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Here’s what happens when people stop using filters, and start getting real. Each week, your host Lauren will be interviewing different influential people from around the internet and asking them about how they manage their relationship with social media. The conversations are candid and unedited. You’ll hear from bloggers, influencers, actresses, singers, directors, podcasters, entrepreneurs and more. No one has it all figured out. These conversations with cure your FOMO and encourage you to confidently pursue your own dreams, whatever they may be.

Perfcked Podcast Lauren Ellman

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 28 Ratings

Here’s what happens when people stop using filters, and start getting real. Each week, your host Lauren will be interviewing different influential people from around the internet and asking them about how they manage their relationship with social media. The conversations are candid and unedited. You’ll hear from bloggers, influencers, actresses, singers, directors, podcasters, entrepreneurs and more. No one has it all figured out. These conversations with cure your FOMO and encourage you to confidently pursue your own dreams, whatever they may be.

    Author, Lauren Ellman, Reads Chapter 1 of New Book BRB: A Memoir About Coming of Age in the Digital Age

    Author, Lauren Ellman, Reads Chapter 1 of New Book BRB: A Memoir About Coming of Age in the Digital Age

    We are back with season 5 of the Perfcked Podcast! And for the first episode back, your host Lauren is reading you chapter 1 from her new book, BRB: A Memoir About Coming of Age in the Digital Age. This book is the story of Lauren growing up as a millennial with the advent of social media and how these technologies have fundamentally impacted our generation's mental health and adult lives. Here's what people are saying about the book:

    “Some of us have, what I like to call, Anxiety with a capital A, where we have an actual diagnosis and clinical disorder. But I think that most people are dealing with anxiety with a lower case a. The daily anxiety of life. Lauren offers such an apt description of that anxiety. We’re all comparing ourselves to the highlight reel on social media, and I really appreciate how Lauren reminds us to recognize the difference between real life and online life.” -Kristen Howerton, author of Rage Against the Minivan and co-host of the Selfie Podcast

    “Adored this book and found it to really be so relatable. It was a great read during a week when my relationship with social media felt rocky. Ellman is a fantastic writer who fills the book with advice and stories that make you feel like you’ve known her for a lifetime. Highly recommend!” – Jen Glantz, author of All Of My Friends Are Engaged, Always A Bridesmaid (For Hire), and Finally The Bride

    “BRB is a nostalgic and hard hitting truth punch to the gut. It will open your eyes to the way growing up holding hands with the internet and social media has influenced who you are, and what’s even more beautiful, it will inspire you to break that all down and start anew. A fresh and important memoir every millennial must read.” – International Bestselling Author Kandi Steiner

    The book is available NOW to preorder, releasing May 25. If you preorder before the 25th you get access to the entire audiobook for FREE. Just forward confirmation to brbpreorder@gmail.com and receive access to the audiobook, narrated by Lauren herself. You can listen to the entire book while you wait for your physical copy to arrive! And if you'd like a personalized and signed copy, you can order from Lauren's local, Miami independent bookstore Books and Books and include the personalization in the order comments! 

    All the details and links to purchase can be found at laurenellman.com.

    Enjoy chapter 1 or BRB: A Memoir About Coming of Age in the Digital Age by Lauren Ellman. 




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    • 21 min
    If You Don't Take Your Work Seriously, No One Else Will, with Jules Montgomery

    If You Don't Take Your Work Seriously, No One Else Will, with Jules Montgomery

    Have you ever been curious about how these social media algorithms work? Or maybe you're a content creator and just wish you could crack the code to get your content to go viral. Today's guest has the insight you need. She's giving us a peek behind the screens and she's spilling her secrets about the ways of the interwebs. 

    Today on the show we are chatting with Jules Montgomery, a digital creator who is now teaching others how to understand the algorithms and get their content where it needs to be. She offers such a keen insight into the social media machine and how it all works.

    Sometimes creating online content can feel like screaming into a void, but Jules assures us that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. You're not going to want to miss this one! And if you know anyone else who could benefit from this conversation, please make sure to share this episode with them. 

    PS: This is the final episode of season 4. We'll be taking a brief hiatus during the month of April and season 5 will be launching Friday, May 7! Make sure to connect on social media so we can keep hanging out during the break. Links down below!

    TALKING POINTS:

    + Its ok (and normal) for plans to change

    + Social media can be fun

    + No one is immune to the comparison game

    + Setting boundaries with social media is key

    + You're worth taking yourself seriously 

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    CONNECT WITH JULES:

    Instagram

    0-10K Social Media Crash Course

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    CONNECT WITH LAUREN:

    + Instagram

    + Newsletter

    + Tik Tok

    + PerfckedPodcast.com

    + Facebook

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    • 36 min
    The Endless Comedy of Online Dating Profiles, with Amelia Samson

    The Endless Comedy of Online Dating Profiles, with Amelia Samson

    We've all been through that horrible break up that rips our life apart. So many of us are made to feel like we aren't allowed to take the grieving process after that break up seriously. Today's guest took it upon herself to change up that narrative. Amelia Samson is an actress, podcast host and online content creator. After a particularly difficult breakup, Amelia decided to start recording daily video diaries to document the healing and growth that comes on the other side. Her videos struck a chord with a lot of people and she has since garnered an large following online.

    She shares candidly, both online and in her podcast the Hoely Hour, about her escapades through the online dating world. She even shares screen shots of things men are actually saying on their online dating profiles that you literally have to see to believe. Some are so outrageous, she's been able to turn them into merch! This exposé offers an invitation to a bigger conversation that we all need to be having about the dating environment being cultivated for young people. There is definitely room for improvement. 

    On today's episode, Amelia shares with us about her relationships, her work and her mental health journey. Tune in to hear how she turned her experience going viral on Tik Tok into an opportunity to cultivate community. Links to connect with Amelia can be found below. 

    TALKING POINTS: 

    + Grieving after a breakup

    + Cultivating community

    + Becoming comfortable with our bodies and sexuality

    + Online dating during a global pandemic

    + Finding our identity outside of a long-term relationship

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    CONNECT WITH AMELIA:

    Instagram 

    The Hoely Hour Podcast

    FB Group

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    CONNECT WITH LAUREN:

    + Instagram

    + Newsletter 

    + Tik Tok

    + PerfckedPodcast.com

    + Facebook

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    • 1 hr 8 min
    Perfectionism Doesn't Deserve Praise, with Ashleigh Renard, author of Swing

    Perfectionism Doesn't Deserve Praise, with Ashleigh Renard, author of Swing

    Do you ever feel like you deserve a medal for "doing it all"? Well, you don't. But I'll let today's guest explain why. On today's episode, we are meeting Ashleigh Renard, retired competitive figure skating coach and author of Swing: A Memoir of Doing It All. Tune in to hear how she rehabbed a shabby marriage and wrote a book about it. 

    In our conversation, you'll hear Ashleigh unravel the story a lot of us have adopted that perfectionism deserves praise. As Ashleigh puts it, "perfectionism is the only addiction we envy". This is especially true for women, even truer for mothers, and even truer, still, for mothers consuming content online. We believe we need to "do it all". We lower the bar for others while raising it for ourselves. If its easy, we are failing. And then, when we inevitably feel burnt out and unhappy, we feel immense shame for not being grateful for our lovely looking lives. This only leaves us feeling more isolated and lonely as we keep trying to make everything appear perfect. 

    Well, eventually the perfect bubble bursts. Problems we avoid always come to surface. Anger and resentment shoot out sideways. And something's gotta give! In listening to Ashleigh's story, you'll figure out what that something is. 

    TALKING POINTS:

    + Doing it all doesn't equate to having it all

    + Unpacking the "martyrmom" complex 

    + Perfectionism is cause for intervention, not praise

    + Learning to give ourselves the love we deserve

    + Doing things we judge/envy others for

    + Dismantling the cultural conditioning around gender

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    CONNECT WITH ASHLEIGH:

    Website

    Instagram

    Pre-order her book and get a FREE audiobook

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    + Instagram

    + Tik Tok

    + PerfckedPodcast.com

    + Facebook

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    • 1 hr 22 min
    Normalizing Not Having A Plan with Adrienne Neufeld

    Normalizing Not Having A Plan with Adrienne Neufeld

    Do you ever see an influencer on Instagram and think "OMG their life is so picture perfect, my life will never look like that". Yeah, me too. Well, our guest today decided to joke about those picture perfect squares to reveal the ultimate truth we all forget: it's mostly an act. What we see online is a fraction of the whole picture, and Adrienne took it upon herself to make hilarious videos impersonating our favorite Instagram influencers to help us all stop taking these filtered newsfeeds (and ourselves) so seriously. 

    Adrienne is a stay at home mom who creates online content with the intention of making people laugh. She wants to combat the FOMO and show the lighter side of social media. And she's doing a damn good job at that! In our conversation today, you'll hear about Adrienne's backstory and how many different times she had to quit before landing where she was meant to land. I'm so grateful for what she shared with us because conversations like this normalize not having a plan. It's normal to try things and quit when we don't want to do them anymore. It's normal to not have a set direction (most people don't). It's normal to want to be a stay at home mom. It's normal to eventually want a life outside of motherhood. 

    I hope you leave today's conversation with the insight that you don't need a specific goal to work toward in order to feel worthy. You are worthy right now, wherever you are, whatever you're doing or not doing. Let our goal be this: to be open to opportunities. Invite them into our lives and be willing to accept them when they arrive. And in the meantime, let's keep our eyes open for those moments of lightness and fun that spring up around us every day. 

    TALKING POINTS:

    + Quitting isn't failing

    + The only direction any of us have is forward

    + Laziness is a construct

    + Life requires trial and error

    + SAHMs need to drop the shame 

    + Influencers show a fraction of their lives online

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    CONNECT WITH ADRIENNE:

    Instagram 

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    CONNECT WITH LAUREN:

    + Instagram

    + Tik Tok

    + PerfckedPodcast.com

    + Facebook

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    • 58 min
    Why Your Success Milestones Are B******t, with Jen Glantz

    Why Your Success Milestones Are B******t, with Jen Glantz

    The one, the only, THE Jen Glantz. Headline-making CEO, author, podcaster, speaker, determinista & the sidekick who always brings a good story + a sizzling slice of pizza 🍕 

    The concept for the Perfcked Podcast came from a conversation I had with Jen years ago. I had been admiring her work and wishing I could be her and she sat me down and told me the truth. She said, "Lauren, you have to remember that every single person you see that is 'suddenly successful' has years of trying and failing and redirections and heartaches and triumphs that you will never see or know about". And that's exactly why I started this show. To create a space for those stories to be told. And Jen does it better than anyone I know. She's candid and honest and as real as it gets! 

    When I first started pitching guests for season 1, almost two years ago now, Jen's was the first email I sent. It is such an honor to share this episode with you and introduce you to one of my favorite people. Go ahead and click all of those links below now, because you're going to want to follow her all over the internet once you're done with this episode! 

    TALKING POINTS:

    + Why failing is a necessary part of any success story

    + Remembering that everyone has backstory you don't see online

    + The beauty of talking to strangers

    + Making authenticity a daily practice

    + Feeling the fear and doing it anyway

    + Most benchmarks and milestones are b******t

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    CONNECT WITH JEN:

    + Instagram

    + JenGlantz.com

    + Finally The Bride Book

    + Any Younger Podcast

    + Any Younger FB Group

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    CONNECT WITH LAUREN:

    + Instagram

    + Tik Tok

    + PerfckedPodcast.com

    + Facebook

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    • 1 hr 26 min

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