The Relationship Guy John Kenny

This episode features an insightful conversation between John and Vinko Anthony from Beau Brummell Introductions, a matchmaking agency for gay men. Vinko shares his journey of founding the agency with his husband, emphasising the importance of long-term, monogamous relationships in today's fast-paced dating world dominated by apps like Grindr. They discuss the significance of authenticity, vulnerability, and genuine connection in relationships, highlighting the role of personal engagement and understanding in successful matchmaking. Vinko's approach focuses on individualised attention, transparency, and commitment to helping clients find meaningful connections. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS



Commitment and Transparency: Vinko highlights the importance of commitment and transparency in relationships, both in personal connections and in the matchmaking service provided by Beau Brummel Introductions.



Authenticity and Vulnerability: Allowing yourself to be authentic and vulnerable in relationships means genuine connections will form.



Mirror Imaging: The energy and engagement you put into a relationship are often reflected back to you.



Personal Growth: Personal growth and self-awareness are essential in preparing oneself for a successful and fulfilling relationship.



BEST MOMENTS

 "I think authenticity is a word that's thrown around quite a lot, but it's actually being you and being comfortable, like you said, being you, getting someone to get to know you and who you really are and hoping that they like that."

"But I think you take the time out to actually really offer that service to people is actually what does this person really want? What do they really need? What's the what will be a good thing for them?"

"But you have to stay in that zone of commitment because, but generally people are engaging and financially contributing to this, it means that they're committed."

"And for that, you've got to love people, right? And so if you do and you work with people that you choose to give your time to those who compliment you and who you are as a person, then it's wonderful because we all have a story and we all have a book in us."

"I think without that, it's virtually impossible, but it is to achieve success for my clients. But also it's a tricky thing because of the time that and how much time I have, and I give to all the new clients and get to know them and understand them."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: https://beaubrummellintroductions.com/

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

In this episode, John is joined by Marilyn Horowitz, an award-winning author, writing coach, and professor. Marilyn discusses her innovative writing method, the "Word of the Day," which helps individuals uncover deep-seated issues and gain self-awareness.  Listeners are encouraged to check out Marilyn's book, "Word of the Day," available on Amazon, and participate in her bi-weekly webinars to experience the power of this unique approach to self-discovery and healing.

KEY TAKEAWAYS



Marilyn Horowitz is an award-winning author, New York University professor, TV show creator, and writing coach.



She discovered that her techniques, initially developed for writing, also have significant healing potential. She shared stories of how the "Word of the Day" practice helped individuals overcome personal traumas and make transformative changes in their lives.



The Word of the Day is a writing system Marilyn has developed, which helps people uncover deep-seated issues and improve self-awareness.



The Word of the Day practice involves journaling with a specific word each day, leading to emotional literacy and self-acceptance.



The practice can be transformative in relationships, helping individuals understand their patterns and make positive changes.



Marilyn emphasises the importance of self-acceptance over self-esteem. She argues that self-acceptance, which can be cultivated through practices like the "Word of the Day," is crucial for healthy relationships and personal well-being, as it helps individuals stop judging themselves and others unrealistically.



Marilyn offers a free bi-weekly webinar where participants can engage in the Word of the Day practice and work on various topics like clearing clutter.



BEST MOMENTS

"The word of the day is a journaling practice that takes either five or 15 minutes a day, depending on whether you want to do it, it's taking two parts."

"The definition of true happiness is you judging your own self to be worthy of having it."

"The word of the day goes right in. I don't know how it does it. I'm just, as I say, consider it a gift."

"The moment you turn to it, as soon as you look at that circle, it's all based on neuroscience. It's a long, boring conversation."

"It definitely gets to the point, doesn't it? And it definitely, again, it could stop people having years and years of therapy."

Link: marilynhorowitz.com 

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

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I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

In this episode, John is joined by Jamie Johnston, the founder of Mattr Dating App. Jamie discusses the inspiration behind creating a revolutionary dating app that prioritises mental health and neurodiversity accessibility. They discuss the challenges faced by neurodiverse individuals in the online dating world and the importance of transparency, authenticity, and fostering genuine connections in a world dominated by superficiality and overwhelming choices. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS



Creating a Safe Environment: Jamie highlights the importance of creating a safe environment on dating apps, especially for individuals who are neurodiverse or struggling with mental health issues. Safety measures such as email verification, phone verification, and facial recognition were mentioned to ensure a secure platform.



Limiting Choices: John and Jamie discuss the overwhelming nature of dating apps due to the unlimited choices available. Mattr Dating App aims to limit the number of profiles users can connect with to avoid overwhelming users and prevent addiction to the platform.



Transparency and Communication: Mattr Dating App emphasises transparency and communication in online dating. Users are encouraged to be honest about their strengths and weaknesses through the "honesty box" feature, allowing for open communication about personal traits and preferences.



Nurturing Relationships: The app focuses on nurturing relationships beyond just matching profiles. It offers offline capabilities by recommending places to go based on shared interests, providing a more meaningful and engaging dating experience.



Empowering Users: Jamie highlights the importance of empowering users to be themselves and embrace their strengths and weaknesses. By promoting self-awareness and authenticity, Mattr Dating App aims to create a supportive and inclusive community for all users.



BEST MOMENTS

 "I went from being the head of sales for a marketing tech platform to being locked in my flat during the pandemic. My mental health deteriorated, and I was diagnosed with ADHD, which didn't come as a surprise." 

"It's like a sales page, isn't it, mostly? You have a background in marketing PR as well. So I guess you know what it's like to try and have to sell something to somebody in the first place and what you think people are going to like." 

 "We did a lot of research into the space, into seeing all different types of groups from neurotypicals to neurodiversity, to different genders, races, marginalised communities. Overwhelmingly, we found negativity across the board." 

 "No one listening to this or anyone in the world is great at everything. It's actually physically impossible. So if you say that you're a liar, probably not the best platform for you to be on."

Links: App download - mattr 

https://www.mattr.social

LinkedIn : (4) Jamie Johnston | LinkedIn

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

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Clubhouse

This episode features Laurel Stewart, an acupuncturist and yoga therapist, discussing the importance of energetic anatomy and traditional Chinese medicine in maintaining overall health and well-being. Laurel explains how imbalances in the body's energy can lead to physical and emotional issues, and she provides insights into how specific acupuncture points and practices can help address these imbalances.The episode offers valuable insights into how understanding and working with our energy can positively impact our relationships and overall health.

KEY TAKEAWAYS



Acupuncture Points: Acupuncture points, such as bladder 20, can be used to alleviate headaches, improve focus, and relax muscles in the neck and shoulders.



Organ-Emotion Connection: Traditional Chinese medicine connects specific organs to emotions, such as kidneys to fear and lungs to sadness and grief.



Preventative Measures: Traditional Chinese medicine offers preventative measures, such as consuming black foods for kidney health and practising Qigong to stimulate energy flow.



Colour Association: Black foods, like black sesame seeds, are recommended for kidney health due to the colour association with the kidneys.



Energy Cultivation: Practices like Qigong can help cultivate energy and stimulate specific organs, such as the kidneys, for overall health and well-being.



BEST MOMENTS

"So life can disrupt the energy in our bodies. Different things can disrupt the energy in our bodies in different ways." 

"I think it can influence the type of relationships we have quite a lot because maybe we find ourselves attracting a specific energy."

"Quite often, knee pain is tied to the kidneys in traditional Chinese medicine."

"I think that's a gift and maybe sometimes also a curse." 

"I do notice when I do, I do dig around sometimes around that area as well, just to try and loosen things up a little bit because of the pains I get."

RESOURCES

Links: www.dracumassage.com

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

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LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

This episode features relationship coach Jessica Myers-Adams discussing the importance of relationships and her book "What to Do When You Do Give a Fuck."

Jessica shares insights on elevating relationships to a higher purpose and the concept of being a relationship visionary. Jessica highlights an exercise called the "paper exercise" to help couples navigate decision-making and prioritise each other's needs. Listeners can connect with Jessica through her website www.couplespeak.com and access her book on Amazon for practical relationship guidance. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS


Importance of Communication: Clear and respectful communication in relationships is essential to understanding oneself and one's partner.
Conflict Resolution: The paper exercise discussed in the episode demonstrates a practical way to navigate conflicts and make decisions in relationships by understanding each other's perspectives.
Self-awareness and Self-reflection: Self-awareness and self-reflection in understanding one's own behaviors and patterns in relationships are important for a successful relationship.
Balancing Needs: It's important to learn to balance individual needs and desires with the needs of the relationship as a whole, promoting mutual understanding and compromise.

BEST MOMENTS

"I think the key is, for me, what I aspire to give a f**k about is what is best for both of us."

"It's too hard. I don't want to do that."

 "I think the other thing that happens for the person who's receiving is they know it's not genuine."

"It takes a lot of work, doesn't it? But hey, so worth it in the end."

 

Links: www.couplesspeak.com 

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

This episode features an insightful conversation between John and guest Jill Carr, author of "Astrolations." Jill discusses her lifelong interest in astrology and the creation of her astrological guide. She delves into the importance of understanding astrology in relationships and the episode covers topics such as the influence of astrological signs, the significance of elements in personality traits, and the balance of yin and yang energies. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS



Jill Carr, has a deep passion for astrology and has been studying it since a young age, leading her to write a book called "Astrolations."



Jill believes that astrology can help people understand themselves and others better, leading to more harmonious relationships and a greater sense of meaning in life.



Jill's book, "Astrolations," combines Western and Chinese astrology to provide a comprehensive guide to understanding one's character and relationships.



Jill Carr emphasises the importance of balance in astrological elements and how they influence personality traits and relationships.



The moon can have a big impact on emotions and behaviours, lunar cycles have been found to affect human experiences and interactions too.



BEST MOMENTS

 "I think astrology helps a lot with knowing ourselves. Find out everything that influences you. Find out what makes you angry, what makes you joyous, things like that."

"I never thought of it like that, to be honest. I never thought of it being something to believe in something to, like you said, something tangible to hold on to."

"I think astrology is important in our lives and our relationships because I think we're looking for a meaning, and I think astrology, you know, our planet Earth."

"I think people are looking for a soulmate, and I think the practice involved for me is about yin and yang, being, you know, the Western signs of negative and positive."

"I think people can look at this astrolations on many, many levels. I think some people, it's quite a hefty book, it will be a good textbook, I think, for students of astrology."

RESOURCES

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

Links: www.astrolations.co.uk

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – john@johnkennycoaching.com or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.