DOPEamine Christian A. Rivera

Today, I’m exploring the multifaceted topic of intimacy, a subject that touches upon the very core of our experiences as individuals and as members of the collective human experience.
Show Notes:
* Intimacy is a vast and intricate concept, encompassing various aspects of our lives, including sexuality, creativity, and personal connections.
* Understanding the interplay between admiration and boundaries is crucial for cultivating respect and nurturing healthy intimate relationships.
* The pursuit of intimacy is often intertwined with our existential quest for meaning, purpose, and a sense of belonging in the face of our temporary existence.
* Navigating the spaces between connection and separation, individuality and union, is a delicate dance that requires self-awareness and a willingness to embrace uncertainty.
* Releasing the attachments to blame, shame, and guilt can pave the way for more authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.
Intimacy is a vast and layered topic that touches on various aspects of our lives - sexuality, creativity, personal connections, and more. In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the nuances of intimacy through the lens of admiration, boundaries, and respect.
You'll hear personal anecdotes and insights on navigating the complexities of intimacy, from the existential anxiety underlying our desire for connection to the importance of self-love and releasing attachments to blame, shame, and guilt.
We dive into the delicate dance of individuality and union, physical and emotional intimacy, and the role boundaries play in cultivating meaningful relationships. There's also an examination of how our pursuit of intimacy is intertwined with finding purpose amidst the temporary nature of existence.
The discussion provides a refreshing perspective on intimacy that goes beyond just the physical, inviting you to reflect on your own experiences and challenges. Prepare for an intimate look at intimacy itself, filled with philosophical musings and wisdom on self-discovery, admiration, and the beauty of uncertainty. By the end, you may rethink what true intimacy means to you.
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Show Notes / Key Listening Points:
* Countering common fear-based narratives about climate change, AI, war, and global events
* The importance of not diminishing my optimism and willingness to see multiple perspectives
* How fear can limit our thinking and block us from considering positive outcomes
* Using imagination to conceive better outcomes, not just worry about worst-case scenarios
* The adaptability and resilience of humanity in the face of drastic changes and challenges
* Potential positive impacts of AI, technological advancements, and problem-solving innovations
* Cyclical thinking vs. linear thinking, and embracing the natural ebb and flow of human existence
* Finding gratitude, connectedness, and a sense of purpose amidst significant shifts and losses
My friends, in a world often dominated by fear-based narratives surrounding climate change, artificial intelligence (AI), war, and global events, it can be challenging to maintain a sense of optimism and openness to different perspectives. However, as I passionately argue in this thought-provoking podcast episode, it is crucial that we do not diminish our optimism or willingness to consider multiple sides of these complex issues.
I acknowledge the validity of fears surrounding these concerns, but I also emphasize the importance of not allowing fear to limit our thinking or blind us to potential positive outcomes. I encourage you to use your imagination not just to worry about worst-case scenarios but also to conceive better, more hopeful possibilities.
One area where I see promise is the development of AI and technological advancements. Rather than succumbing to fears of job displacement or a Terminator-esque takeover, I highlight the potential benefits of AI, such as reducing human workloads, enabling safer exploration of inhospitable environments like Mars, and facilitating problem-solving innovations that could address issues like climate change.
I also emphasize the adaptability and resilience of humanity in the face of drastic changes and challenges. Throughout history, we humans have migrated, adapted, and found creative solutions to survive and thrive in new environments and circumstances. I believe that, even in the face of significant shifts or losses, we possess the capacity to find gratitude, connectedness, and a sense of purpose.
Moreover, I encourage a cyclical perspective on human existence, recognizing the natural ebb and flow of eras, ideas, and ways of being. Just as previous generations have faced upheavals and transitions, I argue that we are currently experiencing a transitional phase, which, though challenging, also presents opportunities for growth, innovation, and the emergence of new positive possibilities.
While acknowledging the importance of facing fears head-on and not invalidating legitimate concerns, my message to you is ultimately one of hope and empowerment. I urge you to tune into the accuracy of your fears, distinguishing between valid, immediate threats and conceptual worries that may limit your ability to imagine and work towards better outcomes.
By embracing optimism, considering multiple perspectives, and harnessing our innate adaptability and creativity, I believe we can navigate the challenges of our time and shape a future that not only endures but thrives. Join me in fighting for optimism and embracing the positive possibilities that await us.
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Show Notes:
• Exploring the concepts of projections (unconscious agency) and introjections (unconscious receptivity) from the Stages model
• Understanding the split ego state and how it relates to childhood development and trauma  
• Recognizing unhealthy patterns of being more of a "taker" than a "giver" in relationships and life
• Working on reciprocity, boundaries, and being more altruistic by offering value without expectation
The Unconscious Dance of Projections and Introjections
I recently came across a fascinating idea - that projections are an unconscious use of agency, while introjections are an unconscious form of receptivity. This stems from my recent dive into the Stages model and the three forms of shadow identified by Kim Barta: projections, introjections, and split ego states.
Projections are qualities about ourselves that we place onto others, often showing up as judgments. Introjections are taking on qualities, feelings, or traits that aren't truly ours. A split ego state occurs when a childhood trauma causes part of our psyche to become walled off or unconsciously carried into later stages of development.
The idea of projections being "unconscious agency" is striking. Agency implies self-authored action and creativity, but when it's unconscious, we aren't realizing the impact of our behaviors. The world then reflects that unconsciousness back to us through triggers and reactions we project onto others.
Introjections, being "unconscious receptivity," represent the flip side. We're taking in messages, media, or even trauma without realizing how it permeates our psychology and behavioral patterns. The 1.0 stage of pure receptivity in infancy is often where introjections begin.
For me personally, I'm seeing how much I've operated from an unconscious drive to "take" rather than give - seeking friendship, intimacy, or even business in manipulative ways to get my wants met. It links back to developmental lacks around boundaries, reciprocity, and valuing myself enough to just offer value without expectation.
The 2.0 stage is all about learning boundaries, negotiating wants, and developing that critical theory of mind and social perspective-taking. If we get stuck in an earlier stage or experience a "shadow crash," we can react from that younger, more selfishly motivated ego state.
My work now is noticing those taking/manipulative tendencies, setting healthier boundaries, and figuring out how to genuinely give and be altruistic - through content, skills, presence, and service to others. Not from a depleted place, but from truly valuing what I have to offer the world.
It's an insightful model for doing powerful inner work. If any of these concepts resonate, I invite you to explore the Stages model further or leave me a comment with questions. I'll do my best to offer more generous perspectives as I muddle through these realizations myself.


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This episode is a difficult realization manifest in a long winding investigation into not just a wounding but an uncheck node in my internal system. Using the STAGES model created by Kim Barta and Terri O’Fallen I’ve been able to pinpoint where I need some important work, and how I’ve been undermining myself, misusing my intelligence, and not setting proper boundaries for myself. This episode shares that process and some real-time realizations about my impact on others and how this young childhood trauma has impacted my development into today.
Show Notes:
Introduction:
* Christian Rivera shares insights from his personal journey of self-discovery and growth, drawing from Gene Key 50 and other developmental models.
Main Points:
* Body as Beloved Pet:
* Rivera likens the body to a cherished pet, emphasizing the importance of nurturing and loving it for optimal health and happiness.
* Exploring Personal Development:
* Reflecting on personal growth, Rivera delves into the discovery of internal corruption and its impact on development.
* Stages Model and Perspective:
* Rivera discusses the Stages model, which applies vertical models of human development to a more relatable perspective of first, second, and third-person viewpoints.
* Perspective Evolution:
* Expanding on the Stages model, Rivera explores higher perspectives, highlighting the process of unraveling constructs and expanding worldviews.
* Releasing Victim Identity:
* Rivera shares his journey of releasing the victim identity, delving into the complexities of personal narratives and their influence on behavior.
* Ego States and Shadow Work:
* Exploring ego states and shadow work, Rivera discusses how childhood experiences can shape behaviors and perceptions, leading to the development of corrupted patterns.
* Gene Key 50:
* Rivera relates his journey to Gene Key 50, emphasizing the importance of rooting out corrupted programs and achieving equilibrium for personal growth.
* Embracing Equilibrium:
* Rivera discusses the significance of maintaining inner equilibrium amidst life's challenges, highlighting the power of gratitude and self-reflection in fostering harmony.
* Boundaries and Relationships:
* Rivera reflects on the importance of setting boundaries and fostering harmonious relationships, acknowledging the need for balance between giving and receiving.
* Moving Forward:
* Rivera concludes by expressing gratitude for the listener's support and shares his commitment to continued growth and self-discovery.
Conclusion:
* Rivera expresses gratitude for the listener's engagement and support, emphasizing the ongoing journey of self-improvement and growth.
Support Information:
* Rivera encourages listeners to subscribe to his Substack and consider supporting his work through Patreon to facilitate ongoing content creation and personal development exploration.
Closing Remarks:
* Rivera extends love and gratitude to the audience, encouraging them to embrace gratitude and self-reflection in their own journeys.


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I’m testing Wednesday Wisdom as a series of thought meditations to calm the mind from various angles to focus on presence and breath. If you enjoy this series let me know in the comments below. You can also now book a support session with me if you need more.
I’ve been uncovering a Saviorism within myself. I need to prove myself disguised as confident and all-knowing of what people need to be doing with their lives. Lately, I’ve seen that this is an abrasive attempt to prove my value as a human by overdoing, overstepping, and forcing others who aren’t prepared to grow into a growth path, which usually only halts their natural growth. Forcing extra water on a plant because it needs to grow faster will only drown it. So, I’m learning to back off, not force my contribution, and put emphasis on both acceptance of presence with everything being perfect as it is and to also support the expansion of the light of human consciousness with my work as a garden to tend to as opposed to a belief to peddle.
In my own exploration and self-discovery, I've come to realize that the role I envisioned for myself—as the omnipotent savior of everyone around me—may not be the path meant for me. Instead, what has emerged from my reflections and meditations is a deeper understanding that my true role is more akin to a humble steward or guide, not just for others, but for my own journey as well.
This journey began with a well-intentioned desire to fix, save, and uplift every soul I encountered. I saw myself as the architect of change, the only one who held the wisdom to guide those lost back to shore. This mindset, noble in its aim, often led me to overextend, to overstep, and, paradoxically, to stunt the very growth I aimed to foster in others.
Through my meditation, I've come to see that the essence of my contribution is not found in grandiose acts of salvation but in the quiet, steady support and acceptance of each person's unique path. Like a gardener tending to their plot, I've learned the importance of allowing each plant to grow at its own pace, understanding that each requires different amounts of sunlight, water, and care. This realization has shown me the beauty of stepping back, of supporting rather than forcing growth.
Transitioning from a savior to a steward or coach has been liberating. It has allowed me to shed the burdens of proving my worth through the act of saving and to embrace a more sustainable, fulfilling way of contributing to the world. By focusing on my own growth and self-discovery, I inadvertently create a space where others feel empowered to explore, grow, and shine in their own right.
The mantra I shared, "You don't need to save the world. You do not need to save anyone. You do not need to do anything to prove your worth," is a powerful affirmation that has guided me through this transition. It's a reminder to embrace my inherent worth, understanding that my value does not depend on my ability to rescue others but on my capacity to love, support, and be present with them on their journey.
This path of unburdening has underscored the importance of being my own savior, healer, and coach. By setting boundaries, honoring my needs, and nurturing my growth, I lay the groundwork for genuine, impactful contributions to the lives of those around me. It's in this space of self-love and acceptance that I can truly contribute from a place of abundance rather than obligation.
As I navigate the complexities of life, I hold onto the essence of my meditation: my role is not to bear the weight of the world on my shoulders but to walk alongside others, sharing the load, offering support, and celebrating the unique journey each of us is on. In doing so, I not only enrich my own life but also contribute to a world where growth, acceptance, and presence are valued above all else. This shift from savior to steward, from fixer to supporter, is not just a personal evolution but a testament to the power of presence, acceptance, a

Relevant Links:
* The One-Sided Victim Story: Dive into the complexities of the victim narrative here.
* The Victim/Entitled Balancing Act: Explore the balance between victimhood and entitlement here.
* Discovering Your Brand Message: Uncover the essence of your brand with this course here.
Welcome, thinkers and wanderers, to a journey of self-discovery and transformation with your guide, Christian Rivera. Today, we delve into the paradox of victimhood and its potential to either chain us to the past or propel us toward personal triumph. Strap in for an exploration of survival instincts, psychological resilience, and the path to self-sovereignty.
The Paradox of Victimhood
Victimhood, while inherently linked to suffering, carries an unexpected power—the power to transcend. Yet, as we navigate from physical survival to psychological battles, the real challenge emerges: not allowing our stories of victimhood to define us but instead using them as stepping stones to empowerment and creation.
Journey Through Psychological Trauma
Christian shares his personal voyage through the dark waters of psychological trauma, a path marked by the redefinition of emotional boundaries and the relentless pursuit of self-authorship. This narrative sheds light on the transformative journey from victimhood to agency, underscored by the vital role of support systems.
The Power of Support and Adaptation
In the face of indifference, the significance of support—be it from a partner, a coach, or a community—cannot be overstated. Christian highlights the shift from seeking external accommodations to fostering personal adaptation, emphasizing the role of technology and tools in overcoming challenges like dyslexia and ADHD.
The Drama Triangle: A Philosophical Exploration
Venturing into the drama triangle, we examine the roles of victim, hero, and villain within co-dependent dynamics. This exploration reveals the potential for narrative change, encouraging us to step out of predefined roles and embrace the responsibility of crafting our destinies.
Emotional Boundaries and Savior Complexes
Christian offers a candid reflection on the savior complex and the importance of establishing emotional boundaries. This discussion serves as a reminder of the perils of attempting to 'fix' the emotional turmoil of others and the importance of focusing on our responses and choices.
Discipline and Surrender: The Essence of Growth
The episode concludes with a meditation on the balance between discipline and surrender, emphasizing the importance of self-care and the acceptance of flow and ease. This balance avoids the extremes of hyper-vigilance and submission, guiding us towards personal growth.
A Call to Self-Sovereignty
Christian leaves us with a call to action: to examine our relationship with victimhood and actively pursue self-sovereignty and agency. This invitation encourages engagement in personal growth work, transforming us from passive recipients of life's challenges to active creators of our future.
Join us on this philosophical journey at dopamine.substack.com, where we continue to explore mental health, spirituality, and the quest for transformation. Share your thoughts and experiences on navigating victimhood and claiming your power. Until next time, embrace the choices you make and the paths you dare to walk, for they shape your destiny.


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