The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

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The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

Welcome to The Anxious to Secure PODCAST! 🎙️ If you’re anxiously attached, want to feel empowered without CHASING your emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner, and are ready to FINALLY become securely attached, this show is for you. 🤍 My name is Jula, and I’m a certified life coach. It took me 30 years to realize how my Anxious Attachment Style and Relationship Anxiety impacted my relationships, and just 6 months to transform into a more secure attachment style. If you want to learn all my secret strategies grab your coffee and headphones🎧 and take me for your walk. Tuesdays: I’ll be busting a relationship myth. Thursdays: I’ll dive into the most pressing relationship questions and powerful methods—from rewiring your mind, anti-anxiety tools, and actionable steps to take right now. 🤍 Jump on the Anxious To Secure Waitlist and get my BLUEPRINT on how I became securely attached in just 6 months. 😱📱 Grab Your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Handle It When Your Partner Doesn’t Text Back. 🤍 Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less with my TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course. 🤍 Instagram: @the.anxious to.secure.coach 🤍 KICK off your Journey with a 90 min 1:1 VIP SOS Session Ready to hear ALL my secrets how I became secure within just 6 months??

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    25: Is THERAPY really the best tool for Healing your Anxious Attachment Style?

    💬 "I've been in therapy for YEARS, spent thousands (some even up to $14,000!), and I still feel anxious in my relationship. Why am I not getting better?" So my Anxious attached clients and I asked myself: Is THERAPY really the best tool for Healing your Anxious Attachment Style? AND I get it, and trust me, I’ve been there.    📢 ON SALE: 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀Anxious spin to Secure within)   Therapy can be incredibly powerful…helping you unpack childhood wounds, bringing awareness to your patterns, and even offering relief.  BUT... awareness alone doesn’t always change behavior.   So, in today’s episode of  The Anxious to Secure PODCAST we're talking about… 🔸 When therapy is helpful🔸 When it might NOT be enough🔸 And what the missing piece actually is   How to stop overthinking in Your relationships : FREE mini Course   DON'T MISS OUT ON THIS... FREE Helpful Resources To Go from Anxious TO secure, step by step...   STOP Chasing Your Partners Reassurance (Free Recourse) - MY 4R METHOD For Reassurance Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached 🚩🚩🚩10 Signs YOU are the Red Flag in your Relationship How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)   00:027 Myth: Therapy is the best and only tool for healing your Anxious Attachment03:06 What Therapy Actually Does for Anxious Attachment04:16 The Missing Piece: Why Awareness Alone Isn’t Enough05:19 Why Therapy Can Feel Like It’s Not Working06:21 Healing Requires More Than Just Talking09:15 The REAL Process for Healing Anxious Attachment13:54 My personal CBT Therapy Experience17:45 When Therapy Might Be the Best Option18:36 Why Coaching + Emotional Mastery Might Be More Effective Than Therapy

    24 min

  2. 4 DAYS AGO

    24: Anxious Attachment and Long Distance Relationship Anxiety

    If you’re in a long-distance relationship (or about to be) and your brain is going wild with overthinking—especially if you have an anxious attachment style… this episode is for you. I’m answering REAL questions from someone on Instagram (thanks again for sharing 💛), like:🔹 How do I stop overthinking and spiraling?🔹 How do I calm my nervous system when I’m triggered?🔹 How do I deal with needing reassurance ALL the time in an LDR? Because let’s be real—long-distance + anxious attachment? It can feel like a NIGHTMARE. But it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I’ll walk you through:🔸 How to manage a long-distance relationship without anxiety taking over🔸 What’s really happening in your brain when you’re triggered🔸 Tools to feel more secure (without over-relying on your partner) If you’ve ever felt like LDR is impossible for someone with anxious attachment… you need this episode. Plus, I’m sharing my personal story—back when I felt anxious in an LDR and how my anxious attachment made it even harder.    Attachment ✎ᝰ.Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻❤️‍🩹 (worksheets, guides, downloads, etc) 📢 ON SALE: 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)   🎧💌📖 FREE COURSE: How to stop overthinking in Your relationships    21 WAYS to download the 🙋🏼‍♀️21 WAYS to STOP Abandoning yourself  The Worry-Free Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety Self Esteem KIT to learn to be GOOD ENOUGH, lovable and worthy from within

    42 min

  3. FEB 13

    23: How to Heal your 🖤 Anxious Attachment Style (FAST) Part 1

    📚 Attachment ✎ᝰ.Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻❤️‍🩹 (worksheets, guides, downloads, etc) 📢 ON SALE: 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)   How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style (Part 1) Are you constantly overthinking every little thing your partner says or does? 🧐Feeling anxious every time they need space or don’t respond right away? 📱And maybe, you’re always wondering if they’re going to leave you? 😥 Trust me, I’ve been there. I know what it feels like to be stuck in that cycle. But here’s the thing: You can heal. 🖤 In this episode, we dive deep into 3 key ways to heal your anxious attachment. Plus, I’m sharing the 6 areas of transformation that will guide you on this journey toward feeling more secure, calm, and confident in your relationships. You’ll also understand why taking action NOW is a game-changer, and how starting TODAY can lead to long-term healing and emotional freedom. Listen in for insights, strategies, and a reminder that you can totally break free from those anxious thoughts and fears. Enjoy the journey to secure attachment! 🎧 Yayy. Lots of love, Jula Your Anxious To Secure Coach   🎧💌📖 FREE COURSE: How to stop overthinking in Your relationships  25 free resources and worksheets...

    40 min

  4. FEB 11

    22: ❤️‍🔥 Valentines Day Anxiety? I've got you.

    ❤️‍🔥 Valentine’s Day Anxiety? Let’s Talk. 📢 ON SALE: 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀Anxious spin to Secure within)   If you’re a hopeless romantic, you LOVE love, or you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP) like me, Valentine’s Day can feel like A LOT. The pressure. The expectations. The overthinking. 🚨 I wasn’t even planning this episode… but then I looked at the calendar and realized—this day can be a HUGE trigger for anxiety. So, I grabbed my mic and recorded something just for you.   In this episode, we’re diving into: ✨ Why Valentine’s Day can send your anxiety into overdrive✨ The ‘should’ traps that make you spiral✨ How comparisons & love language misunderstandings create tension✨ The BIG mistake anxious souls make when looking for security✨ And most importantly—how to shift your thoughts so you actually enjoy the day (without losing your mind).   If Valentine’s Day feels heavy, this episode is your reset button. 🎙️   📚 Attachment ✎ᝰ.Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻❤️‍🩹 (worksheets, guides, downloads, etc) 🎧💌📖 FREE COURSE: How to stop overthinking in Your relationships  25 free resources and worksheets....

    38 min

  5. FEB 6

    21: ONE tool that works for ALL Anxious Archetypes

    The ONE Tool That Works for ALL Anxious Archetypes 🎧 I’ve been using this tool in my own life and relationship, and let me tell you, it’s a GAME CHANGER. 🎮 It’s called THE OPPOSITE SKILL 🪄, and it’s a must-know if you’re working on calming your nervous system and transforming how you react in moments of anxiety or conflict. Here’s the deal: When we feel anxious, our bodies go into fight-or-flight mode. Our heart races, our breath becomes shallow, and we feel the need to either run away or defend ourselves. This is your body trying to protect you, but when it comes to relationships, this can be EXHAUSTING. 😣 That’s where the Opposite Skill comes in. It’s all about doing the opposite of what your body is telling you to do—essentially, teaching your brain that you’re safe. 🧘‍♀️   🎙️ In this episode, we’ll talk about: 💪 How anxiety triggers our fight-or-flight response in relationships🧠 Why the Opposite Skill helps reset your nervous system🪄 How to apply the Opposite Skill for each Anxious Archetype (The Warrior, The Dreamer, The Pleaser, and The Overachiever)💖 My own personal experience and how this tool has helped me stay calm when triggered Trust me, if you’ve been feeling like your nervous system is on overdrive, you’ll want to hear this. 🎧 Listen now   🖤✨ Jula P.S. This is your reminder: YOU are safe, even in those tough moments. Let’s reset and find your calm together. 💖   FREE STUFF 💎 FREE MINI 💎:  Free mini-course: 5x5 lessons STOP Overthinking Your Relationships 🥹❤️‍🩹   MORE 🫶 Instant Download my ATTACHMENT Master Guide: 149 pages (secrets, stories, jaw dropping realisations of how to transform your attachment...) Attachment Style QUIZ - Do you REALLY have an anxious attachment style?   👀🫣 Find out your Anxious Archetype (3min FREE QUIZ)   🤍 COURSES: How to Stop OVERTHINKING 🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less   Resources: 🤍 TRANSFORM YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE: Anxious To Secure BLUEPRINT: Become secure 95% FASTER 🤍 COACHING: 1:1 VIP SOS Session     Disclaimer: My content is not meant for anyone in abusive relationships.

    37 min

  6. FEB 4

    20: 😳Anxious Attachment: Is it Love or Anxiety?

    Are You in Love… or Just Anxious? 🎧 🖤 Secure Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻🖤 Let’s get real for a sec… is it love or anxiety is an important question in realtionships. If you have an anxious attachment, this question can feel like a full-on identity crisis. Because when you meet someone, it can feel SO intense—like they’re your whole world overnight. But is that deep love, or just the fear of losing them? This week on The Anxious to Secure Podcast, we’re breaking down: ❤️‍🔥 The FEAR that’s actually driving anxious attachment⛈️ Why you don’t need to panic—even if this hits hard✨ 8 journaling prompts to find out if you’re staying out of LOVE or FEAR🧠 The science behind excitement vs. anxiety (because YES, your brain is playing tricks on you!)💡 The truth about different relationship stages—so you stop mistaking chaos for connection If you’ve ever wondered, Am I in love? Or am I just attached?—this episode is for you.   FREE STUFF 💎 FREE MINI 💎:  Free mini-course: 5x5 lessons STOP Overthinking Your Relationships 🥹❤️‍🩹   MORE 🫶 Instant Download my ATTACHMENT Master Guide: 149 pages (secrets, stories, jaw dropping realisations of how to transform your attachment...) Attachment Style QUIZ - Do you REALLY have an anxious attachment style?   👀🫣 Find out your Anxious Archetype (3min FREE QUIZ)   🤍 COURSES: How to Stop OVERTHINKING 🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less

    25 min

  7. JAN 30

    19: Anxious ARCHETYPE - Relationship Anxiety Tools 💕🛠 (Part 02)

    MORE FREE RESOURCES: 💎 NEW💎:  Free mini-course: 5x5 lessons STOP Overthinking Your Relationships 🫶🏻🥹❤️‍🩹 Challenge Your Thoughts CHEAT SHEET: To stop running on Auto-Pilot Learn to REASSURE Yourself + STOP Chasing External Reassurance 👀🫣Find out your Anxious Archetype (3min free QUIZ) Stop Being Needy Guide: 3 Steps Attachment Style QUIZ - Do you REALLY have an anxious attachment style?   🤍 QUICK MINI COURSES - SMALL: How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) Only for 47 TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less - only 27 Anxious ARCHETYPE - Relationship Anxiety Tools (Part 2) In this episode, we’re diving into PRACTICAL tools for each anxious archetype: Warrior, Dreamer, Pleaser, and Overachiever. Learn how to tackle relationship anxiety with journaling exercises, self-reflection techniques, and actionable steps designed specifically for your archetype.   What you’ll get: A quick recap of anxious archetypes Tools for breaking anxious patterns Specific strategies to create emotional balance and calm   ★ Takeaways ✨ ★ Understanding your anxious archetype can enhance relationship dynamics.★ The warrior archetype often feels the need to control situations.★ Pausing before reacting can help in managing anxiety.★ Overthinking can be counterproductive and lead to emotional distress.★ Journaling can help clarify thoughts and reduce anxiety.★ The pleaser archetype often neglects their own needs for others.★ Setting boundaries is crucial for self-care and mental health.★ Rest is essential for self-worth and emotional well-being.★ One specific Mindfulness techniques can be beneficial for all archetypes   Chapters:🕒 00:20 Recap of Anxious Archetypes🕒 02:03 Warrior Archetype Tools🕒 09:51 Dreamer Archetype Tools🕒 11:25 Journaling for Dreamers🕒 16:14 Pleaser Archetype Tools🕒 25:35 Overachiever Archetype Tools🕒 31:38 A tool for every archetype Go from relationship anxiety and low-key survival mode to feeling emotionally safe, regulated, present, and thriving again. ✨

    33 min

  8. JAN 28

    18: Relationship Anxiety❤️‍🔥: The Problem with 'When You Know, You Know'

    Are you waiting for this moment to KNOW if your partner is “the one”? 😳✨ (take me 3 min Anxiety or Intuition Quiz) NEW: 💎 NEW💎:  Free mini-course: 5x5 lessons STOP Overthinking Your Relationships 🫶🏻 🤍 FREE WORKSHEETS + DOWNLOADS: Stop Being Needy Guide: 3 Steps WORRY-FREE Flow Chart: Free Download Is it Anxiety or Intuition: 3min digital Quiz Learn to REASSURE Yourself + STOP Chasing External Reassurance Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached 🤍 COURSES: How to Stop OVERTHINKING 🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner) TEXT ANXIETY: Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less 🤍  REQUEST PODCAST TOPICS: Instagram: @the.anxious.to.secure.coach   Are you waiting for this moment to KNOW if your partner is “the one”? 😳✨ Ever find yourself wondering, “Is this THE relationship?” Waiting for that magical moment of certainty to just hit? 💭 Do you feel triggered when you hear the phrase "When you know, you know" … but YOU never knew? You’ve always felt uncertain. You’ve never had this big, WOW moment where your partner is just obviously "THE ONE." Are you supposed to know? Maybe you’ve never been sure about your partner or your relationship. It’s called relationship anxiety… and I’ve got you. 🖤 Because honestly? That phrase used to trigger me hard when I felt uncertain in my own relationship.   Today on The Anxious to Secure Podcast 🎙️ We’re unpacking the myth of "When you know, you know"—and why it might be setting you up to doubt yourself and your relationship. 💔 But don’t worry, I’ll also share some empowering questions you can ask yourself instead.   In this episode, we’ll dive into… ⚡ How the "When you know, you know" myth creates unrealistic expectations.⚡ My personal story of doubt vs. certainty in my current relationship (spoiler: I had MORE doubts than ever after the honeymoon phase!).⚡ What real love actually looks like—and why it’s not black-and-white.⚡ How anxious attachment gets triggered when you feel uncertain.⚡ Coaching questions to help you stop overthinking and start building true security.   The truth?You don’t need a HUGE sign to feel safe in your relationship. It’s not about waiting for certainty. It’s about doing the work, calming your anxious thoughts, and deciding to go ALL IN. ✨   Episode Breakdown 00:00 The Myth of "When You Know, You Know"01:23 Doubt vs. Certainty: My Personal Story02:43 The Truth About Real Love: It’s a decision, not magic.03:52 Why "When You Know" Feels Misleading05:05 Calm vs. Chaos in Love06:57 Rewiring Your Brain for Stability08:04 How to Know if They’re The One (Without Overthinking It)09:06 The Reality Behind “When You Know”13:46 You Don’t Need a SIGN to Feel Safe in Your Relationship20:02 How This ONE Thing Melted My Doubts20:39 “If It’s Not Easy, Then Something Must Be Wrong.”24:06 The Dangers of Comparison in Love and How It Fuels Doubt31:40 “When You Know, You Know” as a Perfectionism TRAP34:09 Coaching Questions About Doubts and Anxiety in Relationships36:10 The Real Question Isn’t “Is My Partner The One?”—It’s…   Key Takeaways ✨ The phrase 'When you know, you know' sets unrealistic expectations in relationships.✨ Certainty in love doesn’t magically appear—it’s built through action and commitment.✨ Attachment styles play a HUGE role in how we experience relationships.✨ Conflict is NORMAL in relationships and can lead to growth when handled well.✨ Comparing your relationship to others only creates unnecessary anxiety.✨ Real love is a decision you make daily—it’s not about perfection or ease.✨ Trust comes from consistent actions and open communication.✨ Focusing on the present moment reduces relationship anxiety.✨ Doubts are an opportunity to grow and deepen your connection.✨ Choosing each other da

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Welcome to The Anxious to Secure PODCAST! 🎙️ If you’re anxiously attached, want to feel empowered without CHASING your emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner, and are ready to FINALLY become securely attached, this show is for you. 🤍 My name is Jula, and I’m a certified life coach. It took me 30 years to realize how my Anxious Attachment Style and Relationship Anxiety impacted my relationships, and just 6 months to transform into a more secure attachment style. If you want to learn all my secret strategies grab your coffee and headphones🎧 and take me for your walk. Tuesdays: I’ll be busting a relationship myth. Thursdays: I’ll dive into the most pressing relationship questions and powerful methods—from rewiring your mind, anti-anxiety tools, and actionable steps to take right now. 🤍 Jump on the Anxious To Secure Waitlist and get my BLUEPRINT on how I became securely attached in just 6 months. 😱📱 Grab Your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Handle It When Your Partner Doesn’t Text Back. 🤍 Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less with my TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course. 🤍 Instagram: @the.anxious to.secure.coach 🤍 KICK off your Journey with a 90 min 1:1 VIP SOS Session Ready to hear ALL my secrets how I became secure within just 6 months??

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    Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
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    2024 - 2025
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