ManTalks Podcast Connor Beaton

Talking points: mindset, death, change

Alright, you’re past 30. Assuming you’re past the usual advice you get from all the corners of the internet, what’s next? 

Because all the “you need to make more money, you need to get to the gym, you need to wake up earlier” stuff is fine—don’t get me wrong—but it's also entry-level work. Listen in for the harder stuff.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the first thing: regret
(00:03:10) - Don’t make your future self suffer because of who you’re being now
(00:06:06) - Death is right around the corner
(00:10:52) - Your unwillingness to find or create your definition of freedom is a kind of death, too

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Talking points: grief, loss, relationships, masculinity, anger

I met David at a psychotherapy symposium a while back, and it wasn’t long before we were sharing some of the things we’ve grieved. He just has that calm yet strong presence. He’s also, of course, an absolute expert therapist. We dig into everything loss in this episode; how the 5 stages actually work, what death does both for and to us, and much, much more. This is absolutely an episode to share with someone you feel could use it.

(00:00:00) - Intro, do men and women grieve differently, and the toll of not grieving
(00:06:34) - Why unprocessed grief manifests as anger, anxiety, and more
(00:11:10) - What brought David into grief work, the five stages, and where people get stuck
(00:24:43) - On the loss of David’s son
(00:32:12) - Does grief reshape identity, and the different ways of moving through it
(00:35:50) - How to move through grief, and discerning when to “live again”
(00:42:51) - David’s take on death denial, living currently, and how death challenges our assumptions
(00:50:43) - The sixth stage of grief, and the nuances of meaning after loss

David Kessler is one of the world’s foremost experts on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even after life’s tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He co-authored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.
David’s personal experience as a child witnessing a mass shooting while his mother was dying in a hospital helped him begin his journey. For most of his life, David has taught physicians, nurses, counselors, police, and first responders about the end of life, trauma, and grief. He facilitates talks, workshops and retreats for those experiencing grief. However, despite his vast knowledge on grief, his life was turned upside down by the sudden death of his twenty-one-year-old son. It inspired him to write his newest book, Finding Meaning.
David’s volunteer work includes being an LAPD Specialist Reserve for traumatic events as well as having served on the Red Cross’s disaster services team. He worked for over a decade in a three-hospital system, and was even trained for bio-terrorism events and epidemics/pandemics. 

Connect with David
-Website: https://grief.com/
-Book: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief: https://grief.com/sixth-stage-of-grief/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamdavidkessler/
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamDavidKessler/
-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/davidkesslerongrief

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: self-worth, mindset

This is a wildly simple fact, but so easy to miss. Self-esteem is built along the way, not something you find at the end of the work. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and real reason your self-esteem takes a hit
(00:03:14) - The secret hope
(00:07:16) - It’s that simple, and that hard

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
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Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
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Talking points: stuckness, energy, trauma

Back in May, this anonymous guest came to me trying to solve what’s blocking him from making important decisions and taking action. We uncovered a traumatic event that started this, but that’s just the start of the process. Here are the next steps in understanding and healing this man’s trauma and helping him move forward.

Strongly encourage you to check out part 1 here: https://link.chtbl.com/VaiRj0Oy

(00:00:00) - Intro and catchup: the feeling of stuck-ness
(00:12:00) - What punishment is stuck-ness protecting you from?
(00:20:17) - Learning that feelings and energy can be moved
(00:32:28) - An assignment for my guest to help him move forward

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: routines, mindset

I’m serious when I say this changed my life—and that’s coming from someone that hated mornings in general. It took a long time to turn into a habit, but it was absolutely worth it. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and first step: actually get out of bed. Early. Here’s how to make it easier
(00:05:57) - Drink a LOT of water right when you get up, and get the double S: stretch and sunlight
(00:08:38) - Breathwork, and then 1 of 2 different workouts
(00:11:20) - Face the cold, and journal (recommended: stream of consciousness journaling)
(00:14:46) - The final and most important piece: connection

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
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Talking points: PTSD, trauma, intimacy, relationships

It's hard sometimes to know where to begin when it comes to traumatic experiences. Even harder when they're PTSD-level, or secretly impact your relationships/intimacy/work life. Which is exactly why I'm grateful folks like Dr. Frank, who live at the intersection of cutting-edge research, lived experience, and calm strength.

We dive right into WHY these things happen and how they're stored in the body and mind, offering practical advice throughout. Strongly recommend you listen to this one!

(00:00:00) - What can neurobiology teach us about PTSD?
(00:06:20) - What are the symptoms of PTSD, and why disassociation, derealization, and depersonalization happen
(00:16:31) - Where do you even begin getting a handle on PTSD?
(00:23:13) - How Dr. Frank works with men on shame, whether they’re the shamer or the shamed
(00:32:29) - How trauma impacts sex and intimacy
(00:45:44) - Where men should start exploring their sexual potency
(00:51:14) - The event that started it all for Dr. Frank

Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma, recently released memoir, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation, and the coauthor of Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on the treatment of trauma and dissociation, he’s passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with Internal Family Systems (IFS). Dr. Anderson is the co-founder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with Bessel van der Kolk and the Trauma Research Foundation. Dr. Anderson maintains a private practice in Harvard, MA, where he lives with his husband and two sons.

Connect with Frank
-Website: https://www.frankandersonmd.com/
-NEW Book: To Be Loved: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Loved-Story-Trauma-
Transformation/dp/1962305112
-Trauma Institute Website: https://www.traumainstitute.com/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/frank_andersonmd/
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mdfrankanderson
-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/FrankAndersonMD

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google 
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