The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

Erica Bennett
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Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

  1. 2D AGO

    Stories From the Other Side: Divorce Recovery + Rebuilding Your Identity After a Marriage Ends — Heather Sweeney

    If you’re navigating divorce recovery, relationship burnout, or that slow drift of growing apart, this episode will feel like a mirror. Heather Sweeney shares her story through the lens of a military marriage—but the patterns apply to any relationship: missed expectations, emotional overload, resentment, communication breakdowns, and losing yourself along the way. Heather is the author of Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage, and she opens up about what finally helped her move from survival mode to clarity, healing, and purpose after divorce. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Missed expectations: Why “we’ll always be together” can quietly turn into disappointment—and how to reset expectations with real conversations. The over-functioning trap: How doing everything becomes an unspoken contract… and breeds resentment when it’s not reciprocated. Resentment is emotional, not logical: Why “it makes sense” doesn’t stop the resentment—and what to do when you feel depleted. Love languages + real-life friction: How mismatched needs (acts of service, gifts, words, etc.) can cause disconnection even when love is there. Identity loss in marriage (and motherhood): The moment you realize you’ve lost your “spunky/sassy” self—and how to start rebuilding. Grief after divorce is normal: You can be ready to leave and still mourn the loss of the future you hoped for. Healing tools that actually help: Journaling, community, boundaries, self-compassion, and consciously rebuilding a life you want. 🌟 Resources & LinksLooking for Support on your Journey? Join The Club: The Club Divorce Membership Grab a Copy of Heather’s book: Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage Learn More About Your Love Language: The Five Love Languages Meet this Week’s Guest: Heather Sweeney Website: Heather Sweeney Book: Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage Instagram: Heather Sweeney (@writersweeney) TikTok: Heather Sweeney | Author on TikTok

    31 min

  2. APR 8

    Functional Freeze: Why You’re Not Lazy — You’re Frozen

    If you’ve been calling yourself lazy, unmotivated, or broken, this episode will reframe everything. Erica breaks down functional freeze — a nervous system state that keeps you busy, exhausted, and emotionally overwhelmed while making it feel impossible to do the things that matter most. Through real-life examples, Erica shares how functional freeze shows up, why “just try harder” does not work, and the 3-step process that helps you gently move out of survival mode and back into action. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways What functional freeze really is and why it is often mistaken for lazinessHow your nervous system can keep you stuck in busy work, avoidance, and exhaustionThe difference between true self-care and self-sabotage disguised as self-careWhy pressure, shame, and “just take action” advice often make the freeze worseErica’s 3-step process to begin shifting out of freeze:How small, compassionate actions can help rebuild trust with yourselfWhy healing your nervous system matters more than forcing productivity 🌟 Resources & Links The Club: A divorce member for women rewriting their next chapter - with healing, sisterhood, and a side of hell yes. Wild Woman: A monthly ritual to reconnect with your truth, release what's heavy and remember who you are. The Blueprint: A 90-minute guided reclamation for divorced women who are ready to create a clear, grounded vision for what comes The Other F Word: The Crazy Ex-Wives Club Episode Apple Spotify https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com If this episode hit home, take a breath and give yourself grace. You are not broken — your nervous system is asking for safety, support, and a gentler way forward. Subscribe to the podcast, share this episode with a friend who feels stuck, and join The Club for deeper support, healing tools, and programs designed to help you reconnect with yourself.

    28 min

  3. APR 1

    Are you a Crazy Ex-Wife? How to Reclaim Your Power When You’ve Been Labeled “Crazy”

    Being labeled “crazy” is often what happens when a woman has been unheard, dysregulated, and pushed past her limits for too long. In this episode, Erica unpacks the difference between being reactive and being powerful, and why emotional healing starts with regulating your nervous system, rebuilding self-trust, and reconnecting with the woman you were before survival mode took over. This conversation is for any woman who has ever been called too much, too emotional, too reactive, or too hard to handle. Erica shares how to stop giving your power away, interrupt old emotional patterns, and begin choosing grounded responses that align with the life you actually want to build. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Being called “crazy” is often a way society dismisses women’s emotional truth.There is a real difference between emotional reactivity and grounded personal power.Unprocessed pain, chronic stress, and years of not being heard can dysregulate your nervous system.Healing is not about controlling other people. It is about owning your response.You cannot think your way out of a nervous system response. Regulation has to come first.True power lives in the pause between the trigger and the reaction.Rebuilding your internal compass is how you reconnect with your voice, your needs, and your next chapter. ⏱️ Episode Timestamps 00:00 — Crazy or Powerful? 00:33 — Why This Message Matters 01:23 — When “Crazy” Becomes a Label 02:05 — Emotions as a Superpower 03:00 — What Reactivity Really Is 04:14 — The Trap of Blaming Others 04:55 — What “Unfuckwithable” Means 05:35 — Her Lowest Reactive Moment 07:16 — What Was Under the Rage 09:09 — Emotions Beg to Be Heard 09:41 — A Dysregulated Nervous System 11:03 — From Bad Crazy to Good Crazy 12:48 — The First Step: Stop Running 13:48 — Regulate, Rewire, Realize 15:29 — Your Inner Wild Woman 16:22 — Reconnecting With Who You Were 17:18 — Rebuild Your Internal Compass 18:38 — Why Talk Therapy Isn’t Enough 19:49 — Power Is Owning Your Response 21:01 — The Trigger-to-Spiral Pattern 22:00 — A Real-Life Future Tripping Moment 24:31 — The Shift Back to the Present 26:07 — What Do I Need Right Now? 27:14 — Sitting in the Feels 28:09 — Becoming the Woman You Trust 29:36 — Building the Next Chapter 30:51 — Ways to Work With Erica 31:46 — Reclaim the Word “Crazy” 🌟 Resources & Links The Blueprint: Your at-home guide to define who you want to be in your next chapter. LEARN MORE HERE Unfuckwithable Coaching: 30-days to a regulated nervous system, healed triggers and an energy that is born to rise. LEARN MORE HERE Visit https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com to learn more about the podcast and how to work with Erica. Ratings and Reviews help other women find the show. If this episode spoke to you, make sure to subscribe then share it with a woman who has ever been called “too much” when she was really just overwhelmed, unheard, or hurting.

    28 min

  4. MAR 25

    Growing Up Divorced: A Teen’s Honest Take on Divorce, Two Homes, and Blending Families

    In this episode, Erica Bennett sits down with her son Owen for an honest conversation about growing up between two homes, adapting to constant change, and what actually helped him feel safe and supported.  Owen shares what divorce feels like from a child’s point of view years later. Together, they also explore the challenges of switching households, blending families, and why kids often need calm, connection, and simple reassurance more than parents realize. In this episode, we will explore: How Owen experienced divorce from a child’s perspectiveWhy switching between households was one of the hardest partsHow divorce helped Owen become more adaptable and independentWhat Erica did that helped him feel supportedWhy parental fear can affect kids more than we realizeThe role of keepsakes and comfort items during transitionsWhat blending families felt like from Owen’s sideWhy slow introductions to new partners matterHow extended family dynamics can add pressureWhat parents can do to create more emotional safety for their kids Want to hear more from Owen? Leave a comment on Spotify or send us a message on Instagram with the questions you would like him to answer. Contact with Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives ClubJoin the Club: Transform your greatest heartbreak into your biggest comeback.Buy some Crazy Merchwww.thecrazyexwivesclub.comTag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok

    24 min

  5. MAR 18

    Feeling Lonely After Divorce: The Lesson Hidden in Solitude

    Feeling lonely after divorce can make it seem like everyone else has somewhere to be, someone to call, or a life that feels more connected than yours. In this episode, Erica unpacks why loneliness can feel so loud in this chapter and how it may actually be pointing you back to yourself in a deeper way. She shares how being alone is not a punishment, but an invitation to rebuild self trust, reconnect with your desires, and create a life that felt good from the inside out. If you’ve been struggling with quiet weekends, solo evenings, or the stories your mind tells you when no one reaches out, this conversation will remind you that loneliness is not the end of the story. It may be the beginning of learning how to truly enjoy your own company. If you wonder why being alone feels heavier than you thought it would or catch yourself thinking that if you just had someone, all of this would feel easier, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore how loneliness after divorce can stir up old stories about worth, belonging, and being chosen — and how healing begins when you stop trying to outrun the quiet and start listening to what it’s here to teach you. In this episode, we will explore: why loneliness feels bigger than just being alonethe old beliefs that get triggered in the silencewhy having a partner does not automatically solve lonelinessthe shift from proving you can be alone to actually enjoying your own companyhow contentment becomes the starting point for rebuilding joysimple ways to reconnect with yourself when loneliness hits ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 — The Quiet You Took for Granted 00:35 — Why This Topic Matters 01:40 — When Loneliness Still Hits 03:20 — Partnership Isn’t the Cure 05:08 — The Fear of Being Unchosen 07:24 — The Story Loneliness Tells 09:44 — Divorce as a Turning Point 12:07 — Nights That Felt the Hardest 14:03 — From Proving to Contentment 16:28 — It Was Never About Worth 18:35 — Learning to Love a Solo Life 20:48 — Follow What Feels Good 22:53 — Why Contentment Comes First 25:18 — Let Loneliness Teach You 🌟 Links Mentioned in the Show: The Wild Woman — Reconnect with your deepest desires and feminine power The Club — Join the Club for support, sisterhood, and deeper healing The Blueprint — Build your blueprint to release the past and step into who you’re becoming with confidence The Emotional Ladder PDF — Download the Emotional Ladder PDF to help shift your thoughts one step at a time What ah-ha hit you the hardest? Leave a comment on Spotify. 🌟 Contact with Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club Ratings & Review mean the world to us! Join the Club Buy some Crazy Merch https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok

    24 min

  6. MAR 11

    Manifesting Maize: Rebuilding Self Trust for Clearer Decisions

    In this episode, Erica shares the story of how bringing a new puppy home became a lesson in rebuilding self-trust, quieting decision fatigue, and learning how to recognize the right decision without forcing it. What starts as a puppy story turns into a deeper conversation about inner guidance, emotional clarity, and the difference between chasing an answer versus calmly knowing what’s true. You'll Learn: Self-trust is rebuilt by listening to your own signals. Erica walks through what it looked like to stop overriding herself and start paying attention to what felt calm, clear, and aligned. Decision fatigue is a sign to pause, not push harder. When a choice starts to feel muddy, frantic, or overcomplicated, that can be the cue to step back and go general again. The right decision often feels calm, not chaotic. Erica describes how the path toward Maize felt easy, safe, and flowing once she stopped forcing outcomes that didn’t fit. Inner guidance becomes clearer when your nervous system is regulated. You can’t hear your truth clearly when everything feels urgent. Regulation creates the space to discern what’s fear and what’s real. You have to line yourself up with the decisions you need to make. Clarity doesn’t always come from thinking harder. Sometimes it comes from creating the internal alignment to recognize what is actually right for you. We Talk About: 00:05 — Meet Maize 01:43 — When Decision Fatigue Hits 04:05 — Knowing There Was No Capacity 06:24 — Getting Clear on What Matters 08:16 — The Holding Pattern Ends 10:42 — Wrong Turns and Red Flags 13:05 — When the Signs Got Loud 15:17 — The Secret, the Deposit, the Momentum 17:37 — Why Trusting Yourself Feels So Hard 20:03 — The Difference Between Forcing and Knowing 22:30 — Manifesting Through Your Guidance System 24:54 — Rebuilding With Focus and Trust Links Mentioned in the Show The New You Blueprint - Coming March 25th! Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship. It can blur your identity. The New You Blueprint is here to help you come back to yourself so you can move forward with clarity, intention, and self-trust. The Club Divorce Membership Transform your greatest heartbreak into your biggest comeback. Wild Woman A guided, monthly ritual to clear the noise, stop second-guessing, and feel deeply rooted in who you are, so you can build a life that actually feels like yours. Did you love this episode? If this episode spoke to you, let us know! Ratings and Reviews, along with sharing this show with others, help new listeners find there way here. Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com Instagram Facebook YouTube

    22 min

  7. MAR 4

    Bougie on a Budget After Divorce. How to Rebuild Your Finances Without Feeling Restricted | Shana & Vanessa, Budget Besties

    What happens when divorce forces you to look at your money differently? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Shana and Vanessa of Budget Besties to talk about the B word. Budgets. Not the restrictive, shame-filled kind. The bougie kind. The kind that supports your next chapter instead of shrinking it. Divorce often brings financial fear to the surface. Whether you managed the money before or not, stepping into full financial responsibility can feel overwhelming. Shame creeps in. Avoidance sets in. The credit card becomes the emotional buffer. Shana and Vanessa break down how to move from fear to clarity using a simplified, automated budgeting system designed specifically for women. They explain how most women don’t have a spending problem. They have an organization problem. If you’re navigating financial independence after divorce, feeling behind with money, or afraid to look at your bank account, this episode will remind you that you are capable of being the CFO of your own life. You’ll learn: Why money feels heavier after divorce The difference between a spending problem and an organization problem How shame keeps women stuck financially The three-step simplified budget system: create, separate, automate What a digital envelope system is and how it replaces outdated cash envelopes How separating accounts creates natural guardrails Why automation eliminates financial stress How to stop relying on credit cards to fund your life Why adding cushion prevents rebound overspending How paying off debt creates financial freedom How to let your money work for you instead of against you Why your version of “bougie” is allowed We talk about: 00:00 Reframing the B word after divorce 02:00 Why budgeting feels emotional and overwhelming 04:00 Money shame and “I should know this already” 06:00 Avoidance and head-in-the-sand habits 08:00 The simplified five-column budget structure 10:00 Digital envelopes and separating accounts 12:00 Why guardrails create freedom 14:00 Overspending and emotional justification 16:00 Designing a budget you actually want to follow 18:00 Becoming the CFO of your own life 20:00 Adding buffer and flexibility into your spending 22:00 Automating your bills and savings 24:00 Debit cards versus credit card reliance 26:00 Paying off debt and reclaiming income 28:00 Financial independence in your next chapter 30:00 Letting your money multiply while you sleep 32:00 Small shifts that create financial momentum 34:00 Why budgeting is self-respect, not restriction 36:00 Your first simple step this week Links Mentioned in the Show Need a monthly reset and rhythm? Explore The WILD WOMAN Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Want to grab your own bougie budget? Grab your download from the podcast HERE Loved this week’s guest? LEARN MORE Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    40 min

  8. FEB 25

    Stories from the Other Side: Choosing Yourself and Rebuilding After Divorce with Simona Costantini

    What happens when there’s no cheating, no explosive betrayal, no dramatic final straw, yet you still know the marriage is over? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Simona Costantini to share her powerful life after divorce transformation story. Together, they unpack what it means to end a marriage that simply ran its course, how to navigate family disappointment, and how to rebuild when there’s no obvious villain. Simona shares how growing in different directions, misaligned life goals, and emotional distance led her to choose divorce after nearly a decade together. She opens up about the reality of separating without children, co-parenting a dog, buying out a home in one of Canada’s most expensive housing markets, and doing whatever it took to keep a roof over her head, from dog sitting to grocery delivery to Airbnb hosting. This conversation explores what rebuilding after divorce really looks like. Not dramatic reinvention. Not overnight healing. But small daily choices, mindset shifts, energy awareness, and consuming content that supports growth instead of grief. If you’re navigating divorce without a “big reason,” struggling with family judgment, or questioning whether choosing yourself was the right decision, this episode will remind you that growth seasons are real, alignment matters, and life on the other side can be more beautiful than you imagined. You’ll learn: Why divorce without a dramatic betrayal can be harder to explain but just as valid How growing in different directions slowly erodes connection Why family disappointment can be one of the hardest parts of divorce The emotional impact of separating without closure What co-parenting a dog after divorce really looks like How to handle a marital home during divorce Creative ways to stay financially afloat after separation Why what you consume during divorce shapes your healing The power of tiny daily choices in rebuilding your life How to move from feeling stuck to becoming an active participant in your life Why “this is not forever” can be a grounding mantra in hard seasons How alignment and energy shift your post-divorce experience We talk about: 00:00 Invitation to join the club and rise together 02:00 Simona’s divorce story and asking for the separation 04:00 Expecting an amicable divorce and navigating respect 06:00 Growing apart and realizing life goals were misaligned 08:00 Video games, emotional distance, and coexistence 10:00 The moment she knew it was over 12:00 Navigating family disappointment and cultural expectations 14:00 Living together after separation and lack of closure 16:00 Divorce without cheating or betrayal 18:00 Why people need a “reason” for divorce 20:00 Learning what conversations should happen before marriage 22:00 Buying out the house and staying during separation 24:00 Financial pressure and creative income solutions 26:00 Dog sitting, Instacart, and Airbnb as survival strategy 28:00 Letting go of the house and releasing attachment 30:00 Making the best decision with the information you have 32:00 The power of consuming uplifting conversations 34:00 Music, mindset, and choosing different energy 36:00 Tiny choices that create transformation 38:00 Rebuilding life after divorce one decision at a time Links Mentioned in the Show Need a monthly reset and rhythm? Explore The WILD WOMAN: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman Looking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUB: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint Loved this week’s guest? LEARN MORE: https://www.voltproductions.co Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub TikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@thecrazyexwivesclub Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    38 min
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Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

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