The Divorce and Beyond Podcast with Susan Guthrie, Esq‪.‬ Susan Guthrie, Esq.

Welcome to a special episode of Divorce and Beyond!! Airing right after Thanksgiving and just before Giving Tuesday 2023 on November 28th, we're revisiting a powerful episode titled "Sharing is Caring: How Philanthropy Can Help You Heal." In this replay, Susan Guthrie speaks with Caren Yanis, a philanthropy Sherpa, and former Oprah Winfrey Foundation Executive Director. Together, they explore the transformative power of giving, delving into how it can guide us through challenging times, including the complexities of divorce.
This is a heartfelt conversation about how philanthropy intersects with divorce, families, the future, and beyond. Caren, now the principal of Croland Consulting, shares insights on building a culture of purpose and legacy for families, athletes, and celebrities. 
Let this episode inspire you to embrace the spirit of generosity on Giving Tuesday.  
Topics and Golden Nuggets include

Divorce is a prime time to do something outward-focused with your children, such as giving.


Philanthropy can help you heal from the trauma of a difficult divorce


Engaging in the arts and using the arts to help other people is a fabulous way to elevate everybody

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About this week's special guest: Caren Yanis
Caren is the principal of Croland Consulting, a philanthropic advisory group that guides families, athletes, and celebrities in building a culture of purpose and legacy.
She was Executive Director of the Oprah Winfrey Foundation and Oprah’s Angel Network, (2000-2009) the height of the Oprah Winfrey Show. 
She went on to become President of Crown Family Philanthropies in Chicago. 
Caren's focus is on deepening intergenerational engagement and social impact using a variety of assets and strategies. Keynotes, podcasts, and panel discussions have included Family Business Magazine’s Legacy and Wealth Conference, Yale’s Philanthropy Conference, and the Society for Trust and Estate Planners annual and regional conferences. She has been a guest on podcasts including The Heart of Giving (Better Business Bureau), Denton’s, Alliance Bernstein, and Family Business Magazine’s Legacy and Wealth Conference. 
She is an adjunct professor at Tulane University, the University of Chicago Booth School in their Private Wealth Management program, and at the Spertus Institute where she also mentors graduate students. University speaking engagements include Northwestern Law, NYU, Duke and Johns Hopkins.
Caren chairs the board of The Poetry Foundation (which received a significant bequest from Ruth Lilly in 2002) and has guided it through meaningful organizational and governance change. She is an advisor to the Aubrey and Marla Dan Foundation, and to the (Deepak) Chopra Foundation, is a member of the Board of Visitors at the Lilly Family School of Philanthropy at Indiana University, and the Women’s Philanthropy Institute, a research organization focused on trends in giving.
In her spare time, Caren hosts salons that bring bold thinkers together for meaningful conversations. She has a passion for listening deeply, navigating challenges, and guiding people who have the potential to make the world a better place. 
Caren Croland Yanis | Philanthropic Advising: caren@crolandconsulting.com 
Caren’s website: CrolandConsulting.com 
Caren on Linkedin: http://linkedin.com/in/carenyanis
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The Divorce & Beyond website is a great place to visit if you want more support and information as you move through your divorce and beyond.  We have links to all the latest episodes, show notes, and the most recent episode. Plus, you can sign up for the weekly newsletter, freebies, and downloadable resources.  Visit DivorceandBeyondPod.com today! 
Singing ”Single Bells” This Holiday? Surviving the Solitary Season with Special Guest, Jenny Stevens 
PoetryMagazine.org/EventsOffer:1 year of Poetry Magazine for $20.

This week on Divorce & Beyond with Susan Guthrie, Hillary Rubin, a seasoned master coach and divorcing mom, candidly shares lessons learned as she moves through the divorce process. This episode is a beacon of in-the-moment information designed to reassure you that you are not alone in your experiences. 
Facing the disorienting fear of divorce, Hillary sought support, devised a plan, and took the brave step forward. She emerged as a single mother, crafting a new home and life for herself and her son. Now, she shares her wisdom, offering soulful guidance to soon-to-be or newly divorced co-parents. 
Join us as Hillary imparts valuable insights on changing mindsets, fostering certainty, and caring for oneself and one's children through the maze of divorce.
Topics and Golden Nuggets include
What Hillary means when she says, “Divorce is an initiation.”  
Why flipping the narrative can help you move through challenges you may face
Ask for what you need and seek support - people are around to help you.
Finding a place of calm can be an imperative part of the divorce process 
Hillary shares how her son has been her North Star, guiding her through her divorce journey
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About this week's special guest: Hillary Rubin
Hillary Rubin, Master Coach: Shifting the Divorce Narrative Putting Peace & Kids First As You Reclaim Your Life Three years ago, Hillary lived in the same house as her husband, trapped in constant conflict and felt numb with the fear about getting divorced. It was the most disorienting experience of her life. She felt like she failed herself and her son but she made a BRAVE decision. 
As a coach who became a stay-at-home mom, she sought support, created a plan, and took the initiative to file for divorce. She found the strength to move out, created a home and started anew as a single mother at 50. 
Now she offers common sense soulful guidance around divorce for soon-to-be or newly divorced co-parents seeking to ditch uncertainty & make a plan for their lives keeping their kids as their north star. 
She'll show you how to change your mind-set, create certainty as you take care of yourself along with your kids through this challenging time in your lives. 
Website: http://www.hillaryrubin.com 
Free Training: https://hillaryrubin.com/free-mini-training/ 
Hillary on Instagram @hillaryrubin
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The Divorce & Beyond website is a great place to visit if you want more support and information as you move through your divorce and beyond.  We have links to all the latest episodes, show notes, and the most recent episode. Plus, you can sign up for the weekly newsletter, freebies, and downloadable resources.  Visit DivorceandBeyondPod.com today! 
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This week on Divorce & Beyond with Susan Guthrie, we’re bringing back an episode from the archives that featured invaluable insights from Christina McGhee, America's Favorite Parenting Expert.  In this episode, Christina shares her wisdom on how co-parents can create a holiday season that's less stressful and more joyful for their children.
This topic is especially relevant during the holiday season. As the festive lights twinkle and the world seems to sparkle with the holiday spirit, we know this season can also bring a mix of emotions and stress for co-parents.
Whether it's your first holiday after a separation or you've been navigating this season for years, Christina's practical and actionable advice is a gift that keeps on giving. She covers everything from how to communicate with your co-parent about the holidays to managing gifts and family expectations and ensuring your children feel the joy of the season.
So, settle in and revisit these essential strategies and tips with Christina in this special Replay episode.
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About this week's special guest: Christina McGhee
Christina McGhee, MSW is an internationally recognized divorce parenting expert, speaker, and author. While splitting up is undeniably hard, Christina believes divorce doesn't have to equal devastation for families. She feels with the right kind of information and support, parents have the ability to be a child's absolute best resource when families change. 
Throughout her career, she has educated both parents and professionals on how to minimize the impact of divorce on children. In her book, PARENTING APART: How separated and divorced parents can raise happy and secure kids,  Christina offers parents useful strategies for dealing with the “real-life” everyday challenges of coparenting.
One of her core beliefs is that divorce doesn’t make you a bad parent, it makes you a parent going through a bad time.  Because she is passionate about helping parents get through that bad time, Christina also maintains an active coaching practice that allows her to work with Moms and Dads all over the world.
Most recently, Christina launched an online program, Coparenting with Purpose. Designed to provide moms and dads with an easy, convenient way to access critical information, it’s filled with practical tools and solutions for managing the most common coparenting problems.  LISTENERS OF DIVORCE & BEYOND GET $100 OFF THE PROGRAM FEE WITH CODE "SUSAN" - Access here: https://divorceandchildren.com/purpose 
Additionally, she has contributed to several other media projects as a featured expert, a content consultant, and a writer/producer. Currently, she serves as a consulting producer and subject matter expert for the documentaries SPLIT: A film for kids and their parents and Split UP: The Teen Years, two compelling films that let kids know they’re not alone and normalize the many feelings and experiences children and teens encounter when parents part.
Over the years, she has been featured on television, radio, podcasts, and in print around the US and abroad. A few places you may have seen her are TODAY Parents, the BBC, The Times, and Parents Magazine.
Married for over twenty-seven years, Christina and her husband live outside of Houston, Texas. As a mom of four (two bonus and two bio) children, she has acquired extensive on-the-job training as a chauffeur, negotiator, short-order cook, scheduler extraordinaire, and finder of all things lost. To find out more,  check her out at divorceandchildren.com
Access Christina’s Co-Parent Resource Guide: http://www.divorceandchildren.com/
Christina on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/divorceandchildren
Christina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceandchildren/
Christina on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinamcghee
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The Divorce & Beyond website is a great place t

Get ready for a red-hot episode of Divorce & Beyond with Susan Guthrie! This week, Karen Bigman returns to share her invaluable insights and tips on reigniting your sex life after divorce, promising to infuse some extra oxytocin into your beautiful beyond.
In this episode, Karen emphasizes the importance of self-discovery and effective communication as the ultimate keys to reclaiming your sex life. We'll explore how communication not only strengthens your relationships but is also essential in the bedroom. 
Plus, we'll debunk the myths surrounding menopause and sex, tackle menopause symptoms affecting your sex life, and discuss the vital aspects of self-awareness. Karen will also guide us through that all-important first conversation about sex with a new partner, including the essential topic of addressing STDs and getting tested.
Special guest Karen Bigman is the dynamic hostess of "Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations of Sexuality in Midlife." With a passion for empowering women and a wealth of knowledge as a Certified Menopause Coach and Menopause & Sexuality Educator, Karen is on a mission to break down barriers and liberate women to engage in open conversations about sexuality in the later stages of life.
Topics and Golden Nuggets includ
Effective communication is the cornerstone of relationships, both in the bedroom and beyond.
Demystify menopause's impact on sex, challenging stigma, addressing symptoms, body image, and self-awareness.
How to initiate candid discussions on sex with new partners, including STD concerns and the importance of pre-sex testing.
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About this week's special guest: Karen Bigman
Karen Bigman is the dynamic hostess of "Taboo to Truth: Unapologetic Conversations of Sexuality in Midlife." With a passion for empowering women and a wealth of knowledge as a Certified Menopause Coach and Menopause & Sexuality Educator, Karen is on a mission to break down barriers and liberate women to engage in open conversations about sexuality in the later stages of life. In September of this year, Karen courageously launched her podcast, "Taboo to Truth," drawing inspiration from her personal journey of divorce and the transformative realization that one's sex life doesn't end with menopause. Through candid and unapologetic discussions, Karen is helping women navigate this often-overlooked aspect of midlife, offering education, support, and a platform for women to embrace their sexuality and rediscover their true selves. With her warmth, expertise, and unwavering dedication, Karen Bigman is changing the narrative around midlife sexuality and encouraging women to embrace their desires and passions without reservation.
Taboo to Truth Podcast: Unapologetic Conversations About Sexuality in Midlife
Instagram: http://instagram.com/taboototruth
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/
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The Divorce & Beyond website is a great place to visit if you want more support and information as you move through your divorce and beyond.  We have links to all the latest episodes, show notes, and the most recent episode. Plus, you can sign up for the weekly newsletter, freebies, and downloadable resources.  Visit DivorceandBeyondPod.com today! 
Taboo Truth, Hot Sex article
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In this week's episode, Susan Guthrie is joined again by the insightful Kate Anthony, host of The Divorce Survival Guide podcast and author of the upcoming book, "The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage." Kate shares her journey of becoming a domestic violence victim's advocate and the crucial insights she's gained.
The conversation delves into the alarming gap in domestic violence awareness and training within the divorce industry. Plus, Kate shares the significance of effective documentation for victims, offering invaluable tips on compiling such evidence. 
Kate Anthony's dedication to helping women trapped in relationships scarred by domestic violence shines through. Tune in for an empowering discussion on breaking free from the cycle by raising awareness and taking action.
Topics and Golden Nuggets include
The scarcity of training about domestic violence in the divorce industry.
We explore the need for more experts who comprehend and can testify in court about domestic violence within divorce law.
Kate emphasizes the importance of effective documentation for victims and practical tips on compiling evidence of abuse.
The vital role a divorce coach plays in offering assistance and support throughout your divorce journey.
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About this week's special guest: Kate Anthony
Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work. 
No stranger to the camera, Kate spent the first 30 years of her life as an actor, with a career that began with five years on Sesame Street and concluded with five years on Grey's Anatomy. 
Kate empowers women to find their strength, passion, and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances and helps them move forward with concrete plans, putting their children at the center (not in the middle) of all decisions. 
Kate spent 3 years and over 500 hours training in various coaching modalities with two of the top coach training organizations in the world. Additionally, Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Victim’s Advocate by the state of California, as a Co-Parenting Specialist by the Mosten Guthrie Academy, and as a High Conflict Divorce Coach by Tina Swithin’s High Conflict Divorce Coaching Certification Program, and is widely known as an expert in communication, co-parenting, divorce, and emotional intelligence. 
In addition to her private practice, Kate spent three years coaching Fortune 500 executives in communication, presentation skills, and emotional intelligence. Kate lives in Los Angeles with her son, whom she lovingly co-parents with her ex-husband.
Website:  http://kateanthony.com
Pre-order Kate’s upcoming book, The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage:  https://kateanthony.com/dword/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcesurvivalguide/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YourDivorceSurvivalGuide
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Tina Swithen’s Documentation Workshop
Why Does He Do That, Lundy Bancroft
Busting the Top 5 Myths of Domestic Abuse with Amy Polacko
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:  
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Amy Polacko, Divorce and Empowerment Coach and Investigative Journalist returns to The Divorce & Beyond podcast with Susan Guthrie. Amy is here to help bust the top five myths of domestic abuse. The myths being busted are prominent and often repeated time and again. We must raise awareness so we don’t perpetuate these myths and continue to cause incredible harm.
Amy Polacko is committed to helping women live on their terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to support, inspire, and guide single women. She is also an award-winning journalist highlighting women's issues, including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. 
Myth Busting and Golden Nuggets includ
Myth #1: “The Hysterical Woman.” Labeling women as "hysterical" diminishes their experiences and allows the cycle of abuse to continue.
Myth #2: “Why didn’t she just leave?” One reason: You need to have a safe exit plan, which takes time and planning.
Myth #3: If there isn’t physical violence, it’s not really abuse. The more we tell stories of domestic abuse, the more aware we can become. 
Myth #4: “It only happens in poor families.” Domestic abuse doesn't discriminate and affects people across all socioeconomic backgrounds.
Myth #5: “What happens in someone’s home is a private matter.” Domestic abuse isn't a private issue; it has societal repercussions. 
What you can do to help break the cycle of abuse and raise awareness.
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About this week's special guest: Amy Polacko
Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior - and is committed to helping women live life on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to provide support, inspiration, and guidance to single women. Amy is also an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. 
Her recent journalistic work has appeared in The Washington Post, Newsweek, NBC News THINK, and Ms. Magazine. After graduating from Columbia University's Graduate School of Journalism, Amy worked as a newspaper reporter for Newsday and was part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning team covering the TWA Flight 800 crash. She then transitioned to television journalism, working as a writer and producer in New York City. Amy was an award-winning on-air reporter in Fargo, ND, where she traveled to Kosovo for a series on the North Dakota National Guard, and in Philadelphia, where she covered the national D.C. Sniper story. She also headed up an investigative reporting unit in Albany, NY, where she uncovered consumer scams, crime, and government corruption as part of her I-Team Investigations -- one of which exposed a loophole in the state's sex offender registry. 
Amy has spoken publicly on women's issues, empowerment and entrepreneurship at Yale University, the Women's Forum in Ridgefield, CT, the Women's Center of Greater Danbury, CT, the Hayvn co-working space for women, the Believe Inspire Grow national empowerment organization for women, and many other groups both virtually and in person. 
Website:  www.freedomwarrior.info 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freedomwarriortribe/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/freedomwarriortribe/
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Get Wise to the Tricks and Traps of Toxic People: Avoiding Narcissists and Sociopaths in Your Life with Former Investigative Journalist and Divorce Coach, Amy Polacko 
Special Bonus Episode EMPOWERED: How a New Family Court Law is (and isn’t) Helping Some  Victims of IPV with Amy Polacko 
Amy’s article: ‘Hysterical’ Women Out for Revenge: Family Court’s Misogynistic Tropes Traumati