241 episodes

Welcome to Parenting Impossible, the podcast dedicated to empowering and supporting the disability community. Hosted by Annette Hines, this podcast was born out of a mission to combat the scattered and sometimes inaccurate information that parents and caregivers of disabled adult children often face.In each episode, we delve into the pressing questions and concerns that weigh on the minds of the entire special needs community including those with autism, intellectual disabilities, physical disabilities, mental health issues and more. From navigating the complexities of special needs trusts and planning for the future to addressing the fundamental question of "How will my child be okay when I cannot do this anymore?"—we leave no stone unturned.Attorney Annette Hines is a special needs mom, author of the best-selling book Butterflies and Second Chances, national expert speaker, writer and contributor to publications, and founder of the Special Needs Law Group based In Massachusetts. She shares personal insights and her guests (parents, siblings, and experts and sometimes parents who are experts!) discuss many issues facing the special needs community including raising children with different abilities, transitioning into adulthood, sibling challenges and how to effectively navigate the complex systems in our world. We're not just here to talk; we're here to make a difference.In a society where the disabled and their caregivers are often devalued, Parenting Impossible stands as a beacon of advocacy and support dedicated to giving compassionate advice for all stages of life. Join us as we tackle the challenges, break down barriers, and strive to create a more informed and compassionate world for the disability community. Because when it comes to parenting in the face of impossibility, you're not alone—we're here with you.

Parenting Impossible – The Special Needs Survival Podcast Annette Hines

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.8 • 44 Ratings

Welcome to Parenting Impossible, the podcast dedicated to empowering and supporting the disability community. Hosted by Annette Hines, this podcast was born out of a mission to combat the scattered and sometimes inaccurate information that parents and caregivers of disabled adult children often face.In each episode, we delve into the pressing questions and concerns that weigh on the minds of the entire special needs community including those with autism, intellectual disabilities, physical disabilities, mental health issues and more. From navigating the complexities of special needs trusts and planning for the future to addressing the fundamental question of "How will my child be okay when I cannot do this anymore?"—we leave no stone unturned.Attorney Annette Hines is a special needs mom, author of the best-selling book Butterflies and Second Chances, national expert speaker, writer and contributor to publications, and founder of the Special Needs Law Group based In Massachusetts. She shares personal insights and her guests (parents, siblings, and experts and sometimes parents who are experts!) discuss many issues facing the special needs community including raising children with different abilities, transitioning into adulthood, sibling challenges and how to effectively navigate the complex systems in our world. We're not just here to talk; we're here to make a difference.In a society where the disabled and their caregivers are often devalued, Parenting Impossible stands as a beacon of advocacy and support dedicated to giving compassionate advice for all stages of life. Join us as we tackle the challenges, break down barriers, and strive to create a more informed and compassionate world for the disability community. Because when it comes to parenting in the face of impossibility, you're not alone—we're here with you.

    240: Empower the Next Generation: The Person-Centered Approach | Christina Gravina CEO & Founder of BILT

    240: Empower the Next Generation: The Person-Centered Approach | Christina Gravina CEO & Founder of BILT

    Imagine navigating a system where your needs are ignored due to your age. This is the reality for many adults with autism facing age discrimination. The fight against this injustice hinges on advocacy, personalization, and accessibility. Advocating for legislative changes ensures equality and fairness.
    In this episode, host Annette Hines talks with Christina Gravina CEO & Founder of BILT (Bridging Independent Living Together, Inc.). Annette and Christina address age discrimination in autism services, highlighting the challenges adults face when denied support due to age. Christina advocates for legal changes and emphasizes personalized, goal-oriented services over the one-size-fits-all model. Her organization, BILT, offers one-on-one support, therapeutic mentoring, skill-building, and community integration, with options for private pay and insurance. They’ve also opened a center with small group classes and a high staff-to-client ratio, allowing clients to choose activities they enjoy. Christina stresses starting small, gathering feedback, and overcoming funding challenges to create effective programs for people with disabilities.
     
    In this episode, you will hear:
    Why you should advocate for legislative changes to address age discrimination in autism services.
    How to provide individualized services tailored to the unique goals and interests of disabled individuals.
    What payment options, such as private pay, school district funding, DDS payments, and insurance, can make services more accessible.
    Ways to create meaningful programs for individuals with disabilities.


    Resources from this Episode:
    Website: www.biltne.org
    Facebook, Instagram, & LinkedIn: biltinc
     
    Engage with us:
    Join our community: Circle of Care
    Visit:  https://annettehines.com
    Read Butterflies and Second Chances
    LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc 
    Instagram: @parentingimpossible
    Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies
    Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo
     
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    • 27 min
    239: Overcoming the Invisible Challenges of Disability

    239: Overcoming the Invisible Challenges of Disability

    Talking about the challenges of disability can be tough and delicate. For those living with disabilities and their caregivers, every day brings unique hurdles that demand patience, creativity, and resilience. It’s crucial to focus on person-centered planning and get creative to make sure disabled individuals have the support they need to thrive.
    In this episode, I get into the real challenges of disability and how crucial informed decision-making and proactive planning are for parents and caregivers. From my own experiences, I think it’s important to recognize our mistakes, stay resilient, and come up with creative solutions ourselves. I also share why having a solid disability or life plan matters, covering things like agency meetings, housing, financial support, and transitioning to adulthood. Effective communication, adaptability, and a supportive community are key to advocating for your loved ones. Let's keep supporting each other, staying resilient, and making informed decisions to ensure a brighter future for our kids and those we care for.
     
    In this episode, you will hear:
    Why it is important to create a disability or life plan for loved ones with disabilities.
    How being creative can help navigate challenges for parents and caregivers of disabled individuals.
    Why it is crucial to recognize mistakes and adjust plans when supporting individuals with disabilities.
    What role effective communication plays in advocating for individuals with disabilities.
    Why it is important to prioritize person-centered planning for individuals with disabilities.


    Engage with us:
    Join our community: Circle of Care
    Visit:  https://annettehines.com
    Read Butterflies and Second Chances
    LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc 
    Instagram: @parentingimpossible
    Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies
    Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo
     
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    • 45 min
    238: Empowering Individuals with Disabilities in Sexuality Education | Katherine McLaughlin

    238: Empowering Individuals with Disabilities in Sexuality Education | Katherine McLaughlin

    Sexuality education is a crucial aspect of personal development, but it often overlooks those with disabilities. These individuals deserve access to information that empowers them to make informed decisions about their bodies and relationships. Empowerment through education can be a shield against abuse and exploitation.
     
    In this episode, Annette Hines dives into a crucial conversation with Katherine McLaughlin, CEO and Lead Trainer at Elevatus Training. They tackle the challenging yet essential topic of discussing sexuality, especially for parents of children with disabilities. Katherine introduces her comprehensive 22-lesson curriculum designed to support these vital conversations, emphasizing the importance of teaching bodily autonomy, consent, and decision-making to prevent abuse and promote healthy relationships. Annette and Katherine explore how inclusive training programs must evolve to reflect the fluidity of modern sexuality, embracing diverse perspectives on gender and sexual orientation. Join us for this engaging and eye-opening discussion that aims to foster a more inclusive and supportive society.
     
    In this episode, you will hear:
    Why it is important to teach individuals with disabilities about bodily autonomy and consent
    How empowering individuals with disabilities in decision-making processes helps them navigate risk
    What topics parents should focus on when discussing challenging issues like sexuality with their children
    Why it is crucial for training programs to address the diversity of gender identities and sexual orientations
    How integrating sexuality education into communities can lead to healthier relationships and overall well-being


    Resources from this Episode:
    Website: https://www.elevatustraining.com/
    LinkedIn: @katherine-mclaughlin
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elevatustraining
     
     
    Engage with us:
    Join our community: Circle of Care
    Visit:  https://annettehines.com
    Read Butterflies and Second Chances
    LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc 
    Instagram: @parentingimpossible
    Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies
    Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo
     
    Follow and Review:
    We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.
     

    • 35 min
    237: Disability & Divorce: Planning for a Secure Future | Circle of Care

    237: Disability & Divorce: Planning for a Secure Future | Circle of Care

    How do you navigate the stormy waters of divorce when adult children with disabilities are involved? It's a tough situation that needs careful planning and thought to make sure everyone in the family is okay.
     
    In this episode, Annette Hines provides insights into the challenges faced by divorcing parents of adult children with disabilities, emphasizing the need for clear communication and effective guardianship. She advises keeping the adult child out of the divorce process and separating their welfare discussions from other divorce issues. Hines also highlights the importance of estate planning, recommending neutral third-party trustees, and including life insurance policies in divorce agreements for ongoing financial support. Additionally, she explains the legal steps needed to direct child support payments into a trust, protecting public benefits like SSI and Medicaid.
     
    In this episode, you will hear:
    Why effective communication is crucial in co-guardianships
    How life insurance policies can be utilized in divorce agreements to support dependents
    The benefits of involving a neutral third party in managing special needs trust
    Why adult children with disabilities should be kept out of the divorce process
    How child support payments can be directed into a trust to protect public benefits like SSI and Medicaid


    Engage with us:
    Join our community: Circle of Care
    Visit:  https://annettehines.com
    Read Butterflies and Second Chances
    LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc 
    Instagram: @parentingimpossible
    Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies
    Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo
     
    Follow and Review:
    We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    • 35 min
    236: Preserving Family Legacies | Angela Todd, Archivist, Historian, Activist

    236: Preserving Family Legacies | Angela Todd, Archivist, Historian, Activist

    Preserving family history is like capturing a piece of time in a bottle. It allows us to pass down memories, stories, and experiences to future generations. Whether it's old photographs, letters, or even recipes, archiving family history is a meaningful way to honor our past and ensure that it lives on for years to come.
     
    In this episode, host Annette Hines talks with Angela Todd, a family history buff who’s passionate about preserving memories, inspired by her journey with her daughters, Elizabeth and Caroline, who faced some tough times in the NICU. She’s all about capturing those family moments but is not a fan of modern scrapbooking because it doesn't last. Instead, Angela suggests going digital with photos and carefully organizing the originals so that family stories stay intact and easy to access. Through her teaching program, she helps women document their kids' lives, making sure to include everyday moments and the stories of people often left out, like those with special needs, to build complete and inclusive family archives.
     
    In this episode, you will hear:
    The role of archivists in preserving historical documents.
    Why it is important to include diverse voices and materials in archives.
    The challenges of traditional scrapbooking and how digitization helps in preserving family legacies
    Why it is essential to document the stories and experiences of individuals with special needs.
    Where family archives can be donated for preservation.


    Resources from this Episode:
    Angela Todd: https://angelaltodd.com/
    Contact: a.todd17@yahoo.com
    LinkedIn: @angelaleightodd
     
    Engage with us:
    Join our community: Circle of Care
    Visit:  https://annettehines.com
    Read Butterflies and Second Chances
    LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc 
    Instagram: @parentingimpossible
    Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies
    Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo
     
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    We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.
     

    • 37 min
    235: Decoding Social Security: Navigating the Latest Updates

    235: Decoding Social Security: Navigating the Latest Updates

    Are you missing out on your social security benefits? Social Security updates may not be the most riveting topic, but they’re a lifeline for those who depend on these benefits. Whether you’re already receiving Social Security or planning for the future, keeping up with the latest changes can make navigating the system a whole lot smoother.
     
    In this episode, host Annette Hines delves into the intricacies of the recent updates to Social Security benefits, specifically focusing on In-Kind Support and Maintenance (ISM) and overpayments. She expresses concerns about the impact of ISM on Social Security recipients, particularly those on SSI. Annette argues that including shelter costs in ISM calculations perpetuates poverty among recipients, making it especially difficult for them to secure housing in high-cost areas. She also underscores the importance of addressing the shelter component of ISM to reduce financial strain, and she highlights the need to streamline the overpayment recovery process to mitigate the burden on beneficiaries.
     
    In this episode, you will hear:
    How to understand the asset limits for Social Security benefits to ensure eligibility and compliance with regulations
    Why it is important to learn about Substantial Gainful Activity (SGA) and its implications for individuals with disabilities receiving benefits.
    How to utilize Impairment-Related Work Expenses (IRWE) to reduce income for the trial work period and maintain benefits
    What to consider about subsidization from employers to prevent disabled workers from exceeding substantial gainful activity levels.
    How to stay informed about recent changes to Social Security benefits and overpayment recovery rates to manage repayment demands.


    Engage with us:
    Join our community: Circle of Care
    Visit:  https://annettehines.com
    Read Butterflies and Second Chances
    LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc 
    Instagram: @parentingimpossible
    Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies
    Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo
     
    Follow and Review:
    We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.
     

    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
44 Ratings

44 Ratings

Pinkie💕Lee ,

Yes!

I’m a new listener and loved it! I was looking for SSI information and found it and then some! Going through a special needs parenting journey can feel so isolating—all our peer parent groups are NOT juggling the same things. Feeling like there are people out there doing the same thing and forging the pathways is the best!

Leaning into Love ,

A wealth of knowledge!

Annette does a fantastic job breaking down the hard things that come with caring for a child with special needs, from how to advocate to how to seek help and so much more. Highly, highly recommend!

Sue’s Strategies ,

Vital info!!

I learned valuable information from these podcasts. Thanks for so generously sharing your vast knowledge.

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