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Welcome to Split. The After Ever After Podcast co-hosted by Family Law Mediator Jennifer Sanders and Certified Divorce Coach Ashley Wood. Featuring guests, Q&A, tips, and updated info on all things separation, divorce, conflict resolution and co-parenting. Whether you’re newly separated or divorced and co-parenting, listen now for tips and advice on how to build a foundation for a more peaceful future.

Split. The After Ever After Podcast Ashley Wood & Jennifer Sanders

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Welcome to Split. The After Ever After Podcast co-hosted by Family Law Mediator Jennifer Sanders and Certified Divorce Coach Ashley Wood. Featuring guests, Q&A, tips, and updated info on all things separation, divorce, conflict resolution and co-parenting. Whether you’re newly separated or divorced and co-parenting, listen now for tips and advice on how to build a foundation for a more peaceful future.

    EP. 41 How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

    EP. 41 How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

    So, you've come to the place of deciding that you want a separation. Now what? How do you have one of the most difficult conversations of your life with someone? Is there ever a right time?

    The way you tell your spouse about your decision can set the tone for your entire separation and co-parenting future.

    There's no changing that fact that this kind of conversation can be devastating and life-changing. But, there are ways to go about it that can help soften the blow and move things forward positively. The alternative can mean heightened conflict, "lawyering up", and drama, drama, drama.

    In today's episode we discuss tips for:

    HOW to tell your spouse in an appropriate way

    WHEN to have the conversation, because timing is everything

    WHAT things to say that can lower conflict

    WHY it's so important to take the time to have this conversation in the best way possible

    You don’t have to go through divorce alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

    To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

    Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

    Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

    The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.


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    EP.40 What About Spousal Support?!

    EP.40 What About Spousal Support?!

    Spousal support (called alimony in the US) is one of the most complicated and contentious areas of family law. The guidelines are complex with lots of grey areas, which can mean lots of room for conflict. Having what you need to make informed decisions is important.

    Today we discuss the basics of the Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines (SSAG), including:

    +Who is entitled to support

    +Compensatory vs. non-compensatory support

    +Spousal support with and without children

    +When does support end?

    +What is a lump-sum payment?

    More questions? Let us know (if you're listening on spotify, hit the q&a button below to leave a voice message or send us a DM) and we'll discuss in part two!

    You don’t have to go through divorce alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

    To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

    Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

    Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

    The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.


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    • 37 min
    EP.39 Ways to Help Your Kids Live Happily in Two Homes W/Guests Jen Schimbeno and Brandyn Roark Caires

    EP.39 Ways to Help Your Kids Live Happily in Two Homes W/Guests Jen Schimbeno and Brandyn Roark Caires

    Newly separated parents often don't realize just how many things there are to consider about the new co-parenting arrangement. Schedules, paying for extracurriculars, transition times, dealing with behaviour issues, introducing new partners are just a few issues of so many. Our guests today realized that taking the time to work out a detailed parenting plan is essential, but there were few professionals taking the time with clients to create them.

    Brandyn Roark Caires, a licensed counsellor and Jen Schimbeno, a Financial Planner, created "Parent Team," an online course that guides parents through the ins and outs of parenting from both homes. Today we talk to them about some of what they've learned from their years of experience working with co-parents. They offer some tips on how they manage the tough issues like financial disputes, withholding information, and badmouthing the other parent. Listen for a great description of their technique called, "Name It, Frame It, Don't Blame It" - it could be a game-changer for you and your kids!

    You can find more information about Parent Team @parentteam on IG and on their website: www.parentteam.com 

    You don’t have to go through divorce alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

    To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

    Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

    Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

    The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.


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    • 49 min
    EP.38 High-Conflict Divorce Q&A

    EP.38 High-Conflict Divorce Q&A

    It's another Q+A episode! In this Part 3 installment of our series on High Conflict People we take questions from YOU. Thank you so much to everyone that took the time to submit such though-provoking and personal questions.

    There's a little bit of everything here, ranging from issues with new partners, to ignoring food allergies, and how to deal with co-parent no-shows. We each give our take on how to best handle these situations, scripts on what you can say, and of course a little of what NOT to do!

    We hope you'll find some answers here to your own situation. Please keep submitting your questions to us, and we're happy to help.

    You don’t have to go through divorce alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

    To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

    Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

    Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation


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    • 56 min
    EP.37 Tips for Managing a High-Conflict Ex

    EP.37 Tips for Managing a High-Conflict Ex

    If you listened to last week's episode "Part 1: High Conflict People" you might have identified some high conflict personalities in your life. OK, so now what?

    In Part 2 of "High Conflict People" we discuss some practical strategies for communication with these types of people. We offer some scripts, tips, and our own anecdotes from the battlefield!

    If you're dealing with one of these characters in your life odds are you're overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted. It's extremely difficult to disengage from this conflict and you may have been in it for so long you don't know which end is up. We hope this episode gives you some insight into how to get some space and freedom from continuing conflict.

    You don’t have to go through divorce alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

    To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

    Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

    Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

    For added resources see:

    Legal information and resources for Ontarians can be found at https://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/family/

    Bill Eddy's book "5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life." and BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People

    Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters by Karen Anderson 


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    • 45 min
    EP.36 How to Spot the Signs of a High-Conflict Ex

    EP.36 How to Spot the Signs of a High-Conflict Ex

    Lawyer and Mediator Bill Eddy writes a lot about "HCP" or "high conflict people." He explains that these characters are out of the ordinary, don't act like 80% of the population, and are marked by continued conflict and chaos in their lives.

    A high conflict person could be that way because of a personality disorder, substance abuse, or other mental heath issue. If you try to reason with them you will find yourself engaged in a never-ending cycle of crazy-making conflict.

    In this episode we talk about how to recognize these personality types so that we can approach conflict with them in a different way. Watch for a Part 2 coming soon where we explain ways you can communicate with this type of person.

    You don’t have to go through divorce alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

    To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

    Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

    Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

    For additional resources see:

    EP. 14 Is My Ex A Narcissist?! With Matthew Phifer

    5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities Paperback by Bill Eddy

    Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Randy Kreger and Paul Mason

    The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.


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    • 48 min

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