Lit AF Relationships Sarah Cohan

On today’s episode I explore what secure attachment actually looks like. I had some pretty interesting misconceptions about how secure folx showed up in relationships and I hilariously share them with you today. I also talk about what it’s like to date someone with secure attachment. It can be pretty strange and your nervous system might not be used to it. You might be wondering why you don’t have those butterflies in your stomach when you’re around someone secure. I also talk about what it’s like to be securely attached while dating someone with an insecure attachment style. I share a few tips on how to show up for them in a healthy way. This is the final episode of a four part series exploring in depth the common patterns that four different attachment styles experience. Check out the previous three episode to hear more about the different attachment types.
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On today’s episode I talk about the patterns behind the anxious preoccupied attachment style. Our attachment styles show us how we relate to others and what strategies we use to keep ourselves safe in relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. And it’s also possible to help your partner become more secure by showing up securely in the relationship. In this episode, I share the common patterns that the anxious preoccupied experiences. I also share how you can help them show up more securely. 
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On today’s episode I talk about the patterns behind why you’re partner gets defensive. The reason they get defensive is because of their attachment style. Our attachment styles show us how we related to others and what strategies we use to keep ourselves safe in relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. And it’s also possible to help your partner become more secure by showing up securely in the relationship. In this episode I share about the common patterns that dismissive avoidants experience. I also share how you can help them show up more securely. 
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This week on Lit AF I share common relationship patterns for the fearful avoidant attachment type. Attachment styles help us understand common relationship patterns that keep repeating. You might think that breaking up with someone will fix the problems only to get into a new relationship with the same issues. I’ve totally been there. It’s confusing and super annoying. But understanding your attachment style can help you create new strategies to relate to people confidently and honestly. Trust me you’re not broken. I’m this episode I talk about the patterns behind the fearful avoidant. They have a huge fear of betrayal and often struggle with an internal or external feeling of chaos. Their go to emotion is anger and can use that to set boundaries from a reactionary place. 
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On this week’s episode I break down how to hack your life if you’re feeling lonely or going through a breakup. Let’s be real, breakups suck and loneliness can really consume your life. But there are some easy ways to trick your brain into getting your core needs met so you feel like you’re still receiving the benefits of a romantic partner or relationship. The amazing thing with this work is that your meeting your needs on your own. These hacks will also help you heal from a breakup faster. Tune in to start feeling better!
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Resources Discussed:
In My Non-Expert Opinion podcast episode with Sarah Cohan: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-205-repeating-old-patterns-with-new-partners/id1309417352?i=1000625236346

On today’s episode I talk about my issues with the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller. I should start by saying I do think there are some positives about this book. But when I first opened it years ago I was very triggered by it and it took me a while to pick it back up. I share about why the book was triggering to me and some of its big misses. I believe its written quite well for one specific attachment style and leaves out the others. Listen today to learn more about why this popular book might not be the best attachment literature for you.
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