Parenting Impossible – The Special Needs Survival Podcast

Annette Hines
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Parenting Impossible – The Special Needs Survival Podcast

Welcome to Parenting Impossible, the podcast dedicated to empowering and supporting the disability community. Hosted by Annette Hines, this podcast was born out of a mission to combat the scattered and sometimes inaccurate information that parents and caregivers of disabled adult children often face.In each episode, we delve into the pressing questions and concerns that weigh on the minds of the entire special needs community including those with autism, intellectual disabilities, physical disabilities, mental health issues and more. From navigating the complexities of special needs trusts and planning for the future to addressing the fundamental question of "How will my child be okay when I cannot do this anymore?"—we leave no stone unturned.Attorney Annette Hines is a special needs mom, author of the best-selling book Butterflies and Second Chances, national expert speaker, writer and contributor to publications, and founder of the Special Needs Law Group based In Massachusetts. She shares personal insights and her guests (parents, siblings, and experts and sometimes parents who are experts!) discuss many issues facing the special needs community including raising children with different abilities, transitioning into adulthood, sibling challenges and how to effectively navigate the complex systems in our world. We're not just here to talk; we're here to make a difference.In a society where the disabled and their caregivers are often devalued, Parenting Impossible stands as a beacon of advocacy and support dedicated to giving compassionate advice for all stages of life. Join us as we tackle the challenges, break down barriers, and strive to create a more informed and compassionate world for the disability community. Because when it comes to parenting in the face of impossibility, you're not alone—we're here with you.

  1. 1 HR. AGO

    A Guide to Trustee Selection & Protectors

    Special needs trusts are an essential tool for families who want to ensure the long-term financial security of their loved ones with disabilities. However, I know firsthand how overwhelming and confusing navigating the world of trusts can be. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, I break down the essentials of special needs trusts in an accessible way. I share practical tips for choosing the right trustee and explain their responsibilities. Trustee’s are important—not just in managing the trust, but in making sure the beneficiary continues to receive the care and services they need. My goal is to simplify what often feels like a daunting process, stressing that choosing the right trustee, maintaining open communication, and making informed decisions are key to supporting the well-being and future of those we love. In this episode, you will hear: An overview of the responsibilities of a trustee. How special needs trustees differ from regular trustees. What factors should be considered when selecting a trustee. How trust distributions affect public benefits eligibility.   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    26 min

  2. NOV 14

    257: Why Caregiving Moms Deserve Community & Care ​​| Jessica Patay, Author, Founder, & Executive Director at We Are Brave Together

    Being a caregiver can be tough and sometimes lonely. For caregiving moms, having a sense of community and connection is essential. Whether it's sharing tips on managing hectic schedules or simply lending an empathetic ear, having a supportive network of fellow moms can make all the difference in navigating the challenges of motherhood. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines sits down with Jessica Patay, founder of We Are Brave Together. Inspired by her journey as a special needs mom, Jessica established the nonprofit in 2017 to create a safe, judgment-free space where caregiving moms can connect and support one another, addressing the exhaustion and isolation they often face. In this conversation, Jessica discusses the power of building supportive communities for those navigating the unique challenges of raising children with special needs, as explored in her anthology, Becoming Brave Together. Jessica reminds us that no mother should face their caregiving journey alone. In this episode, you will hear: How caregivers can prioritize their mental health effectively. Why community is essential for supporting caregiving moms. What makes building connections so vital in the world of caregiving. How advocacy for caregivers and raising awareness about their struggles help combat stigma. Resources from this Episode: Website: https://www.wearebravetogether.org/ Listen to the Brave Together Parenting Podcast Read Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories from Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight LinkedIn: @jessica-patay Instagram, Facebook, & YouTube: @wearebravetogether Twitter/X: @wearebravemoms Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    38 min
  3. 256: How to Support Children in Times of Crisis | Celia Landman, Author, Nonviolent Communication Trainer, Mindfulness Educator & Counselor

    NOV 7

    256: How to Support Children in Times of Crisis | Celia Landman, Author, Nonviolent Communication Trainer, Mindfulness Educator & Counselor

    Parents often carry a heavy weight of shame and self-blame when their children face tough times. It's natural for them to feel responsible, but it's important to remember that not everything is within a parent’s control. By staying present and connecting with themselves, parents can let go of the burden of shame and find a more positive, hopeful way forward. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines sits down with Celia Landman, a mindfulness educator and author of When the Whole World Tips: Parenting through Crisis with Mindfulness and Balance. They share an honest and heartfelt conversation about the real struggles of parenting during a crisis and how mindfulness and meditation can truly make a difference. Celia opens up about how parents can reconnect with their true selves and face difficult times without carrying the extra weight of blame or shame. By recognizing societal pressures, allowing themselves to feel a range of emotions, and offering compassionate support to one another, parents can find the grace and resilience they need to keep moving forward. This episode is a reminder that even in the toughest moments, there is hope and community. Parenting through a crisis is never easy, but it’s a journey no one has to take alone.    In this episode, you will hear: Explore the key differences between mindfulness and meditation. How mindfulness and meditation can benefit healing and self-awareness. How societal pressures fuel feelings of shame and blame. Why being present in someone’s pain is powerful. Resources from this Episode: Website: https://celialandman.com/ LinkedIn: @celia-landman-232185149 Instagram: @celiasacct Facebook: @celia.landman Read: When the Whole World Tips: Parenting through Crisis with Mindfulness and Balance   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    36 min

  4. OCT 31

    255: All About Trustees: Navigating the Ins & Outs of Special Needs Trust Administration

    Understanding the administration of special needs trusts can make a world of difference for people with disabilities, providing them with financial stability and peace of mind. These trusts—like third-party and first-party trusts—come with specific rules that trustees must follow to ensure the beneficiary can keep accessing essential public benefits. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, I talk about the importance of building a solid relationship between trustees and beneficiaries. Understanding the basics of trust administration is valuable for everyone—not just those currently acting as trustees. I also stress how crucial it is to use clear, precise language and to accurately identify beneficiaries in trust documents. These details are essential to ensuring that beneficiaries keep access to the public resources they rely on. If you’re ready to take control of your trust administration knowledge and make a lasting impact, register for my Special Needs Advocacy and Planning Masterclass. This provides the tools and guidance you need to create a comprehensive life plan with confidence. In this episode, you will hear: Learn the difference between third-party and first-party special needs trusts. What factors trustees should consider when making distribution decisions within special needs trusts. What responsibilities trustees have when managing special needs trusts. How trustees can protect the beneficiary's public benefits within special needs trusts. Why it is essential for trustees to consult with professionals and understand tax implications. Resources from this Episode: Register for the Special Needs Advocacy and Planning Masterclass   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    59 min
  5. 254: Prioritizing Mental Well-being in the Modern Era | Lauren Perna, Writer, Speaker, & Advocate

    OCT 24

    254: Prioritizing Mental Well-being in the Modern Era | Lauren Perna, Writer, Speaker, & Advocate

    For longtime listeners, it’s clear this podcast covers a wide range of topics—from family discussions about kids to conversations on adult disabilities. This conversation focuses on the challenges of balancing health and work while living with a chronic illness. Practices like meditation, journaling, and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) are powerful tools for managing mental health, offering ways to create a more stable and fulfilling life despite these ongoing challenges. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines talks with Lauren Perna, leader of the Boston chapter of the Chronic Boss Collective, dedicated to supporting businesswomen and entrepreneurs managing chronic conditions. With a corporate background and personal experience with mental health struggles, Lauren understands the challenges of balancing ambition and well-being. She’s built a community where entrepreneurship and mental health go hand in hand, promoting self-awareness and the importance of self-care. Lauren also advocates for workplace cultures that prioritize both mental and physical health.   In this episode, you will hear: What tools to use for managing mental health Why it is important to create custom work arrangements Why re-evaluating workplace cultures is important How to balance being an ambitious entrepreneur while dealing with chronic conditions Resources from this Episode: Website: https://www.laurenperna.com/ LinkedIn: @laurenelizabethperna Instagram & Facebook: @laurenpernacomms   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    41 min
  6. 253: Finding Balance: The Dance of Advocacy & Parenting | Joanne De Simone, Author & Advocate

    OCT 17

    253: Finding Balance: The Dance of Advocacy & Parenting | Joanne De Simone, Author & Advocate

    Parenting is a rewarding journey filled with love, laughter, and joy. However, it also comes with its fair share of challenges. From sleepless nights to tantrums in the grocery store, every parent faces obstacles along the way. But what happens when those challenges are compounded by raising a child with disabilities? In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines speaks with Joanne De Simone, a special education advocate, and author of “Fall and Recovery: Raising Children with Disabilities through Lessons Learned in Dance”, about the challenges of raising a child with disabilities and navigating the healthcare and education systems. Joanne, a former professional dancer turned advocate, shares her journey and the importance of building community support for parents facing similar struggles. She also discusses her role in securing a legislative change that allowed her son, Sebastian, to participate in NCAA D3 intercollegiate sports, a huge win in her commitment to inclusivity. True change for children with disabilities comes through relentless advocacy, collective support, and the belief that every challenge can be met with hope and resilience.   In this episode, you will hear: Common challenges parents face when raising a child with disabilities How parents can advocate for inclusive environments in the education system Why community support is important for parents of children with disabilities How can embracing hope and possibility lead to personal growth Resources from this Episode: Website: https://special-educationmom.com/  Read: “Fall and Recovery: Raising Children with Disabilities through Lessons Learned in Dance” Facebook: @special-educationmom Twitter/X, Instagram: @jojdesimone LinkedIn: @joanne-de-simone   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    37 min
  7. 252:Empowering Parents with Practical Tips for Raising Deaf Kids | Alaine Jacobs, Founder & Advocate

    OCT 10

    252:Empowering Parents with Practical Tips for Raising Deaf Kids | Alaine Jacobs, Founder & Advocate

    Parenting a child with hearing loss comes with its own unique challenges and families may find themselves grappling with isolation and communication barriers. In these moments, community support and shared knowledge can make a world of difference. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines welcomes Alaine Jacobs, a passionate advocate for the deaf community. Drawing from her personal experience as a parent, Alaine guides and supports others facing similar challenges. With a background in education, she helps families navigate both medical and educational systems, offering practical advice through her website, RaisingDeafKids.com, and her “Raising Deaf Kids” podcast. During the conversation, she addresses the ongoing debate within the deaf community about hearing loss, emphasizing that many view it not as a disability but as a normal variation of human experience. Alaine encourages respect for diverse opinions and choices, urging parents to connect with local and online communities to empower themselves in making informed decisions that best suit their family’s needs.   In this episode, you will hear: Learn about key resources for parents of children with hearing loss. Discover the divisions in the hearing loss community regarding cochlear implants The importance of early diagnosis and intervention for hearing loss. How to create a personalized communication plan for children with hearing loss. Why parents of children with hearing loss need to connect with local and online communities for support and information. Resources from this Episode: Website: http://raisingdeafkids.com/ Listen to the Raising Deaf Kids Podcast Facebook: @raisingdeafkids   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    41 min
  8. 251: Breath by Breath: How We Do It | Jessica Fein, Author, Podcast Host, & Speaker

    OCT 3

    251: Breath by Breath: How We Do It | Jessica Fein, Author, Podcast Host, & Speaker

    The journey of caring for a child with disabilities is a tumultuous emotional ride. There are highs celebrating achievements and lows during setbacks. It's important to recognize those feelings and find healthy ways to cope along the way. In this episode of Parenting Impossible, Annette Hines chats with Jessica Fein, author of Breath Taking: A Memoir of Family, Dreams, and Broken Genes and host of the I Don't Know How You Do It podcast. Jessica opens up about her journey parenting a child with MERRF syndrome, an ultra-rare degenerative disease, and emphasizes the importance of visibility for acceptance and inclusion. Instead of focusing solely on challenges, she stresses the need to highlight the unique strengths of children with disabilities, which fosters a more inclusive society. Annette and Jessica also discuss how vital it is to have a supportive community, as raising a child with disabilities truly takes a village.   In this episode, you will hear: How writing can help parents cope with emotional challenges. Ways to find beauty and joy amidst grief and sorrow. Why advocating for awareness and inclusion is important for children with disabilities. How a strong support system can benefit parents of children with disabilities. Resources from this Episode: Website: https://www.jessicafeinstories.com/  Read Breath Taking: A Memoir of Family, Dreams, and Broken Genes Listen to I Don't Know How You Do It Facebook:@jessica.fein.92  Instagram:  @feinjessica  LinkedIn:@jessica-fein   Engage with us: Join our community: Circle of Care Visit:  https://annettehines.com Read Butterflies and Second Chances LinkedIn: @annette-hines-snc  Instagram: @parentingimpossible Facebook: @SpecialNeedsCompanies Twitter: @SpecialNeedsCo   Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.

    36 min
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Welcome to Parenting Impossible, the podcast dedicated to empowering and supporting the disability community. Hosted by Annette Hines, this podcast was born out of a mission to combat the scattered and sometimes inaccurate information that parents and caregivers of disabled adult children often face.In each episode, we delve into the pressing questions and concerns that weigh on the minds of the entire special needs community including those with autism, intellectual disabilities, physical disabilities, mental health issues and more. From navigating the complexities of special needs trusts and planning for the future to addressing the fundamental question of "How will my child be okay when I cannot do this anymore?"—we leave no stone unturned.Attorney Annette Hines is a special needs mom, author of the best-selling book Butterflies and Second Chances, national expert speaker, writer and contributor to publications, and founder of the Special Needs Law Group based In Massachusetts. She shares personal insights and her guests (parents, siblings, and experts and sometimes parents who are experts!) discuss many issues facing the special needs community including raising children with different abilities, transitioning into adulthood, sibling challenges and how to effectively navigate the complex systems in our world. We're not just here to talk; we're here to make a difference.In a society where the disabled and their caregivers are often devalued, Parenting Impossible stands as a beacon of advocacy and support dedicated to giving compassionate advice for all stages of life. Join us as we tackle the challenges, break down barriers, and strive to create a more informed and compassionate world for the disability community. Because when it comes to parenting in the face of impossibility, you're not alone—we're here with you.

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