The Adoption Files

Ande Stanley
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The Adoption Files

The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate.

  1. 6 DAYS AGO

    Love is not enough: a conversation with Lorah Gerald about the National Adoption Competence Mental Health Training Initiative

    Please join me as I talk with Lorah Gerald about her experience taking course modules presented by the NTI as well as working as a presenter and collaborator as they increase their knowledge base. Lorah can be found as The Adopted Chameleon on Facebook, Tiktok, and Instagram. Mentioned in the episode: NTI Training: Expert Adoption Support for Professionals | C.A.S.E.Prioritizing trauma-informed careAccess to Adoption Records - Oklahoma | Child Welfare Information GatewayMaternal-infant bonding by Marshall H. Klaus | Open LibraryEmbodiment: A Conceptual Deep Dive | Meridian University(PDF) The psychobiology of early attachmentMother-infant cosleeping, breastfeeding and sudden infant death syndrome: What biological anthropology has discovered about normal infant sleep and pediatric sleep medicineThe opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions. The host is not a therapist, a lawer or an adoption professional. List of Hotlines for Mental Health HelpThank you for listening!

    57 min

  2. FEB 11

    Sacred Information: Partnering with your Partner during their Search

    Please join me as I speak with non-adoptee Andrea Coates and adoptee Greg Gentry as we discuss Greg's pursuit of his non-identifying information from the state of California. Andreas experience as a Search Angel informs how she goes about helping. Greg and Andrea are romantic partners, which brings a layer of complexity to the search. How might non-adopted people be present for adopted people as they pursue their documents? Mentioned in the episode: California adoption law: Adoption RecordsCalifornia Department of Social Services: Home | California Dept. of Social ServicesSome resources for people interested in learning more about how adoption affects the adopted person: Adoptees OnAdoptee Reading: An Adoption Book Catalog - Books Written & Recommended By Adoptees(2) InterCountry Adoption News | Facebook(2) Adoption: Facing Realities | FacebookAdoptees United | Identity, Citizenship, EqualityAdoptee Rights Law Center PLLCAdoptees on Tiktok, IG, Bluesky. There are so many. mhcc_Trauma-IRL-Tips_A4-2.pdf The host and their guests' opinions are just that, our opinions. The host is not a lawyer, therapist or adoption professional.

    1h 2m

  3. 11/26/2024

    The Marketing of Open Adoption: a Lived Experience, with Connor Howe

    Please join me as I speak with Connor Howe, a California(but also an Irish!) adopted person who has grown up as one of the first generation of "Open" adoptees. After the birth of his child, Connor began to deconstruct from the adoption narrative. As a marketing professional, Connor brings both his lived experience as a young adoptee in open adoption and his education and work experience to the conversation. Connor is known as Adopted Connor on social media and can be found at: Adopted Connor (@adopted_connor) • Instagram photos and videos Adopted Connor - YouTube (7) Facebook @adoptedconnor.bsky.social Mentioned in the episode: Georgia Tann: Georgia Tann - Wikipedia Agency price lists: Every agency, public and private, keeps price lists, usually referred to as fee listings. I found a large number of articles the discuss the fees and fee structures but am not interested in posting them here. If you want to subject yourself to the experience, just google average costs to adopt. Financial reports for non-profits: all non-profits are required by the IRS to report their financials each year and make them publicly available. Note: just because an organization calls themselves a non-profit does not mean money is not being made. Take note of monies spent on advertising, legal fees, home studies, employee payroll, etc. You may find that many of the people hired by the non-profits are affiliated in some way with the org itself-in-laws, board members, other family members, etc. Many are affiliated with churches as well. Nonprofit Explorer - ProPublica History of sealed birth certificates in the United States: BB: A History of Sealed Records in the United States | Bastard Nation Adoption Law: Adoptee Rights Law Center PLLC California adoption law: California | Adoptee Rights Law Center Irish Citizenship: Citizenship | Department Of Foreign Affairs | Ireland.ie | Ireland.ie Catholic Church and forced adoption: For Decades, Churches Forced Unwed Mothers Into Adoptions | Sojourners Ireland’s shame: reforming an adoption system marked by secrecy and trauma The Adoption Machine: The Dark History of Ireland's Mother and Baby Homes and the Inside Story of How 'Tuam 800' Became a Global Scandal: Redmond, Paul Jude, Daly, Clare: 9781785371776: Amazon.com: Books The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

    59 min

  4. 11/24/2024

    No Magical Mind-reading: An Adoptee and Non-Adoptee in a Romantic Relationship. A Conversation with Andrea Steiner-Coates and Greg Gentry

    Please join me as I talk with Andrea and Greg about the challenges of being in an adoptee/non-adoptee relationship. We recognize that this is just one couples relationship. Some of the topics discussed will feel relevant to many others in similar situations. Mentioned in the episode: Air Supply: A band from the 80s that specialized in ballads. They are either one of the worst things to come out of the time period, or a beloved rock band. You decide. Adoptees Connect: Where Adoptee Voices Meet – An Adoptee Centric Connect Group Fog Lift: Fog Lift — Reckoning with The Primal Wound: A Documentary Untangling our Roots: Homepage - Untangling Our Roots The opinions of the host and their guest(s) are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

    57 min

  5. 11/20/2024

    Adoptee/ Non1Adoptee conversations: being curious, with Andrea Steiner Coates

    Please join me and my guest Andrea Steiner Coates as we revisit the topic of adoptee/non-adoptee conversations. Curiosity is a necessary component. Andrea is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, a Search Angel, and adoptee advocate and ally. Be advised: this episode contains references to suicide and suicidal ideation. Mentioned or referenced in the episode: The Girls Who Went Away Amazon.com: The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe v. Wade (Audible Audio Edition): Ann Fessler, Coleen Marlo, Tantor Audio: Books Adoptees on: Adoptees On Anne Heffron: ANNE HEFFRON Laureen Pitman The Lies That Bind: An Adoptee's Journey Through Rejection, Redirection, DNA, and Discovery: Pittman, Laureen, Martin, Angie, Martin, Angie: 9781793142979: Amazon.com: Books Untangling our Roots: Homepage - Untangling Our Roots The Alliance for the study of adoption and culture Alliance for the Study of Adoption & Culture Fog Lift Fog Lift — Reckoning with The Primal Wound: A Documentary Fireside (15) Fireside Adoptees Public Page | Facebook The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Need to talk to someone? (Warmlines) National Hotline for Mental Health Crises and Suicide Prevention | NAMI Mental health helplines | healthdirect National Suicide Prevention Helpline Uk » Home 9-8-8: Suicide Crisis Helpline - Canada.ca The Trevor Project - Suicide Prevention for LGBTQ+ Young People RAINN | The nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization

    1h 1m

  6. 11/14/2024

    Almost Loved: a NAAM conversation with poet and adopted person Rena Joy

    Please join me as I talk with Rena Joy. Rena is a Canadian adoptee, adopted as a toddler from foster care. Rena recently published her first book, a poetry collection titled Almost Loved. On this episode, Rena shares some of her poetry as we talk about how adoption has impacted her life, and some of the ways she copes with the trauma inherent in adoption. Rena can be found at: rena joy poetry | author Amazon.com: Almost Loved: 9781069038128: Joy, Rena, Leigh, Shelby: Books Rena Joy Poetry | Love & Healing Quotes (@renajoypoetry) • Threads, Say more and @renajoypoetry on Instagram and TikTok Please be aware that suicide and suicidal ideation are mentioned on the episode. If you are experiencing suicidal ideation, please reach out for help and support. I am including some of the hotline information here in the notes. 9-8-8: Suicide Crisis Helpline - Canada.ca The Trevor Project - Suicide Prevention for LGBTQ+ Young People RAINN | The nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization We're all EARS | WARMLINE.ORG Mentioned in the show: Somatic Therapy Somatic Therapy | Psychology Today The host and their guests opinions are just that, opinions. The host is not a lawyer, therapist or adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

    24 min

  7. 11/09/2024

    Courage: a conversation with Lorah Gerald for National Adoption Awareness Month

    Please join me as I talk with Lorah Gerald about the courage required to navigate life as an adopted person, and as an advocate for the rights of children and adopted people. Lorah is a Baby Scoop Era, domestic, same race adopted person. Lorah is also known as The Adopted Chameleon, and can be found at Lorah Gerald (@theadoptedchameleon) • Instagram photos and videos (20+) Facebook Lorah Gerald, The Adopted Chameleon | Kundalini Yoga Classes/Videos, Community, Support Group | Patreon She can also be found on tiktok, and as a guest and speaker on a number of podcasts and events. Read on the episode today: https://www.facebook.com/TheAdoptedChameleon/posts/pfbid02NV7744DZ2Qy2JVMqHvGeSrmY2ZiCr9xyfnT9c7AGCN6wMBuwTpbnBNKtMdmJu4bjl What is NAAM? About National Adoption Month | Child Welfare Information Gateway The opinions of the host and their guests are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

    21 min

  8. 11/08/2024

    Finding identity, and Community: a conversation with Haley Radke

    Please join Haley and I as we speak about pursuing identity in Alberta, Canada. We also talk about finding community in the process of navigating the challenges of being adopted. Haley Radke is a domestically adopted person from Alberta Canada. Seeking answers and connection, she began a podcast to help her feel less alone with the traumas of adoption. In the process, she has grown as an individual while also inspiring others. Haley can be found on numerous social media platforms. Please visit her website for more information about her podcast, mentoring work, speaking engagements, Patreon and more. Our Host — Adoptees On mentioned in the episode: Poutine: Poutine - WikipediaNanaimo Bars Recipe20200225_bill-048.pdf Are Alberta Adoption Records About to Become More Accessible?I Would Meet You Anywhere — Susan Kiyo Ito[Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: RIP: The fire behind adoption reform, Florence FisherOpen Adoption Records | Government of Prince Edward Island- yes, you can be fined and/or imprisoned in this province if you knowingly violate a contact preference form Mental health support: get help - Canada.ca The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, therapist or adoption professional Thank you for listening!

    59 min
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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate.

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  • Creator
    Ande Stanley
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    120
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Ande Stanley
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