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If you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are passion and desire just doomed to fade over years together?” you’re not alone. But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast devoted to helping powerful women create deeply satisfying love & sex in committed long-term relationships. I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-four years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s reignite your spark!

Sex.Love.Power.: The intimacy podcast for powerful women & those who love them Michele Lisenbury Christensen

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 18 Ratings

If you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are passion and desire just doomed to fade over years together?” you’re not alone. But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast devoted to helping powerful women create deeply satisfying love & sex in committed long-term relationships. I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-four years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s reignite your spark!

    My Money, Our Money

    My Money, Our Money

    Money is a hot topic, especially in relationship to love and sex in long-term relationships. Money is energy, and it's power. How you handle money together shapes so much of the rest of your experience of your partnership and how you feel about yourself. So, today, I thought I'd dive into it in an episode about my money, our money, your money, and look at the relationship side and the erotic side of what happens with couples and money.
    As you listen to this episode, you'll hear learn:
    Managing money when you both have different approaches (spender or saver?)Diving into your “money memories” and what they may mean for you todayHow the meanings that you assign to money affect your relationship dynamicRecognizing both partners’ contributions to the relationshipNavigating an income differential in a way that is satisfying to you bothAnd more.  
      
    E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.


    “Money is like a mirror, it will reflect whatever we hold up to it.”
      - Michele Lisenbury Christensen 
    Hot Moments in This Episode:
    The money habit that’s a sex-crusher (8:20)How money conflicts can be the canary in the coal mine (9:42)Explaining what I mean by “financial infidelity” (13:25)The different money strategies I have heard from hundreds of people (17:56)
     I hope that whatever you choose to do together with money, do it consciously, communicate openly, explore the meaning that you've made up, and rewrite the meanings.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
    Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
    Money Harmony by Olivia Mellan and Sherry Christie
    YNAB (You Need a Budget)
    If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

    • 32 min
    Reviewing Your Year in Love and Sex

    Reviewing Your Year in Love and Sex

    I am a nerd for planning. I love to envision the future. I love to review the past. And New Year's time is totally a time when I want to look over the past year and see the themes and then set intentions for the new year with my husband. But pretty early in our relationship, I got the picture that Kurt was not a planner in the same way that I was. And perhaps you can relate. I find that in most couples, there's one person who's way more into this stuff than the other. And that's perfectly alright. I'm here to help both of you have a peaceful and joyful way of moving through a process of really capturing the gems from the past year, setting intentions for the coming year, and keeping your relationship on a really powerful trajectory. 
    As you listen to this episode, we’re talking about:
    The three most common questions I get about reviewing your year and setting intentionsWhy it’s worth it to review your year togetherHow to have a meaningful review of the year even if your partner is not really into planningIdentifying the themes of your past year togetherThe free live events I’ll be hosting to help you in your planning and review processAnd more.  


    E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.
    "Truly amazing relationships get stronger over time, instead of grinding each other down over time. They're intentional."

    -Michele Lisenbury Christensen


    Hot Moments in This Episode:
    How reviewing your yea is kindaaa like my fifth grade racquetball class (4:17)What do I mean by “relational amnesia”? (8:02)The myth about relationships I’ve seen affect thousands of couples (10:38)The annual exercise that I highly encourage all couples to do- even if you skip everything else (14:40) I wish you a blessed new year. I hope that each year of your life together is even better than the one before. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
    If you want to snag a copy of the Couples’ Guide, head over to couplesvision.com for your free download and details on how to RSVP for my live planning calls.

    • 18 min
    Are You the Visionary in Your Relationship?

    Are You the Visionary in Your Relationship?

    "If I'm such a visionary about relationship, and my partner doesn't think that way, isn't that a problem?" This is a question I have heard many times and one I asked myself in my relationship, too.  It’s a big responsibility and can feel like a burden. But what I have come to see is that I am someone who has been gifted with the opportunity to hold vision. So in this episode, I'm going to share with you what I've learned about being a visionary in love. I'm going to answer some of those key questions that visionaries often ask me, and I'm going to call you up, I'm going to invite you into courage and into action in the role of the visionary. 
    In this episode, we’ll discuss:
    What a visionary is and what our role is in our relationshipsWhy you don’t have to worry if you feel like you’re always two steps ahead of your partner in visioning your relationshipThe difference between “values” and “approach” and why it mattersRecognizing the higher desire partner in aspects of your relationshipHow to pursue your “too big” vision without resenting (or creating resentment from) your partnerAnd more.  
    “Being the visionary means that we take 100% responsibility for becoming and living from the qualities within ourselves that will bring about that vision.” 
    -Michele Lisenbury Christensen
    Get The Couples' Guide to Planning an Amazing New Year for free at CouplesVision.com

    Hot Moments in This Episode:
    What a therapist asked me in 2003 that changed my life (1:57)The two core questions that people often ask me when they're the visionary (8:49)Why you might have chosen a partner who isn’t as ambitious as you (11:29)Getting your partner on board with your vision (16:10)The free tool you can download now to create a vision for your life together (18:32) My wish for you is that you see yourself as that visionary, that change agent who is blessed with a vision that others might not yet see, but a vision that will serve you in the world very well, if you nourish yourself well enough to hold the vision and devote yourself to it with self love and perseverance. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

    Resources Mentioned in this episode:
    Heifer International

    If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

    • 21 min
    Hotter, More Loving Holidays

    Hotter, More Loving Holidays

    Every year for the holidays, you make it a priority to spend time with your extended family or focus on making magic for your kids, but your relationship becomes an afterthought. Over the last 24 years together, Kurt and I have really focused on this and learned a lot about how to make sure that our holidays are a magical time for us as a couple as well. Together, we outlined the seven paths to hotter, more loving holidays, so that you can create a holiday season that's more pleasurable, intimate, peaceful, and nourishing so that after the holiday, you feel energized and inspired and not depleted.
    As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:
    The questions that you and your partner can ask before each holiday to create a better experienceWays that you can indulge your senses to maximize pleasure and alivenessTaking the stress out of gift-giving Setting boundaries with loved ones that will protect your energyHow time alone together can keep you sane(r)And more.  
    “I invite you to look at where the pockets are where you might be able to create shared pleasure with your partner and keep yourself orgasm fueled so that you're at your best for the holiday.”
    -Michele Lisenbury Christensen

    Hot Moments in This Episode:
    My “blasphemous” tip for creating more aliveness during family trips (6:22)How to keep the eroticism alive when you’re staying in your childhood bedroom (8:41)Why I bought a cow for my friends and family (16:31)Coming up with a Plan B for when a family member acts out (19:35)
    I hope you will try out just one or two of these paths to a hotter more loving holiday. My wish is for you to fully experience a magical and sacred time of year that feeds your aliveness. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
    Heifer International
    If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and  my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.


    Full show notes & transcript are available at http://lisenbury.com/epsisode/043

    • 24 min
    Where Sex Gets Stuck

    Where Sex Gets Stuck

    In today's episode, we're gonna follow up our last conversation which was all about the core qualities that make a great lover in a long-term relationship with the other side of that same coin. There are four categories of obstacles to great passionate sex that just gets better for a lifetime. And the results I get with clients all trace back to my devotion to pinpointing and addressing these obstacles in a systematic way. Naturally, that all starts with knowing what those obstacles are in the first place. So that's why today we'll walk through the four obstacles to great passionate sex.


    As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:


    The four categories of obstacles that I see getting in the way of sex all. the. time.Questions you can ask yourself (or your partner) to assess your obstacles in these areasMy method for pinpointing the combination of obstacles and addressing themWho you are and what you do out in the world affects how you show up in bed.And more.  



    E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.




    “Enjoy your partner's body and your own and reveal your energy to them in a way that no one else gets to see.”


    -Michele Lisenbury Christensen



    Hot Moments in This Episode:
    What the acronym ASS means and how it keeps you stuck in a rut (4:34)
    Why it’s not necessarily problematic that you’re not having orgasms (11:18)
    What I’ve learned from teaching sex education to eighth graders (12:34)
    How your husband’s past experiences may come between you in bed



    I hope you find this episode makes you feel less alone if you’re quietly facing one of these obstacles. My wish is that it will encourage you to take the first step to make your sex life everything you want it to be.

    If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

    • 22 min
    Qualities of a Great Lover

    Qualities of a Great Lover

    Would you like to have the kind of sex that surprises you and makes your partner surprised by the emergence of that facet of you? The sort of lovemaking that keeps you both coming back for more? Sex that allows you to call up the energy at the end of the day when you're both tired, but you cannot resist the adventure because you have no idea where it will lead? This episode is for you! I will share four qualities of a great lover, and I’m sure if you apply at least one of the qualities, your relationship will never be the same.
    As you listen to this episode, you'll discover:
    How body fascination comes in handy in your sex lifeWhen you are aware of your identity, you become an irresistible loverBeing present for yourself and your partner is the best thing you do for your relationshipPlaying it safe and declining to reveal ourselves is the perfect recipe for boring sex The energy you bring to the relationship determines how good it gets
    Where do you feel this conversation in your body? My free conscious couples circle is the place to continue our conversation. You can share your experiences, ask questions and get more actionable ideas for creating the love and sex you deeply desire in ways that evolve you fully. 
    “Intimacy is both high sensation and high emotion. If you can't regulate yourself, when there's that much flowing through, it's kind of like if you can't swim in a fast flowing river. And you're going to get carried away by it.”
    -Michele Lisenbury Christensen



    Hot Moments in This Episode:
    To be a great lover, you need to get fascinated by your body and your partner’s body [04:54]Great lovers create a story of who they are [07:15]The essence of staying present in the right moments [14:34]How great energy brings life into lovemaking in a relationship.[17:50]
    I hope you find this episode excites you and inspires you to embrace your inner lover.
    If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you,  please subscribe so that you’ll always know when we have a new episode. Also, please leave us a review. It will help more people find this podcast and benefit from the conversations here.

    • 25 min

Customer Reviews

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18 Ratings

18 Ratings

Catalina Rex ,

Listen, share, repeat

Wish I had heard this years ago. Fantastic exploration of too little-charted terrain...

cindywhitesides ,

Brilliantly insightful

This podcast gives me new insights to chew on each week. A whole new way of thinking about sex, love, and power!

pcolagloria ,

Thought provoking without shame!

I love Michele!! For years, I’ve been following her journey and I cannot say enough good things about her and all that she has to say ... She has this amazing way of saying the tough stuff that creates amazing change without leaving a dust cloud of shame in the wake. Love her and this!! ❤️

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