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The ManTalks podcast features conversations between one of the leading men’s work facilitators and philosopher, Connor Beaton, and world class guests with expertise in mindset, life purpose, psychology, relational communication, sexual intimacy, business and spirituality. For more information about ManTalks go to: http://www.mantalks.com

ManTalks Podcast Connor Beaton

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The ManTalks podcast features conversations between one of the leading men’s work facilitators and philosopher, Connor Beaton, and world class guests with expertise in mindset, life purpose, psychology, relational communication, sexual intimacy, business and spirituality. For more information about ManTalks go to: http://www.mantalks.com

    Do These 3 Things To Improve Relational Conflict

    Do These 3 Things To Improve Relational Conflict

    Talking points: relationships, conflict

    Key word there? Improve. There will always be some form of butting heads, no matter the relationship, no matter how long. But it doesn't have to be something that creates wreckage. It can actually be helpful. Here's what to do.

    (00:00:00) - Intro
    (00:02:27)- The first three minutes, and why conflict CAN be productive
    (00:04:57) - Know the role you tend to play
    (00:05:47) - Breathe and ground, breathe and ground
    (00:07:20) - Don’t get stuck in the objective reality and ignore the subjective experience of each other
    (00:11:33) - After a year, most couples already pretty set-in ways of arguing, aka this is gonna take practice
    (00:12:42) - Study (and I mean study) the first three minutes of conflict

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    • 13 min
    Dr. Linnea Passaler - The Best Way To Heal A Dysregulated Nervous System

    Dr. Linnea Passaler - The Best Way To Heal A Dysregulated Nervous System

    Talking points: biology, nervous system, burnout, mindset, anger

    I've said a number of times on the show that people with regulated nervous systems are going to be extremely well-equipped for the coming days. To that end, I wanted to bring dysregulation expert Dr. Linnea on to show how important—and how possible—it is be grounded, regulated, and flexible in our responses to life. If you're chronically stressed, THIS is the episode to listen to.

    (00:00:00) - Intro
    (00:03:56)- Why is learning about nervous system dysregulation so important?
    (00:11:09) - What the ultimate core function of the nervous system really is
    (00:21:08) - The intelligence of anger
    (00:25:30) - How Dr. Linnea helps people identify and move through their anger
    (00:33:32) - How much are nervous system issues derived from our parents?
    (00:37:20) - On children, boundary testing, and how a little bit of adversity is actually beneficial
    (00:43:35) - What’s more important: developing sensitivity to your current nervous system or understanding
    (00:53:01) - The Alertness Elevator model
    (00:59:23) - A five-stage plan to reverse nervous system dysregulation
    (01:08:30) - The restoration, connection, and expansion stages

    Dr. Linnea Passaler is a multifaceted health professional whose life and career have been driven by a passion for learning and her desire to assist others. With a degree in oral medicine from the renowned Universitá degli Studi in Milan, she interned at HSR Research- Ospedale San Raffaele – an advanced molecular biology facility located there. This experience kindled her interest and enthusiasm for research and immunology specifically. Through her journey and research, Dr. Linnea was able to recognize the effects of nervous system dysregulation on the sensitive person and how it contributes to conditions like anxiety, burnout, and physical and emotional symptoms. This realization drove her to found ‘Heal Your Nervous System,’ a platform that offers tools and resources to help individuals worldwide understand the root cause of anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, and physical and emotional symptoms

    Connect with Dr. Linnea
    -Website: https://healyournervoussystem.com/
    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healyournervoussystem
    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healyournervoussystem
    -Book: Heal Your Nervous System: https://amzn.to/3SN3HcC

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    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

    • 1 hr 15 min
    A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment

    A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment

    Talking points: attachment, mindset, relationships, psychology

    The last “A Man’s Guide” was a big hit. I had a feeling it would be, but the response still surprised me! Next up, a serious breakdown of avoidant attachment. Here's the definition, where it comes from, the signs, and tips for moving away from it in a relationship.

    This is a great episode to listen to with your partner. Take notes, discuss, and see what comes up! Lastly, thank you to everyone who reached out with comments, questions, ideas, and gratitude. I love doing these longer-form presentations; it means I get to nerd out and really lay things down.

    (00:00:00) - Intro
    (00:03:56)- Defining secure attachment versus avoidant
    (00:06:51) - Attachment styles don’t mean you’re broken or diseased in some way
    (00:08:20) - What an avoidant attachment style ultimately is, where it comes from, and one major type many men embody
    (00:15:12) - One major origin point of avoidant attachment: emotional distance or unavailability
    (00:23:59) - Another major origin point: premature independence
    (00:26:44) - And the third: rejection of attachment
    (00:29:27) - Last one: inconsistent responses and emotional stability
    (00:33:49) - Signs of avoidant attachment in your relationship
    (00:40:39) - What to do if you’re with an avoidant partner
    (00:50:43) - What to do if YOU are the avoidant partner!

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    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

    • 1 hr 5 min
    Rob Henderson - Building Resiliency From A Troubled Childhood

    Rob Henderson - Building Resiliency From A Troubled Childhood

    Talking points: childhood, trauma, foster care, relationships

    We all know that poverty can have a massive impact on a child's future well-being, sense of self, attachment style, and more. Foster children face equally (if not more) significant challenges. Rob Henderson, author of the incredibly powerful book, "Troubled", explains some of what happens. Team, I strongly recommend this one if you're interested at all in childhood trauma, how attachment develops, the apparent demonization of young men, absent fathers, and of course, Rob's book. Seriously could NOT stop reading it.

    (00:00:00) - Intro
    (00:06:54)- How Rob approached writing such a profound book—and why
    (00:14:27) - What’s the foster-care system like in America?
    (00:23:01) - How does the foster-care system shape a child’s perspective on relationships?
    (00:36:01) - How Rob found a sense of belonging
    (00:39:23) - How did Rob repair or build relationships with men?
    (00:46:06) - Rob’s take on how absent fathers impact children
    (00:51:33) - On “Young Male Syndrome” and the limits of attachment
    (01:03:40) - How do dating apps impact attachment, and how Rob worked on healing his own attachment style

    Rob Henderson grew up in foster homes across California, and is a writer on human nature, psychology, social class, TV shows, movies, political and social divisions, and more. He's perhaps most known for pioneering the concept of "luxury beliefs," a term he coined to describe a new way of understanding the American status system. After working as a busboy, a dishwasher, and supermarket bagger, he joined the Air Force at the age of 17, stationed mostly in Europe and deployed in the Middle East.
    Once described as “self-made” by the New York Times, Henderson obtained a B.S. in Psychology from Yale (thanks to the G.I. Bill) and a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Cambridge (St. Catharine’s College), where I studied as a Gates Cambridge Scholar. He is a founding faculty fellow at UATX and a columnist at The Free Press, and have written for the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Boston Globe, among other outlets.

    Connect with Rob
    -Substack: https://www.robkhenderson.com/
    -Twitter: https://twitter.com/robkhenderson
    -Book: Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Troubled/Rob-Henderson/9781982168537
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    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

    • 1 hr 12 min
    Steps For Ending Self-Sabotage

    Steps For Ending Self-Sabotage

    Talking points: mindset, sabotage

    It's not easy, I know. We all do it, and we all wonder why. But there's a way forward—and it's simpler than you think, my friends. Listen in.

    (00:00:00) - Intro
    (00:03:12)- What people do immediately after sabotaging, why it’s NOT effective, and what to do instead
    (00:06:12) - Practical steps to move beyond self-sabotage
    (00:10:49) - If there’s one thing to take away from this

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    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

    • 12 min
    Henry Shukman - A Path To True Mindfulness

    Henry Shukman - A Path To True Mindfulness

    Talking points: zen, meditation, mindfulness, psychedelics, mindset

    I'm one of those people who hated sitting down and meditating, even after a few years of trying to practice. It's now something I do nearly every day, and it grounds me in ways I can't explain. This is a pretty common story, especially among men I've worked with, so I brought Henry Shukman back on the show to dig into what novice meditators get wrong, what some good starter methods are, and really: what IS thought, anyway?

    Listen in for a great look at the start and "end" goal of mindfulness, and Henry's infectious enthusiasm for this powerful practice.

    (00:00:00) - Intro
    (00:03:47)- Do men and women have different struggles with meditation?
    (00:08:35) - Why do meditation and mindfulness draw more women than men?
    (00:18:45) - What are the initial resistance points when people start a meditation practice?
    (00:25:03) - What IS thinking?
    (00:31:57) - But what’s the actual goal of mindfulness, and how do you get there?
    (00:38:56) - The power of allowing, and what it actually means
    (00:49:29) - What is “original nature”?
    (00:56:16) - Do psychedelics offer the same glimpse into reality as meditation does?
    (01:04:24) - Henry’s upcoming app

    Henry Shukman is a mindfulness teacher and the spiritual Director of Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has been trained by several Zen teachers, particularly the roshis Joan Rieck, John Gaynor, Ruben Habito, and Yamada Ryoun Roshi, as well as by teachers and mentors in other traditions. Henry has an MA from Cambridge and an MLitt from St. Andrews, and has written several award-winning books of poetry and fiction.
    He currently guides a wide range of students from all walks of life. He received dharma transmission (inka shomei) from Yamada Ryoun Roshi, the abbot of Sanbo Zen, and is a Zen Master of the Sanbo Zen lineage of Kamakura, Japan.

    Connect with Henry
    -Upcoming app: The Way: https://www.thewayapp.com/
    -Website; Mountain Cloud Zen Center: https://www.mountaincloud.org/
    -Website; Original Love Meditation: https://originallove.org/
    -Book; One Blade Of Grass: https://bit.ly/3CFLuFz
    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mountaincloudzencenter/

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    Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend
    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

    • 1 hr 12 min

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412 Ratings

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Fantastic podcast, not just for men!

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I am a female, married to a male & this podcast has helped me better understand my husband and men in general. A lot of his information and authenticity has helped us grow and work through conflict in our marriage. Thank you for being a positive light for so many people!

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