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The podcast where adoptees discuss the adoption experience. This is not the usual adoption talk. You will find real, raw, and deep feelings addressed in these interviews. No sugar-coating here! Come and laugh, cry, learn and heal with us.

Adult adoptees share stories of search, reunion, and secondary rejection. Adoptees On also curates recommended resources to encourage and educate the adoption community about adoptee issues.

Adoptees On Haley Radke

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 276 Ratings

The podcast where adoptees discuss the adoption experience. This is not the usual adoption talk. You will find real, raw, and deep feelings addressed in these interviews. No sugar-coating here! Come and laugh, cry, learn and heal with us.

Adult adoptees share stories of search, reunion, and secondary rejection. Adoptees On also curates recommended resources to encourage and educate the adoption community about adoptee issues.

    201 Haley Radke

    201 Haley Radke

    Free preview Patreon episode with all the details of our 2022 Book Club: Adoptees On(ly) Book Club 2022 Announcements
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    This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

    • 19 min
    200 [Healing Series] Celebrations

    200 [Healing Series] Celebrations

    Today we are talking about celebrations with Pam Cordano, MFT because we are celebrating 200 episodes of the Adoptees On Podcast! Pam and Haley talk about how celebrations can often feel scary for us as adopted people because feeling joy or happiness can be disorienting (upper limit problem anyone?). Pam shares a few different reasons why we may feel that way, teaches us steps towards feeling happiness, and how to hold space for both good things and challenging things simultaneously.
    Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources 10 Foundations for a Meaningful Life (No Matter What's Happened) by Pam Cordano, MFT Read more about the “Upper Limit Problem” in The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks Connect With Us Pam Cordano, MFT: pamcordano.com | yourmeaningful.life | Twitter | Instagram | Email pcordano(at)comcast(dot)net Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe
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    • 56 min
    199 Brian Stanton

    199 Brian Stanton

    Today we welcome back to Adoptees On, Brian Stanton. Brian shares with us how the pandemic morphed his script for a play into his fantastic new film @GhostKingdom. We talk about how relationships can shift for us as adopted people: building relationships with people we may believe are genetic relatives until it’s confirmed they aren’t, and how his conception story that Brian and his mother believed for decades got upended.
    Full Show Notes Here Show Notes Recommended Resources Brian Stanton’s film @GhostKingdom www.atghostkingdom.com and find a screening here Adoption Truth and Transparency Worldwide Network The Search for Mother Missing: A Peek Inside International Adoption by Janine Vance Journey Of The Adopted Self: A Quest For Wholeness by Betty Jean Lifton Connect With Us Brian Stanton: Instagram | Facebook | thebrianstanton.com | @GhostKingdom Instagram | www.atghostkingdom.com Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe
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    This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

    • 59 min
    198 Andrea Ross

    198 Andrea Ross

    I’m thrilled to bring you today’s guest, Andrea Ross, author of Unnatural Selection: A Memoir of Adoption and Wilderness. Andrea shares how a health crisis lead her outdoors, and how a decade of spending time in the wilderness brought her a feeling of groundedness. We discuss the loneliness that adopted people can face and how we’ve both seen this theme of reconnecting with ancestral landscapes popping up more and more frequently.
    Full Show Notes Here
    Show Notes Recommended Resources Unnatural Selection: A Memoir of Adoption and Wilderness by Andrea Ross The Wisdom of Wilderness: Experiencing the Healing Power of Nature by Gerald G. May Adoption: The Making of Me podcast - Andrea’s episode Notes for Colorado adoptees from a fellow adoptee, Anne:
    The Colorado Department of Human Services can give you your adoption file "If your adoption was handled by the state or a county, or the licensed child placement agency (LPCA) that handled your adoption has closed.“ I was able to receive this information even though I was not physically in Colorado. I just had to send a picture of my ID via email to confirm who I was. This service was free of charge.
    Colorado adoptees who want to get their OBC and Report of an Adoption (which is basically like an integrated birth certificate and lists your names pre- and post-adoption, your adoptive parents, your birth parents, the date, time and place of your birth, and the attorney who filed the court documents for the adoption), need to contact the Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment or go to their website. There is a form to fill out and a fee to pay for this service.
    One piece of information regarding sealed adoption information in Colorado is that circa 1990 all of the paper files were collected from the county courthouses to be microfiched and held centrally. So be prepared to receive copies of microfiche film that is potentially difficult to decipher.
    More info and links available here from Adoption Search Resource Connection (based in Colorado): www.asrconline.org/get-records
    Connect With Us Andrea Ross: www.andrearosswriter.com | Twitter | Instagram | Personal Facebook | Facebook Page Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe
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    This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

    • 50 min
    197 Donna and Sara

    197 Donna and Sara

    Today we’re back in the spirituality series and we are taking a look at cults and high-demand groups. My guests have both been impacted by cults and they have a theory that adopted people may be more susceptible to these types of groups. Donna and Sara have extensively researched cults since they got out and have a ton of knowledge to share with us. They both tell their personal stories of how they inadvertently found themselves in high-demand groups, how they got out, and what adopted people specifically need to know about cults.
    Full Show Notes Here
    Show Notes Recommended Resources Sara Easterly’s previous appearance on Adoptees On E143 and Donna’s E79 A Little Bit Culty Podcast The Vow: NXIVM Documentary on HBO Searching for Mom: A Memoir by Sara Easterly Terror, Love and Brainwashing: Attachment in Cults and Totalitarian Systems, by Alexandra Stein More reading, research, and resources on the topic:
    #iGotOut www.igotout.org | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook ICSA: International Cultic Studies Association Traumatic Narcissism and Recovery: Leaving the Prison of Shame and Fear by Daniel Shaw Terror, Love and Brainwashing: Attachment in Cults and Totalitarian Systems by Alexandra Stein BITE Model of Authoritarian Control by Steven Hassan Steven Hassan - What is a Cult? YouTube video with a whiteboard animation explaining the BITE Model Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships by Jana Lalich, Madeleine Tobias The Gift of Fear : Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin DeBecker Educated: A Memoir by Tara Westover Sunderland, Paul “Relinquishment and Adoption: Understanding the Impact of and Early Psychological Wound” presentation for iCAAD London 2019, August 12, 2019. (His reference about religiosity/fundamentalism as something commonly seen in adoptees with developmental trauma comes in around 45 minutes in) Podcast episode Roys Report “What Makes a Church a Cult” with guest Steven Hassan Connect With Us Donna: Email adoptee3 [at] gmail [dot] com Sara Easterly: saraeasterly.com | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe
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    This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

    • 1 hr 4 min
    196 Jack Dermody

    196 Jack Dermody

    Today we welcome Jack Dermody to the podcast. We talk about family secrets in adoption and the impact it has on all the parties when they are revealed. Jack also gets personal and tells us what happens when you start closely examining your adoptee experience in your seventies. We talk about family preservation and adoptee support, and how that looks like community showing up for each other on a large scale.
    Full Show Notes Here
    Show Notes Recommended Resources @GhostKingdom by Brian Stanton Tree of Strangers by Barbara Sumner It Takes a Village by Hillary Rodham Clinton Connect With Us Jack Dermody: Facebook Haley Radke: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Adoptees On: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe
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    • 41 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
276 Ratings

276 Ratings

Little Sally Sprinkles ,

Grateful for adoptee voices being heard

Adoptees On was one of the resources recommended to me when I wrote into my favorite mental health podcast, Pod Therapy. I’m so glad to have found this through them and am now recommending it to adoptees I meet on social media looking for resources. It’s also been a tremendous asset for my husband as well, to help him understand the things I can’t quite language yet. Thank you for the work you do for adoptees!

KayeKav ,

Listen to adoptees

If you look for podcasts on adoption, almost all of them center the adoptive or hopeful adoptive parents. This podcast centers on the adoptee, who should be the center of this topic. Turns out we grow up into adults who were adopted as children yet we lack the rights afforded to other adults in that we have no right to our family history, ethnicity, medical history and in many cases our actual birth certificates! The trauma that many (most, if not all) of of us experienced is the only trauma I know of where the victim is told to “be grateful.” This podcast is adoptee-centered and highlights diverse voices. If you know or love an adoptee, please share this podcast with them. Haley Radke is a great host: empathetic, warm and humble. This is hands down my favorite podcast of all time as an adoptee.

Helpful Hobbit ,

Great for anyone thinking about adopting!

I came to this podcast looking to learn more about adoption as someone who might adopt one day. I had always sensed that there was something I didn’t “get”—the narrative I had absorbed about adoption seemed too simple. I’m just a few episodes in and I have learned a TON! This is the real perspective I’d been missing! I feel 10000% more prepared than I did a few days ago and I know I’ve only scratched the surface. Thank you so much to Hailey and everyone who’s sharing their experiences and bringing us all out of the fog.

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