Hey, lovers! Welcome back to Sex, Love & Everything in Between with Jacob and Meg. In this episode, we’re joined by men’s work facilitator and teacher Ryan Moresby Wyatt for a deeply honest conversation about healing our wounded parts, becoming emotionally safe, and learning how to truly show up in relationship. Ryan shares why personal development can remain intellectual when childhood wounds are still running the show. We explore what it means to “heal the boy,” how relationships mirror our unresolved wounds, and why grieving what we didn’t receive as children can be essential to healing. We talk about brotherhood, why men need other men for support and accountability, and how community can help men stay connected to their purpose without losing themselves in partnership. This is a raw, vulnerable conversation about men, women, love, safety, boundaries, purpose, and the work it takes to become more fully yourself. Grab a coffee, settle in, and let's get into it. Enjoy the episode! [00:00:19] Meet Ryan Moresby Wyatt Ryan joins Jacob and Meg to discuss his work helping men heal through gentleness, safety, and deep inner work. [00:03:19] Why Men Need to Heal the Boy Why personal development isn't enough when childhood wounds remain underneath the surface. [00:05:51] When Your Partner Reveals Your Wounds How intimate relationships expose unresolved childhood patterns. [00:08:30] Grieving What You Didn't Receive Exploring perceived value, performing for love, and the grief underneath over-giving. [00:10:12] Becoming a Safe Man How meeting your own wounds impacts your partner, family, children, and community. [00:13:00] Purpose, Mission & Men's Work Why men can struggle to discover their purpose when they've never felt safe enough to ask what they truly want. [00:15:47] The Little Boy in Relationship How childhood emotional blueprints can become activated when we open our hearts. [00:17:03] You Can't Hold Her Until You Can Hold Yourself Learning to hold your own emotions while remaining present with your partner. [00:19:28] Losing Yourself in a Relationship How people can lose their identity, mission, and purpose by becoming overly intertwined with a partner. [00:22:21] The Nice Guy Pattern Jacob shares his experience of carrying everyone else's burdens and learning to develop a stronger sense of self. [00:24:26] Needing Her vs. Choosing Her Why being willing to lose a relationship creates the freedom to genuinely choose your partner. [00:25:49] When a Man Finds His Backbone Why boundaries and the ability to say no can actually create greater safety in a relationship. [00:27:39] The Sacrifice in Love The Me → You → We framework and why devotion to yourself can deepen devotion to your relationship. [00:29:53] The Pressure to Be the Perfect Masculine Man Ryan discusses masculine expectations and why he refuses to become the “father” a partner may unconsciously seek. [00:31:09] Trust Your Nervous System Why Ryan pays attention to how his nervous system feels around someone—not just whether they check the right boxes. [00:34:30] The Cost of Being the Nice Guy How avoiding someone's disappointment can prevent them from receiving the truth they need. [00:35:23] Choosing Yourself in the Hard Moments Jacob shares a turning point that came from choosing his own path and attending a men's retreat. [00:38:16] A Safe Man Isn't a Convenient Man Why emotional safety doesn't mean being agreeable or giving someone everything they want. [00:41:00] What Do Men Actually Need From Women? Ryan explores why men crave appreciation, acknowledgment, and being invited into their greatness. [00:45:30] Warm Milk vs. Constant Criticism Why men need both challenge and nourishment—and why constant criticism can shut down vulnerability. [00:48:58] The Real Sign of an Emotionally Safe Man Emotional safety isn't perfection; it's the willingness to go inward and take responsibility for your inner world. [00:50:27] Boundaries Are Self-Respect Why being the “container” doesn't mean taking responsibility for everyone else's emotions. [00:53:23] What Can a Woman Do If She Wants Her Man to Do the Work? Why invitation is often more powerful than forcing a man into personal development. [00:57:38] Why Men Need Men The importance of brotherhood, counsel, accountability, and trusted men who can provide an honest integrity check. [01:00:01] The Nervous System of Brotherhood How brotherhood can give men another foundation of safety and strength beyond their romantic relationship. [01:00:34] “SS Heal the Boy” A hilarious closing metaphor for becoming more resourced through brotherhood. Connect With Us Meg: @themegoneill Jacob: @thejacoboneill Loved this episode? Subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear this conversation.
