Tactical Living

Ashlie and Clint Walton
Tactical Living

It’s hard to find balance in a high-stress career while managing everything else in life. That’s where Tactical Living Podcast comes in. Hosted by Ashlie Walton, a trauma recovery coach and tactical living expert, and Sergeant Clint Walton, this show offers practical advice for creating a well-balanced lifestyle, even amidst the demands of a first responder career. Three times a week, Ashlie shares insightful strategies on managing life’s challenges, such as what it’s really like to live as a police officer’s wife, while Clint joins the conversation several times a month to offer his perspective from the field. Together, they provide actionable tips on health, fitness, mental resilience, spiritual discipline, intimacy, and navigating the complexities of first responder life and relationships. Whether you’re seeking tactical approaches to personal growth or solutions to the unique challenges of law enforcement and first responder life, this podcast is for you. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400

  1. 6H AGO

    E934 The Science of Negative Self-Talk: How It Affects Your Mind and Body

    In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the science behind negative self-talk (Amazon Affiliate) and why it’s far more than just words. Your brain listens to everything you tell it. The way you talk to yourself affects not only your mental resilience but also your physical health, stress levels, and decision-making. For first responders, where split-second decisions can mean life or death, negative self-talk isn’t just a bad habit—it can be a dangerous liability. This episode dives into the real impact of negative self-talk on the brain and body, examples of how it manifests, and how to reframe your inner dialogue to be healthier, more productive, and ultimately, stronger. 1. Why Negative Self-Talk is More Than Just Words Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between truth and what you tell yourself repeatedly. Studies show that repeated negative thoughts create strong neural pathways that reinforce self-doubt, fear, and failure. For first responders, this can affect confidence, reaction time, and even long-term mental health. 2. The Psychological and Physical Effects of Negative Self-Talk 1. Increased Cortisol and Stress Response Example: Constantly telling yourself "I’m not good enough" puts your body in a state of stress, leading to higher cortisol levels. Physical Impact: Elevated cortisol contributes to high blood pressure, weight gain, fatigue, and even heart disease. 2. Impaired Decision-Making and Performance Example: Telling yourself "I always screw things up" before a high-pressure call increases hesitation and lowers confidence. Why It Matters: Self-doubt on the job can slow reaction times, decrease efficiency, and increase mistakes. 3. Mental Exhaustion and Burnout Example: Constant negative self-talk drains mental energy, leading to quicker burnout and emotional exhaustion. Why It Matters: First responders already face high levels of stress—adding negative self-talk compounds the problem. 4. Increased Risk of Anxiety and Depression Example: Repeating phrases like "I’m not strong enough" or "I can’t handle this" rewires the brain to believe those statements. Why It Matters: Over time, this can lead to chronic anxiety, depression, and PTSD symptoms. 5. Lowered Immune Function and Physical Health Decline Example: Negative self-talk has been linked to weakened immune responses, making first responders more susceptible to illness and fatigue. Why It Matters: A weakened immune system means more sick days, slower recovery, and increased vulnerability in the field. 3. Reframing Negative Self-Talk: Turning It into a Strength 1. Identify and Challenge the Thought Example: Instead of saying "I can’t handle this" → Ask yourself: Is that actually tru 2. Replace "Always" and "Never" Statements Example: Instead of "I always fail at this" → Avoid extreme language. Reframe: "I made a mistake, but I’m learning and improving every time." 3. Speak to Yourself Like a Friend or Teammate Example: You wouldn’t tell your partner "You’re a screw-up", so why say it to yourself? Reframe: "I did my best with what I had in the moment. Next time, I’ll adjust and do better." 4. Use Actionable Affirmations Example: Instead of "I’m bad at de-escalating situations", change it to an action statement. Reframe: "I’m learning to stay calm and improve my communication skills every day." 5. Visualize Success Instead of Failure Example: Instead of mentally playing out worst-case scenarios, imagine yourself nailing that interview, handling that call with confidence, or succeeding in that challenge. Why It Works: The brain doesn’t differentiate between real and imagined experiences—visualizing success increases confidence and actual performance. 4. How First Responders Can Build a Resilient Mindset Start small—negative self-talk is a habit, and breaking it takes time. Use "power phrases" that help shift your mindset ("I am capable, I am prepared, I am focused.") Surround yourself with positive influences—your work culture and personal circle matter. 5. Why This Matters: First responders face enough external stress without letting internal dialogue work against them. The way you talk to yourself determines how you show up on the job, at home, and in life. By identifying negative self-talk, reframing it into something constructive, and building resilience, you can take control of your mental and physical well-being—leading to better performance, better health, and a better life. Listen now to learn how to shift your self-talk and strengthen your mindset on and off duty! 🎙️🔥     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #selftalk #loveyourself   ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    11 min
  2. 2D AGO

    E933 The Power of Acts of Service: Help Your Spouse For Stronger Relationships

    In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton dive into the impact of acts of service (Amazon Affiliate) in first responder relationships. When one partner works a high-stress, demanding job, small gestures of support can make a huge difference in reducing stress and fostering connection. Something as simple as packing their lunch or helping prep their uniform can ease their mental load and show that you have their back—even when the job is overwhelming. In this episode, we explore five simple yet powerful ways you can support your first responder spouse and why these small acts lead to a healthier, stronger relationship. 1. Why Acts of Service Matter in First Responder Marriages First responders often carry the weight of their jobs home with them, making stress management crucial for both partners. Small, thoughtful gestures can lessen decision fatigue, increase connection, and create a sense of teamwork in the relationship. 2. Five Simple Ways to Support Your First Responder Spouse 1. Packing Their Lunch or Meal Prepping for the Week Example: Preparing a healthy lunch or meal prepping ensures they have nutritious food instead of relying on fast food or skipping meals. Why It’s Beneficial: Saves time and money during long shifts. Ensures they have energy to stay focused on the job. A small way to show love and care in a tangible way. 2. Prepping Their Uniform and Gear Example: Having their uniform ready, boots polished, and gear in order means they can start their shift stress-free. Why It’s Beneficial: Reduces morning chaos and rushing before work. Helps them feel put together and confident. One less thing for them to worry about after a long shift. 3. Taking Care of Errands and Household Tasks Example: Handling grocery shopping, bills, or minor home repairs so they don’t have to worry about it after an exhausting shift. Why It’s Beneficial: Allows them to truly rest when they’re home instead of feeling like they have another job waiting for them. Keeps the household running smoothly, reducing stress for both partners. 4. Creating a Quiet and Relaxing Home Environment Example: If they worked a night shift, ensuring the house stays quiet during their sleep hours. Why It’s Beneficial: Helps maximize rest and recovery, which is crucial for performance on the job. Creates a peaceful retreat for them to decompress from work stress. 5. Offering Emotional Support Without Needing to "Fix" Everything Example: Simply listening when they vent instead of trying to give advice or solve their problems. Why It’s Beneficial: Allows them to process emotions in a safe space. Strengthens trust and emotional connection in the relationship. Reinforces that they don’t have to carry everything alone. 3. How Small Acts Create a Bigger Impact in Relationships These small gestures add up over time, creating a sense of partnership and support. A relationship built on mutual care and service is stronger and more resilient. 4. Why It’s Not About Gender Roles—It’s About Teamwork Acts of service aren’t about traditional roles—they’re about lightening the load for each other in whatever way works best for your relationship. 5. How to Incorporate These Habits Without Feeling Like a Burden Start small and simple—acts of service should be genuine, not forced. Ask your spouse what would help them the most. What seems small to you might be a huge relief for them. Why This Matters: Being in a relationship with a first responder means understanding the stress and demands of their job. By offering small but meaningful acts of service, you can ease their daily burdens, improve their well-being, and create a more connected, fulfilling relationship. Listen now to learn how these simple acts can transform your relationship! 🎙️🔥     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #actsofservice   ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    11 min
  3. 5D AGO

    E932 Finding Light in the Darkness: Lori Hodges’ Story

    🚨 LIVE INTERVIEW ALERT! 🚨   Join us for an incredible conversation with Lori Hodges—emergency manager, former paramedic and firefighter, and author of Shaking in the Forest: Finding Light in the Darkness (Amazon Affiliate).   With over 30 years of experience in emergency services, Lori knows firsthand the emotional toll of high-stress professions. But instead of being consumed by trauma, she discovered the power of humor as a tool for resilience.   🔥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ How humor helps first responders process trauma without losing professionalism ✅ The hidden lessons found in chaos and tragedy—and how they shape resilience ✅ Real-life stories of laughter amidst crisis and how it strengthens teams ✅ The role of humor in maintaining mental health and preventing burnout ✅ How to find light in even the darkest moments of the job   📌 Don’t miss this inspiring conversation! Drop your questions in the comments.    #TacticalLiving #FirstResponderLife #HumorAsCoping #MentalHealth #LiveInterview 🚑🔥💙   💥 GIVEAWAY IS OPEN TO OUR FACEBOOK GROUP MEMBERS ONLY 💥     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #lorihodges    ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    20 min
  4. MAR 19

    E931 Dealing with Discrimination as a Police Officer: On and Off the Job

    In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton tackle a frustrating reality that many officers face—being discriminated against simply for wearing the badge (Amazon Affiliate). In today’s climate, law enforcement officers often find themselves unfairly judged in both professional and personal settings. Whether it’s a store refusing service, a family member making anti-police comments, or people automatically assuming you’re corrupt, these experiences can be frustrating, isolating, and even infuriating. So, how do you handle these situations without letting them eat away at you? In this episode, we discuss five real examples of discrimination against police officers and five ways to combat it with confidence and professionalism. 1. Understanding Why This Happens The anti-police narrative has been fueled by media bias, political agendas, and misinformation. Many people judge officers based on headlines, personal biases, or past experiences with authority. Unfortunately, this often leads to officers being treated unfairly in situations where they shouldn’t have to justify their profession. 2. Five Common Examples of Discrimination Against Police Officers 1. Being Denied Service or Treated Poorly at Businesses Example: A restaurant refuses to serve uniformed officers or intentionally provides bad service because of their profession. Why It’s a Problem: Officers deserve basic respect as customers, yet many face hostility in public spaces. 2. Friends or Family Making Anti-Police Comments Example: A family member constantly shares anti-police rhetoric or refuses to engage with you because of your job. Why It’s a Problem: It creates tension and division within personal relationships, making officers feel unwelcome in their own families. 3. Social Media Backlash or Harassment Example: Posting about your career or a pro-law enforcement stance results in negative comments, online attacks, or even doxxing. Why It’s a Problem: Officers have the right to express themselves, but many face hostility online simply for their profession. 4. Struggles in the Dating World Example: Some people refuse to date a cop because they assume officers are aggressive, untrustworthy, or emotionally unavailable. Why It’s a Problem: These false stereotypes limit social opportunities and make building relationships harder. 5. Workplace Discrimination from Leadership or Peers Example: Officers who stand up for their values or voice concerns about policies are sometimes ostracized, overlooked for promotions, or retaliated against. Why It’s a Problem: It creates a toxic work environment and discourages good officers from staying in the profession. 3. Five Ways to Combat Discrimination with Strength and Confidence 1. Stay Professional and Choose Your Battles Solution: If a business denies service, document the incident and choose whether to address it through official channels or walk away. Why It Works: Keeps you above the drama while ensuring accountability when needed. 2. Educate, But Don’t Argue Solution: If family or friends misunderstand police work, offer facts and personal insights instead of debating. Why It Works: Informed discussions can shift misconceptions, but arguing rarely changes minds. 3. Set Boundaries Online and in Personal Life Solution: Be mindful of what you post, block toxic people, and don’t engage in unnecessary social media battles. Why It Works: Protects mental health and personal safety while avoiding unnecessary conflicts. 4. Find a Strong Support System Solution: Surround yourself with like-minded friends, fellow officers, and supportive communities that respect your profession. Why It Works: Helps reduce stress and reminds you that you’re not alone in these experiences. 5. Know When to Walk Away and When to Stand Up Solution: Choose when to push back on discrimination and when it’s better to let it go and move forward. Why It Works: Keeps your energy focused on what matters instead of letting negativity drain you. 4. Why Officers Must Stay Resilient in Today’s Climate Officers must learn how to navigate unfair treatment without letting it impact their confidence, integrity, or sense of purpose. The best response to discrimination is to remain professional, stay strong, and continue doing the job with honor. 5. Final Thoughts: The Bigger Picture While discrimination against officers is real, it does not define who you are. By staying grounded in your purpose, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and setting boundaries, you can thrive in your career and personal life. Listen now to learn how to handle discrimination with confidence, protect your peace, and continue serving with pride. 🎙️💙     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #discrimination    ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    11 min
  5. MAR 17

    E930 The Power of Dressing for the Moment: Why Your Appearance Matters

    In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton break down the power of dressing for the moment (Amazon Affiliate) and why your appearance plays a major role in how people perceive and respond to you. Recently, Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy met with President Trump and VP Vance wearing a tracksuit. While some defended his choice, others immediately dismissed him, saying it showed a lack of respect for one of the most prestigious places in the world. His attire sent a message before he even spoke—and it wasn’t a strong one. Like it or not, what you wear speaks before you do. Whether you’re a police officer, a leader, or just navigating everyday life, how you present yourself influences how others perceive you and how seriously they take you. In this episode, we explore five key examples of dressing to impress and why it matters, especially in law enforcement. 1. Why Your Appearance Sets the Tone Before You Speak Whether it’s a job interview, courtroom testimony, or just walking into roll call, your clothing sends an immediate, unspoken message about your confidence, professionalism, and credibility. 2. Five Examples of Dressing to Impress and Why It Matters: 1. Courtroom Appearances: Looking the Part of a Professional Officer Example: A police officer testifying in court wears a clean, pressed uniform, polished boots, and proper grooming. Why It Matters: Judges and juries pay attention to details. A well-put-together officer is seen as competent and credible. A sloppy uniform or unkempt appearance could lead to doubt in testimony, even if the facts are solid. 2. Job Interviews and Promotions: Showing You Take the Role Seriously Example: An officer applying for a detective position wears business attire instead of casual clothing. Why It Matters: Command staff and decision-makers look for professionalism. If you can’t dress for the role, they’ll assume you’re not ready for the responsibility. First impressions are lasting—walking in well-dressed shows you respect the opportunity. 3. Leadership and Command Presence in the Field Example: A patrol sergeant consistently wears a clean, squared-away uniform, polished gear, and looks sharp on every shift. Why It Matters: Officers under their command will mirror their leader’s professionalism. A well-groomed, squared-away officer commands more respect from peers, the public, and even suspects. 4. Off-Duty Encounters: The Image You Present Still Matters Example: An officer going to a community event or speaking engagement dresses in business casual instead of jeans and a hoodie. Why It Matters: Shows pride in the profession and presents law enforcement as a respected career. Helps build trust and credibility in the community by looking approachable and professional. 5. Everyday Situations Where You Represent More Than Just Yourself Example: You’re attending a funeral, wedding, or formal event—dressing appropriately shows respect for the moment. Why It Matters: Your clothing choices reflect your level of respect for the occasion and the people involved. Dressing appropriately ensures you’re taken seriously in every environment. 3. How Dressing the Part Affects Confidence and Performance Studies show that people who dress well perform better. When you look sharp, you carry yourself differently, speak with more confidence, and make stronger impressions. 4. The Balance Between Comfort and Professionalism Dressing for the moment doesn’t mean being uncomfortable. It means choosing attire that respects the environment while keeping you prepared for the job at hand. 5. Why First Impressions Matter More Than People Think Like Zelenskyy’s tracksuit moment, people form opinions based on appearance instantly. In law enforcement, leadership, and life—what you wear tells the world how seriously to take you. Why This Matters: You don’t have to wear a suit every day, but you do have to be intentional about how you present yourself. Whether you’re on duty, in court, or simply walking into a professional environment, your attire speaks volumes before you say a word. Listen now to learn how to use your appearance as an advantage in law enforcement and beyond! 🎙️🔥     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #appearance   ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    11 min
  6. MAR 14

    E929 How to Deal with the Guilt of Missing Milestones and Family Events

    In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton tackle a challenge that hits close to home for many first responders: the guilt (Amazon Affiliate) of missing important milestones and family events due to shift work. Whether it’s a holiday, birthday, school recital, or anniversary, the demands of the job often mean being absent from life’s special moments. While it’s part of the career, the emotional toll can build up, leading to guilt, resentment, and feelings of disconnection from family. But here’s the truth—missing a moment doesn’t mean you’ve missed the meaning behind it. In this episode, you’ll discover five practical ways to manage guilt, stay connected with loved ones, and make up for missed time without carrying the weight of regret. 1. Why Missing Milestones Hurts So Much Missing special moments isn’t just about the event itself—it’s about feeling like you’re falling short as a spouse, parent, or family member. This guilt often stems from the pressure to "be there" for everything, even when the job makes it impossible. 2. Five Practical Ways to Remedy the Guilt of Missing Special Moments: 1. Reframe the Narrative: Presence Matters More Than Timing Example: If you missed a child’s birthday party, celebrate on your next day off with the same energy and love. Why It Works: Kids and loved ones remember how you made them feel, not the exact date on the calendar. 2. Communicate Expectations Ahead of Time Example: If you know you’ll miss a holiday or event, talk to your family early about your schedule and how you plan to make it special another way. Why It Works: Clear communication prevents disappointment and allows everyone to adjust expectations. 3. Create New Traditions Around Your Schedule Example: If you’re working Christmas, celebrate on Christmas Eve or the weekend before. Why It Works: Flexible traditions show that the connection matters more than the calendar date. 4. Stay Connected in Real Time, Even if You Can’t Be There Example: Video call during the event, send a pre-recorded message, or write a letter for a loved one to read aloud. Why It Works: Even small gestures remind your family that you’re thinking of them, easing feelings of absence. 5. Prioritize Quality Over Quantity Example: If you missed a weekend event, spend uninterrupted time with your family during your next day off—no phones, no distractions. Why It Works: Meaningful moments outweigh missed ones when you show up fully present. 3. How to Let Go of Guilt and Embrace What You Can Control: Remind yourself: You’re serving your community and providing for your family—missing an event doesn’t mean you care less. 4. How Families Can Support First Responders During Missed Milestones: Encourage open conversations about feelings of guilt and disappointment. Celebrate creatively and find joy in the moments you do share. 5. Why This Matters: Guilt can strain relationships and mental health, but with proactive communication, flexible traditions, and intentional connection, you can bridge the gap between work and family life. Listen now to discover how to move past the guilt, stay emotionally connected, and turn missed milestones into meaningful memories. 🎙️❤️     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #guilt #familyevents   ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    10 min
  7. MAR 12

    E928 Dig the Well Before the Water Runs Dry: Preparing for Your Future Now

    In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton unpack the powerful meaning behind the quote: "Dig the well before the water runs dry." Learn the importance of being prepared (Amazon Affiliate) for all of life's unexpected events.  As first responders, you train for the worst-case scenarios, always prepared to react at a moment’s notice. But what about your own life? Too often, preparation for health, finances, relationships, and personal growth is put off until a crisis forces it into focus. This episode explores five practical ways you can start preparing for your future now—before you’re forced to. We also reference Robert F. Kennedy Jr.’s impactful words: "Healthy people have a million wishes, but a sick person only has one." Don’t wait until the water runs dry—start digging your well today. 1. The Importance of Preparation Before Crisis Hits Understand why waiting until things fall apart—whether it’s your health, finances, or emotional well-being—isn’t an option for first responders. 2. Five Practical Ways to Prepare for Your Future Now: 1. Prioritize Your Health Before You’re Forced To Example: It’s easy to take your strength and endurance for granted—until an injury, illness, or stress-related condition takes you off the job. Why It Matters: Neglecting physical and mental health today could cost you your career, mobility, or even your life down the road. How to Prepare Now: Get regular checkups and listen to your body. Make sleep, diet, and exercise non-negotiable. Address mental health proactively—don’t wait until you’re breaking down. 2. Financially Prepare for the Day You Hang Up the Uniform Example: Many first responders live paycheck to paycheck, assuming their pension will be enough—until retirement arrives and they realize they’re unprepared. Why It Matters: Unexpected expenses, medical emergencies, or job loss can derail even the most stable career. How to Prepare Now: Set up a second income stream—invest, start a side business, or develop a skill. Build an emergency fund for unexpected costs. Learn about retirement options and make sure you’re investing early. 3. Strengthen Relationships Before You Need Them Example: Many first responders pour so much into work that family and friendships take a backseat—until they need support, and it’s not there. Why It Matters: Isolation can be devastating when you’re struggling with injury, job loss, or emotional burnout. How to Prepare Now: Prioritize date nights and family time—small efforts matter. Stay connected with old friends and mentors. Seek peer support and healthy friendships outside of work. 4. Mentally Prepare for Life After the Badge Example: Retirement or career changes can hit harder than expected, leading to identity crises or feelings of purposelessness. Why It Matters: Having a plan for what’s next keeps you motivated and engaged in life. How to Prepare Now: Start thinking about what your purpose will be after law enforcement. Develop new skills and interests outside of work. Consider mentorship, coaching, or writing to pass on your experience. 5. Develop a Backup Plan for Every Major Area of Your Life Example: If something unexpected happens—injury, lawsuits, department changes, or economic downturns—will you be ready? Why It Matters: Those who prepare for uncertainty handle adversity better and recover faster. How to Prepare Now: Keep your resume updated and be ready to pivot. Stay educated on policy changes, pensions, and department shifts. Have an exit strategy—don’t let the job define your entire future. 3. How Prepared Are You Right Now? Take a moment to reflect: If life threw you a curveball today, would you be ready? 4. The Difference Between Those Who Thrive and Those Who Struggle Learn why first responders who prepare ahead of time are the ones who handle life’s biggest challenges with resilience and confidence. 5. Why the Best Time to Prepare is Today Discover small, actionable steps you can take right now to protect your future. Why This Matters: Waiting until your health fails, finances collapse, or relationships strain is too late. The best way to ensure stability and success in your future is to prepare for it today. Listen now to learn how to dig your well—before the water runs dry. 🎙️🔥     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #preparing   ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    11 min
  8. MAR 10

    E927 Why Some First Responders Struggle with Civilian Friendships

    In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore a common but rarely discussed challenge for first responders: maintaining friendships (Amazon Affiliate) with people outside the profession. When your daily reality involves high-stress situations, trauma, and a unique sense of humor, it can feel difficult to connect with civilians who don’t share those experiences. Conversations that seem harmless to outsiders can feel tone-deaf or dismissive to first responders, while some friendships simply fade away as lifestyles and priorities shift. But isolation doesn’t have to be the answer. In this episode, you’ll discover five common reasons first responders struggle with civilian friendships and five practical ways to build meaningful connections without feeling misunderstood. 1. Why Civilian Friendships Can Feel Difficult for First Responders: Understand how the emotional, mental, and lifestyle differences between first responders and civilians can create unintentional barriers in friendships. 2. Five Common Challenges First Responders Face with Civilian Friendships: Feeling Misunderstood or Unable to Relate: Example: After a tough shift, hearing a civilian friend complain about "stress" at a desk job can feel trivial compared to life-and-death situations. Why It’s a Problem: This disconnect can lead to frustration and emotional distancing. Different Lifestyle Schedules: Example: Shift work means you’re working weekends, holidays, or nights, while your civilian friends are off during “normal” hours. Why It’s a Problem: Missed social events and inconsistent availability make it hard to maintain connections. Difficulty Sharing Work Experiences: Example: Talking about traumatic calls or dark humor can make civilian friends feel uncomfortable or judgmental. Why It’s a Problem: It limits authentic conversation and creates a sense of isolation. Emotional Exhaustion and Withdrawal: Example: After a long shift, you might avoid socializing altogether, preferring quiet time to decompress alone. Why It’s a Problem: Friendships require effort, and repeated withdrawal can lead to distance and disconnection. Trust Issues and Protective Walls: Example: Years of seeing the worst in people can make it hard to trust new connections or open up emotionally. Why It’s a Problem: Emotional guardrails can prevent deeper connections from forming. 3. Five Strategies to Build Stronger Civilian Friendships: Find Common Ground Outside the Job: Solution: Focus on shared hobbies, interests, or family connections rather than work-related topics. Example: Join a hiking group, faith-based organization, or fitness class where the focus isn’t on your profession. Why It Works: Shared experiences build connection without requiring others to understand the job. Set Realistic Expectations: Solution: Accept that civilian friends may never fully grasp the realities of first responder life—and that’s okay. Example: Instead of venting about work, focus on positive, relatable topics when hanging out. Why It Works: Reduces frustration and allows the friendship to thrive on other strengths. Prioritize Quality Over Quantity: Solution: Invest energy in fewer, more meaningful friendships with people who respect your lifestyle. Example: If you can’t attend every event, be intentional about making time for one-on-one connections. Why It Works: Deeper connections require less maintenance but provide more emotional value. Communicate About Your Needs: Solution: Be honest with friends about your schedule, emotional limits, and the type of support you need. Example: “After a long shift, I might not be super talkative, but I still value our time together.” Why It Works: Reduces misunderstandings and helps friends support you in the right way. Balance First Responder and Civilian Social Circles: Solution: Maintain friendships both inside and outside the profession to avoid isolation in either world. Example: Spend time with coworkers who understand the job but also nurture civilian connections for balance. Why It Works: It prevents burnout and broadens your social support system. 4. How to Overcome Loneliness Without Compromising Who You Are: Discover how to navigate civilian friendships without feeling disconnected from your first responder identity. 5. Why Balance Matters in Building Strong Relationships: Learn how healthy friendships can reduce stress, improve mental well-being, and prevent emotional isolation. Why This Matters: While first responder life can create barriers to civilian friendships, it doesn’t have to mean isolation. By focusing on common ground, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing authentic connections, you can build meaningful friendships that enrich your life both on and off duty. Listen now to discover how to break down the walls and build lasting connections beyond the badge! 🎙️💙     Secure your firearm with my buy one get one free affiliate code from STOPBOX http://stopboxusa.com/LEOWARRIORS All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and are simply our opinions based off of our own experience, background and education. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400 #policepodcast #policeofficer #leowarriors #thinbluelineusa #firstresponder #lawenforcementpodcast #LawEnforcement #LEOWarriors #civilianlife #makingfriends   ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://geni.us/wAtlvPu     CLICK HERE for Amazon's Today's Deals on TACTICAL GEAR: https://geni.us/KmvaOVM (Affiliate Link) (Ad) Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://geni.us/YM5tsB   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner’s prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors: EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com. ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340 ASHLIE’S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored.

    11 min
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It’s hard to find balance in a high-stress career while managing everything else in life. That’s where Tactical Living Podcast comes in. Hosted by Ashlie Walton, a trauma recovery coach and tactical living expert, and Sergeant Clint Walton, this show offers practical advice for creating a well-balanced lifestyle, even amidst the demands of a first responder career. Three times a week, Ashlie shares insightful strategies on managing life’s challenges, such as what it’s really like to live as a police officer’s wife, while Clint joins the conversation several times a month to offer his perspective from the field. Together, they provide actionable tips on health, fitness, mental resilience, spiritual discipline, intimacy, and navigating the complexities of first responder life and relationships. Whether you’re seeking tactical approaches to personal growth or solutions to the unique challenges of law enforcement and first responder life, this podcast is for you. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400

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