Untethering Shame

Kyira Wackett
Untethering Shame

New episodes every Sunday! Shame is the fear of not being good enough or worthy of connection and belonging. This silent plague keeps us tethered to the performance, focused on external validation and approval versus internal rooting. It can disrupt every relationship, thought, and experience if left unchecked. And it's time we say enough. Join licensed mental health therapist, Kyira Wackett, in the quest to build insight and take meaningful and intentional actions as we untether ourselves from shame.  Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support

  1. Shame & Teaching: An Emotional Roller Coaster

    HÁ 11 H

    Shame & Teaching: An Emotional Roller Coaster

    In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Diane Manser delve into the emotional complexities of teaching. They discuss the often-overlooked emotional load that teachers carry, the challenges they face in the classroom, and the importance of self-awareness and emotional regulation. Diane shares her personal experiences and insights from her 19 years in education, emphasizing the need for support and understanding within the teaching community. The conversation highlights the impact of expectations, the role of self-care, and the importance of creating a supportive environment for both teachers and students. Key Takeaways: Teaching is not just about lesson plans; it's about emotional energy. Teachers often feel responsible for their students' emotional well-being. The first day of teaching can be overwhelming and filled with unexpected challenges. Self-awareness is crucial for teachers to navigate their emotions. Expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy and shame. Teacher self-care should not shift the responsibility for systemic issues back onto teachers. Building a supportive community among teachers is essential. Teachers experience a range of emotions that can impact their performance. Empowerment comes from understanding and processing emotions. Teaching is a journey of self-discovery and growth. More about Diane: I am a current 18-year veteran high school English teacher. I have written and published a book about the emotional challenges of teaching and how teachers can move themselves to empowerment. I have founded a business called Teaching is Emotional, and my goal is to build a community where we can share our emotional challenges and we can learn from each other’s empowerment strategies. I am also a mom and wife, I love reading nonfiction, I laugh easily, and feel joy and pride in my personal growth. I return to my WHY as often as possible to stay centered and focused. Connect with Diane: Diane’s book, “I didn’t sign up for this” Website TikTok Instagram Facebook Group: “Teaching is Emotional” Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters: 00:00 - The Emotional Load of Teaching 02:53 - Navigating Teacher Emotions 05:58 - The First Day Experience 09:07 - Understanding Teacher Reactions 11:52 - The Impact of Expectations 14:56 - The Role of Self-Care 18:04 - Shame and Teaching 20:53 - The Loneliness of Teaching 23:50 - Paths of Teacher Experience 27:03 - Creating Supportive Environments 30:09 - Empowerment Through Understanding 33:00 - The Importance of Connection 35:58 - Finding Balance in Teaching 38:49 - The Journey of Self-Discovery 42:05 - The Future of Teaching --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support

    54min
  2. Shame & Ambition

    17 DE NOV.

    Shame & Ambition

    In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Andrea Barr discuss the topic of ambition. They explore their personal definitions of ambition and how it has evolved over time. They also delve into the challenges and fears associated with pursuing ambitious goals, including the fear of failure and the fear of judgment from others. They touch on the concept of premature identity foreclosure, where individuals feel pressured to choose one path and stick to it, potentially leading to unhappiness and a lack of exploration. They also discuss the importance of informing others about their ambitions and not seeking permission or approval. The conversation highlights the need to redefine ambition beyond traditional career success and to prioritize personal fulfillment and happiness. In this conversation, Kyira and Andrea discuss the importance of making intentional decisions in life and not just letting life happen to you. They emphasize the need to prioritize personal wants and values, rather than seeking approval or validation from others. They also explore the concept of ambition and how it can be redefined as a slow burn rather than a fast race. They discuss the importance of finding balance and fulfillment in different areas of life, and the value of trying new things and exploring different interests. Overall, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and make choices that align with their own values and desires. Takeaways Ambition is an internal drive that energizes and excites individuals to pursue specific goals or dreams. Ambition can be hindered by the fear of failure, the fear of judgment from others, and the pressure to choose one path and stick to it. It is important to redefine ambition beyond traditional career success and prioritize personal fulfillment and happiness. Informing others about one's ambitions and goals can help create accountability and support. Exploration and the willingness to change and adapt are essential for personal growth and fulfillment. Make decisions with intentionality and confidence, considering all the permutations and processes involved. Prioritize personal wants and values over seeking approval or validation from others. Redefine ambition as a slow burn rather than a fast race, focusing on personal satisfaction and fulfillment. Find balance and fulfillment in different areas of life, exploring different interests and trying new things. Embrace your authentic self and make choices that align with your own values and desires. More about Andrea: ICF Certified Coach who helps parents figure out their work life rhythms, creating more quality time with their families while continuing to grow personally and professionally. She hosts the All Figured Out podcast, coaches clients 1:1, and hosts events online and in Vancouver, Canada. Connect with Andrea: ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠Website⁠ Check out Ep. 57 "⁠Coping with shame and guilt as a parent with Kyira Wackett⁠" Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters 00:00 - Introduction and Excitement 03:00 - Redefining Ambition 10:02 - The Fear Factor 13:53 - Premature Identity Foreclosure 17:00 - Informing vs. Asking Permission 19:55 - Exploration and Adaptation 28:20 - Making Decisions with Intentionality 31:46 - Redefining Ambition 34:21 - Finding Balance and Fulfillment 39:08 - Embracing Your Authentic Self --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support

    58min
  3. Shame & Blame: Breaking the Cycle

    10 DE NOV.

    Shame & Blame: Breaking the Cycle

    In this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira Wackett and Margie Breault delve into the intricate dynamics of shame and blame, exploring how these emotions intertwine and affect our lives. They discuss the importance of accountability in healing and the necessity of breaking free from the cycles of shame that can trap individuals in a narrative of suffering. Margie shares her personal journey of healing from a childhood filled with emotional abuse and the lessons learned through energy medicine. The conversation emphasizes the power of choice in reshaping our narratives and the importance of recognizing the dualities in life, such as light and dark, to foster personal growth and self-liberation. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Margie Breault explore the themes of self-awareness, anxiety, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of recognizing triggers and limitations, the role of anxiety in our lives, and the power of compassion and awareness in overcoming shame and blame. The conversation emphasizes the need for incremental change and the significance of witnessing our emotions without judgment, ultimately leading to empowerment and transformation. Takeaways Shame and blame are often intertwined, creating a cycle of suffering. Accountability is crucial for personal healing and growth. Witnessing chaos without judgment allows for personal alchemy. Healing requires recognizing and breaking free from inherited narratives. Emotions can trigger stories that keep us trapped in shame and blame. We have the power to choose our responses to emotions. The law of polarity teaches us to embrace the full spectrum of experiences. Self-discovery is a journey that requires compassion and patience. Energy medicine can provide tools for reconnecting with oneself. Our sense of self is often shaped by the narratives we accept from others. Understanding triggers is essential for personal growth. Anxiety can be navigated by recognizing its helpful intentions. Claiming ownership of your story is a continuous process. Awareness and compassion are powerful tools for transformation. Shame and blame are ineffective motivators for change. Witnessing emotions without judgment is crucial for healing. Celebrating awareness can create positive change in our lives. Recognizing our coping mechanisms is the first step to change. Change is an iterative process, not a linear one. It's okay to feel discomfort as we process suppressed emotions. More About Margie: I am a foundational root teacher, flow coach, way-shower and medium. Through my own healing journey, I have (and continue) to be liberated from projections, limitations and trauma. I have found a love for learning and teaching the ancient wisdom that has been passed down to me and I share that by inviting other to light up their path. Connect with Margie: Website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters 00:00 - Untethering Shame: An Introduction 09:03 - The Cycle of Shame and Blame 19:32 - Breaking the Cycle: Personal Stories of Healing 32:50 - Understanding Triggers and Limitations 35:05 - The Eye of the Storm: Navigating Anxiety 37:40 - Claiming Ownership of Your Story 39:47 - The Power of Awareness and Compassion 43:31 - Breaking the Cycle of Shame and Blame 49:03 - Witnessing Emotions and Celebrating Awareness --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support

    58min
  4. Shame & Self-Love

    3 DE NOV.

    Shame & Self-Love

    In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Jennifer Walter delve into the intricate relationship between shame and self-love. They explore the societal misconceptions surrounding self-love, emphasizing that it is not merely about positive affirmations but involves deep emotional healing and confronting past traumas. The conversation highlights the challenges of self-love, particularly in the context of relationships and parenting, and the importance of setting boundaries. They discuss the impact of generational patterns on emotional regulation and the necessity of breaking free from toxic dynamics to foster genuine self-acceptance. Takeaways Self-love involves healing past wounds and traumas and confronting uncomfortable truths about oneself. It's essential to treat yourself with the same kindness you offer others. Self-love is often misrepresented as mere positive affirmations. Parenting can trigger unresolved issues from our own childhood. Emotional regulation is a key component of self-love. Breaking generational patterns is necessary for personal growth. Children learn that their behaviors affect others through our reactions. Setting boundaries is a form of self-love. Self-love involves acknowledging your worth without needing to earn it through actions. Parenting with humility means being open to learning and making mistakes. You have the right to choose yourself over toxic relationships. Practicing accountability in relationships fosters healthier connections. Self-love involves collective healing of past selves. Recognizing when current methods aren't working is crucial. Regret is unproductive; focus on the present. Understanding our parents' limitations helps in healing. Validation and accountability can coexist. Creating a fulfilling life is a personal responsibility. More About Jennifer: Jennifer Walter is a sociologist, brand strategist, designer and host of the Scenic Route podcast. She blends curiosity, transformation and mindset work with sociological insights and creative direction to build seen and felt brands. Based in Switzerland, she communicates loud and fast in English and German. She’s all out of fucks but serving opinions daily. Connect with Jennifer: ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Podcast⁠ --> be sure to ⁠listen to our episode⁠ ⁠Instagram Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters 00:00 - Introduction to Shame and Self-Love 03:04 - The Complexity of Self-Love 06:02 - Healing Past Wounds 11:56 - Parenting and Self-Love 14:59 - Emotional Regulation and Self-Care 18:09 - Breaking Generational Patterns 20:52 - The Dynamics of Family Relationships 25:25 - Controlling What You Can Control 27:48 - Navigating Unhealthy Family Dynamics 30:36 - Setting Boundaries with Family 32:43 - The Journey of Self-Love 35:18 - Parenting with Humility and Accountability 39:57 - Rewriting Your Story 48:06 - The Journey of Self-Love Begins 52:10 - Recognizing Patterns and Seeking Change 56:24 - Understanding Our Parents' Influence 01:05:14 - Starting Small: The Key to Progress The Key to Progress --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support

    1h5min
  5. Shame & Rewiring the Brain

    28 DE OUT.

    Shame & Rewiring the Brain

    In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Lyndsey Getty discuss the importance of thoughts and how they impact our lives. They explore the concept of overthinking and how it can be unproductive. They also discuss the role of core beliefs and how they shape our thoughts and behaviors. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and self-compassion in managing our thoughts. They emphasize the importance of focusing on thoughts and having conversations about them to improve mental well-being. Overall, the conversation provides insights into the power of thoughts and the impact they have on our lives. In this conversation, Lyndsey Getty and Kyira Wackett discuss the importance of understanding and managing our thoughts. They explore the concept of unproductive thoughts and how they can negatively impact our lives. They also delve into the idea of intrusive thoughts and how to navigate them. The conversation emphasizes the need to recognize that we are not defined by our thoughts and that we have the power to restructure our thinking patterns. Lyndsey shares insights from her book, 'Overthink,' which offers a thought-based approach to personal development. We covered: Thoughts are a powerful driver of our feelings, behaviors, and relationships. Overthinking is often a result of uncontrolled and unproductive thoughts. Core beliefs shape our thoughts and behaviors, and it is important to identify and challenge negative core beliefs. Self-awareness and self-compassion are key in managing our thoughts and improving mental well-being. Having conversations about thoughts is essential for personal growth and well-being. We are not defined by our thoughts; we are the awareness of our thoughts. Unproductive thoughts can be detrimental to our well-being and productivity. Intrusive thoughts are thoughts that feel uncomfortable and out of the ordinary. Reducing shame around intrusive thoughts is crucial; they can be opportunities for growth and learning. Developing a productive thought pattern takes time and self-compassion. You have control over your thoughts; they do not control you. More about Lyndsey: Lyndsey Getty is an author, researcher and TEDx speaker dedicated to bridging the gap between mental wellness education and practical implementation. Developing effective strategies, she empowers others to improve their quality of life by improving the quality of their thoughts. The perspectives and methods she imparts are derived from her experience of overcoming c-PTSD, depression, and anxiety. A survivor of domestic violence, she adopts a trauma-informed approach and takes pride in not only teaching revolutionary methods but also serving as living proof of their efficacy. Connect with Lyndsey: Website Instagram “Overthink” Book Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction and Excitement 03:02 - The Importance of Talking About Thoughts 08:10 - The Challenges of Thoughts and Overthinking 13:14 - Intrusive Thoughts and Core Beliefs 19:12 - Building Resilience and Self-Confidence 23:21 - Being Bold and Asserting Yourself 27:47 - Understanding Intrusive Thoughts 00:22 - Understanding and Managing Our Thoughts 10:41 - The Impact of Unproductive Thoughts 19:12 - Navigating Intrusive Thoughts 27:53 - You Are Not Your Thoughts 36:03 - Restructuring Thought Patterns 44:57 - Taking Control of Your Thoughts 49:29 - Practical Strategies for Overcoming Overthinking 52:18 - Concl

    54min
  6. Shame & The Scale: Our Atrocious Relationship with Weight & Body Image

    20 DE OUT.

    Shame & The Scale: Our Atrocious Relationship with Weight & Body Image

    In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Bri Wilkerson discuss shame in relation to body image and weight. They share their personal experiences and explore the societal pressures and messages that contribute to body shame. They also discuss the importance of self-acceptance and the ongoing work of shame resilience. The conversation touches on topics such as control, achievement, and the impact of motherhood on body image. Overall, the episode highlights the need to challenge societal norms and cultivate a positive relationship with our bodies. In this conversation, Brianna and Kyira discuss their struggles with body image and the pressure to conform to societal standards. They explore the impact of shame and the importance of self-acceptance. They also discuss the role of numbers, such as weight and grades, in measuring self-worth. They emphasize the need to prioritize values over metrics and to embrace wonder and curiosity in life. Brianna shares her journey of learning to love herself and the importance of modeling self-love for her children. They conclude by encouraging listeners to be kind to themselves and to focus on one small step towards self-love. Takeaways Societal pressures and messages contribute to body shame, regardless of gender identity or expression. Shame resilience is a lifelong pursuit, and it involves constantly reevaluating our relationship with our bodies. Body image and weight can become a source of control and validation, but it's important to detach our worth from these external factors. Challenging societal norms and cultivating a positive relationship with our bodies is essential for our overall well-being. Body image struggles and the pressure to conform to societal standards can lead to feelings of shame and a negative self-image. Numbers, such as weight and grades, are often used as metrics to measure self-worth, but it's important to prioritize values and self-acceptance over external measurements. Embracing wonder and curiosity in life can help shift the focus away from appearance and towards self-acceptance and personal growth. Modeling self-love and acceptance for our children is essential in creating a healthy body image and self-esteem. Being kind to ourselves and taking small steps towards self-love is a lifelong journey that requires patience and compassion. More about Brianna: Brianna Wilkerson is a Holistic Health Coach, essential oils fanatic, fitness instructor, podcast host, wife and momma, and matcha tea lover. She helps busy mommas prioritize their health & self-care so they can feel healthy, strong and confident no matter what season of motherhood they are in. She also helps moms use natural solutions like essential oils to care for their health, home and family. Connect with Brianna: Website Instagram Facebook Resources: Somewhere Over the Rainbow; Israel Kamakawiwoʻole Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters 00:00 - Introduction: The Overwhelming Pressures of Body Image 04:00 - Shame as a Topic of Conversation 06:19 - Increasing Comfort in Sitting with Shame 13:31 - The Safety Net of Our Bodies 21:07 - Reevaluating Success and Body Acceptance 29:50 - Navigating Body Image Struggles and Societal Standards 34:05 - Moving Beyond Numbers: Prioritizing Values Over Metrics 36:31 - Embracing Wonder and Curiosity in Life 44:53 - The Impact of Shame and the Importance of Self-Acceptance 53:20 - Being Kind to Ourselves: One Small Step Towards Self-L

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New episodes every Sunday! Shame is the fear of not being good enough or worthy of connection and belonging. This silent plague keeps us tethered to the performance, focused on external validation and approval versus internal rooting. It can disrupt every relationship, thought, and experience if left unchecked. And it's time we say enough. Join licensed mental health therapist, Kyira Wackett, in the quest to build insight and take meaningful and intentional actions as we untether ourselves from shame.  Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support

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