Just Say This! How to have sex talks with tweens

Amy Lang, MA
Just Say This! How to have sex talks with tweens

Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your tween (or any age kid) about this important part of life? You are in the right place. I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full of swears advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro. Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut from abortion to porn and everything in between. They need to know about all of these things by the time they start middle school.* When you have no idea about the best age to start the birds and bees talks; what’s age appropriate; and what to actually SAY to them about sex, it makes the sex talks daunting (to say the least)! When it comes to the sex talks, keeping it sex positive, light and fact based is key to getting them to listen to you and see you as their go-to birds and bees source. Just Say This can help you make this happen. To record a question for me to answer in a later show (even if you think it’s a stupid one) call 206-926-1522.* I love funny sex talk stories, too. So feel free to call those in, too. + IG @BirdsBeesKids + FB @BirdsBeesKids + BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com *Not a thing. **In middle school they talk about everything so it’s better (and safer) for your kid to be super-well informed so that they feel confident and smart as things get really real. Do you remember middle school? Wouldn’t it have been so much better if you had known everything? Or anything?

  1. MAY 1

    So long and thanks for all the calls! Plus 20 tips for the sex talks from Sex Talks with Tweens -- Episode 200

    Hiya! Here are a bunch of ways you can stay in touch with me! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Resources Birds & Bees & Kids Bookstore is here. My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention, and even some videos you can watch with your kids. Sign up for my newsletter and get 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –  Birds & Bees & Kids. You’ll be the first to know about upcoming classes and get regular tips to keep the talks going. The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center ($89) can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes a massive library of resources that include what they need to know by when, talking about porn, puberty and so much more. Membership includes one Quickie Consultation! A $90 value so it's a wash! Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off. Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult! Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com Monitoring and filtering BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only) Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside the US) Sexual abuse concerns Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. Socials Facebook Instagram YouTube Website Thank you again for being a listener (and caller)! Together we've helped thousands of kids be safer and smarter and have a much better chance of growing up to become sexually healthy and happy people! Take care! Amy PS Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote! It works! Areas that get the postcards see an increase in voting!

    7 min
  2. APR 24

    Librarian needs script for teachers who are complaining about sex ed books and lesbian moms need to buy condoms for their kid and need some pointers

    This episode's notes! Amaze video: How to Use Condoms Effectively A Brief Guide to Choosing the Right Size Condom Unite Against Banned Books How to Talk About Book Bans with Friends, Library Patrons, and More: Book Censorship News BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids.  Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids  The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included!  Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off. Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult! Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com Other resources Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)    Facebook Instagram YouTube Website Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative f****d up states and encourage them to vote!

    9 min
  3. APR 10

    How to make all your convos with your kids short and sweet! With Mary Willcox Smith -- Episode 198

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! My guest star Mary Willcox Smith! Her book, The MicroStep Method for the Overwhelmed Parent is terrific! Get a free chapter here. BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids.  Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids  The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included!  Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off. Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult! Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com Other resources Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)    Facebook Instagram YouTube Website Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative f****d up states and encourage them to vote!

    1 hr
  4. APR 3

    Explaining STIs to kids under 10 -- Episode 197

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! Health officials recommend more syphilis testing after U.S. newborn cases skyrocketed in 2022 What are STDs? BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids.  Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids  The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included!  Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off. Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult! Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com Other resources Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)    Facebook Instagram YouTube Website Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    5 min
  5. MAR 20

    Boy masturbating in mom's bedroom; should you buy condoms in front of your kids; and is a body pillow OK for my teen? -- Episode 196

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! Good old Amaze has great videos on masturbation (and more)! Show your kids ages 9+. Masturbation Females and Masturbation Birth Control Basics: Condoms, The Pill and The Patch  Anime Body Pillows! Check some out here. BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids.  Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids  The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included!  Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off. Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult! Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com Other resources Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)    Facebook Instagram YouTube Website Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    14 min
  6. FEB 28

    What does sex positive mean? -- Episode 195

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! The Meaning of Sex Positivity, Explained - My pal and colleague Nadine Thornhill is interviewed for this article! She's fab. Check her out here.  Peggy Orenstein BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids.  Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids  The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included!  Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off. Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult! Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com Other resources Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)    Facebook Instagram YouTube Website Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative fucked up states and encourage them to vote!

    8 min
  7. FEB 14

    The Valentines Edition: Telling a 6 year-old they can have a "girlfriend" as long as they get good grades; helping tweens navigate crushes; and are trans kiddo romantic sleepovers damaging?

    GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids.  Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks –   Birds & Bees & Kids  The podcast can only get you so far...The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can help you become the trustworthy adult you didn’t have and your kid's go-to person. Includes group coaching, a massive library of resources AND one Quickie Consultation is included!  Use coupon code PODCAST for $10 off. Need more help? Schedule a Quickie Consult! Work with kids? Visit my site for professionals BBKpros.com Other resources Stop It Now – Sexual Abuse Prevention info and support RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline. Free. Confidential. BARK – Monitoring and filtering (US only)  Qustodio – Monitoring and filtering (outside US)    Facebook Instagram YouTube Website Join the postcarding movement! Center for Common Ground - you can send postcards to BIPOC people in conservative f****d up states and encourage them to vote!

    17 min
4.9
out of 5
144 Ratings

About

Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your tween (or any age kid) about this important part of life? You are in the right place. I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full of swears advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro. Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut from abortion to porn and everything in between. They need to know about all of these things by the time they start middle school.* When you have no idea about the best age to start the birds and bees talks; what’s age appropriate; and what to actually SAY to them about sex, it makes the sex talks daunting (to say the least)! When it comes to the sex talks, keeping it sex positive, light and fact based is key to getting them to listen to you and see you as their go-to birds and bees source. Just Say This can help you make this happen. To record a question for me to answer in a later show (even if you think it’s a stupid one) call 206-926-1522.* I love funny sex talk stories, too. So feel free to call those in, too. + IG @BirdsBeesKids + FB @BirdsBeesKids + BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com *Not a thing. **In middle school they talk about everything so it’s better (and safer) for your kid to be super-well informed so that they feel confident and smart as things get really real. Do you remember middle school? Wouldn’t it have been so much better if you had known everything? Or anything?

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