The Gospel-Shaped Life Podcast

With Rebekah Hargraves
The Gospel-Shaped Life Podcast

The Gospel-Shaped Life Podcast (Formerly the Home and Hearth Podcast) is a weekly show hosted by Rebekah Hargraves and all about edifying, equipping, and encouraging women in their journey of living life in light of the gospel. If there is an issue that pertains to a woman's life, you will find it discussed here! We'll be covering everything from topics pertaining to marriage, motherhood, homemaking, and the Christian walk, to issues of health and fitness, infertility, adoption, chronic illness, and current event issues in the church and culture. It is our prayer that you will find an episode here which speaks directly to what you are going through right at this very moment and that you will receive the encouragement you need for your daily life. rebekahhargraves.substack.com

  1. 225: "Mary's Contemplative Nature" with Rebekah Hargraves

    3 DAYS AGO

    225: "Mary's Contemplative Nature" with Rebekah Hargraves

    I am delighted to be joining you on the show for an episode I have wanted to record for a while now! Today we will be covering the important and timely Advent topic of “Mary’s Contemplative Nature”. May you come away from this episode inspired and encouraged for the busy days ahead! What I Cover on this Episode: ~The glimpse Luke 2:19 gives us into Mary’s contemplative nature ~The striking comparison and connection between the content of Mary’s Magnificat in Luke 1 and what we observe her doing in Luke 2:19 ~12 reflection questions for you to contemplate and prayerfully process through this Advent ~The many blessings of the contemplative life ~Why it’s so important to follow Mary’s example in cultivating a life of slowness, stillness, awareness, contemplation, and processing with the Lord ~The context surrounding Luke 2:19 and what stands out about it ~Mary’s example of making time for contemplation even in the middle of an incredibly stretching and full season ~Where Mary’s theological depth of insight came from ~How we hear the still small voice of God ~How the contemplative life leads to faith-building ebenezer stones of remembrance ~The sense of peace and calm which the contemplative life gives us ~How the contemplative life equips us to fight back against spiritual warfare ~The contemplative life as an example to the watching world ~And More! Beyond the Boxes is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Resources Mentioned: My Substack Quotes to Remember: “What we read in Luke 2:19 about Mary ‘treasuring all these things in her heart and meditating on them’ goes along incredibly well with the content of her Magnificat in Luke 1. The connection is striking. What was she treasuring? What was she meditating on? Based on the context, she’s thinking about what God has just done in and for and through the shepherds. And if we know anything about shepherds during this time in history, we know they were the lowly despised ones, the outcasts. And it was to these very people that God chose to reveal Christ’s birth. And it was people precisely like the lowly shepherds that Mary praises God for raising up. In Luke 1, she praises Him for his hear for the lowly, and in Luke 2 she is contemplating what she has just seen God do in real time proof of His heart for the lowly. I find that to be so strikingly beautiful.” Thanks for reading Beyond the Boxes! This post is public so feel free to share it. “What I want us to understand about Mary’s contemplative nature is that as all of these things are literally happening in, to, and around her, she is not checking out. So much has and is happening to her, but she is not checking out. She is not rushing through. She is actually stopping and entering fully into each present moment as they come. She’s taking everything in. She’s noticing all of it and not forgetting a bit of it. She’s pondering what God is doing. She is seeing and taking it in and then going a step further to actually meditating on what He is doing. In the midst of the busyness, in the midst of full days that are full of earth-shattering miracles, she is stopping to treasure these things and to mediate on them.” “Mary is clearly a contemplative at heart, which I would say could explain her theological depth of insight that we see in her Magnificat - after all, there are so many blessings of the contemplative life, not the least of which are depth of theological insight and a close, daily relationship with God.” “The contemplative life enables us to actually hear from God. God does not shout. His is a still-small voice. He whispers to our hearts, minds, and souls. That is how He speaks to us. And in order to hear from Him, we have to slow down, get quiet, and be still and know. We have to have a contemplative life to truly hear from Him, to take the time to be in the Word, to take the time for prayer, to take the time to hear from Him.” “The contemplative life enables us to actually be able to notice, to be aware of, and to remember what God is doing. When we are rushing through life so fast, at breakneck speeds, and we don’t have time to sit, to be still and know, to cultivate quiet, to sit in the stillness with the Lord, when we are hurried and harried, overwhelmed and stressed going from one thing to another all day long, every week, every month, we are unable to notice, to be aware of, and to remember what God is doing.” “It is only through seeing and remembering what God is doing and has done that our faith is built as we are made aware of Him and how active He truly is in our lives.” “The contemplative life also enables us to proclaim to others what God is doing and thereby watch there faith be built up, too.” “Another blessing of the contemplative life is that it provides us with a peace that we can take with us into our daily life with all of its ups and downs. There is a sense of peace and stillness of soul and quietness of heart and mind that we can only experience when we slow down enough to get quiet with the Lord, to give our hearts and minds and bodies time and space to contemplate, to meditate, to treasure the things of God in our hearts.” “In the book of Philippians we are told that peace passes all understanding and that it guards our hearts and minds in Christ. Peace only comes when we cast our cares on Him, when we are anxious for nothing, when in everything, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, we make our requests known to God. In other words, if you want peace, you don’t get it by not praying. You don’t get it by rushing through life, not hearing from God, and not slowing down enough to contemplate what He is doing. You get that peace that you can take with you into your daily life and hold firmly to not matter what happens in the ups and downs of life by being in communication with the God of the universe. And that requires us to be still and know, to slow down, to get quiet, and to live this contemplative life.” “This contemplative life deepens your relationship and intimacy with God. Your relationship is strengthened which then helps to fortify you against spiritual warfare.” “The contemplative life serves as an example to the watching world of the different pace that is possible for followers of God. The peace-filled pace, the pace that calms the spirit, that does bring peace, that slows us down, that quiets our minds, that ceases the overwhelm.” “I have 12 reflection questions for you to contemplate today. The first one is: ‘What am I carrying this Advent that is weighing heavily on my heart?’” Get full access to Beyond the Boxes at rebekahhargraves.substack.com/subscribe

    33 min
  2. 224: "When God Leaves Something Out" with Jill Atogwe

    DEC 14

    224: "When God Leaves Something Out" with Jill Atogwe

    Jill Atogwe is a wife, mom of 4, writer, and author of a brand new children’s book, “Left Out: Believing My Story is for God’s Glory”. She is passionate about encouraging others with the truth of the goodness and wisdom of God’s plan - even when it doesn’t look like we want it to. Our prayer is that you would come away from this episode deeply encouraged and better equipped to walk the path of your own unique and challenging life story. What We Chat About on This Episode: ~Jill’s new children’s book, Left Out, what led her to write it, and what readers can expect ~The things we feel like God left out when He made us and how that part of our story is for our good and His glory ~The reality that this book is for our hearts as adults just as much as it is for kids; how its message ministered to my own heart personally on a difficult path I am walking myself ~How Jill has come to discover for herself that what God left out is part of her story, for her good, and God’s glory; how she has helped her kids understand this truth for themselves ~How Jill has helped her kids to embrace their own uniqueness and differences ~Jill’s advice for parents who want to know how to foster a positive self-image and confidence in their kids ~Teaching kids to be noticers ~Getting our kids to think for themselves ~Helping parents to understand how they can address more sensitive topics with their kids in a way that is inclusive and respectful ~Training our kids to be both curious and kind ~How to help kids who are dealing with anxiety; Jill’s own experience with OCD ~The power of memorizing Scripture with our kids ~Choosing our kids and their wellbeing, even when it’s hard and exhausting ~Understanding that if God left something out of our story, that thing He left out would not have been good for us (even if it’s something we really wanted!) ~Delighting in the Lord and not in what we think we want ~Being encouraged during hard times of trial by heroes of the faith ~What Jill has learned from hard trials she has gone through and trials she has watched loved ones experience ~Comforting others with the comfort we have received ~The good that comes from trials ~Learning alongside our kids ~And more! Inspiring Quotes to Remember: “The things we feel were left out when God made us are the things that can make us feel left out as we grow. And the heart of the book is that what God left out is part of our story - it’s all for our good and all for His glory.” “It’s a blessing for us to be different, not just us set apart singularly, but for all of us from one another, that God is so creative that He made so many different things happen to serve a purpose. It would be so boring if we were all exactly alike.” “When stuck in fear and anxiety, it can be so helpful to expose our children to the Word daily, to have special hymns to go through together that are comforting, and to read stories of a real God who created us in a special way and did not make any mistakes. This is how we help our kids and ourselves to learn to trust Him.” “We can look back on our life and see big capital T Trials and moments of deep struggle and see how God transformed us through them and used those moments for His glory. So when I’m in the thick of it, that is what I look to. I also look to heroes of the faith and to people in the Word like Paul and David. I look to people who have gone before me and am encouraged and comforted by their examples.” “This won’t be forever. The brokenness of this world and the brokenness of our bodies is not forever. But while we are here, we need to be honest with our friends and loved ones so we can all walk in this together and be lifted up by those around us, trusting that the Lord will comfort us in our time of need so that we can comfort others.” “Psalm 119:17 stands out to me, where the Psalmist says it is good for him to be afflicted so that he might learn God’s decrees. He goes on to say that the law from God’s mouth is more precious to him than a thousand pieces of silver and gold. I can always look back and see (though I can almost never think it in the moment when it’s so painful) that it was good that I had to walk down hard paths. Hindsight is a gift.” “It’s difficult to train our kids in something that we’re battling ourselves. Sometimes we can feel hypocritical and end up avoiding things like that with them. Or maybe we feel it is tender to train our kids in a subject that we are struggling with. But I would encourage parents to lean into it. We can learn things right alongside our children. We don’t have to have things perfected in our minds in order to train our children up in the way they should go.” Resources Mentioned: Left Out: Believing My Story is for God’s Glory BearTown by Fredrick Backman Anxious People by Fredrick Backman A Man Called Ove by Fredrick Backman Where You Can Find Jill: Substack: The Gold Standard Instagram: @jillatogwe Get full access to Beyond the Boxes at rebekahhargraves.substack.com/subscribe

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  3. Re-Release: "Cultivating a Spirit-Led Holiday Season" with Rebekah Hargraves

    DEC 6

    Re-Release: "Cultivating a Spirit-Led Holiday Season" with Rebekah Hargraves

    This week on the show I am re-releasing a previously-recorded episode on cultivating a Spirit-led holiday season. I hope it is an encouragement to your heart this week! What I Cover on this Episode: ~How to go from the holiday season being a stressful, hurried time to one of peace as you are led by the Spirit and walking in step with Him ~Listening to God rather than man this holiday season ~Prayer as the first step in walking by the Spirit ~God’s desire to be our help this Christmas ~The importance of considering only the glory of God, the unique needs and desires of your own family, and the good of others in your community whom you could minister to this season when deciding what to plan for your holidays this year ~Getting in the Word as the second step in walking by the Spirit ~Reading the Word and being in prayer as being the only surefire ways we can go about assessing our true priorities and responsibilities this season ~Reading the OT Messianic prophecies as a great way to grow our Christmas spirit this season ~Priotizing what makes Christmas special for our own unique families and letting everything else go ~The importance of staying in our own lane this Christmas ~What our mission this Christmas is - and what it isn’t ~7 steps for walking by the Spirit in the midst of family disagreements during holiday get-togethers ~The importance of being teachable and the power of humility, love, and kindness when seeking to win hearts to Christ Beyond the Boxes is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Quotes to Remember: “So many of us are used to the holiday season being a time of stress, extreme busyness, and overwhelm. We wonder how any other option would be possible. How would we put an end to the stress and overwhelm of the season? The answer comes neither through just getting a good planner or simply not filling December’s calendar with anything at all. There is only one sure-fire way to reach this goal, and that is by listening to the Lord rather than man during the holiday season.” “The first step in cultivating a Spirit-led holiday season is taking time for prayer. Instead of scouring Pinterest for the best Christmas ideas or seeking the advice of Google’s experts on how to have a peaceful season, there is truly one answer to the restlessness faced by many of us this time of year: to walk by the Spirit, communing with the Lord in prayer and listening for His answers.” “The truth is that our loving, compassionate Father God is intimately intimately involved in our daily lives, even down to the most minute of details, and He wants to be our help today and everyday. So as we are in the busiest time of the year, we can get our holiday season off to a great start by seeking the Lord’s wisdom and direction for the weeks ahead.” “Only consider the glory of God, the unique needs and desires of your own family, and the good of others in your community whom you could minister to this season when deciding what to plan for your holidays this year. In other words, do not worry about impressing others, stuffing the calendar, scouring Pinterest tirelessly, or trying to top everyone else’s Christmas plans. Instead, walk by the Spirit.” “The second step is to get in the Word. I’m not talking about devotional books or Bible studies. Those are great, and they do serve a purpose. But we have more important business to attend to first - and that is that we need to dig our noses deep into the actual Word of God itself. Reading the Word and being in prayer are the only surefire ways we can go about assessing our true priorities and responsibilities this season.” Thanks for reading Beyond the Boxes! This post is public so feel free to share it. “Reminding yourself of the Messianic prophecies in the Old Testament is a great way to grow your Christmas spirit this season. Discover the hope, joy, peace, and love that are brought to us by the long-awaited fulfillment of those prophecies. Read of Elizabeth’s joy, Mary’s praise, the shepherds’ amazement, the wise mens’ gifts. Think on the actual reason for the beautiful Christmas holiday. Doing so can go a long way towards being able to exchange a hurried and harried, overly busy, stressed out, overwhelming holiday season for a more restful, joyful, peaceful, purposeful, and Spirit-filled one.” “To cut down on the stress and overwhelm and yet still cultivate a truly meaningful Christmas, ask your family what events or practices mean the most to them. If you prioritize those things and let everything else go, your holiday will become both more peaceful and more special.” “Stay in your own lane. God never once called us to be cookie-cutter versions of one another. And He doesn't want us to run ourselves ragged attempting to imitate each other. He has only ever called us to imitate Him. So, it doesn’t matter what other women are doing this Christmas. Do what He has called you to do.” “Our mission this Christmas is not to impress our neighbors or do all the things. It is to keep our eyes fixed on Christ, to commemorate and remember the incarnation of Christ and the implications of that incarnation, and to love our families and others around us really well. In doing so, we point them to Christ - and that is what this season is all about.” “If you want to be a breath of fresh air this holiday season, if you want to truly walk by the Spirit when dealing with extended family members with whom you disagree, you are going to have to purpose to be - by God’s strength - slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to become angry.” “Snark and sarcasm are not fruits of the Spirit. It is love, humility, and kindness that change hearts and inspire repentance.” Beyond the Boxes is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Beyond the Boxes at rebekahhargraves.substack.com/subscribe

    42 min
  4. 223: "Experiencing a Thrill of Hope This Advent" with Chelsey DeMatteis

    NOV 23

    223: "Experiencing a Thrill of Hope This Advent" with Chelsey DeMatteis

    *One little housekeeping note: GarageBand, the platform we use to bring together the intro, interview file, and outro to produce each episode, was not allowing me to import this week’s interview file for some reason. So, unfortunately, all I could do was upload the interview itself here to Substack, without an official intro or outro like we usually have. But you’re really just here to hear from our guest today, anyway, so hopefully that’ll be ok. I appreciate your understanding and am praying GarageBand works for me next time! Chelsey DeMatteis is a wife, mom of two, podcast host, and author of two books, most recently the new Advent devotional, “A Thrill of Hope”. She is passionate about writing and speaking about Jesus and His life-changing truths. Today she comes on the show to share more about her Advent devotional and to encourage us with a message of the hope and light that are to be found in Christ. What We Chat About on This Episode: ~Chelsey’s new devotional book, A Thrill of Hope, what led her to write it, and what readers can expect ~How the book is set up ~Living with the hope of heaven in the midst of life’s darkest and hardest seasons ~Jesus as our living Hope ~The metanarrative of Scripture and pictures of Christ that we see in the OT; why those are so important to see ~The redemption power of God to take the hard seasons of loss and transform them into something beauty can come from ~The light of Jesus and how it ministers to our hearts in life’s darkest moments ~The power of hope and holding onto it even when it’s hard ~Remembering the truths of Advent all year long ~The plague of darkness in Exodus and how God continued to give His people light in that time; what that means for us today ~How Jesus shows up for each of us in unique ways that mean something special to each of us ~A particular day of the devotional that is extra special to Chelsey ~Advent as a season of invitation to go deeper with Jesus and to share Him with others ~Being the hands and feet of Jesus this season ~What Chelsey’s hope for this Advent book is ~The burden of chasing the ‘perfect’ aesthetic this Advent and making the choice instead to chase after Christ, where true worth, peace, and joy are found ~And more! Inspiring Quotes to Remember: “Hope, as a believer, is an action. It is literally Jesus in action in my life. Not necessarily me going and doing for the Lord, but the Lord breathing life into me as I place my hope in Him. He is my hope.” “Whatever it is we are going through, it is always His light that will be able to pull us through. If we do not bury our heads and instead look for His light, we will see such beauty He is bringing in the midst of the hard.” “Hope it what gets us out of bed when things are terrible.” “We need the beautiful, life-giving, joy-filled truths of Advent all year long.” “While Egypt was under the plague of darkness for three days, God continued to give His people light. He led them by light, sustained them in light to foreshadow what Christ would come to do years later.” “Even when we feel like we are in captivity, the Lord’s light is still over my life and literally inside me - I can carry that light with me wherever I go.” “If we just hunker down in Luke 2 during the Advent season and instead trace the light of God from the very beginning all the way to what is coming at the end, it is amazing to see how God shows up through His light and leading people that way. Seeing the big picture perspective during Advent makes it so much more powerful.” “Jesus shows up in our lives in unique ways that mean something special to us individually.” “Advent is not only an invitation for us to go deeper ourselves with the Lord, but also an invitation to notice others, pray for them and love them well, and be the hands and feet of Jesus to them, inviting the light to piece the darkness in their lives. The season of Advent is perfect for that.. It is a season of invitation to go deeper with Jesus and to share Jesus with others.” “Hope has come. Invite people to know that.” “There is no better news to share with others. If we are ready and willing, with our hands open, to deliver a meal, to listen, to pray for someone, to love them tangibly, then we can share the light of Christ with them this Advent.” “Stop chasing the ‘perfect’ aesthetic this Advent. Chase after the Reason for Advent instead. Feel that burden fall off and find your worth and hope in the Lord. A deeper joy and real peace are found there.” “It’s ok to love beauty this Advent. But don’t love it more than Who we’re celebrating.” Resources Mentioned: A Thrill of Hope More of Him, Less of Me The Matheny Manifesto: A Young Manager's Old-School Views on Success in Sports and Life by Mike Matheny Fruitful: Cultivating a Spiritual Harvest That Won't Leave You Empty Love Lives Here: Finding What You Need in a World Telling You What You Want by Maria Goff Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World of Setbacks and Difficult People by Bob Goff The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkerson Where You Can Find Chelsey: Website: Chelsey DeMatteis Instagram: @chelseydematteis Get full access to Beyond the Boxes at rebekahhargraves.substack.com/subscribe

    49 min
  5. 222: A Truly Christian Response to the Election Results with Rebekah Hargraves

    NOV 15

    222: A Truly Christian Response to the Election Results with Rebekah Hargraves

    I am delighted to be joining you on the show for the first solo-podcast episode in ages! Today we will be covering the important and timely topic of what a thoroughly and truly Christian response looks like to the election results of last week. May you come away from this episode edified and encouraged for the days ahead! What I Cover on this Episode: ~The responses to the election results I’m seeing from various Christians online and what a truly, thoroughly Christian response would actually look like ~Understanding that in order for a response to be truly and inherently Christian, it has to exhibit the fruits of the Spirit ~A study of the fruits of the Spirit and how they each individually apply to the concept of the election and how we respond to it ~The divisive culture we are living in and the reality that if we as believers are called to be salt and light, it is actually our job alone to fix the divisiveness and to bring peace ~What Paul shows us is the key to living the victorious Christian life and living out the fruits of the Spirit ~What walking by the Spirit means and what it looks like ~And More! Beyond the Boxes is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Resources Mentioned: My Substack Previous podcast episode on what it means/what it looks like to walk by the Spirit The book I co-authored on walking by the Spirit Quotes to Remember: “I’m seeing a lot of responses by Christians to the election results that are not Christian in nature, responses that are beneath us, responses that do not look like our Savior Whose image we are to bare, the Jesus Whose ambassadors we are to be. So we are going to talk today about what a truly Christian response to the election results actually looks like and do so in a way that takes us through the fruits of the Spirit.” “To have a truly Christian response to the election results, to politics, to the next four years, our response has to be characterized by the fruits of the Spirit. It has to come not from a partisan perspective, but from a truly Biblical, Christ-focused, Jesus-centered, Spirit-led perspective.” “It is no mistake that the first fruit listed is love. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 13 that of faith, hope, and love, love is the most important. Paul goes on to tell us in Colossians that love is the foundational attribute we must put on. John tells us God is love. The other fruits and characteristics are important, but love is the one that is foundational to all the others. It is of paramount importance.” “For us to have a thoroughly Christian response to the election results, we must be known for loving others really, really well. Not known for our pride and gloating if we are on the side of who won, not by disdain for the winner and his supporters if we are on the side of who lost, but by a deep-seated, core-level, sincere love for all. A Christian response to the election results is that we would love one another well - Jesus said it is by our love that others would know we are His disciples - not by our politics, not by our intelligence, not by ability to win debates, not by what side of the aisle we’re on. No. We are to be known by our love. If we are not known by our love for those on all sides of the aisle, then we are doing the cause of Christ and our witness for the kingdom a grave disservice.” Thanks for reading Beyond the Boxes! This post is public so feel free to share it. “The next fruit of the Spirit is joy. There are many in this country who are not feeling joy over this year’s election results. They are not joyful over what the next four years will hold. So if you are a believer on that side of the aisle, it can feel incredibly hard to have joy right now in light of the results of the election. But as I read this fruit of the Spirit, I thought of the Proverbs 31 woman who is able to look with joy to the future, who is able to look to whatever is coming with a peaceful smile on her countenance, with the rest and peace and comfort that come from knowing that God is on the throne no matter who is leading humanly-speaking.” ”Whatever your voting choice was, whether your candidate won this week or lost or you voted third party or didn’t vote at all, if you are a Christian, you are to have such a deep and abiding knowledge of God and of His character, His kindness, His love, His care, His compassion, and His sovereignty that you are able to look to the future with joy.” “This is not to say there is no room at all for grieving to be done or for feeling disappointment or fear or any of the million and one feelings you could feel over who won and what the next four years will look like. If you didn’t vote for who won, all of those feelings are understandable. The Lord does not want us to stuff our feelings but rather bring them to Him and process them with Him. But at the end of the day, if we are believers, we should be able to look with joy to the future because of Who holds the future. The same goes if your candidate won last week. It is ok to feel all the joy and excitement over our candidate of choice winning. But, ultimately, we need to come back to the center of understanding that our hope is not in politics, but in Christ, that He is on the throne regardless of what earthly leaders He allows to be raised up, and that because we can trust in Him, we are able to have joy when we look to the future.” “We need to be known by the watching world as people who actually act as if we have hope and trust (which then leads to joy no matter where we are). If we are professing believers trying to tell the world that Christ is our Savior, our hope is in Him, and He is trustworthy, then we need to be able to share with the watching world a picture of joy and of peace in this time. That needs to be our reputation. Otherwise, do we trust God? Do we have hope at all? If we can trust God with our eternity, then we need to trust Him with our right now, because He holds it all, has a plan, and brings everything together for the good of those who love Him.” “It’s ok to feel our feelings. But if we are struggling with the results of the election, we need to be able to do enough wrestling with the Lord that we are able to come back around to a place of peace because God holds it all.” “The next fruit is patience, which I think will be an incredibly valuable one over the next four years. It goes along with love and also goes along with the next fruit we’ll be looking at, kindness. We are to be known for our love, patience, and kindness. So often when we are interacting with someone who votes differently than we do, thinks differently than we do, has a different political or theological stance than we do, we want do debate, belittle, put down, win the argument at all costs, and gloat when we do. But I want to issue the Church a clarion call to patience and kindness in the days, weeks, months, and years ahead, to have our list of priorities rightly ordered to where we do not put our politics above our theology and our call to love, but instead be able to sit down with each other and interact with patience, compassion, and empathy, being slow to speak and quick to listen and having concern for others’ concerns.” “Paul unequivocally tells us that we are not to look merely to our own interests, but also to the interests of others. What that looks like is being concerned about what other people are concerned about whether or not you agree with the concern even being a concern. We can get to that, but the first step is sitting down with somebody as Jesus did with people from all different backgrounds and willingly listening to where they are coming from, being curious about why they have the stances they do. People who think and vote differently than we do have well thought out reasons for why they do so (just as we do with our stances), so if we can begin to extend patience and kindness to others and desire to get to know where they are coming from, that will go so much further than our desire to gloat or exhibit pride or arrogance because our candidate won. Trying to shut down the other side because ‘they are wrong’, ‘we are right’, and ‘they need to hear us’ bears no good fruit.” “Paul tells us in Romans 2 that it is God’s kindness that leads to our repentance. So even if someone is actually wrong in their political stance where maybe we actually are right, we are going to get nowhere by being unkind. So a Christian response to the election results and to what will happen over the next four years is to extend kindness and compassion to those who voted differently than we did. That is the only way we are going to begin to fix the divisive culture we live in that we are all - no matter what side of the isle we are on-complaining about.” “If we as believers are called - if it is our mission alone, not given to anyone else - to be the salt and light of the world, then we have to be the ones to go first in a divisive culture to seek to bring harmony and unity where possible, to bring peace and reconciliation as the hands and feet of Christ. It is no one else’s responsibility or call but our own. We cannot expect anyone else to do this work; it is our duty. Where we see a divisive culture, a divisive church, whatever it is, it is our call and mission to go first. We are the ones sent forth into that divisiveness to shine the light and love of Jesus into it. That is our mission.” “Far be it from us to be the ones who are actually making things worse. Far be it from us to have our priorities so skewed as to make things worse when it is our job to make things better by the grace of God and through His Spirit.” “Faithfulness is the next fruit of the Spirit and is yet another example of how applicable these fruits are to the election results and how we respond to them. With the results we have b

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  6. 221: “Cultivating a Life Well-Lived” with Sally Clarkson

    NOV 8

    221: “Cultivating a Life Well-Lived” with Sally Clarkson

    Sally Clarkson is a wife, mom of four adult children, grandmother, bestselling author, speaker, and podcaster whose passion is to disciple and encourage women in their great task of passing on a kingdom-impacting legacy. Beyond the Boxes is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. What We Chat about on this Episode: ~Sally’s newest book, Well Lived: Shaping a Legacy of Gratitude and Grace, what led to her writing it, and what readers can expect ~Foundations to build our lives upon so that we might flourish and live a life of legacy ~How life in the small town of Oxford inspired Sally to live life at a slower pace and according to her true priorities ~How important it is to take time to cultivate your own soul and take care of yourself ~The importance of our day-to-day tasks; understanding that it is in the small moments when the big, soul-shaping things are actually happening ~The sobering reality that half of Americans polled say they are not thriving; what we can do about this problem in our own lives ~Recognizing what some of the day-to-day causes are of our lack of thriving ~The importance of community ~The shaping power and influence of good books ~The importance of gathering ideas and insights from wise women who can speak into our lives the wisdom we need ~Understanding that your life does not have to look like someone else’s but can be lived in accordance with your own personality and interests ~The essential practice of focusing on what truly matters ~The temptations and distractions that keep us from living the kind of legacy we say we want to live ~How hardships can actually lead to growth and contentment ~Understanding that growth is a life-long process ~What it means to live wholeheartedly ~How to inspire our children to listen to our messages to them ~And more! Thanks for reading Beyond the Boxes! This post is public so feel free to share it. Resources Mentioned: Well-Lived Awaking Wonder: Opening Your Child’s Heart to the Beauty of Learning The LifeGiving Table: Nurturing Faith Through Feasting, One Meal at a Time The Last Bookshop in London: A Novel of WWII by Madeline Martin Elizabeth Gouge’s books Inspiring Quotes to Remember: “There are certain foundations to build your life upon in order to live a life of legacy.” “There are so many things in this life which deplete us - whether it is our day-to-day tasks or what we are hearing on the news - that it is so important to take time to cultivate your own soul and take care of yourself.” “What you do every single day does truly matter and as you are repetitively faithful to perform those tasks, you build strength, muscle, and fortitude.” “It is in the small moments when the big things are happening. Small moments of faithfulness are the times when our strength and legacy are being built and where souls are being shaped for eternity.” “We were made for community and to do life together. Many people today feel isolated, unseen, and unheard. It is so important to prioritize friendship.” “Different political views should never separate friendships.” “Wise women copy wise women.” “You get to write a legacy that is different from everyone else. You get to live a unique life and do not have to pattern your legacy after someone else’s. God has given you  a unique personality and capacity.” “Focusing on what really matters is essential. If your pace of life is exhausting you, it is exhausting your children, too.” “The more you walk with God, the more you will be able to walk well with God. The more you choose to pray, read Scripture, and walk with Him, the more you will grow strong and equipped.” “Love deeply, live boldly, rest well. Live with your whole heart.” “Every life can be a thing of purpose, beauty, and goodness when we realize that each moment is held by God, and He is with us in it all.” Beyond the Boxes is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Beyond the Boxes at rebekahhargraves.substack.com/subscribe

    1 hr
  7. 220: Rethinking the Church's Approach to the LGBTQIA+ Community with Jen Crowder

    JUN 29

    220: Rethinking the Church's Approach to the LGBTQIA+ Community with Jen Crowder

    Jen Crowder is a wife, mom of 4, physical therapist, and founder of the ministry She is Emboldened. She has a heart for both the body of Christ and the lost. To that end, she comes on the show today with the desire to encourage and equip believers to truly be the hands and feet of Christ towards the LGBTQIA+ community.   What We Chat about in Today’s Episode: ~What has led to Jen’s passion for today’s topic ~Understanding that our mishandling of how we talk about and interact with the LGBTQUIA+ community is less about that community itself and more about how we tend to approach nonbelievers in general; the difference between how we address a fellow believer in Christ who is participating in that lifestyle and how we should address an unbeliever who is ~The truth that the most effective way to minister to that community is not to shout at them about their sin and that the Lord does not identify them by their sin ~Believing and presenting the fact that God’s design for us is good ~Cultivating in Christians a love for those in the LGBTQIA+ community and love for the lost in general; understanding that we must come from a starting point of loving others and God’s love for them as we present first the gospel and them go from there ~Following the example of the early church in the midst of the sinful Roman Empire ~What it looks like practically to still uphold the historical, biblical sexual ethic while also loving and respecting people in the LGBTQIA+ community ~The problems of pride and a lack of proximity and how both negatively affect the Church’s witness in this area ~Stewarding the good gift of the gospel well ~The importance of relationship when it comes to discipleship ~What Jen learned from a conversation she had with someone in the LGBTQIA+ community ~Resources Jen recommends for further study on this topic ~The importance of getting out of our little Christian bubbles and out into the world, loving others well as the hands and feet of Christ ~Studying and following how Jesus interacted with unbelievers; understanding the reality that if Jesus treated unbelievers the same way as many professing believers do today, that the Pharisees never would have gotten angry with Him in the first place ~The importance of what ambassadors actually do ~And more!   For full podcast show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast Get full access to Beyond the Boxes at rebekahhargraves.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 12m
  8. From the Archives: 194: How to Raise Your Littles in the Nurture and Admonition of the Lord with Rebekah Hargraves (Solo Episode #41)

    APR 11

    From the Archives: 194: How to Raise Your Littles in the Nurture and Admonition of the Lord with Rebekah Hargraves (Solo Episode #41)

    On today’s re-release of a previous solo show, we are tackling the topic of how to raise your littles in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. My prayer is that you'll come away from this episode feeling equipped and encouraged, knowing that raising your littles in this way does not have to be complicated. What I Chat about in Today’s Episode: ~Ephesians 6:4 and what is interesting about the word "nurture" coming before the word "admonition" ~The crucial foundation of nurture and why our training of our children in theology and right living must first come from a place of humility, tenderness, care, patience, gentleness, slowness, and nurture ~What we can learn from bamboo about the importance of having a strong foundation and why it is ok when our training takes a while ~The negative impact that raising children up legalistically, overly strictly, or in a domineering way can have on children ~How raising our children up in the tender nurture of the Lord gives them a more accurate picture of who their Heavenly Father is ~How failing to raise your children first in the nurture of the Lord can lead to your provoking them to wrath ~What raising our children up in the admonition of the Lord can look like practically on an everyday basis (as we're shown in Deuteronomy 6:6-7) ~Why the theological training of our children need not be complicated and instead can and should be simple - thereby showing them how applicable, relevant, and practical God's Word is to every aspect of our everyday lives ~The importance of refusing to overly shelter our children but to instead prepare them well for real life in age appropriate ways ~Why we want to raise our children not to be mere yes-men, but to instead be able to think for themselves, be critical thinkers, and interpret God's Word for themselves, applying it to every situation in life ~Equipping our children to have a faith of their own rather than piggy backing off ours, so that when we are one day not here, they will still be able to stand firm ~Practical books, media, practices, and other resources to aid you in your parenting and raising your children in the admonition of the Lord ~The power and importance of having lots of gospel conversations with your kids (and examples of some of the types of conversations we regularly have in our home) ~And more!   For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast Get full access to Beyond the Boxes at rebekahhargraves.substack.com/subscribe

    56 min
4.8
out of 5
93 Ratings

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The Gospel-Shaped Life Podcast (Formerly the Home and Hearth Podcast) is a weekly show hosted by Rebekah Hargraves and all about edifying, equipping, and encouraging women in their journey of living life in light of the gospel. If there is an issue that pertains to a woman's life, you will find it discussed here! We'll be covering everything from topics pertaining to marriage, motherhood, homemaking, and the Christian walk, to issues of health and fitness, infertility, adoption, chronic illness, and current event issues in the church and culture. It is our prayer that you will find an episode here which speaks directly to what you are going through right at this very moment and that you will receive the encouragement you need for your daily life. rebekahhargraves.substack.com

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