Mindset with Muscle Jay Alderton

I today’s episode, I’m excited to share 39 important lessons I’ve learned over my 39 years. We’ll dive into tips on how to be happier, grow personally, keep up good relationships, and find success.

What You’ll Learn:


Living in the Moment: I’ll talk about why it’s great to enjoy what’s happening right now and not always worry about what’s next.
Valuing People: How important it is to care for the relationships in your life because they really make a difference.
Always Growing: I encourage everyone to keep learning and growing every day. It never stops!
Setting High Goals: Why it’s good to aim high and keep pushing yourself.
Making a Difference: I’ll share why it’s important to leave a positive mark on the people around you.
Handling Social Media: We’ll discuss how to use social media wisely so it doesn’t take over your life or make you unhappy.
Being Real: I’ll talk about the importance of being yourself, especially for your family and kids.
Taking Care of Your Health: How looking after your health is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
Asking for Help: It’s okay to ask for help when you need it, and I’ll tell you why that’s a strong thing to do.
Working Hard: How facing challenges and working hard can really help you grow.
Enjoying the Ride: Lastly, I remind you to have fun with what you’re doing and not just focus on the end goal.

In this insightful episode, I sit down with Lisa McFarlane, one of the UK and Ireland's top relationship coaches, to discuss the significance of personal transformation in the context of relationships.

They talk deeply about the concept of being a whole person in a relationship, the breakdown and breakthrough cycle, and the need for common sense in navigating relationships.

Key Insights:


Becoming a Whole Person: Lisa shares her journey into relationship coaching and emphasises the importance of being a whole person. She discusses the need for individuals to work on themselves before entering or improving their relationships.
Breakdown and Breakthrough Cycle: We explore the concept of the breakdown and breakthrough cycle, where conflicts or challenges in a relationship can lead to growth and transformation if approached with the right mindset.
Common Sense in Relationships: Lisa stresses the importance of applying common sense principles in relationships, such as effective communication, understanding each other's needs, and resolving conflicts healthily.
Codependency and Self-Care: The discussion touches on the dynamics of codependency and the importance of filling one's own cup before being able to show up in a relationship fully.
Communication and Conflict Resolution: Lisa and Jay address the challenges of compartmentalisation and the need for emotional connection and understanding in relationships. They emphasise the significance of communication, sulking, and healthy conflict resolution.
Advice for Dating Later in Life: Lisa provides valuable advice for individuals re-entering the dating scene later in life, highlighting the importance of self-love and finding a partner who has also done the work on themselves.



Chapters

00:00 The Journey into Relationship Coaching and Personal Transformation

03:38 Being a Whole Person in a Relationship

10:38 Understanding Codependency and Filling Your Own Cup

22:26 Navigating Conflict and Avoiding Sulking

27:41 Striving for Healthy Conflict Resolution and Emotional Connection

29:35 Love Languages and Self-Affirmation

34:48 Sweating the Small Stuff and Prioritizing the Little Things

41:03 Love, Trust, and Giving Someone the Power to Destroy You

44:05 Investing Time and Quality in Your Relationship

48:20 Daily Signals of Love and Care

52:25 Dating Advice for Individuals Re-entering the Dating Scene

57:29 Conclusion

In this episode, Phil Graham and Jay Alderton discuss the challenges and opportunities in the fitness industry.

They share their experiences building successful fitness businesses and provide valuable insights and lessons for fitness professionals.

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In this episode, I’m speaking to Stephanie Harrison

Stephanie is an expert in the science of happiness and the creator of the New Happy philosophy. She has a master’s degree in positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania,

Her company, The New Happy, has revolutionized the way that people understand and pursue happiness using Their artwork, newsletter, videos, podcast, and resources which reach millions of people around the world every month. 

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Takeaways


Society has conditioned us to pursue the wrong things for happiness, such as success, material possessions, and external validation.


True happiness comes from intrinsic motivation and being true to oneself.


Capitalism, individualism, and dominance influence our beliefs about happiness and lead us astray.


The pursuit of extrinsic goals often leaves us feeling empty, while finding intrinsic joy in our pursuits brings fulfillment.


We are enough and deserving of happiness just as we are. Recognize your worthiness and separate it from external achievements.


Ask for help and embrace the power of connection.


Be mindful of the impact of social media on happiness and prioritize in-person connection.


Start the journey to new happy by understanding your authentic self and taking small steps towards pursuing passions and serving others.



Chapters

00:00 The Pursuit of Happiness

02:59 The Wrong Path to Happiness

05:59 The Influence of Capitalism, Individualism, and Dominance

08:58 Transitioning to a New Way of Thinking

11:54 The Difference Between Happiness and Success

15:56 Intrinsic Motivation vs Extrinsic Motivation

25:08 Recognizing Worthiness

27:11 The Paradox of Self-Worth and Goal Pursuit

29:04 The Power of Asking for Help

32:42 The Importance of Connection

35:23 The Impact of Social Media on Happiness

40:27 The Power of In-Person Connection

43:21 Starting the Journey to New Happy

In this special episode, I sit down with 7x Mr Olympia Phil Heath to explore the depths of achieving greatness, the pivotal role of mindset and discipline, and take an exclusive look at his new documentary, "Breaking Olympia."

To watch Phil's Brand New "Breaking Olympia" Documentary, Click Here



Show Highlights:


Phil Heath on Overcoming the Fear of Success: Discover why the real challenge isn't always achieving success, but the fear of maintaining it. Phil shares his insights on navigating the mental hurdles that come with greatness.


The Power of Discipline: From his transformative experience in Basketball to the disciplined approach required in Bodybuilding, Phil reflects on how discipline has been a cornerstone of his success.


Training for Greatness: Learn about the dynamic nature of training for Mr. Olympia, the importance of continuous self-improvement, and how competition fuels growth.


Inside "Breaking Olympia": Phil Heath gives us a behind-the-scenes look at his documentary, sharing the emotional rollercoaster of reliving his journey and the gratification of documenting his legacy.



Key Takeaways:


Success requires not just achieving goals but maintaining an unwavering mindset to preserve them.
Discipline shapes character and is essential for personal and professional growth.
Embracing challenges and competition is crucial for surpassing limits and achieving excellence.
"Breaking Olympia" is not just a documentary but a testament to Phil Heath's journey. It showcases the highs and lows of his path to becoming a bodybuilding legend.

Closing Thoughts: Phil Heath's story powerfully reminds us that mindset and discipline are the bedrock of success.

Whether you're chasing your own version of Olympia or seeking to overcome personal barriers, Phil's journey offers valuable lessons and inspiration for all.

In this episode, I share an incredible podcast I recorded last year with Mark and Curtis Tilbury on the Strike it Big Podcast.

We talk about how to get the "perfect" body, Relationships and how to build confidence.

Enjoy!