11 episodes

We're all struggling with the unbearable weight of issues that society just can't seem to solve—while paying endless bills, making infinity dinners, and replying to inane work emails. So how do we deal? With some colorful and transparent commentary from hosts Dara and Amber, and helpful insights from occasional guestsperts.​

Friends of different backgrounds from the same Boston suburb, Dara and Amber inevitably dive deep into meaningful conversation, whether they're shooting around on the basketball court or sipping Sauvignon Blanc. In each episode of "How Do We Deal: Coping with the Confounding," they attempt to make sense of simply existing in the world today, at the nexus of massive conundrums (from racism to mental health to climate change) and everyday responsibilities and challenges (maintaining faith in humanity while in rush hour traffic, for example).

Sometimes talking it all through is enough to help find some hope, calm, and clarity. With honesty and openness about their own experiences with everything from race and neurodivergence to parenting and balling, they want to share the conversation with you.

How Do We Deal?‪!‬ Dara and Amber

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 17 Ratings

We're all struggling with the unbearable weight of issues that society just can't seem to solve—while paying endless bills, making infinity dinners, and replying to inane work emails. So how do we deal? With some colorful and transparent commentary from hosts Dara and Amber, and helpful insights from occasional guestsperts.​

Friends of different backgrounds from the same Boston suburb, Dara and Amber inevitably dive deep into meaningful conversation, whether they're shooting around on the basketball court or sipping Sauvignon Blanc. In each episode of "How Do We Deal: Coping with the Confounding," they attempt to make sense of simply existing in the world today, at the nexus of massive conundrums (from racism to mental health to climate change) and everyday responsibilities and challenges (maintaining faith in humanity while in rush hour traffic, for example).

Sometimes talking it all through is enough to help find some hope, calm, and clarity. With honesty and openness about their own experiences with everything from race and neurodivergence to parenting and balling, they want to share the conversation with you.

    Season 1 Finale

    Season 1 Finale

    In the season 1 finale, Dara and Amber look back, and forward, talking about the experience of podcasting, how they've dealt with the vulnerability, what they've learned, and the feedback they've received. As your hosts look to season 2, they prepare to welcome guestperts to tackle important topics, including everything from gun violence to self care. Hear about how it's gone, what the podcast and the listeners they call "Dealers" have meant to them, and the best that's yet to come. And get ready for a new level of dealing this fall!

    • 32 min
    "Normal"

    "Normal"

    What is normal? It depends. But as podcasters, our new normal is getting positive, fun, and relevant input from our Dealers! In the course of day-to-day life, "normal" means something different to Dara and Amber. As the neurodivergent parent of an autistic child, Amber assumed the idea of "normal" was oppressive and bad. Dara realizes how important "normal" was to her, while growing up, as a survival tactic. Staying in the middle of the pack felt safer, but is it now affecting how she parents her children? Amber also has a realization when Dara points out that some degree of "normal" is important for humans, because being constantly surprised and thrown off guard (like during the pandemic) is unsustainable. Bizarrely, they create an episode-specific theme song. Listen for it.

    • 30 min
    Stereotypes

    Stereotypes

    Dara and Amber realize that while stereotypes divide us, they're also how our brains make sense of a fast-moving, diverse world. So how do we deal? By pausing to reflect on the assumptions we make, and the limits we place on the fullness of others' being. Dara and Amber explore input from our listeners (whom we lovingly refer to as "Dealers") on the stereotypes they face in their own lives. Your hosts also realize that they hold different stereotypes for the very same group (drivers of fancy cars). Do you stereotype? Pause, reflect, and be human with us. Life is ridiculous.

    • 28 min
    Social Media Pros, Cons and WTFs

    Social Media Pros, Cons and WTFs

    Social media can connect us across miles and years. But it’s also implicated in harming mental health–and the Senate is currently considering a ban for kids under 13. It's part of our lives, for better or worse, so how do we deal? Dara chooses to share and see the sunny side–emphasizing that obviously no one’s life is perfect–while keeping tabs on people she loves and is inspired by. Amber has finally learned to stop engaging in pointless political debates, and embraces a mantra of “balance” in setting boundaries for her teen daughter. They arrive at a couple of key takeaways, while wondering about the metaverse and why it makes any sense at all--if so, can they start a virtual farm?

    • 29 min
    Anxiety

    Anxiety

    Anxiety is on the rise–and with all that’s going on, it’s no wonder. But we can’t let anxiety own us, so how do we deal? Dara slyly tries to skirt-skirt the issue, then dives in to realize how she gets angry to avoid feeling out of control. Amber’s life was absolutely ruled by anxiety–until motherhood led to an epiphany, medication, and change. A catchphrase from Dara’s mentor (“live lightly”) helps crystallize the issue in brilliant fashion. Mini revelations and big laughs ensue. (As per usual.)

    • 26 min
    Gen X Parenting Conundrums

    Gen X Parenting Conundrums

    We stayed out until the street lights came on. We went from typewriters to computers and we were the original hose influencers. "Parenting" wasn't even a verb when we were kids. Now we, Generation X, are parents of the Gen Zers and Alphas. There are no clear-cut rules except you must watch your children at all times! You must strategize and enforce screen time limits on ever present iPads and tablets. So how do we deal with parenting in such a quickly changing world? Join us as we try to find some solid ground, and reminisce about everything from bags of change to shady white vans!

    • 44 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
17 Ratings

17 Ratings

Sueandsieg ,

All the feels of real talk

Knowing these two beautiful humans most of my life, I was so excited to listen to this podcast, to hear what you have to say.
You are both completely raw, real and the honesty just makes me excited to hear more. Grateful for you. Thank you for saying what normal truly is ❤️.

JeremyJohnGates ,

I’m grateful to be a listener!

Relevant, intelligent and relatable conversations by two thoughtful and charismatic hosts. I’m immediately hooked and subscribed. Thank you!

KaterinaFaustina ,

Not your day job but it could be.

Great advice and thoughts from the heart through working knowledge. Delivered with honesty and humor and humility. So well articulated. A pleasure to listen. Thank you for taking time from your busy lives to make all of our lives better.

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