18 episodes

This podcast is for men and women who struggle with a sex addiction, yet don't feel ready to talk about it or seek treatment. I hope you feel encouraged and inspired to join the anonymous community over at www.saspeakeasy.com where people can learn to share their story in safety, and get their questions answered by real sex addiction therapists.

SA speakeasy Roy Kim

    • Health & Fitness

This podcast is for men and women who struggle with a sex addiction, yet don't feel ready to talk about it or seek treatment. I hope you feel encouraged and inspired to join the anonymous community over at www.saspeakeasy.com where people can learn to share their story in safety, and get their questions answered by real sex addiction therapists.

    Ep. 18 Sex Addiction the Intimacy Disorder

    Ep. 18 Sex Addiction the Intimacy Disorder

    Chris Williams and I discuss the essential yet often frightening topic of intimacy. Some of the questions we cover:
    What are the pros and cons of allowing someone to know all of me? Would you rather be admired, or loved? What effect does social media have on intimacy? What is a surefire way to increase intimacy? How well does the church handle true intimacy? Do pastors struggle with sex addiction? What does Andy Crouch mean when he defines vulnerability as meaningful risk? Learn more about Chris' counseling services at www.renovaricounseling.com 
    Learn more about Roy at www.newlegacycounseling.com 

    • 35 min
    Ep. 17 Most Sex Addicts Believe These 4 Things

    Ep. 17 Most Sex Addicts Believe These 4 Things

    Whether they realize it or not, at the core of nearly every sex addict are 4 fundamental beliefs:
    I am a bad person, unworthy of love No one will accept me if they really knew me I cannot count on others to meet my needs My most important need is sex Keaton Kleiner and I discuss these 4 beliefs and how these beliefs shape the course of a sex addict's life. 
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    • 28 min
    Ep. 16 Sex Offenders

    Ep. 16 Sex Offenders

    Do you know the difference between a sex addict and a sex offender? Sometimes they are one and the same. Other times they are not. My guest on this episode is Charla Thorstad, a sex offender specialist, and she will help shed light on the very important topic of sex offense.
    *Note: The website www.saspeakeasy.com will phase out and its contents will be subsumed under www.newlegacycounseling.com.

    • 38 min
    Ep. 15 What If I'm Not An Addict Per Se?

    Ep. 15 What If I'm Not An Addict Per Se?

    Some people have full blown porn and sex addictions. Without proper treatment, they will likely live a life laden with shame and destruction. But what about the other people who don't quite qualify for an addiction? What if their behaviors are "merely problematic?"
    I discuss this issue with Heather Seguin of Clear Choice Counseling, who specializes in sex addiction treatment, as well as helping the partners of sex addicts. 
    Key talking points:
    Do people need treatment if they "only" have problematic behavior? If so, what does that treatment look like? The difficulty of getting out of isolation if we never learned social skills The importance of finding a specialist in therapy is similar to finding a specialist in the medical field. www.newlegacycounseling.com
    www.clearchoicecounseling.com 
    [Editor's note: Heather's office is now in Upland, CA]

    • 20 min
    Ep. 14 The Appeal and Tragedy of Sex and Drugs

    Ep. 14 The Appeal and Tragedy of Sex and Drugs

    What happens when we combine sex with substance use? Many report that the sexual experience is exponentially better than "normal" sex. It makes sense that once experiencing this combination, one would keep wanting to go back to it.
    Andy Park (LMFT and Certified Multiple Addiction Therapist) and I discuss the appeal and tragedy of combining sex and drugs. Some of the topics and questions we cover:
    Why do substance addicts tend to also have a sex addiction? How do drugs spoil sexual experiences in the future? How much do substance addicts connect with their partners while high? Mistaking intensity for intimacy The haunting question for addicts: Why do I do what I do? How to provide treatment for someone who is addicted to both What sobriety feels like for someone committed to treatment  

    • 22 min
    Ep. 13 How Much Does Sex Addiction Treatment Cost?

    Ep. 13 How Much Does Sex Addiction Treatment Cost?

    Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Tony Ramynke rejoins me to discuss the cost of sex addiction treatment. More importantly, we discuss the potential cost of NOT getting treatment. We also talk about the common occurrence of multiple factors underlying a sex addiction that need to be assessed and treated.
    Some of the questions we address in this episode:
    Why isn't sobriety the ultimate goal of sex addiction therapy? Can we be depressed and/or anxious and not know it? What's the connection between sexually acting out and depression/anxiety? What is the monetary value of living shame-free and lie-free? Of being able to see your kids everyday? Find Tony at www.yourtherapistanthony.com
    Find Roy at www.newlegacycounseling.com 

    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

D. Woodrow Wynder ,

Love this

I am so thankful for this podcast, it so often articulates thoughts and feelings I have. I hope more episodes keep coming.

Jar Jar in DB ,

Informative and compassionate

Roy synthesizes his training and expertises into bite-sized conversations with other specialists in this much needed field. He extends empathy to those who are hurting and ashamed, and describes various tools for recovery. This podcast is a valuable resource for silent sufferers and their partners!

philchung96 ,

HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!

Every episode provides new insights and challenges. Wonderful resource and service to the public! Thank you, Roy!

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