazine this week)!   You're hearing it here FIRST on the Smart Dating Academy podcast!   How did a girl from the cornfields of Dekalb, IL make it to Good Morning America?  Unwavering vision, setting goals, doing whatever you have to do, and her favorite mantra which is "Courage Favors the BOLD!"   She started as an intern at ABC News (how she got there is a great part of the show), what her 'screensaver' was on her phone that kept her ON TRACK, and what the fateful song was that was a sign to her.  While in Florida for work, she decided to FINALLY get on Tinder, and went on her last first date.  How did the song play into this?  What is their relationship like?  What's it like being married to a national news anchor?  Hear it all!

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On this week's episode, relationship expert Damona Hoffman joins Bela to talk about dating and Chat GPT!  How could/should we use it today?  What are gender roles in dating in 2023?   Who pays?  What do we want vs. need?  And how does empathy work in dating?  Can you date with more empathy?   This conversation is AWESOME and will teach you and make you think!  Damona and Bela have a fun relationship, and you will hear the lively banter -- you'll feel like you're in the room with them!

Damona Hoffman is a regular contributor to the Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, the LA Times, and the Washington Post.  Damona is also the official US Dating Coach of OKCupid and hosts the Dates & Mates podcast! 

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If you're feeling like dating is 'meh', this episode is for YOU!   Bela goes through seven different things you can do today to change up your dating results - and the changes are small (and VERY EASY)!!  If you need a dose of psychotic optimism, and some fresh outlooks on what to do with online dating, real life dating, new games to play, listen TODAY!

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