20 episodes

This podcast is for men and women who struggle with a sex addiction, yet don't feel ready to talk about it or seek treatment. I hope you feel encouraged and inspired by the episodes.

SA speakeasy Roy Kim

    • Sexuality
    • 5.0, 17 Ratings

This podcast is for men and women who struggle with a sex addiction, yet don't feel ready to talk about it or seek treatment. I hope you feel encouraged and inspired by the episodes.

    Ep. 20 Assistance If You Decide To Disclose

    Ep. 20 Assistance If You Decide To Disclose

    Perhaps you have decided to disclose to your partner (or your partner has given you an ultimatum) the whole truth about your secret behaviors, so that your partner knows everything and does not need to keep searching for answers. How do you go about doing it in the most healthy and helpful way possible?
    Thankfully, assistance is at hand. Dan Drake joins me to share about the enormously helpful resource that he and Janice Caudill created. It is a set of workbooks that guide a therapist and couple step by step through the Full Disclosure process. There is no one right way to do it, so the steps include options to consider so that every unique situation has a chance to adjust accordingly. 
    The primary book we discuss today is called Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal. It is a tremendous contribution to the sex addiction field. 
    Contact Dan: dan@banyantherapy.com
    or visit his website www.banyantherapy.com
    Contact Roy: roy@newlegacycounseling.com 
    or visit his website www.newlegacycounseling.com
     

    • 45 min
    Ep. 19 The COVID19 Edition

    Ep. 19 The COVID19 Edition

    Dan Drake, the founder and director of Banyan Therapy Group, joins me to talk about COVID19 and its impact on the recovery path of sexual addicts and their traumatized partners. 
    Contact Dan at dan@banyantherapy.com, and visit his website: www.banyantherapy.com
    Contact Roy at roy@newlegacycounseling.com and visit his website: www.newlegacycounseling.com
     

    • 41 min
    Ep. 18 Sex Addiction the Intimacy Disorder

    Ep. 18 Sex Addiction the Intimacy Disorder

    Chris Williams and I discuss the essential yet often frightening topic of intimacy. Some of the questions we cover:
    What are the pros and cons of allowing someone to know all of me? Would you rather be admired, or loved? What effect does social media have on intimacy? What is a surefire way to increase intimacy? How well does the church handle true intimacy? Do pastors struggle with sex addiction? What does Andy Crouch mean when he defines vulnerability as meaningful risk? Learn more about Chris' counseling services at www.renovaricounseling.com 
    Learn more about Roy at www.newlegacycounseling.com 

    • 35 min
    Ep. 17 Most Sex Addicts Believe These 4 Things

    Ep. 17 Most Sex Addicts Believe These 4 Things

    Whether they realize it or not, at the core of nearly every sex addict are 4 fundamental beliefs:
    I am a bad person, unworthy of love No one will accept me if they really knew me I cannot count on others to meet my needs My most important need is sex Keaton Kleiner and I discuss these 4 beliefs and how these beliefs shape the course of a sex addict's life. 
    http://www.citycarecounseling.org/our-counselors
    https://www.newlegacycounseling.com
     

    • 28 min
    Ep. 16 Sex Offenders

    Ep. 16 Sex Offenders

    Do you know the difference between a sex addict and a sex offender? Sometimes they are one and the same. Other times they are not. My guest on this episode is Charla Thorstad, a sex offender specialist, and she will help shed light on the very important topic of sex offense.
    *Note: The website www.saspeakeasy.com will phase out and its contents will be subsumed under www.newlegacycounseling.com.

    • 38 min
    Ep. 15 What If I'm Not An Addict Per Se?

    Ep. 15 What If I'm Not An Addict Per Se?

    Some people have full blown porn and sex addictions. Without proper treatment, they will likely live a life laden with shame and destruction. But what about the other people who don't quite qualify for an addiction? What if their behaviors are "merely problematic?"
    I discuss this issue with Heather Seguin of Clear Choice Counseling, who specializes in sex addiction treatment, as well as helping the partners of sex addicts. 
    Key talking points:
    Do people need treatment if they "only" have problematic behavior? If so, what does that treatment look like? The difficulty of getting out of isolation if we never learned social skills The importance of finding a specialist in therapy is similar to finding a specialist in the medical field. www.newlegacycounseling.com
    www.clearchoicecounseling.com 
    [Editor's note: Heather's office is now in Upland, CA]

    • 20 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
17 Ratings

17 Ratings

Ross Goodman ,

Amazing, honest, and helpful

By far the best podcast I’ve listened to on addiction! I hope for more episodes !

D. Woodrow Wynder ,

Love this

I am so thankful for this podcast, it so often articulates thoughts and feelings I have. I hope more episodes keep coming.

Jar Jar in DB ,

Informative and compassionate

Roy synthesizes his training and expertises into bite-sized conversations with other specialists in this much needed field. He extends empathy to those who are hurting and ashamed, and describes various tools for recovery. This podcast is a valuable resource for silent sufferers and their partners!

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