Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military Wives Jessie Ellertson

I’m thrilled to have my good friend Becky Hoy on my podcast today. She is the founder of Brave Crates and a long time military spouse and mother of the cutest little boy. We have worked together at Brave Crate for 3 years and we are excited to share some updates with you about some big changes going on around here. Welcome to the Simply Resilient podcast Becky!

Did you know that sometimes it does not matter what we are thinking? I know this is shocking coming from a life coach who teaches people every day that what you are thinking is everything and that your life is a result of your thoughts. However, there is a scenario where focusing on the thought can get you pretty stuck and I’m here to teach you about it and to give you permission to not worry about what you are thinking about sometimes. Enjoy!

We can all benefit from giving ourselves more validation and this is something I work with my clients on a lot. My favorite way to teach this concept is to teach them a two step process of first validating our own experience/feelings and then to follow it up with reassuring ourselves. It is so powerful! One common problem with this is when I encourage people to validate themselves, they can resist the concept because they are confusing it with indulging themselves. Listen to this episode to hear more about my highly impactful two step process and to really understand the critical difference between giving yourself validation and indulging yourself. Enjoy!

There are many ways to think about the word ownership, but in this episode I'm referring to taking ownership or responsibility for the parts of your life that are in your control and that are your creation. There are a few sneaky traps that we can fall into in this area where we accidentally categorize things that are in our control as out of our control. Also, we may not realize when we are not owning something in our lives that is our fault or our doing and when we make that shift to ownership we get unstuck in that area. In this episode you are going to learn how to ask questions like: "In what ways is this my fault?" and "How is it being my fault good news?" Remember that we are not taking ownership or accepting fault for things that are other people's responsibility (another sneaky trap), just our own. Enjoy!

There are so many fascinating layers when it comes to experiencing disappointment. In this episode we get into what it can be like to be willing to feel disappointed and to even get good at feeling this common emotion that accompanies so many of our regular daily experiences. Enjoy!

Do you remember being young and in love? Do you remember what it felt like to be so into someone that you may have even been a little obsessed? Now full on actual obsession is not necessarily healthy, but what I'm talking about in this episode is how to add a dose of obsession to things in your life that are important to you and you want to think about more and feel more strongly about like yourself, your spouse, your life, your kids, your responsibilities, your choices, your future.  You guys! I'm obsessed! Enjoy!