Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life

I live in a tiny Vermont town with no Lesbian community that I can see for many miles. These women, even when just chatting, remind me that I am indeed part of something. I find that comforting.

I question the premise of lesbian 50 shades equivalence. For lesbian romance/erotica recommendations you should probably read The Lesbian Review or pay attention to the annual Lambda literary awards. The assumption that all lesbian erotica/romance (except Sarah Waters who actually writes lesbian historical fiction) is trashy (I avidly listen to any lesbian romance read by Abby Craden) is clearly a problem and probably homophobic. You probably won’t read The Lesbian Review or pay attention to the annual Lambda literary awards. How could you even know about such resources since you seem to think you belong to some unique LGBTQ group? We’ve all been there and at some point most of us embraced the diversity of our queer nation if only to give up our internalized homophobia. And the fact that you’re looking for a lesbian 50 Shades is absurd, a best seller, but well written? My lesbian romance/erotica recommendations: Any book by Harper Bliss, particularly the series “French Kissing.” Any book by Lee Winter; EJ Noyes “Loyalty” series. KE Lane “And Playing the Role of Herself;” JE Leak “Shadow” series. Lynn Ames “46.” I haven’t even mentioned the lesbian romance greats: Gerri Hill, Radclyffe, Jae, Georgia Beers, Melissa Brandon, among many others, but I’m sure you’d find them trashy as if 50 shades isn’t. Some of us came out of the womb waving the rainbow 🌈 flag. We marched on Washington to demand our civil rights; we reclaimed the word queer for our queer nation; we acted up for AIDS relief; we went to law school and changed the law for equal marriage. What’s the point of claiming an LGBTQ identity unless we can also embrace our diverse community?

As a person who came out at 21 I don’t have a whole lot of interest in some topics. But I enjoy hearing queer perspectives on aging. This episode in particular felt helpful. I wish they would do a follow up ie menopause part 2. I’ve never heard a gay/queer led discussion on Peri menopause and menopause. And I would like to hear more. Good to have company, thanks.

Seriously, please fix the imbalance. Alli is so loud it hurts. Melissa is so quiet and I turn up volume to be able to hear her and then Alli interrupts and shatters my eardrum. I want to keep listening but I don’t know if I’ll be able to unless it’s fixed. Also, Alli has referred to bisexual women wanting to be with women as cheating several times. It’s so offensive. I am a (married to a man) bisexual woman who has never been with a woman and I listen to this podcast to feel validated, not attacked. As Melisa pointed out to Alli, a lot of women who identify as bisexual are on their journey to finding out if they are, in fact, lesbian. Comphet is real. Also, the “catalyst” term all the time is grating. I do enjoy the show other than those things. Thank you for creating interesting, relatable content.