Power to the Pleasers Vicki Smith

Do you struggle with your relationships as a people pleaser? Maybe you’re constantly seeking reassurance from your partner. 
 
Today, Kariah Phillips joins me to talk about how you can ease your relationships in your relationships. Kariah Phillips is a Clinical Social Worker in the South Sound Region of Washington State.  She is a graduate of the School of Social Work at Columbia University and has worked as a therapist since 2007. Kariah’s work focuses on improving relationships by helping individuals manage anxiety.  She currently teaches virtual classes about relationship skills and has monthly relationship classes to teach the skills that are taught in therapy. 
 
Join me and Kariah in this episode to learn how to manage your relationship anxiety and create healthy boundaries.   
 
Also Discussed in this Episode: 
 
How seeking reassurance creates the opposite of building self worth 8:04
Using your voice to make sure the relationship stays intact 15:01
The importance of boundaries in relationships 31:58

Links:
 
Kariah Phillips IG  - @thegoodlifeinstitute
Work with Kariah:www.forlivingthegoodlife.com

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Can you be kinder to yourself? 
 
This week on the podcast I’m talking about the third kryptonite for people pleasers and perfectionists: Kindness, both receiving it from others and showing kindness to yourself. I’m also sharing a mindfulness meditation exercise that’s helped me silence my inner critic and show more kindness to myself. 
 
Listen to this episode to learn more about why self-compassion can be hard for you if you’re a people pleaser and how you can move past your inner critic. 
 
Also Discussed in this Episode: 
 
Why self-compassion is so hard for us people pleasers 4:55
Learning your inner critic 12:24
Easing the pain of being hurt 14:41

Links:

http://vickibsmith.com/coaching/
 
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This week, we’re talking about another kryptonite for people pleasers and perfectionists: disappointment. 
 
In this episode, I’m talking about disappointment and the sub feelings that contribute to it which may help you understand why it makes you so uncomfortable. I’m also going over the specific feelings that arise when you're in the midst of disappointment so you can identify it and not be scared of feeling it. 
 
Join me today to learn more about your feelings around disappointment and some strategies that will help you move through it.  
 
Also Discussed in this Episode: 
 
Perfectionism and how it ties in with disappointment 2:50
Not taking responsibility for other people’s feelings 6:47
Identifying your feelings around disappointment 16:12 

Links:

http://vickibsmith.com/coaching/
 
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If you’re a people pleaser, chances are anger isn’t your favorite emotion. 
 
Today on the podcast, I’m diving deeper into the emotion of anger and breaking down some of the reasons why you might have such an aversion to anger.
 
Join me in this episode to learn more about your reaction to anger and how you can befriend your inner anger. 
 
Also Discussed in this Episode: 
 
Why do people pleasers have a hard time with anger? 3:00
How you can make sense of your expression of anger  5:15
Why guilt is such a big trip up for people pleasers 15:40

Links:

http://vickibsmith.com/coaching/
 
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Today, I'm talking about relationships again and focusing on how you can find your unique way of caring for those close to you as a people pleaser, instead of being everything to everyone. 
 
Join me in this episode to learn how you can move past your fear of conflict and find your special way of showing others you care so relationships can stop feeling like work.
 
Also Discussed in this Episode: 
 
Fear of conflict 4:00
Finding your unique way of caring 5:49
Just because you want to help doesn't mean you can 12:26

Links:

http://vickibsmith.com/coaching/
 
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If you’re a perfectionist and a people pleaser you likely have high standards for yourself, which cause you to push yourself too hard and get exhausted.  
 
Today, I’m focusing on how high standards are directly tied to perfectionism. I’m also sharing some tips on how you can give yourself more grace and kindness as a people pleaser. 
 
Listen to this episode to learn how you can show yourself forgiveness and set the intention to be kind to yourself.
 
Also Discussed in this Episode: 
 
Why we lean toward achievement and productivity 4:45
How comparison is a trap for perfectionists 15:06
Your job as a perfectionist 21:12
How to deal with the perfectionist in you 23:53
Unloading the weight of what’s stressing you out 27:40

Links:

http://vickibsmith.com/coaching/
 
Schedule an interest call to see if we are a good fit!
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Email community link!https://view.flodesk.com/pages/630cd23ac861f3e7c8c8177b
 
Connect with Vicki by following on Instagram: 
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